Launching the House Hotline Advice Segment

It's my birthday! I'm having my birthday at Broadwick Hotel 30 of my closest friends . The house hotline is now open. You guys have been bl owing up my fing phone with all your problems. So let's do this. Ring ring. That's fine. I need more detail. What do you mean you threw a bike? I cannot sit here and condone damage of personal property. They don't know you exist and neither does his wife. Don't mind the sleeping with the boss thing. Is that a Bible? Are you trying to save my soul? It's too fucking late. It's a photo album of me. Oh my god okay guys hi dolls welcome to Olivia's ho use. With the only person here today is Oliv ia, but also my team. Can you round of applause for Olivia? Woo ! Actually, hold that energy because second round of applause. It's my birthday! Look, they got me colour coordinated balloons, a massive cookie with like a cookie birthday cake and a Louis Vuitton pencil case. Guys, exceptional work from all of you. Thank you. So it's my birthday. I'm in the house solo. I feel like we need to catch up. We need a chat. I'm gonna launch into a feature of Olivia's house that I've been wanting to get off the ground for a minute. We're gonna call it the house hotline, where basically I'm gonna give you loads of advice that I'm unqualified to give. So we'll get to that in a bit. But first of all it's a wet tourist season. I don't wanna be too exaggeratory, exaggeratory, exaggerative when I say this, but if you even have one brain cell, you know that Taurus is the best star sign. And Taurus season is it's a lot for people around. If you have a Taurus in your life, I feel sorry for you because we obviously we love our birthdays, we love nice things, and we like specifics. So trying to keep a tourist happy on their birthday is a fine art. Me and my mother are both tourists. So you know my god, my poor father. Anyway, so it's birthday season. When this goes out, I would have had my birthday. So obviously we are going to have to like re-catch up, but I'll tell you now what the plan is. I'm having my birthday at Broadwick Hotel in Soho in a private room, canopes, drinks, 30 of my closest friends . I wasn't gonna do anything for my birthday this year. That I I did a massive birthday last year. I did the whole private bar at Bacchanalia. There was laboooobos coming out of my asshole. There was champagne spraying, there was a labu-boo cake, there was like 80 people. It was such a good birthday, but it was a big one, and I felt like this year I have done so many events, so many launches. It's actually embarrassing how many things I've launched in 2026 already. That's like if people get another invitation from me, they're gonna be like, Honestly, this bitch needs to just rest. Like it is like as if I've got a void. Well, I probably have a massive void in my personality. That's why I'm in this industry, of course. I'm trying to feel whole. But they're gonna think she's really trying to overcompensate now. So I wasn't gonna do it, and then someone close to me was like, no, no, you have to, you have to, because like you are a birthday girl, you're a Taurus. If you don't do anything, you'll be depressed. So it was like, okay, let's do. There was a gorgeous private dining room in there. It's got like a pink marble table. It's so beautiful it was like 20 people, whatever. I was like, okay, let' s do that. Then we realiz ed like for the reason of probably a Zempic, none of my friends eat. So we're like, why are we gonna buy dinner for everyone for them to push it round the plate that half my friends smoke it's not cool I'm not bigging it up but they do so up and down from the table I honestly I've done enough dinner parties with my lot to realise some waste of money so then we went to the idea of like let,'s go down stairs, there's a private room, canopes. Some of my friends can like smell a bread roll, pretend they've eaten, and then we have drinks and that's it. But I mean, it's on a much smaller scale than what I normally do, but I'm sure there will be I'm sure there'll be stories. I'm sure there'll be there'll be things. There'll be you know, there'll be noteworthy things. They're never like they're never quiet affair s, but I always they're always fun. I've got a very fun group around me. So that'll be the birthday. I haven't bought myself a birthday present yet because I've continuously shopped since literally like since the stroke of midnight on the 2 6th, the first of January. All I've done this year is fucking spend like a compuls ive demon. So I was like, okay, well, I always buy myself a birthday present, but I was like, I actually don't deserve anything. I deserve to put the Amex in the bag and just not and not. But the chances are between now and when this goes out I probably will buy something. And I haven't obviously uh all my friends and family are very kind and they always say what you want for a birthday and I always say to everyone, nothing, which is actually, not a trap. Like , and this is this is a very specific thing. Even though I like nice things, I do get very uncomfortable when people give me like expensive gifts or like or give me gifts in general, because I feel like I am more of a gift giver and I just get awkward. I don't want people to buy things for me. Because I'm kind of like if ever there's anything I want, I'll just buy it anyway. But it's nice that people, you know, think of it. But when I was younger I think the only reason I cared about my birthday was for presents like it was very much a numbers game and me and my sister were like always in competition of like who got better gifts for our birthdays like a very unpleasant personality trait that we developed. We were like the two ugly sisters from Cinderella. Like we would be like competing of like who had a better birthday, like who did mum and dad love more? Like who got more presents? And they didn't love either of us, so that's birthday. Let's leave something at the door. I want to, this is specific to today. I drove to the podcast studio today. I've got my new car, which is what I'm calling my growing-up car. The G-Wagon era is over . Not maybe forever, but for now. But I feel sick even saying this. I drive a hybrid. Like, I am literally Greta Sunberg. Like, it's insane. It's a hybrid range over vogue, but I feel that Greta would love me for this. Um, my accountant taught me into it. I need a big car because I've got the two big dogs. Um, so we went for this hybrid Range Rover and it's really it's really lovely. And I people say you live in London, why do you need a car? I need a car for the dogs. And sometimes I do just like to drive because sometimes I don't want to feel the way that Uber drivers make me feel because it brings out a terrible side to my personality, which doesn't take much. But um yeah, let's drive. But I've realized that it's financi ally detrimental to me to take the car out of the garage. Because I am if I'm not in a bus lane, I'm turning left, or you can't turn left. If I'm not turning left, I'm getting a parking ticket. Like every single time I take the car out of the apartment car park, I'm looking at like a couple of hundred quids worth of fines. You could say that you're on that's you, it's your problem. I say there's too many rules. Don't get me started on a Sadiq Khan, but that 20 mile an hour. Who the fuck is getting anywhere at 20 miles an hour? That is in like we've got shit to do. He doesn't. That's why everything's a mess. But we have stuff to do. Like I need to be places at 20 miles an hour is not enough for me. So yeah. So the cars out the front. I got a parking ticket this morning when I went to get something. So I uh stuck the parking ticket back on outside here. Sometimes it works. Sometimes you get one parking attendant that's not so on the ball and they look and they think, oh, they've already got her. Or sometimes they check and then they give you another one and that's embarrassing. So that's my leave it at the door. Parking tickets, road tax, speeding. It's just all it's very restricting . This episode is brought to you by Tilda Rice, the UK's favourite rice brand. I love good food and I'm picky about what I eat, especially when I'm trying to stay healthy. But when life gets busy, it's easy to reach for the quick, not so good few options. So how do I keep my meals nutritious? But interesting? That's where tilde rice comes in. Their ready-to-heat range is perfect for keeping your energy up, whether it's pre- or post-workout. 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Integrated shipping solutions that actually save you time. From startups to scale-ups, online, in person, and on the go. Shopify is made for entrepreneurs like you. Sign up for your one dollar a month trial at shopify.com slash setup when I sat down to record this episode, I had a jump scare. I said to my team, is that a Bible on top of the fridge? Because what the helly is this like a seance? Are you trying to, are you trying to save my soul? It's too fucking late. Okay? God's up to his fucking neck and he's like please, not another one. So I'm not gonna try and I'm not gonna try and go over to the Lord's side. He's got enough on his plate, fucking all sorts. So this Bible, which apparently is not a Bible, it is oh my god. I just saw something horrific. It's a photo album of me. This is a very this is like feels very retro of how you had photo albums when you was a child. Don't stop! I was like because that it feels like it like the ones I was doing. Where is he? Like just shedded her family memories for our segment . Her mum's like, where the fuck? Oh my god, okay, guys, right. I'm scared. So we're gonna we're gonna do a little show and tell. Oh Jesus Christ . Let's start on the left. Ballet . I look really sad . I do know what I've never liked group activities, but I did love ballet. That fucking blue tut u eats. I'd actually wear that now. I look so innocent. It's hard to believe that I was ever that pure. Look at my little like pointed fingers. I was I was actually an exceptional ballerina. From ballerina to malnourished. Jesus. I am skin and bone. I must be like twelve or thirteen there. So that was when I was in my cross-countr y era. I was like a fucking greyhound. Honestly, I could run. Like you wouldn't believe. I like people don't believe this. Obviously, like, well, I'm a gym girl, but when I say it's been like, oh shut up. From that age until the age of like 16, I ran for Surrey County, like at national level, and I was fucking unbelievably fast. Um, yeah, look, I'm fucking feeling it there though. Jesus Christ. Okay, this is where things get more interesting. Okay so that is me in Vegas, and I think I shared this to my stories recently so you can see that I've got a big Diamondy bow ring on that is from River Island. And when I posted this, the girlies went mad because like loads of new millennials remember having that massive bow ring. I'm 21 years old. Um, sat on a slot machine. Me and my best friend Charlotte, we went to Vegas when we I'm May, she's June. It must have been her birthday, when like she turned 21, like in the sky. We'd had this obsession with Vegas through all of our teenage years, and we saved up some money, and then our parents gave us some money for our birthday to go to Vegas. My dad was like not happy. He was like, Vegas is so it's so dangerous, really. Like it's full of like a lot of sharks. It's full of some like seedy people, like two 21-year-old girls. Like, you know, he was a bit worried about it. But I'd already done a lot of travelling, to be fair, by that age, where he I remember him just like not being crazy about the Vegas thing. But I had this obsession with going. We both did. And thinking back to it then, it's like I was quite, I guess I was was I immature? I just was trouble. Like I the fact that I am not dead is fucking insane. Like the situations that I have put myself in is mental and that trip was no exception. But yeah, we went, we stayed the MGM Grand, we did everything, like everything that you do when you first go to Vegas, and I just got the bug, and that I literally have been back like I think last time I was in Vegas, I I counted it's like my 15th time. So yeah, definitely got the bug. Okay, that is me holding number 10 above my head. That is a 10-second board for motocross. That's another monster g irl. So that is like a 10-second like countdown. So when they you hold the board, they're all revving their bikes, and then the like the barrier goes down, and you have to basically run out of the way after 10 seconds, you don't get plowed to death by loads of dirt bikes. But the Monster Girl era was um definitely a very fun time in my life. Okay, that's back in Vegas. This is beauty pageant era . God, that like I've got it today because my friend just fucking me off. That millennial swo op representing London in Tropic Beauty, bikini pageant. I mean, it's just another lifetime, isn't it? But no one can say I haven't lived. And then from one bikini competition to basically another, that is my love island press shot. I mean, as love island press shots go, because like that is the most humbling photo anyone will ever take of you. I don't think that's too bad. Those wedges are like the downfall of civilization civilization. Like they are fucking just whoever put those wedges on me should be in prison . However, everything else is not too bad. I'm wearing a Daytona Rolex, which I think is kind of insanely obnoxious pre-Love Island. Um, I'm not sure which poor unwitting boyfriend bought that for me, but um they never got it back . Okay . Oh my god, that is a Zahib Marat jumpsu it that oh my god, I love that jumpsuit. That was one of my very first red carpets after Love Island. That was the ITV Garla or now they call it the ITV Palooza. I remember that look . I love that look. It's actually so nice. I remember that look did really well for me. Okay, this is my first NTAs. This dress is an eyesore. It's liber ace . It's fucking vile. My tits don't fit into it. Like, this is when I first lost trust in, I don't want to insult. Actually, I know I I should. I lost trust in stylists quite early on after Love Island. I've regained it now in the right ones. But that's fucking awful. That's like a prom dress from hell. But that was my first NTAs . And I remember just thinking it was so exciting. Like I couldn't believe that I was invited to see NTAs. Like I'd watched that my whole life on telly. We'd all just come off Love Island, Love Island series. So we had just like blown up massive. So we were all running around like thinking we were famous. Like it was just a time. But yeah, the dress doesn't fit me well. I don't like floral. I don't actually feel confident like in a floor-length dress. My choice would always be something like that jumpsuit or a suit. Like floor-length dresses like that for me are an over-stimulation nightmare. People step on them, like they get stuck under chairs, like they just oh can't bear. Um, hate floor. als I don't know why it's got that gap in the middle and I'm just like randomly flashing my crotch. I guess I was the only time I've ever posed for a picture before Love Island was in my bikini, so I'd probably just old habits in it . Oh God . Oh Jesus Christ. The races . Okay, guys, this is just there's no there is no excuse for any of this. What I will say is I was working for Coral, the betting company. I was paid to be there in those hats. That's all I'm gonna say. Like that was a love island themed fascinator that I was paid to wear and then it was entered into some fascinator competition. I don't know how this like money-wise benefited Coral, but it did. And I I I signed this deal with them and I had to go to like I think I went to like four or five rounds of horse racing. And you know what? Like I have a I have a very mixed feeling about horse racing. I I don't know if I I think it's entirely a a great thing. I don't think it's great for the animals. I don't mind a flat dry racing but I d I I I I you know to go to four or five rounds of horse racing in one season. I was like, please. Sorry to blow my brains out. Oh my fucking God. Just like, what the hell ? I obviously thought that that style was good for me. It looks. So that's my 30th birthday. Like, okay, those balloons. Julie Perry did that, who's my w was my wedding planner. That Olivia with a cocktail sign and like the the like that is an incredible display it's be it's fucking unbelievable but my theme for my birthday was past els like what I don't think my frontal labour developed. And then that style of dress where I look like I have a river of diarrhea coming out my asshole, I obviously thought was great because I doubled down and wore it to the NTAs in black. It's just very gar ish, but not in the right way . But I just don't I mean at the time people gassed me up and they made me think that I looked good . Yeah. Wowza. Wow. Oh god. Jesus Christ. Guys, I honestly have had no fashion sense for the longest time. It's I it's actually mental. I'm filming here in Wellington boots with hair and pigtails looking deranged, quite frankly. For Olivia Meets Her Match Series One, Chanel Boybag, everything's just like so matchy matchy. Like why did I feel like everything had to match? And why is why have I got my hair like that? Like a fucking I like a Chinese crested you know all those like naked dogs that just have the hair goes from bad to worse I'm on this morning sofa this is one of my first like daytime gigs. I did like a love island reporting roundup for this morning and obviously because Love Island, I probably thought that that shirt with the hearts on made sense. In reality, I like a work on the reception at a GP practice. No disrespect to anyone that does that, but it's very receptionist vibes. It's a bit better now. I remember my mum despised this cow skirt and told me what a ridiculous outfit. But that's me and Ibiza. Love that cow skirt. That was like two or three years ago. Everything's starting to become a little bit starting to have a little bit more sense of self here, like sort of dressing in a way that I want. And then if you go to this next one, we're shooting artwork for bad boyfriends here, and my hair and my face is like coming into an area where like I feel like I can not be ashamed. But I think I've started to have a little bit more sense of like who I am here and how I want to look. Because I think in earlier years post Love Island, I just was like, okay, it just has to be colourful and it has to be loud and it has to be revealing and I think I mean it's revealing there, but I'm going to like I'm literally going to like rave at uh at heart, so obviously it's wearing a wearing a belt, but I think I start just like kind of just feel my vibe a little bit more. Oh, that's a cute outfit. That was just for a night out in London with the girls, but it's the laboo-boo, isn't it ? Oh, those little fairy bastards have such a hold on me and everyone else. But the outfit's cute. I actually think the labu boo looks cute. It's on the Birkin. It's bigger than the fucking Birkin . I think they're gonna come back. I don't know. I just I don't think we've heard the last of the boo-boos. Okay, Brit Awards 2024, full body lace, bit of nip . This, like I this is a wardrobe NYC look that I did myself. Like this is like I was really like I hadn't put my trust back in stylist yet. This one really divided people. Some people loved it and I some people fucking hat ed it. Um, no one hated it more than women on the internet were so pissed off that my nipple was showing. Why do you think it eats? I kind of stand I actually stand by that look. It was a nightmare to pee in. I think by the end of the night I was just pissing through the the silt, like the the lace. And probably just smelt like a tramp on the table. So I think I got so fed up trying to get in and out of it. Women of the Year Awards, New York, this year, wearing full Rick Owens . I styled myself there. I love that look. God, I'm kind of into a sheer number. Maybe I am maybe I need to stop kidding myself. Maybe I am a complete exhibitionist . Um it was January or February and it was fucking fre ezing. But once I got inside , it was fine. That was at the end of a really heavy week of recording for Olivia's house, events, press. But obviously, it was an insane invite to have. And I was sat on the table with the editor of uh Glamour magazine. It was incredible, it was like amazing. Demi Moore was there, Anna Winter was there. But I remember like I was the exhaustion was setting in. Like like, you know, when you feel like you start to lose like cognitive skills that people're making conversation. Be like, oh, you're from London. I was like, Am I? I didn't even know where the fuck I was. Um, okay, Brit Awards 2026. This was styled by Harriet, who I do work with now, a stylist. She was like, let's go for something different, let's go for something with shape, let's go, you know, like just do something different. Love the dress, love the shape. It was really weirdly, really comfortable. It was like lighter than air. It was like it was almost like I was like wearing like a little pop-up tent that you'd cover a child with on the beach. I mean it was like so light, but also it would like compact. It was yeah, weird. But what I will say, you can see in my eyes there, obviously this was was it Feb time ? A lot been going on in my personal life. I was a little bit I don't get anxious about red carpet. So don't actually, it's not something that gets me anxious, but I was anxious about the the social interaction on that scale post-breakup and like the onslaught of questions. So I 'm wasted, actually. That's what I'll just saying. Like I could my eyes, like the their eyes are there, but no one's home. Like I didn't have a fucking clue. And really, the next day I woke up, I was like, did I even go last night? I was like, people were saying Harry Styles performed. I was like, not me. I didn't see him. Okay, so another New York shot. This is in New York, the Ned Hotel, Full River Island, apart from the boots, Oves. That's was just earlier this year, launching my second River Island collection, which as you guys know, I'm an old school stand River Island from the bow ring that we're in Vegas. We go way back, so that's a very special collaboration for me. And that was on the bed , on the phone, ordering room service with my content creator, Grace, just like having fun taking photos. Because what we always well, Grace holds me accountable, I have to get like a like a stock of nice photos before I go out for an evening because about twenty minutes after that was non-verbal, my hair was in a ponytail and I probably had like, I don't know, drinks all down my top. So we always had to get the night photos before I go out. And then that, that picture feels like so long ago. That is our Olivia's house artwork. That was actually styled by Becky and we just wanted something for Olivia's house that felt like very me, like my DNA was in it. Because I think that when you go for this book, it's like my styles evolve, like I've I've they developed this sense of self that I didn't have for a long time and it's like what I feel comfortable in, what I feel powerful in. I love suits, I love tailoring, I love ties, but also like having a feminine twist on it and the moody kind of like old country estate clubhouse vibes that I wanted to bring to the podcast and the studio and like the vibe I wanted to create for my guests was obviously like represented through that artwork. And then the spotlight was actually Sophie, my photographer's kind of that was her her genius of like the spotlight sort of into my world . And that's what this is. I love that. I love looking through it. I love looking. I think it's humbling to know how bad I can look . And it's humbling to know that I look better in my 30s than my 20s. Like that, that's a flex, I think. I'm glad I was ugly in my 20s. Do you know what? Because I could afford to be. I couldn't afford to be ugly now. I'm single. Thank God I was ugly. I'm glad. Do you know what? I'm glad I was ugly and tacky on someone else's time. Okay? Because this is my time now. This episode is brought to you by Diet Coke. Okay, stop whatever you're doing. It's time for a Diet Coke break. Everyone knows I love Diet Coke. I mean, okay, just look at the fridge in the house. It's always stocked on me and my guests. So when I heard that Diet Coke were teaming up with the Devil Wears Prada 2, one of the most anticipated movies of the year, I had to get involved. The Devil Wears Prada movies are legendary. From the stylish character s, the iconic New York City sets, and of course, the fashion, it's iconic. 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And then I'm gonna basically take your issues, or you maybe you up you wanted me to talk about something, you want some bias something, you want to know my opinion on something, and then we get into it, okay? It's basically a way of me and you connecting but keeps me somewhere on like a sort of a track so things don't get weird. Because what we realise is that when it's just me, the camera and a mic and there's no structure, things get a little bit weird. Really quickly. And I tell you what, my publicist is one more fucking pat picture away from going. He is his nerves are fried. So let's do this. Ring ring. That's the phone. I chucked a b ike at my boyfriend's car. Now he won't let me drink wine anymore. So sad . So many questions. Like, was it a lime bike? Because what are you the fucking Hulk? Like how like what but I need more when you come on the hotline, I need more detail. Like, what do you mean you threw a bike? I cannot sit here and condone damage of personal proper ty. But like, was there a reason? Like, did he deserve it? Because there I think there are situations not legally, but there are situations like ethically, what I would say that maybe you do need to throw a bike. Also, there's wine strength . I would say that when I've had ex-boyfriends that used to describe rose as bitch juice, like it's the only alcohol that makes me go a little bit weird. I don't think wine is good for anyone. I'm a Volca soda girl now. If I stick to vodka soda, little bits of kila here and there, everything's fine when I touch wine things get really dark also I don't love the like he won't let me like I've I've we can do what we want you know he's not your keeper but if you damage his car I fucking you you're made I want to defend you obviously but you're making it really fucking difficult so I would say bulk sodas maybe a beer. Just leave the wine alone for now. And please write in to tell us what kind of bike it was, because I'm just desperate to know how strong your upper body is. Okay. I've been dating someone for two years and his family and his mates don't know I exist. Help. You do need help. You need serious fucking help. You don't. They don't know you exist, and neither does his wife. That's what I'm gonna say on that. That's terrifying. How how can you not exist for in the the the knowledge of his friends and family for two years? I don't wanna but be a bitch and I don't want to stress you out, but that is a problem. He's either married, he has a girlfriend, or he has multiple girlfriends. There's never a situation, I think, where being a secret partner Partner has any kind of genuine like I don't think there's a reason I don't think there's any situation where that comes from a good place. I think that yeah. Two two years, girl, please. Turning 30 this year, chatting to someone much younger in brackets, 22. Do I carry on chatting to them? Okay . I've got to the point, well, I don't know if you're male, femaleale I don't know if he's m or female I've discovered I believe apparently men's frontal lobe develops at like 40. So I would say if it's a 22-year old guy . The the like the general statistic would be that you're probably not gonna get what you want from someone that's that much younger than you. However, I don't know what you want. Like if you just want fun and you just want a vibe , then yeah, why not? But I think that you have to be honest with yourself about what it is you want from the situation. Also, there are exceptions because I you know know some 45-year-old men that are completely and utterly um emotionally constipated, undeveloped, like fucking apes . And I know some men in their 20s who are like compassionate and grown. So like I'd say the general rule is that men are maturing at a much slower rate than women, but there are exceptions. And I don't know what you want. Like that to me, like s I'd say thirty is the new twenty . Like, I was fucking minging when I was twenty, to be honest, and I look back at it and I was not a very nice person. So I think that if you wanna vibe with a twenty two year old, go for it. I will tell you, all my serious relationships, I've been older than the person and I'm now single at 34. Do with that information what you want. My best friend is totally in love with her boss, but refuses to see it. She keeps sleeping with him, then crying that he isn't in love with her. Tell her to stop, please. Oh my god, girl. Do you know who you sound like? You sound like the gut the girl from the holiday, you know, the one that goes off to America, not the Cameron Diaz one, the Kate Winslet one. Don't mind the sleeping with the boss thing, whatever you need to do to get through that corporate life, but I the crying, you cannot shag someone into loving you. Like it this doesn't work. So many people have tried and failed. It doesn't work. You actually can't do anything to make someone love you. You can't like you can't scare someone into loving you, you can't trick them into loving you. They either do or they don't. And I think that if you are sexually involved with someone and it's upsetting you that you don't feel your feelings are being recipro cated, you are it's literal self-harm. Like you need to abort mission and find someone that does like you, love you. Stop, stop hurting yourself for what? Like there'll be so many other there's so many men, like there's too many. If in my opinion, like you'll find someone else in a relationship, my wrong time person messaged me after nine years. Head is fried, help . Oh, Mamacita . Controversial . Don't really believe in wrong time, people . It's a theory I don't subscribe to. I've never really subscribed to it because I kind of think that the whole reason someone is your person is because they're your person. So I I don't think timing, I think timing can be inconvenient, but I think that I it's just I just don't believe in it and I know it's gonna upset people. I just think someone either is your person or they're not and y things would either work out they wouldn't. I reckon you are maybe a little bit, a little bit stagnant in this relationship. Maybe you're not feeling 100% fulfilled and hearing from this person that you feel you have unfinished business with is giving you like a dopamine rush. So now you're like, oh my head is fried. But is your head actually fried, or is it the thrill of an unfinished story? Like that loop with this person has never like been completed . So is that's what's giving you a rush of dopamine . And also I think that if that's how you feel, you probably need to evaluate the situation you're in , but I wouldn't do anything based on adrenaline or excitement because I think there's exceptions, of course, nine years. Like if you were gonna, you would have by now. And I think that sometimes it's like the fairy tale and I think it's like our brain when a loop is not closed, we just like fantasize about the what if . So I'd be very cautious not to throw away something you have for something you might never have. Charles, that was a little um soft launch into how I kind of want to run these solo chats with me and you. What I would love is some feedback. Can't believe I'm asking for that. But yeah, I want it. I want constructive feedback. I want to know what you want more of, what you want less of, how I can tailor these solo apps to be the best they can possibly be for you. And I will see you next time. Love you. Hello, it's Jamie Lang here. And Sophie Lang, and we have just had a baby. Yeah, we have. So it turns out the biggest change isn't just having a baby, by the way. No, it's what it does to us. Yeah, the dynamic shifts. You're tired, you're emotional, you're slightly unhinged. Speak for yourself, social. I am, but you are more so. 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