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Gambling problem call one eight hundred gambler This episode is brought to you by Go Henry. Now in a James and I always go into the summer holidays thinking, right, this year will be organised. Lots of wholesome family time, no stress It cut to three days later and it's just constant. Mummy can have an ice cream, Daddy can have some money, Mummy, can I buy this? And James and I are just looking at each other like, how have we already spent a small fortune? 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You're called Joe I' No it's not really working anymore now because I would say I'm over the hole oh. I was thinking about our crushes that we said last week. And I didn't say Jacob A Laudie as heath Cl. Oh yeah. That's the biggest one. Fair enough. That no, but that shows. Now that you've gone off him now. How fast it's gone out of my m? M moved on. I've moved on I feel Jn. Yeah you fickle. I am. See like I wasn't even thinking about him and thinking about Heathliff, That's go. T to the next one. Yeah Right. Well talking about next ones, shouldh we have some voice notes Right, you' ready? Let's go. Hi Joan James. I' just sending you a quick little voice note. justust want to add to your fifty things to do before fifty. but first I just want to say went through were really bad H mentally the end of twenty twenty four. And I won' lie to you, Gam and Stacey kept me alive, waiting for that Christmas special. I was like, well, I've got to be alive to find out what actually happens So u I can quote that word for word for you now. att least probably watch for at least O fifty times. I just used to watch you and I sad. so sad lot, but all good though. And yeah, so the fifty things before you fifty, I a few little like things I was thinking about. However, I thought of something that would really like appeal to you I know how much you enjoyed the traiters. And recently I went to London and I did the traiters experience and oh my Godd, it was the coolest thing I think I've ever done You literally do the round table. you sat with like sixteen people You get mooded in the night. Literally I went with my dad and we woke up one morning like taking the blindflds off and my dad had just been murdered and like taken from me. Oh my God But yeah, you're in there for like two hours, you do the round him, you do like you vote people out and then if you get murdered or banished, you get a watch up in the other room and It is absolutely sick. so you can literally go on your own. you can take James. It's up to you, but I would definitely recommend doing that U Other things I thought of which are not as cool. you could try rock climbing That would be like a cool little one day thing. Yeah. You go to the caravan on your own. icks or puzzles And you could goo for a whole deck That might be good for your mental health doing a cold day Maybe just do one in Swansea. Why not go home tryrying not to Do them so toturuous L the pods Enjoy By Helen Heathcliff Thank you so much for your message. Thank you and I'm so glad to know that you're feeling happier now It's really good that you're feeling happier now. and I'm really glad that Gavin and Stacy was a comfort to you when you were feeling so down And that it just put a smile on your face and it got you through each day and it made you laugh. And that's just brilliant to hear I mean, that's really nice. you know, when You know, people come up to you and then they say that, you know, like, your show got me through this illness or your show, you know, made me feel better when I was going through a really tough time And I mean, it's just amazing, isn't it? It is amazing It's really lovely Something can give so much comfort. Yeah. because I've got shows when I'm feeling down and I'm feeling just rubbish and stuff. the ones that you go back to all the time that you know it's going to make you laugh, you know it's going to cheer you up, you know it's going to get you through And that's really, really lovely to hear. What shallll go to God. I like what well, I always go back to the bridge. I like the sort of murder mystery type, you know Draw Marie type ones and I like going back to the bridge because I love the characters in it And I find that really comforting and I just like really getting back into like the swing of it again. I've watched that like loads. Agatha Christy Not necessarily Agatha Christie ones, no This is more of like, God, it'sither Swedish or Danish or yeah. If I'm feeling down, I don't think I will sit down and watch like an Agatha Christie one U I watch yeah, I watch something newer, I think. Yeah. Yeah yeah. What about you? Do you watch anything? What do you think it is what do you think it is for me that I go to for comfort. s see if you can guess that you go to for comfort if you're feeling down. Well, my first thought would be to say something about foot because I can't think of anything that you watch. But I know that the only thing that you seem to watch or listen to right now is Bradford. So I'm thinking, is it like the Bradford podcast things that you like listening to Let me have s Are you talking about watching something on the Tley? No, not watching listening because you don't like yeah, you don't. Okay, so listening to something, Oh, music. Yes Right. You like listening to music? Yeah, but not music, there' specific type So it so it is music, but a specific type of music. A specific type of music. Oh Fk wrrite a specific type of music. You'll know when I say it Is it something from when you were younger? nineties ds? No. What is give me a clue. Give me a clue EP BP on Sunday. Oh P. Yeah. So the music is Oh musical Musicals. musicals. Is that what you listen to? Yeah, do you know why? Do you know what? It makes me feel so good? Yeah. Do you know why?? It takes me right back to my childhood when I was, you know, doing musical theatater It outside of school So you know, I was doing football and everything to stop that And Ive got a lot of stick for that at school So I had a sort of separate life outside of school. Outside of my school I'd go to dance class and drama and music and I do it all outside of school And u musicals. And I bloody loved it. abbsolutely loved it. We'd do shows with the youth theatre We'd go to Edinburgh Fre doing shows. and I just absolutely loved musicals And there's something about listening to those songs that just takes me right back to that time in my life when I just I was it was just wonderful, really, really wonderful. I get and I just love the music. I love the music. I love it I love it. I love a le pages laugh Do you know what I've started listening to which is making me feel quite happy on Instagram. I've got loads of nineties dance. Classic sort of pages. And and now because I clicked on one and it's like when people were raving and it's examples of when people were raving and they didn't have any phones and stuff like that. And so you see that but through that I keep getting linked to like loads of different ones and just listening to that music takes me back to a time when I was free. I mean, I never went to a rave in my life. I was the most sort of, I was in an all girls school and the most prudish sort of person kind of going And until I left school. So it's not like I was even there, but just the music and when I first started going clubb in when I was about seventeen and those sort of like nineties dance classicy type things that they were played when I was about seventeen or when I was like, you know sixteen, you know, struggling to get in cinders down in Mumbers. And those songs, right have started listening to that sort of music again And it takes me back to that time. I love it And I was listening recently and somebody said that if you've got ADHD or I think it was ADHD they were talking about, it's very important to listen to music Because there's something about the rhthing regulates your body and also how in the olden days how tribes and groups and communities would dance Yeah. And that would be a way to regulate your rhythm and your body and your emotions And how these days kids aren't going out and dancing as much. They're not drinking alcohol, they're not having as much sex and everything is being filmed and recorded. So these days they were talking about kids don't dance anymore. Wow. Because when we used to go out, I didn't care what I looked like, how I was dancing, how you would just go and you would just dance and dance and dance because you weren't being filmed or photographed or anything at all like that So that is what makes me feel better putting on nineties dance classics when I was first starting to go club and I was about seventeen and dancing in the kitchen to that. That's a really fascinating point now Because when I was younger, I loved dance. I used to do dance classes, ballet, jazz tap The expression yourself like that, it's incredible, inn't it And when you do a dance together as a group, it just unifies people, brings everyone together Same and music, the two things combined. Yeah. expxpressing yourself. Yeah. but I think it's the hitting and the rhythm sort of takes you out of Yeah, it does ye think about anything else just thatou b b, you know that It's a repetitive and it gets you into a kind of trance. Yes, It's like a meditative thing you're in a meditative state. Yeah, where you just let go of all your thoughtash into your body, isn't it? Be somebody asked me the other I was doing an interview and they said, what do you think is not healthier or what makes you feel better? Well, it was about sort of what beauty type things do you recommend? And I said, I don't recommend any beauty things. I mean I barely wear any makeup. I've got anything like that that I recommend I recommend getting outside into the fresh air, going for a walk down by the beach and down by the sea, drinking loads of water, getting loads of sleep, dancing loads and having loads of sex. becausecause I mean not that we're all getting as much sex as I think we all should be getting because we're so bloody tired, but I mean my God, I think people are walking around feeling so pent up and frustrated and like, oh my gosh, there's so much stress, so much stress. Go another shack You know, go and have some sex, knock it out of yourself, be really, really physical, get it out of your system and my God, you feel a hell of a lot better. R have a big shit. shift Yeah. we had. We had a director once right I work with and he went on and on about this. a big shift. No he went on and on about anal retention is what he said, right Am I allowed to go down this road? Yes, Okay. So he was saying about people being anally retentive Yeah, right? And his big thing was loads of people in life just need to go and have a massive shit Get everything out it all out and go just get have a good shit. Yeah, right? And then you just feel released. yeah and relaxed. And his thing was so it was always going on us So when we were it was all about when we were rehearsing, going, just can let it go, you know, just let it out there, be out there, be brave and Just you know, don't hold it in. Don't be uptight. just You know, just release everything and that was that was his big theory. But You know, it's got a point, I think I think there's I think we're all holding our shits in. Did you have a big shit when you were working with them? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And we used to do lots of stuff where we'd be like dancing around. shhouting, screaming, you know, just get rid of all your inhibitition. Fal scream, isn't it? When I was in drama school, I didn't enjoy it there, but I remember walking around squatting with him saying breathe through your anus. Yeah, yeah. And I mean, it is all about letting it all out. I had a class like that, breathe through your anus where they said breathe to get your diaphragm working. immagine you' breathing in through your bumhole. Really? I don't know if I can I don't know. Whish I try to imagine There we go. Yeah ye, those are the things Mbe we should be doing. maybe what we should be doing is running a club night for people our age forties. we've got kids I' just running a club night for us M Rass. We're absolutely knackered We have no time for ourselves We have no time to even think We're trying to self medicate with bottles of wine and just trying to get us through. Life is hectic. There's so many WhatsApp groups, so much stuff with school. I woke up this morning, right? I don't think I'd even got out of bed. I did the worst thing off of picking up my phone and looking at my phone straight away and it's like, haveave you got this? You've got to send this off. You need to do this. You've got so and so. You've got to get into school for two hundred forty five because there's a dance thing going on. Have you done this? You've got the and it's like Oh my God. I was just too much. Yeah Leave me alone. Yeah ye. toooo much, too much. I saw the other night I was looking at stuff and it was U parents. dancing to like eighties music. And it's really interesting because it's like gets you right back to your own youth, right And it's and they're all like dancing in the kitchen. And when you look at everyone you can go Iagine kn you when you were a kid Yeah. And you like I can see that you're just loving it. It's still there. you know, you still got it in your responsibilities And you' still got it free. Yeah, yeah. and then obviously you take on all the responsibities' is wonderful and you're a parent and you know you take on all those things and it's easy to sort of lose that spark and that sort of frame too all our listeners What did you do before phones? So when you've settled the kids or when you've come in from work youve v your tea and you go upstairs to bed or you're sitting in front of the ty or you're doing whatever you're doing Before phones existed What did you do? Because what the hell did we do when we first met? Well, we both had a phone, didn't we? Well we'd go to bed at nightight to bed. We'd go up to bed at night and we would not sit next to each other looking at stuff on a phone ' I had a noocia. Id at a normal phone. It was years before I had an iPhone. And I remember you bought me my first ever laptop, which I was like ecstatic about And I remember I was doing panto in I don't know where the heck I was, Milton Kees, I think. and I think I was playing Alice Fitzwarren in Dick Whittington and you bought me an iPad for Christmas and I was really excited because I gott to play that gem crushing candy crash. And I was in the dressing room doing that candy crash and I was like, oh my Godd, this is the most amazing thing ever. But before we had phones, what the hell would we do of a Sunday morning I would stay in bed, you go out and get the papers, then you'd make a massive fry up, bring it all upstairs to bed and we would sit until two o'clock in the afternoon reading the papers.apers And having a fry up Then we go for a walk What would we do in the evenings? Wed go upstairs to bed? Well, you'd watch you telly, but you'd watch what was on, weren't you? We watched Telly. You didn't have streaming services So I was trying to explain this to Either the other dly Watch that for us Be we had four channels before Channel five came, we had four channels. and you watched what was on. And actually Ive got to say I think it was easier that way. Oh. You didn't have to think about it. You went ting turn itelly on. Right. Oh, it's right. It's about something. none of us are initially interested in this But let's give it a go. because now, when you sit down now with the kids, one of them goes,, that don't what it says. Yeah T make a decision within about five seconds and go no No I'm not interested. But you know, I'm not saying it was better than or anything, but at least she didn't have the chance to go. No, I'm not interested in that click I would't watched the world at war Like I don't know if I'd do that now because I wouldn't commit that much time to stuff and you'd flick and you'd jump and but I'd actually sat and watched it all and it was brilliant. So I we need to go upstairs, get into bed And we'd like read T We'd have sex. Yeahep, ye. All that's gone now because we just look at a phone. I don't think the phonees should be in the bedroom now, you know I've said this before but a friend of Why didn't we stick to it? Because we said this the other day and we still got our phones up in the bedroom. 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Seasons of loveove If you haven't heard it, it's just listen to the words in that song. It makes me cry every time I hear it. It is the most brilliant song. and it just makes me feel so Well, I' sad but good about life and it makes me appreciate everyone around me. Th thenen I said to E I said, Oh, we know when you do your leaving thing at school now you going up to senior school. You know, maybe you you know you girls that sing together Maybe you should sing that, you know, it be such a good song. Mind de you, I'd be in peace. I won't be if watch, I'd be crying so much. So there was that one, which is my all time favorite. I love that song so much and then I went to get a coffee, the coffee shop. And as I'm walking towards it Let's hear it for the boys playing. How I like that D dp dum d. them And it was on and then I saw Rachel, one of the mums from school, she was sating in a coffee and I started dancing walking towards her 'cause the sun was out, that song was on. It put me in a really good mood. I started doing stepball chamange. And then she got up and she was dancing as well. like, Oh my gosh, what a great song. That's proper like eighties takeakes you back 't it?. I used to play that song in a band Did you Yeah, when I was at school we had a band Yeah. and I used to play keyboards And that was one of the songs that we play Also as well, from your lovely voice note, I agree with you. I need to do some things, you know with fifty things to you know, things which aren't so traumatic. I would like to try rock climbing. I'd like to do like a nice ice water plunge, but yeah, things which aren't too traumatic. nice things. Nice things as well. I agree with you. When are you going to start them Wellow, I don't know. Sh I start next year in the build upp to turn in fifty in March? Yeah. Because if I start them now, it's kind of a bit p early in. I should start them on New Year's Day. Shall I start my firstight New Year'say? Yeah, yeah, yeah. New Year's Day. Yeah. As soon as the Fireworks finish on you know the south bank. I'm going to get down and I'm going to do fifty press ups. Yeah right What I'm going to do put it on. I might film you Film me, go ahead. Film you doing a all. Go for fifty things. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, we've got our last voice note of the day Are you ready Hi Joanna and James I'm an Ev Given and Cacy Fenn and I love your podcast I may be your most further away listener and inbagul, which is at the bottom of New Zealand My partner and I are travelling to the UK in November to watch the All Backs us Wales We will of course visit Berry Island when we are there My question is, do you have any recommendations for any small businesses, cafes, restaurants in Cardiff or Barry Island? and do you have any good Welsh beer, wine or cider suggestions for while we're there Thanks so much and to keep up with the great work on the podcast. Bye Oh, thank you for your message. Oh my gos, right let's ever think well. I don't know if they sell it in Barry and Cardiff, but straightaway Joe's ice cream. I mean, that's in Swansea, but I think you can buy Joe's ice cream. Mumbs. Anywhere. Yeahah, it's down the Mumbs in Swansea. Joe's ice cream. There's nothing like Joe's ice cream. It is the best. It's absolutely amazing. Can you get it online? Probably you can get everything online.oody good ice cream now. when I first came to Wales Yeah all your family Yeah. We marched you around the beachfront in a around the hour Fud night Sunday, Large Fudge night Sunday. you couldn't finish it, I didn't m. And you carried the rest of it around with you, didn't you? So good. Yeah. Can you recommend any Bz or any? I can't think of any Welsh aes Oh yeah. Gower Power. You like that, don't you? Gower Power. It's like a red it's like a red label. and it's a really nice like ale. It's not like one of those golden ones It's It's like a proper old school ale. Well it's similar to Where I'm from, you can get you can get like black sheep, which is fantastic black sheep but a like's another But yeah our power. You've got to try lava bread And that is basically seaweed And oh my god, like fried lava bread. I once had a lobster roll and it had lobster and it was like in a big bap and it was lobster. and then we fried the seaweed, put that in. Oh my go, it was amazing. And you've got to try cockles. from wherever you are, go to the local market and get cockles And you put vinegar on them and salt and pepper Oh sometimes right. Same in Swansea Market, I like getting the cockles and I like having them bare with nothing on them at all because you can taste the seed. You can really taste it. Oh my god, that's gorgeous. Vinegar I like on the cockles and salt. What is that liqueur you brought home It's like a Baileis but it's a creamy Oh, it's lovely. Yes, that was down in oh go, I can't remember what the area was and that's where I had the lobster roll. and we had this tiny little bed and breakfastee type place and it was like this really, really old pub. And he's not working there anymore now. I don't know if they've gone out of business, but another business is is not happening anymore. And he used to make this gorgeous liqueur, which was like like Bailey's bre and it had seaweed in it as well. Yeah ye It had lava bread in it, isn't it? Yeah, lava bread Those are my recommendations. God is making me excited now just thinking, oh my God The sun is shining. We can get down Swansea and to the beach and with the kids and When you first came to Wales, what places did you like visiting? Where did you like going? Well, I would say you've got to get down to the Gower and Ronaldston Mhm Worm's head Worm's headad is absolutely amazing Three cliffs Cardiff Bay's really nice going down to Cardiff where they've done all of it out and lovely restaurants and things like that. In Barry, you've got to go to Maro' Cafe, which is where we filmed like loads of Gavin and Stacy and you've got to go another look at, you know, well, go down to Maro', is gorgeous, lovevely ice cream, really nice food down there and he'll be down there and he's really lovely