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That's code podcast at GrUNs. co Welcome back for another episode of Reality Life with K Casey. Today, I've got a great episode for you. I'm going to talk about a reality show on Hulu. It's called million dollar Nannies I have found myself scrolling through TikTok and coming across these Nanny talkal videos And it's usually somebody who says, okay, twenty years ago I work with this family and they were Absolutely insane and here's what happenens. right up my alley Well, in this case, there is a reality show to go with this. This is eight episodes and it's produced by the same people behind the secret liives of Mormon Wives The premise is that a group of eight elite nannies, and by the way, they're not presented as like your neighbor's teenager earning like ten bucks an hour. These are professional full time nannies who work with high net worth households The kind of family is where you' have like a nine year old who's like, I'm going to order some caviar. And by the way, that's not even a joke. That's like a real moment from the show In this case, you have nannies that work with families that require NDAs So they are supposed to disappear into other people's lives And the reason that millions of people follow these accounts is the same reason that people, I believe watch true crime It's really a question of what is actually happening inside that house when the doors are closed What are the family dynamics and does it change normal life if you have a family that has all this money. Do the same problems exist So let me walk you through what you're dealing with on this show. The main character, and I'm using that term deliberately because she has absolutely cast herself as the lead is Leah. She's thirty one and from LA And she's the one who has recruited this entire group to come to Abisa. and she's building this agency H claim to fame is that she was a nanny for the Kardashians, specifically Courtney And she'll tell you that Courtney taught her how to be a better worker, which is a sentence that I've thought about for longer than I probably should have Lee hass been doing this since her early twenties. She said she made more money than her friends who went to college But she's also said, and this is the part that stayed with me. that after one job, she forgot who she was. that she left and didn't know how to have her own routine anymore that she gave up her entire twenties to these families and the show kind of breezes past that. But it actually is the most interesting thing that anyone says all season. Leah has also been the center of a big scandal. which is that she reveals she wantce slept with a dad who had hired her to babysit Now before you spiral, especially if you have kids, she later explained that this was a friend He was single. She watched his child one time And they had a history before the child carere partart. and I hope to God, that's the truth Now the other nannyies here, she slept with the dad and it becomes a five alarm fire because in the nanny world, that's the one thing you cannot do It's their version of an ethics violation. and the rest of the season is essentially everybody deciding whether Leah can still be the face of the agency that she built because she slept with one of the dads They also talk about the reality of what happens when you're a nanny and a dad comes onto you. So that's a whole other rabbit hole you're going to go into You have Siddney, She's Lah's best friend on the show. She's twenty seven and she gets what might be the most viral scene of the season. She's interviewing the show's main client family And the mother hands her a pair of Louis Vuitton chopsticks and says, you're going to need to use these to plate the children's food and to make it Instagram worthy. And then you realize this family is all about being online and getting as much exposure And they want to have a cute nanny to boot who will take all the photos for them You've got Jack who calls himself the OG Manny. He's twenty two, based in New York He had a six figure corporate job offer and turned it down to go to a visa, a nanny for the rich people on TV which is either the most gen Z decision ever made or genuinely brilliant, depending on how the show does with you and all the people that you share with because he could leave behind the corporate world and then work for these families for the rest of time But again, I worry about them, like are they going to lose sight of their own life because they're going to be working so many crazy hours Now he brings along his friend, Hannah Joy, who's a professional dancer and Nannie and describes herself as a hustler You've got Mitchell who is an Ohio based mananny. He's a photographer. He's open about living with Ulcerative decitis, and Leah describes him as the best man nanny in the Midwest thenen you have Taylor, who he's dating, she's another cast member and they've been together six years. They're not engaged. and Mitchell basically said you'd only do the show if Taylor came to Olivia is the one who ends up with the caviar child. She also gives the best behind the curtain details about what these families expect You can't wear red nail polish, no visible cleavage. You have to speak multiple languages. You have to know what designer brands are in sight and I gotta tell you, some of these families have the most ridiculous demands And then there's the families So you have the first family and you have Camilla and her mother, Toti and basically the main clients of the season They're a Cuban American family based in Miami, and their fortune is in dental clinics, real estate, crypto And according to Leah, they're worth over five hundred million dollars They are very specific about everything that they need that they need to do And you've got three daddies. There's Mark, Tom, and Moke And their family structure is genuinely, one of the more interesting things on the show. Mark was once married to Tom. They had twins, Bau and Cooy via surrogate After they divorced, they didn't want to break up the family, so Tom stayed Then Mark married Mok, who became the twin's third dad So now Tom lives in the pool house with the family and pets And they are emphatic that they are not a threupple. They're just three parents raising their kids together But by the way There' established content creators. They've got a YouTube series our three dads I think it's like nearly a billion views across platforms It's apparently in its third season. so they are gigantic characters. They're also expecting another baby via surrogate with Moch as the biological father this time And then you have Nicola. She's a single mother to two daughters. She runs an online business and skincare and Wellness and has a global podcast That's inspirational and her net worth isn't publicly available, but you should know that she's living at the Nobu Hotel in Ibiza during the show so you can draw your own conclusions So it's a cast of characters. It's going to remind you of the days that you were either a babysitter or you needed to hire a babysitter And it's eight episodes. It's on Hulu. and I had to have Ruby back on to ask her what she thought of the show So here is my interview with Ruby We just talked for twenty minutes about parenting, which is Summertime for a parent is quite difficult because this is what happens. These summer camps are on a racket cost of summer camps has gone haywire. We need a national discussion on the ripping off of the parent United States of America. It'll be like Okay, because they're desperate to get their kids into activities so they're not bored all day and watching general hospital all day long like I did when I was a child So it'll the times would be bizarre. It'll be like nine forty until one and ten And for basket weaving and it'll be like eight hundred and fifty dollars for the week. eight. Nuts which is why people hire nannies and babysitters because you want to keep your kids busy and you got to also hire somebody to go drive them if you can't do it and So therefore, I just believe the camps of America are taking advantage of parents This may be true in other parts of the country, and I would like to hear from the good people of other countries if this is what happens to, And this is why everyone's desperate to get like a summer babysitter And that's why college kids are great because they have more availability. They're reasonable about their rates and avoid the whole camp thing altogether And they're like they're like higher energy than me. They're higher energy. Yes. they're absolutely and they're fun and they play fun music in their car. Like they're all the things that we can't be and I love that I was a nanny And Manny, I think it was a difficult term. I would say like I was broad babysitter, I would say, because in the summer before my ninth grade year, this family in Philadelphia hired me to live with them on Long Beach Island and to take care of their their younger son. The weird thing is they had another son who was a year younger than me, so he was in seventh grade already Yeahah, but my mom, it didn't occur to her that this was weird because it was like a family from like her church So I get down there and I realize these two parents have a lot of work to do. and at points They would leave me. they would go back to Philadelphia and I would be in a house seventh grade boy and this little kid And they didn't leave me money for food sometimes Okay, so I was like in the pantry like making spaghetti and like Oh my, I look back in time and I'm like, what is wrong with these people These are the types of people like parenting now that you, your kids would have t they'll be would have been taken from them But you know, me, I was like, o, I guess I'm gonna have to make. I guess I'm the mother now. I don't know. So anyway, I thought that was bizarre My experience becoming a parent and finding a babysitter, I have to say, I've had really good experiences When my kids were younger, I had a nanny Anna And she and her husband would go on vacation with us because I had so many kids at a small like at a young age in a short period of time And they still come over all the time. They're like part of our family. So I have to say I've had great experiences and I keep in touch with all the babysitters I think that these families are going about it their whole wrong way. What is your experience with babysitting, nanny, et cetera I think you're one hundred percent right. I think that's the mark of a successful story is when they're in your lives afterward Um, I Like we didn't have I was the youngest of everything. So like there was no I never had the opportunity really to deal with young children, probably for the better. my parents got divorce and I was like seven, so we needed a nanny for a bit. And we found her in the weirdest of ways as most people did back then because there was no need to like get an agency and do whatever. She was like a friend of a friend of a something. I think my mom talked to her once and she was like, do you have car insurance? cool? And she was at my wedding. She is our family member. Yeah, we love her more than anything. I think that these people Look at the people who are caring for their children as the same way that they look at someone who is cooking for them or cleaning their home. And I think they're probably the types of people who think that teachers get paid more than enough. This is different. The caliber of respect should be given to all of your employees and your staff I kind of like I straddle the line between like shut the be shut up, you're working for these people and they're paying you handsomely. with also like Absolutely not, do not tolerate that and do not let them speak to you this way. 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So sign up for your one dollar per month trial today at shopify. com slash kKC. Go to shopify. com slash kKC. That's shopify dot com slash Kate Casey It also brings on the fact that If this was a corporation, a corporate situation, you'd have HR handling it. But in this case, you have these families that feel like they can pull off some of the craziest shit I've ever heard. and it really actually made me think I have never been in this situation before The way that the girls were talking about how they've been in precarious situations with fathers who are hitting on them who think it's like some weird kink to like get it on with a babysitter. Well, then you take wealth of this level And the first family, Camilla and her mother and her husband and these two kids, the first thing that I thought was weird She says, Ohh, my two little girls are an absolute handful. I was like, You only have two kids and they're little. Why are they handful? It's because you're making them. Right Yeah, I can't tolerating that type of behavior, a lot of this stuff. Some of this kids seem really lovely and really great Yeah. otherther ones, though, it's like There was a time that they acted this way before and you did not correct it, which is why they do it now. they don't any better. They don't know and these kids kids don't know any better. But the G family in particular too, I mean, the fact that they have a dumb stroller like that, that's a pram for a newborn baby who lives in the eighteenth century No one would use that. That was absurd, but they want to talk about how much money they spent on something. That's somebody who didn't even do their own baby registry. They had somebody else do it. And they're like, just put things on it that seem super expensive then to have the girls go out and they said, for the two that we were trying out for the job You have to text us Text me every twenty minutes is an absolute waste of time on both of your parts then to have them come back and wipe down the tire, the thin tire of the pram that the children don't even go into is just absolutely gross display of power I agree And I think the I understand that there are still households that operate where people wear uniforms. and I think for certain times, perhaps there's an element of practicality to it. The the scrubs and the gloves made me want to quit on their behalf and just say like, listen, if you have this much money, you should be able to figure out somebody who's more than willing to wear these weird scrubs and these gloves. Yeah, why are they whyy isn't the family hiring like a British nanny who went to like a nanny school. you know why? I'm going to tell you why Because what they they don't really want a babysitter What they want is a social media team Okay They want someone young and cute that will do all they need to get someone young and cute because it looks good for the aesthetic, but also they know all the tricks of the trade. They're basically instead of hiring a social media manager, they're hiring someone to be an assistant aesthetic and to give them great ideas because they've got their finger on the pulse because they're on Snap and on TikTok and all the things. Yeah, I think that's a really accurate description because they do all of their kids are prominently featured on this as well, which like is whatever, people feel different ways about that They don't seem to be concerned about their children's welfare Yeah, or like the acknowledgement of like, this is an extreme amount of wealth. not everyone has that. They they don't Yeah they're like lean into it and being a complete asshole Right, likeike poor people are disgusting? Yes. I kept thinking that too. like that first family I thought they probably teach them to look down on people who don't have means Yeah, when that little girl said at the when Bu said is this to the kids menu? It's like those are the moments where I'm like, I want to now like and I don't wish this actually for this child, It's more so to her parents, but like if you raise them to think that they can act that way, then okay, let's throw her in a boardroom. Let's put her in the middle of a war. See how she like what are we doing here? What is this? It's a menu because you're a child So it's a child's menu. Be a kid And don't don't treat waiters or human beings this way. You rude little little thing, but it's not your fault because you're your kid, you know And I think they don't even realize it until they start spending time with other families independent. I mean, that usually happens like maybe in college. where your parents are not social engineering, so you're around people of different circumstances And then you're like, ooh, like even the one nanny said, Yeah, I mean, I was spoiled like you and then my parents got divorced and then I realized There's a whole world out there. the children on this show are not exposed to anybody, but people in their own economic and soci socio economic group but also like social media people The O family has a YouTube Which one? The first family. Oh, yes, yes, yes. I was like, what yeah They're allowing so many people to come in and out who are basically just giving them all the praise that they want all the time, telling them they're the most interesting people. And I have to say too. When I see these situations where you have somebody with enormous wealth and they have a huge following What I think they don't realize is that people are watching them because they're interested in what people spend and what their life looks like But it's not necessarily because they like them as a person They want to window into that world, but they're not they don't aspire to be you as a person Right, We want to watch things that we don't have access to. and that's what it is. I don't need to like you. It honestly, it doesn't make a difference really because I'm not watching this for your endearing character traits that being said Some of these people are absolutely reprehensible. Oh my God, they are whoa. and I for again, I amm not a billionaire or a gazillionaire, so I don't know how hard it is to be less bad When you're not wealthy, I thought that the but then again, I like when Taylor went down to the beach and left her children Mhm just speak to her boyfriend I I think a lot of people would have think would have considered that a fireball offense. and I wanted to get your take on that. That's absolutely a fireball offense. If you're going to get somebody young, you has the energy to take them out and go swimming They are gonna make ding donong decisions because they are wrapped up in their boyfriend or they are thinking a lot about the next party that they w to go to with their friends You know, maybe they were raised in a house where they had a lot more freedom, you know, you're kind you have to It's not a corporate environment, so it's so tricky Right. I think that the u The agency idea, I actually think is a pretty good idea. I think it's good for you. You don't wna be a nanny for forever and you have all these connections. like what do you do with it other than just keep nannying, like I guess, get other people employed as a nanny and then kind of become like the Albenheim group of nannying and whatever. Yeah, that was a little bit worrisome when she's like, I have all these connections, but your connections are because you are seen at the low totem pole taking care of the children the people that you're speaking about and in the world will never look at you as a contemporary. So that's sort of a delusional infantile mindset. The three weird dads In a corporate envirment you' never be like Hey, can you go to a nightclub with us? M bottle service? and like what It would be, can you spray tan me? It would be the C you sppray tan me. Can you imagine It would be the easiest lawsuit that's ever been settled out of court in anyone's life. because it would just would be, how much do you want? Because we can't there's no way to argue that this was appropriate. That was My mouth was a gpe. that and I know that this is like a show and this is one our burber. Mitchell I gott to give it to y. I know that you have a lot of flaws. I think he handled that entire situation better than I could have ever dreamt of handling it myself And those kids seem to really be be fans of his. I don't know how he pulled that off in that situation. I really have no idea that was bizarre. and they should not do that to anybody else ever again on or off camera. I know And those children were so sweet and I just thought, I hope that they don't regret that they had to be part of a show when they were ten years old where their three dads looked like monsters Yeah, I was going to say, I think based on that dynamic alone, that will not be something that they regret. I think they may have other things that take precedent over the show And maybe I'm wrong, Maybe the dads watch this and say, wow, we need to Clean up our act. for the interest of these children, otherwise, it's going to be very difficult for us to assume that they would be remotely normal And But again, that's another family. They're like they've got a YouTube and they want to be famous and And they want their children to be little stars too. And it's like they're just sweet little kids that deserve to just go to the YMCA and hang out with their friends. And when they get to a point where they look at your job and say, I want to do that T talk to them about it. I really do think there's an element of weirdness to parents that get because your kid is eventually going to grow up And then they're going be thirteen and be like, stop filming me. And what do you do? I don't know. Well we would hope that they go, okay talk through some of the figures in this one. Leah is the thirty one year old central figure of this show and she worked for Courtney Kardashian and that's really sort of her big currency. We don't know what the other clients were presumably because there was a non disisclosure agreement or or I would assume She's also referenced working for Real Housewives cast members, but I have watched every minute of a Real Housewives show and I've never seen her before The fact that she says in the first episode that she slept with the client, I'm assuming she got fired, didn't know what to do with her life and thought I'll just make a TV show because I've been doing this you for a couple years. This is salacious enough She was probably one of the girls on TikTok who said, okay, this is my experience when I was a nanny, which I got to be honest with you. I find a lot of those videos really interesting, especially if somebody's a little bit older Like when you know, twenty years ago, I babysat for this family and this is what happened. I do I do like those videos But in this case, I feel like it's somebody who made some pretty poor decisions and is trying to figure out a way to monetize it. It gets tricky because there's kids involved. I don't think anybody should be faulted for trying to monopolize on things that if people are going to try to ruin you for something that you don't consider is a big deal and you can sleep at night Go for her It sounds like she just like hooked up with this single dad who she should not have done that, but I don't I do believe that people blew that out of proportion a little bit. I think it's like it's acting like you were like a Like, well, you were on the clock? Well, I think it's because she was so demeaning to them in the beginning. like giving them a list of things of You know, the way that they have to behave and the way the business operates. And then also, the first family was a ton of money. She takes one of the the two slots. R between that taking opportunity from them It' sort of It seems like she contradicts herself all the time. So at that point, they're probably like, I've been spending like two days now with you and filming all the time, and you're driving me crazy and now to hear that the worst offense you could ever commit as a nanny, you actually did, and you're running this joint. I completely agree that like for the people and the nannies, like I would be like girl It's basically like you murdered somebody. For the families, though, and even once things have been clarified, I don't know. I think that's like a little bit again, not to be whenatever if your husband wants to do that, your husband wants to do that. that's This guy is it sounds like and I don't think that at this point, if she was sleeping with somebody's husband, that she could get away with saying like That wife would have been all over the show. the second that it came out. I hope Well, let's hope maybe maybe she'll put out on TikTok and then we'll find out Because we have no idea who this man is, the single dad that she' slept with, right? We still don't know or I have is it imp possible maybe she just made it up for the show's sake Definitely. I would not put that past her. She seems like she is she's trying to sell the show Yeah, very ambitious and very driven and taking all of that and possibly putting it in the wrong car and sending it down the driveway. Yes, I agree Um Clearly, most of the families you know, are in this because they have been told that they have family dynamics that are so interesting. that they deserve their own show, but they probably tried to pitch a show and nobody took it. Yep. So I'm assuming they've already had meetings with casting people and they were trying to build the show and they werere like, well, you know who you should look at is this family. they already pitched a show about themselves. because they seem like people who think I am so compelling that I should just have a show. We should just have a show of our own They all have Archetypes McDowell They all have it's like they know how to act and when to act it. And I again, I liked it and I didn't have any issue with it. but I would not put it past every single one of them that if we were to like break into the archive of their laptop, that it would be like it'ch thirteen summer in a visa and it's like, okay, well, because the London one didn't land, neither did. And it's just like, yeah, I think these people seem like very polished reality TV families that want you to know more about them because they think that you should because they're incredible Yeah, my college roommate who worked for the as a nanny for the actor and the actresss wife She had to live in Paris with them. for many weeks and was paid in Skittles And because of that, she couldn't really leadave the house and do much Right. So in the, you know, they're kind of like building well, you know, we're so wealthy and