Advice for Curious Heteroflexible Men

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Well, thank you, then, it's a pleasure being here So before we get to the new thing it is that you try, just tell us a little bit about yourself So I'm a forty two years old, heterflexible Cis mle from Switzerland and I've been in an open relationship since fifteen years And it recently turned poly not under dress Come on dec seision Whose idea was it? So it was a mutual decision? It was a mutual decision from the start actually. We realized very early in our relationship that we concept of fidelity and a couple that was actually the same. so we were like, okay, let's Let's start with a D us don't tell agreement and it turned O relationship and now it became poly You tried something new. What is it that you tried? Well what I tried is that I was able to test my heterflexibility to see if it was a thing How long have you believed yourself to be header flexible? And did you believe that for a long time and only now just tested it? Did you identify as er flexible? never had an opportunity to test it? And I want you to define testing it too. What was ye What did testing it mean Testing, if I may put it like that was sucking a dick problem. I mean, that was really the If you want to pinpoint a thing, no, no, it was a relationship with another man which is something that I was always attracted to, drawn to I also always had this feeling that In order to get my motor running, I sort of needed a woman in the picture. to get my motor running and my problem was that I Trouble squaring that out becausecause I felt I wasn't sure that it came from a real pleasure of a real envy of mine, or if it was just some kind of homophobia, that was deep inside of myself. So describe the first blow job you ever gave in your header flexible life. Tell us about it It was great, it was great. So yeah, the first time I learned about Hural flexibility was when I signed up on Field and I saw that it was one of the options. So I Googled it and it rang a bell for me. and also I heard you talking on the podcast that sometimes to yeah, to get your motor running, I mean, the brain needs something and it doesn't you don't have to judge what your brain needs, so I was able to make my peieace with the fact that in order to really get attracted by a man and to be able to do stuff with him, I needed also a woman in the picture. So the woman in the picture, You sucking a dick was partly sort of heterosexualized in the moment because it pleased her to watch you suck a dick. I'm not saying that you were straight washing cock sucking, but For it to work for you in your erotic imagination, it had to be in a context where a woman was present. And there have been like people have said shitty things in the past about guys who will only suck a dick if a woman's there, that it's homophobia, it's cowardly, that the woman is there to create a permission structure for him to suck a dick, which he wants to do anyway, just won't do it alone with a man But I actually think that peoplee can enjoy same sex activity in a context with an opposite sex partner where it's sort of rolled into the connection they have with that opposite sex partner in a way, not that makes it okay. It's perfectly I'm sure you feel it's perfectly okay for a man to suck a man's dick by when there's just two men in the room, but in a way that for him makes it erotic appealing. There are millions of women out there who will have sex with other women with their husband or boyfriend, but aren't particularly interested in having sex with other women alone. And people don't pile on those women to tell them that they're doing lesbian sex wrong. But people will bag on guys who are like, I will suck a dick with my girlfriend, but I don't want to suck a dick by myself. And I think that's a valid way for a guy to suck a guy's stick. I want to live in a world where the most guys are getting the most dick sucks that they can and if that's one way guys can get their dick sucked, I'm for it And when I was sucking that dick, that dick was the only thing that matters in the moment. And I had a lot of fun and a lot of pleasure sucking it. And for me, it was Really a nice experience because when I was playing with the man, I was really playing with it. with him, sorry The female was there, but I mean, there was no difference for me. It was just pure pleasure, sheer pleasure and sheer excitation of the moment I don't need his name or social security number, but whose dick were you sucking? and who was the woman with you? Was it your partner So my partner, I told her about that and she was like fine, but I'm not very much interested in treesoms or stuff like that And I was also okay because for me, I mean, we knowed them for a long time. We never played with other couples. We lived our open relationship in separate ways, if you want And so I found a couple on Field. And so I hooked up with this couple and so the two persons were part of a couple And so did he on field identify as how to a flexible too or did he identify as Bi He identifies as Bi. And you were like, pick me, pick me. Well, I med I matched with the woman first and then we met we start chatting a little bit just to see if we align as you teach us. And then we went for a quick coffee and we realized that we wanted the same thing. She also wanted play with another man and she knew, of course that her boyfriend was by was like, ye, I will be able to achieve treesome, but only if there is some contact between the two men. I don't want like the kind of like porn movie treesome when the two dudes are a little bit Yeah where they were the woman like two m Exactly every exact. And maybe just some tip contact, but that's always that there is So we ye. So we may with the woman then we were like, okay, there is connection there. And she was like, I think My boyfriend is going to like you, so let's meet up the three of us together. and that So does he know that his was the first dick you ever suck Yes, it did in E. Y Was he honored What he Was he proud of this? Was he thrilled to be the first dick that was ever in your mouth He was indeed super happy because also the whole experience was really wholesome and super hot and super nice We didn't debrief by the fact that it was the first one, but but was definitely happy that I was able to act on that with him. and What kind of reviews did you get? It was your opening night as a cocksucker. Was he like, Good, That was good. You were good at it And did you have any feel? Like like I've known guys who identified as bi but had never acted on it and then sucked a dick for the first time and cried because it felt like not bad tears, just like it was a rubicon. They really crossed a rubicon. Like you're not a cockscker, Maybe you could think about sucking a cock. Then you have sucked a cock, you are a cockscker. And in a you know, a deeply homophobic culture and this like many, many years ago in the United States where I knew this guy Like that? can be emotionally charged. Not necessarily a negative experience, but a fraught one Was it a fraught experience for you? Did you look yourself in the mirror after it was over and be like, oh my Godd, I've had aick in my mouth. Were you blossing your teeth, brushing your teeth later and being like, oh my go God, I've aicken in my mouth. Or were you just like, it made so much sense that it's not a big deal and it wasn't a fraught and high stakes emotional experience for you No, for me, the only moment that was a little bit difficult is it was going through the hump of making the first sexual contact with him So when we started making out, the moment we started making out the two of us, it was down it from there. And the moment I head is cock in front of my mouth, was like, oh, let's go and do this. I was super excited and it felt super nice and hot And I didn't regret what I did. I was just very happy and still a little bit excited. Did he come in your mouth We set up some ground rules before And I say that I didn't want penetrate, nor to be penetrated and they were fine with it. and I see that they can penetrate each other if they want it. And so at a certain point the guy told me I would like to penetrate her. Is it okay for you? And I was like, sure, no problem. wasas it because someone told me that all treesoms sometimes became twooms, so I was prepared to that. Who was it that told you that Threesomes bec come to? Listen. I don't know. I don't know. someone from the Pacific Northwest, I guess. N from Chiaga, sorry. Yeah I'm from Chicago, please, please please. Yeah, sorry, sorry sorry. And so and they were super nice about it because they were not Okay, we're just going to do our thing. All the time there was open communication. We laughed a lot. There was a lot of nice moments and also some poses where we just reassess the situation if everyone was alright with it And so what it was come in her and it was a super hot moment for me as well because she was lying on the bed and I was lying next to her So I could feel herer movement on me Also they were touching me a very intense moment as well Did you come during this ex? I didn't come. You did't come I didn't come. That was the only issue that I had is that normally any I have no trouble at all getting hard and I had some trouble and also I didn't come. but it was not a big deal. It wasn't the point of the evening for me. And when I had They really wanted to get me off and I felt a little bit too much pressure on me haaving two people sucking on my dick and trying to get me off it was super hot. but at a certain point it was like, I think there is too much pressure on me We can call it the knight and just catherin and smoke a joint afterwards. Okay, here's the cockscker test. Have you jacked off thinking about sucking a dick For sure. Okay, yeay, you're a cockscker I think Wlcome to the club. You're you' the heterosexual end of the cocksucking spectrum or the heter flexible end of the cockx. But you are on the cocksucking spectrum with me Kate Rot I'mnaa Anglad T Cck sucker, welcome to Teck suucker. We have a jersey for you and you will have a locker assigned to you. Nice. But yeah. And also one thing that was I was curious about is was because this fantasy of sucking a cock was a long one. and I was curious to see if it was just the cck or the guy as well. And I was very much into the guy as well. I loved making out with it, just caressing him. and so it was not just The ticket was the the whole experience of also making out and cuddling with the guy. Okay, well, that's different. I mean, everyone's experience is different. There are many unique sexual experiences of sexual identity and orientation out there. And there are some guys who are how are ref flexible who want to suck a deck, but do not want anything else to do with the guy attached to it A lot of these guys wind up at Goryholes, where it's literally just the dick they're interacting with, or if they want to have a three way where they don't have to kiss the other guy that it's about the connection with the woman, but they will play with the other dude's penis And it really is like more of a hard limit around any other interaction besides just the cockscking, but you interacted with this guy. and o yeah have you sucked it accense? Yep, No, I haven't, but not because I didn't want it, but It's something I did. so I was able to at least check it for my bucket list and now I'm like, okay, I know I won't do it again. but I don't feel that hurry. And I mean I still have two kids and other relationship. So and also I don't live I live in a relatively small city. so there are not M couples that are hanging around. Okay, so you're you're team cockscker, but you're a benchwmer I'm a bench for the moment. I'm ready to get into the into into the field So any advice you would give to a guy who has not yet suck a dick, but has thought about sucking a dick, who is mostly attracted to women and been in opposite sex relationships, think of themselves as heterosexual or heteroflexible and is curious. What would your advice be? if somebody came to you said, I'm about to go suck a dick, maybe, or I'm thinking about getting unfealed What would your advice to that guy Well, the first one would be go for it because if you want to do that, it means that somewhere in your brain, I mean the envy is there. so act on it. And the second one is don't be afraid. It won't change who you are. It won't make you gay. It wasn't my concern at all. I was sure that, I mean, I was who I was I know that for some people, that's also the question when I was telling my story to some friends, they were like, okay, so now Did you change a little bit your sexual orientation? Are you still hetero? And I think that if you are sure about who you are, then go for it and suck that dig Sck that dick. That's good advice. It's advice I've given here on the Savage Lbcast. I don't know how many times, Fhilippo, thank you so much for coming on afterfter action report and sharing Thank you. And I hope there's another dick in your future and your mouth very soon. Sure. I'm looking forward to it Thanks, Felippo, and welcome to the Cck Ser Club If you had a first time experience and you're brave enough to share it with me and my listeners, write to us at Q at savage. Lv. 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