Transitioning from Threesome to Throuple

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If you wait until something breaks, you're already behind Count on Granger for quality products, easy reordering, and twenty four seven support Call one eight hundred Granger, click Granger. com or just stop by Granger. For the ones who get it done You listen to After Action Report at Savage d.lg Aionort Welcome to After Action Report where one of my listeners tells me and all of my other listeners about something new they tried. This week, we meet James who had a three way of portions James, welcome to the show Thank you. Thank you very much Before we get to what happened, tell us a little bit about yourself. Who's James I'm u Fty years old Tnder flluid. Am, I'm a musician And that's like the main thing I do is I'm in a couple of bands and That's kind of my life. That's mostast about it. Sounds like a pretty good, rich, rewarding and fluid life. So what is it that you wanted to talk with us about? What's the new thing that you tried Well, I had My first, I will call it successful group sex experience, my first successful Thesome. went well for everybody So you've had three ss in the past, but it ended badly for somebody involved It was always like Maybe two people are really involved, Maybe one person's just kind of hanging out I always did the one person who was just hanging out wind up having hurt feelings afterwards? Beuse I always warned people that if you can't picture yourself at a threesome that becomes for a moment a tosome that you're right on the outside of, you're not cut out for a tosome or for threesome, sorry, mayaybe you should stick Right Right. Because often, you know, when I hear from people who had a terrible threesome, or a really bad experience, what they'll say is, you know, me and my boyfriend, we had a threesome, and there was this moment where like my boyfriend was fucking this other person and like it was as if I didn't exist And I got, you know, I blew the fuck up. I got really hurt. My feel got really hurt. And I always tell people to imagine that moment because if you can't hack that moment, it's almost inevitable that moment. And maybe you'll be on the outside or maybe one of the other people Torsa will be on the outside. But if you can't hack that moment picture yourself in that moment and enjoying that moment where you get to watch your partner have a twosome, you shouldn't have a threesome So was that your experience with successful freesoms in the past where somebody got hacked off? Well, not exactly. It was fine, but it just like not everybody had a good time. It was almost like A toomean I was there couple of times. O. In my like teens and twenties. So what distinguished? So you had threess where you were a little bit on the outside You were just there, but you weren't so hurt or upset that you sent me a letter No I wasn't hurt or upset at all. It's just like that was fun. It wasn't really for me, but that's cool All right, so what was different about this threesome? and how did this threesome, your first successful threesome? How did it come together? So my my my fiance and I have been, you know, off and on poly for the past like six years, you know We've kind of opened it up, shut it down, worked out a lot of the bugs. You know, it's been a journey. We're longt time listeners. so we've had plenty of advice vicariously. But lately, you know, I've been like interested in the possibility of, you know, group sex through some stuff like that. And I met someone on field and we talked for probably way too long because it was the holidays and all that. So we talked for a couple of months. fininally met up and first date was crazy Weird like I ended up having an accidental big party at my house And I was like Do you w to just come to my house and meet my partner and come to a crazy party at my house? And she's like absolutely So everybody hit it off. and then my fos has been struggling to like meet other people, you know? And long story short this new person that I started seeing and my fiancee hit it off really well. so they started seeing each other And they had their first date. I go out to a punk show to give them some space. and when I come home, they are waiting for me laying in wait. All right, before we get to the big moment, let's back up for a second. The advice that people get from me, Dr. Jenny Young, others is to not go on talking for too long. if you Feel like there's a connection and a spark. Meet as quickly as possible. Don't make an enormous investment before the first face to face meeting. So you broke that rule, but you didn't break the rule kindind of sorta of meeting in a public place, although you know, if you're the The person that you have this threesome with you and your partner have this threesome with If she had called me and said, So this guy, I'm at on field, we're talking, and he's invited me to his house to a crazy party I would have told her not to go because she doesn't know you from Adam. and Absol what if There's not a crazy party. What if you get there? and it's a guy who just didn't want to meet you in a public place, which is the advice everyone's always given about meeting people off the internet for the first time, meet in a public place. A big crazy party is kind of a public place, but somebody could lie to you about whether they're having a big party. And you could go, Oh, nobody else could make it. It's just you and I here alone I none of these things are the recommended way of doing things. I will say we did meet in a public place. We spent like an hour or two together first getting to know each other at the bar And yes, we talked for too long. It was just the holidays and we couldn't get our schedules together. She's a mom And wait this crazy party wasn't your first meeting with your third No this all happened in one night We met at the bar. You had a drink and you said, oh, I'm having a crazy party tonight Do you wantan to come meet my partner? It was'tosed. So my fiance was like, o, you're gonna to be on a date. I'm not gonna be on a date. Let me invite two or three people over. And then they invited two or three people over. and then the entire punk scene was at my house. Okay, so This is how met, you met quickly for a drink. Your partner didn't wanna be alone. She invited the entire punk scene in your city over to your house to hang out with her. You invited this woman that you just met from Field met in person for the first time. You'd met her too much Yes then by the way. Oh pardon me, they then. That's why You met them on field, you invited them over and your partner and them hit it off and then the partner sorry the fiancee is them, the new girlfriend is She Okay, I want to be clear Oh Nobody's offended. it's just cool. Okay, okay. so You met up with her and you brought her home to meet them your be And they and this is the plural standard use of they, your fiancee and this woman She her from Field. they hit it off and then they had a date, just the two of them. You came home and take it from there I mean, I was Very sweaty from the show, but they were just they had had their fun already, you know, but they can keep going. so I got home, took a shower and they were waiting for me. I don't know. have superpower Yeah, well, you know, not necessarily for everybody I know, but certainly for those too Um I don't know. it was Kind of a wild time. It was late. I had to work the next day, but I was like, well, I'm not passing this up. Yeah, so I took a quick shower and I got in the game And it went really great. I mean, as you always say, like there was several twooms happening there, but plenty of thesome stuff. we tried You know, whatever positions were available, which there's a lot, Dan There are a lot So in your past unsuccessful threesoms or meth threesoms, not really unsuccessful. They weren't catastrophes Usually whenone said I had an unsuccessfulreesome, they're referencing aatastrophe. You didn't have any catastrophic thresoms But the past ones Matt, you felt on the outside of it. What was it about your fiancee and yourour third that made you always feel inside it, even when it broke out into twoosoms here and there, what was it What was the vibe? What was the difference I felt comfortable doing what I wanted to do taking what I wanted in a situation Whereas in the past I had not felt that way. There just it wasn't a spoken thing, but there was just a vibe. I'm like, I don't think this is for me. I feel like there's going to be some hurt feelings if I participate more in this. I didn't feel like that this time. I was like, oh, everybody's happy So You know, if I if if we split off into what I'm doing, it's nobody's in a bad mood about it Awesome, awesome, awesome. And so Give us one position or give us one snapshot. give us one visual of one moment during this threesome It was very cool when She was going down on my fiance and I was fucking her from behind. That was fantastic I've been there. I can attest that that is actually a cool moment. If you're all the way from behind, it is almost like you are fucking your partner through your other partner Yes. As I famously said on Stephven Colbert's show It's not adultery if I'm committing it at one end of a guy and my husband is committing at the other end of the same guy at the same time. That is not absolutely infidelity. That is not adultery. That is actually Awesome size. that went well, but it was like kind of quick for me And she's like What are you doing this weekend? So A couple of days later, she came over around noon and we fucked for twelve hours Wow We took some breaks, we took some breaks, they didn't take very many breaks. I mean I have the equipment that I have, so for me, I came like three times. That's a lot for me in one session My fiance like a dozen times and then are U spoiler alert on Girlfriend, she just is a squirter who can just come like thirty times in a day. like it's Abssurd and beautiful Okay, the spoiler alert wasn't for squirting. The spoiler alert was girlfriend. Yeah, worth ruble now. How long have you been a threatball? Pretty much since that day, it was just like, I think this is working out. And then shortly afterwards like, can we start using the word girlfriend? She's like that'd be amazing. so Oh my god, most successful treesome ever Yeah, really. She's solo Paly and has a couple of partners and it's kind of keep it that way because she's The way she puts it is like Her main relationship is her and her kids. Threome two Trouble onn an accelerated timeline That You know? Maybe you're still in the NRE phase That's an amazing people talk about limrance, the limberance phase in a relationship with one person When three people come together, Not only does it create kind of a three way limberance phase, it recreates, I think, the limberance phase for the original existing couple if it's an existing couple that H har the third becomes a thrup ball And that's so ty and delicious and such a rare rare experience because most people aren't in throuplles and most people who are coupled in long term relationships and engaged have exited the glimereance phase. And you kind of don't get to experience that again as a couple unless dot dot dot as a couple You're open to and then become a thrupple and you get to experience that limberance with your fiancee. That's amazing Yeah, and I personally I've been in long term relationships. I don't really have a problem like staying excited about part a partner, you know. I will say with this I want to be clear my fiance and I have had a lot of conversations about like what if a third person comes in, would a relationship type situation be acceptable. Like we've had a lot of conversations around that whether it would be even feasible. And then of course, I just want to say for everybody out there, like you do not expect this. Like it it's just such a It's just such a very specific everything lining up that like we all get along. I mean, not the threesome part. that can be fun. but I think the like relationship part is much more rare and it just is strange and that it happened and great It's just like bizarrely casual. Like we just all like hanging out together, which is what makes it work whichich is what makes all romantic relationships work. It's got to be somebody that you can hang with Exactly. becausea that's what you spend most of your time doing Like, even if, you know, you're well into adult life adult responsibilities, you don't spend most of your time paying bills or doing chores or arguing. you spend most of and you don't spend most of your time fucking. You spend most of your time just like chilling together. And it's really important your partner or partners be people that you enjoy just hanging out with Yeah. I will say, I guess we we fuck for ten hours because we did Take some time out to watch Best in showh as one does. Thank God for Christopher Gest, best friend Pollly peopleople ever had. All right, James, thank you so much for coming on after Action Report and sharing the story of your I would say world's most successful Threesome ever that went from Threesome to Freple Pretty quick. a twelve hour marathon fuck session, which My God Amazing you could get to the phone Jams, thank you again All right, thank you, Dan Thanks again, James. May your success rub off on the rest of us? If you have a tale to tell, good or bad, sweet or sour, write to us, tell us about it, tell us about the new thing you tried. The email address is cQ at savage d. lovev and you may hear from us and you might be my next guest on A action Report After action report. This episode of the Savage Love Cast is brought to you by Load Boost by VB He Load Boost is a supplement designed to improve the taste, the volume, and the overall health of your semen. If you're already putting in the work, why not make your performance unforgettable? madeade in the USA, NSF certified and produced in an FDA registered facility. Thousands of guys across fifty states and forty five countries swear by load boost. If you want bigger finishes and better reviews from your audiences, if you want better taste, better mouth feeleel Go to loadboost. com today and use code Savage for ten percent off, or click the link in this week's episode description