Taking Consistent Action for Change

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That's good, isn't it And so I really got interested in meditation, mindfulness. and I think that Um means you're really interested in digging down. and that's really my interest I don't want to have I don't do small talk I mean, you know, I'll be funny, you know, especially if I know that's called for My real interest is when you speak below the radar. Yes. Yeah This podcast is called Begin again. and I'm always thinking about how can people change something in their life Well enable them to on their deathbed go, I really I did it and had a go. Yeah. I tried. I did everything I want on my tried t. Exactly. I tried And u But you did I mean, you are like you're doing Well, I did I did. I mean Yeah. I was I was kicked out of TV More or less, I could have kicked my way back in So what do you mean by that Well ' after Ruby meets Yeah, I was doing like there was a great show Boys withith Toys where we rac to Russia. Yeah. So that was my last show. I wouldn't say that was a dud And then Alan Yentub, who's dead. took over my slot. Well My Sunday nights lotot I can't fight that. And they said, Ohh your shows don't sell anymore Bllshit But the point is I'm really grateful because that means you have to find another career. Y. And boy did I try a few things in my little skirt? I went around trying to sell bags that I designed, you know, the ultimate bag woman. I tried everything. you know, I tried to be a coach Because I kn coaches made five hundred dollars instead of shrink. you know, and I had got my degree in being a shrink But can we just talk about that? Just tell us what degree you got I got a degree in psychotherapy. so I had to do from regions I had to, um I do four hundred hours? I did two hundred. Yeah. Yeah. I did two hundred So good. Well, it was interesting. We didn't be proud of What an achievement And how old were you at this point when you become a shrink. You become a shrink when you're about A good one. 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And this rocket ship launched across a television screen and I was like, that's it That's a sign from God I'm going to rock it out of bed tomorrow. I'm going to move so fast. I'm not going to be in that bed when that anxiety strikes. Now I was for Manhattan's Inn so it was probably the Bourbon that gave me the idea because it sounds kind of stupid But the next morning is when I saw this universal habit, I didn't call it it that then, but I saw this Sing. that I'd never seen before And once I explain it, you'll never look at life the same way again There's a five second window that defines your whole life It is a moment of hesitation. It is a moment where you go from thinking about what you need to from knowing what you need to do to then hesitating and thinking about it It's It unmistakable. And once you see this and I explain it with the alarm clock, you'll see it every morning The alarm goes off You know you're supposed to get out of bed. You're the one who set the damn alarm Likecause I' like, Oh, that's a surprise, six hundred fifteen, I set that And then instead of getting out of bed, you stop and think Do I feel like getting out of bed? And if you think about something and hesitate for more than five seconds, your brain just clicks into like habit mode and you do what you always did. And for me, that was hit the snooze button and avoid doing anything And that morning, just like NASA launches a rocket, I just counted backwards right as I saw it Okay, the alarm's off. I remember the rock. I don't feel like it's dark, it's cold, it's Febrary. I don't want And I started reaching for the news button. I just started counting five, four, three, two one, and then I stood up. It was the weirdest thing And then I went on with my day. Next morning, same thing alarm went off. I didn't spring out bed I still don't spring out of bed I don't feel like it. I don't want to five four, three two one. I'm up again. It was the third morning The third morning when I counted backwards five, four, three, two, one, I liter was like, am I a witch? Like is this like actually a like secret from God. likeike what is this thing And so I made myself this promise any time today where you know what you do or could do But you don't feel like it. Just count backwards and make yourself do it. And I probably counted backwards twenty seven times that day. F fourty threety two one, pick up the phone and cert networking. F five fourty three two one, put on the sneakers, go for a walk Five four threety two one, call my mother and tell her what's going on. Five four threety one Take a breath Dream it Chr. And that was the beginning And this countdown technique, five, four, three, two one, became a tool that I would use every day all day to push myself through the anxiety, the self doubt, the procrastination the perfectionism, the excuses, all of it so that I could take the actions that changed everything over time What I think is fascinating is that so many people who are really in dire Anxiety holes, financial problems, everything will look at you and think, You are living proof there is a way out of feeling like this. Yes. So was that like the first a moment where kind of Mel Robbins Polcastle was born like in a way in your head. No suppose. but But just just think about this. I could have easily gotten out of bed that first morning and just been like, o okay, and then the next morning hit the news button again See, what nobody wants to hear is there's no pill There's no shortcut. There's no overnight anything. There is the grueling Boring tedious small moves that you make in a new direction. It's literally you against you the work is and nobody wants to hear it. Like I literally F, four, three, two one, likeike I was getting out of bed. putting one foot in front of the other Day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, just trying to pay my bills Trying not to kill my husband or get a divorce, trying to get the drinking under control trying to get the kids on the bus on time, trying to Be honest about everything that was going on with myself and my friends and my family So you're just trying to survive. Just try to survive And That was the beginning. and I did this in secret and private for three years. Oh. I didn't tell anybody about it except for Chris Hey, what am I going to say to my friends? I'm doing this? C countdown thing you should try it. Yeah, I guess. L my life is a shit show. Why would I be giving you advice? Like I'm literally just trying to five four, three, two one. Do a little bit it. five, four, three, two one, force myself to do the things that I know will change my life for the better. And the funny thing is this You never feel like doing that I mean, just stop and consider something If you just did the things you don't feel like doing In a matter of a year or two, you'd have almost everything you've ever wanted Bubble of the actions But it's gonna be you against your feelings and you against your excuses and you against you. And so this little count backwards technique, I didn't even understand why it was working at the time. became a tool I could reach for in those moments where the emotions or the negativity were starting to stop me. And so You know, it just proves a point. You change your life with action You D don't change your life by thinking about it You don't change your life by waiting around to feel ready, you change your life by making a decision that you no longer where you're at and you're going to start acting consistent with the kind of person who has the kind of life that you want Like it's the it's the people you know, it's the simplest thing. You want to be a writer write every day You want to? Feel healthier, move your body every day. You want to get out of debt, open those bills, chip away at every day. stop spending so much every day And so for me, this three year period where Chris and I were just everyday waking up and just taking the steps that aren't fun and pushing ourselves forward and starting to make the ends meet and starting to chip away at things and things are starting to get a little bit better And, you know, when I first shared this thing This five four three two one countdown thing I didn't intend to become some motivational speaker. I didn't intend to do anything Uncovered windows can make your home feel up to twenty degrees higher. Stay cool and save up to forty five percent off custom window treatments during the fourourth of July VIP access sale at blinds. com From outdoor shades to room darkening blinds, finding the perfect fit is easy. 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