Gratitude List and Accessibility

Hello everyone. It's John here, just letting you know that I have written a book It's called Thirst, twelve drinks that Change My life. and it's out now. In many episodes of How Do you Cope You'll have heard me talk about my relationship with alcohol, and in writing Thirst, I wanted to explore what alcohol means. Why did it mean more to me than other people Why did it mean some things felt better? and why did it mean so many things went wrong I also talk about lots of other things you'll have heard me and my guests discuss on how do you cope? Meditation, physical pain, gratitude, trauma, and therapy There's even a chapter about my bum and its relationship with Buddhism. So if that piques your interest Thirst is out now, and the audiob book, read by me, is available wherever you get audiobooks from Hello everyone and welcome to the Gratitude List. and I am really delighted to say that I'm still joined by Sam Bagshaw and We didn't really talk much in the main episode about gratitude, but we did talk a lot about positivity. and you were talking about how when you a video online and you get negative comments focusing on the overwhelming amount of positive comments to keep you going So have you learnnt to sort of always look towards the optimistic side of things and the positive side of things Yeah, I feel like It has really helped me because I do make sure that I'm around Re good supportive people. so I think that's out of me J seeing the s of that And I just listened to forment I listen to what people said to me as well. I say about and J don't think about what people thinkin and J know yourself with what you're doing I know that you're doing something really good for people, so I was trying to think about it in a really positive way and And my videos are helping me a lot as well You's going to helping in my confidence and I do think we make a video and I do feel like I want to keep on I keep on challing myself more and more Trying to thinkin new ideas, yeah. So we're going to compile gratitude lists. that's five things that you'll grateful for either in your life in general or today. so what would be number one? I was say mom and dad him H they supported me through different situations Well I' u My Vastor hood a lot. ide them for support me. And then I'll say about the traveling as well. I feel like we made independence and confidence I'm made a Chvillu now and I do I do actually travel abroad on my own as well, so M happy about that And Okay Is that your second item? Yeah second second. So I just want to ask about your momum and dad. is anyone else in your family that has a stammer or H they any previous experience of that? And then I'm going to ask you about travel No, um There no in the family as a stammer And now bet. When never go at to school and You're only one of a person in the school with adice timeer so I didn't really know anyone else then with social media It weren't as big as it But as big as it is now And I think if I had If I were able to watch videos that I do N would really helped me when I were younger So traveling, do you speak any other like languages bits and nots of it Not when they child that now. No. Do you think you would struggle as much in a foreign language M might be something to maybe give me out I met when they fought about and You never know it my help I don't that. Maybe that's the next video is you doing duolingo Yeah that little app where you can learn foreign languages Where' where have you been abroad U well I like to let's just starting off with Spain because No no it's only a short fly Oh me going on my own I didn't I didn't really want to go for like a long flight And I do like to pick outotels where to go that They got a lot of A activ it is throughuring the day So us like' joining with them. and And yeah, it just feel like has really helped to be able to say to myself that I can do something like that Okay, so we've got your mum and dad number one, travel number two What would be your third thing on your gratude list I would say about an getting a job because I was really worried about an doing any interviews? because I didn't I didn't know what it would be like and I don't know if they would if you would take that into account with how how my speeches So I did find that hard So I really do appreciate that. I have been in jobs And my first job then It a lot more easy for me because I did start on an agents s So it was showing the managers that notot are really good at a job And then when I did the interview It went't with interview wh What it's your first time meeting there? The they knew what I'm like by me showing them That' good at. that I'm good at doing the job, so that really helps me with that kind interview because You I didn'timize a person then or read So what kind of things Just in general, whether it's like work M in a travel What things would make your life easier about some of the processes of how we interact because you said earlier, like You push yourself to order at the drive through Because weirdly now it's possible to order a meal without saying a single word to anyone by using the touchs screen But are there other sort of things people could do Um to make Make the world more navigable for people with a a stamer or make the world a bit easier I feel like I have I have talked about the char is out of stuff fver We have talked about this before where were businesses. and If you're feeling out a form online And maybe you need like a phone call to under it. If the businesses were able to put on the list. and they put and you could you can press like you' got like a speech impedent. Then you're able to see that form I can see that you put that and then the person that That's going to be talking to your filone They have to know about the form So I have to talk about that which I think it would be good for business to maybe put in but into lot online forms about and I sent H you find Pokecons hard to do So that that person taking the call is sort of not taken aback or confused or I don't know, you must have a lot of people going, hello, hello. Is that quite common Here it is ye I Sometimes I think it might be something much to do with the connection as well, Y video starts talking and then Maybe it was quiet again. They m feel like what's going on this stuff? So I definitely think with that form it really helped then. it really helped you yourself as well because That might you feel It makeakes you feel more relaxed before going into the call itself because Do do you know yourself that you put that down in the form frame as well Okay, what' what's your fourth thing on your gratitude list I would say that Mag gos people and perhaps I start talking to him Everyone's been really nice that I've talked to Those are the people on the videos. Yeah, the videoos was that to do yeah. And your final thing, please