Reflections on Exhibitionism and Objectification

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If you wait until something breaks, you're already behind Count on Granger for quality products, easy reordering, and twenty four seven support Call one eight hundred Granger, click Granger. com or just stop by Granger. For the ones who get it done Listening to After Action Rort at saavage. org A action Rort. I gotta say, this one went places I did not expect. Welcome to After actction Report where my listeners who tried something new had a new and novel sexual experience, let me ask them every sorted or not so sorted, sometimes wholesome detail This week, I talked with Maxon Truly one of the most interesting people I've ever had on this show. Let's get into it Hey, Maxon, welcome to The showell, it's good to have you Thanks, Dan. so happy to be here. I love your work So before we talk about what you did, how you were had recently, tell us a little bit about who Maxon is. Yes, I'm Max en caged. I'm on E Twitter Blueskuy and I'm a locked sub. been pretty engaged with chastity for the last couple of years, this current lockup. I'm over eight hundred and fifty days in a row locked twenty four seven. Explain what that means. Explain what that that means to people, Picularly straight people out there listening who aren't familiar with the locked lingo. Yes. So I wear a male chastity device on my dick. It's the one I have is custom titanium And I also have a Prince Albert piercing. so it's integrated into the cage. So the cage is Not removable unless you have the key. You cannot pull your dig out the back. And I wear at twenty four seven, I wear it to sleep, I wear it to the gym, wear it to work. where when I travel I remove it maybe once a week for a few minutes to give it a good cleaning in the shower with with a soapy toothbrush, not the one I use on my mouth And yeah, I I love it. I'm like a one hundred, ten percent bottom I have always been my entire life and um, Yeah, just really love chastity So what's in chastity for you? People out there will hear that your dick's been locked up for eight hundred days, you're into denial, you're into chastity. Like the reward We often seek when we have sex, particularly maal bodied people have sex is orgasm. that's the like Hey off What's the payoff when you're into chastity? Okay, that's such a great question. So you mentioned the word denial which I think is the predominant idea for a lot of people when I think of chastity And for me, it is a sort of denial of my dick, but being locked has really unlocked a lot of different parts of my sexuality I think I wouldn't have been able to access if I were continually distracted by my deck For me, I've like I said, I've always been a huge bottom being there. was a distraction from time to time, distraction for you know, topops that were playing with my dick, a distraction for me because eventually I want to play with my dick. And when you remove that from the equation you know, all the other variables are more important, which is my whole throat, my body, everything else. it's kind of like when you close your eyes to listen to sounds better By removing your dck from the equation, everything else becomes more important. And I've been able to explore a lot more kinks, a lot more dynamics in my sex life and I'm you know, since being locked to these last couple of years, I'm having the best sex of my life I've seen a couple of guys online. Somebody comes to mine in particular, off with his cock on Twitter, who've entirely removed their decks from the equation, their're knulls. They've had their penises removed Is that something that tempts you? Would you want to take the removal of your dick from the equation that far? Yeah. I don't know if you did your research before this podcast, but I actually just posted about this online like a week ago I'm actually non binary and I'm having a non binary vagin opasty in mid June. so Yes, that has crossed my mind quite a bit and chastity has been a large part of my journey of me discovering and playing with my gender identity and realizing that I've never really associated with who I am and it's really been a distraction all my life. And for me, you know, I haven't really experienced I don't think I've experienced a lot of gender dysphoria over the years, but what I have experienced is a lack of gender euphoria. And I've never been into having a dick didn it didn't really strike me until a few years ago when I started seeing Nellllows and O non binary folks have had bottom surgery online It never really struck me that I could be binary and trans and seek bottom surgery. So The internet is an amazing and wonderful place and it can give you the representation that you need sometimes. And for me, that's exactly what happened. It's been a two years on this journey already and I'm excited to undergo this gender affirming procedure in Amazingly, this isn't what we were having you on the show to talk about It's fascinating I hadn't read your post. I hope I didn't stumble onto a subject that you weren't ready to talk about. No It's out online, so it is out there And also a little advice from you for people out there who are interested in chastity, whether they're nonbinary and on a journey toward nullification, or whether they're just interesting in locking up. You say you have a titanium cage and a Prince Albert piercing right now that's incorporated into the cage. So you can't remove it. You can't slip your tick out. I recently talked about chastity devices on the show and said that unless you invest in something like I think time' Steel workks extreme, something titanium and get a PA that male chastity device is really just The honor system Because in most instances, you can slip out Yeah, that is true. And you know, everyone's chastity journey is different, right? It can be different things for different people. There are even locked tops out there, which is really fascinating and hot and sexy. And I think, you know, chastity is a journey. just like sex is a journey. you know, it's not necessarily about the destination or about the orgasm And I tell people if you're interested, if there's anything that at all like tickles your fancy about chastity or piques your curiosity You know, go get a cage and try it. There are some really amazing cages out there to do a plug for this company. They're based in the East Bay outside San Francisco called Kink three D. They make these really amazing three D printed cages that are super customizable in terms of in all the different sizes. So there's something for everyone out there. But you know those are a nicer product and they cost upwards of one hundred and fifty dollars If you want to start findind something, I hate to say it, but there are knockoffs on Amazon that are not as good. So you know, I started with with a knockoff and eventually upgraded to a kink three D cage. And I wore that cage for almost a year before realizing Oh, you know, I'm ready to take the next step. So eventually I got pierced because I wanted to engage in pierced chastity. I didn't like the fact that I could pull out the back even though I never did For me, it was just kind of a signaling for me of a way to deepen my chastity practice and my commitment, but I was getting a lot of pinch in between the jewelry and the King three D cage. So that's when I realized I had to go to a more custom integrated PA solution. And there's a bunch of different companies out there that make those cages now One more question about chastity and I promise we'll talk about what you wanted to come on the show to talk about. There are studies that show that reggular ejaculation lowers a male person's male body person tos ass sign male birth persononss chances of developing prostate cancer later in life. So whenever I meet somebody and I met people into chastity who will tell me that they haven't had an orgasm for two years maybe some nocturnal emissions, maybe some semen leakage during when they're getting fucked or using large toys, but no orgasms. And I always something in the back of my head, I have worst case scenario disorder. something in the back of my head always goes, but, prostate cancer, prostate cancer. Was that ever a concern for you That's a really great question. It wasn't a concern for me, although I am very well aware I guess kind of that medical information that, you know regular ejaculations are good for the prostate And maybe this is a call to all locks subs out there learn how to come from getting fucked. That's that's our, you know, biological imperative if we're going to stay locked and healthy and preserve our prostates. I will say for me, I As part of my practice, again, stippven for everyone, but I do let myself come roughly once every couple of weeks or a month.aybe it's like I'm a ot to you know, go on family vacation and I don't need to do this horny or things at work are really crazy and I need to not be distracted And I do use a vibrator on my cage about once a month or so to come. But also while I'm getting fucked, I have had full on like real cum shooting orgasms just from getting fucked. And I do a lot of toy play, fistine, other things as well that I think I would guess massage my prostate in a healthy way. All right, let's talk about bisting. That's what you actually came on the show to talk about. What is the new thing that you did that you tried that you wanted to share with my listeners? Yes. So there were two things I tried that weekend. I was asked to be one of the Fisting bottoms at SF Rubber Weekend's Fisting Bingo And everyone's probably asking, what is fistine bingo? It is exactly what you think it is. There is a crowd of people, let's bingo cards And there are human bingo machines. The human bingo machines are basically you know where the balls come out of and a dry queen for this event calls the numbers and everyone plays Bingo. Okay, social conservatives tried to warn us about the slippery slope from drag queen bingo to fisting bingo. and it turns out they were right. We have arrived at hundred. So you're thinking about the ball when you're Thinking about the balls at Bingo, they're usually in a tumbler. And somebody reaches in and pulls out a ball randomly And so you were the tumbler that the balls were in. Yeah. So I mean, logistically, there are a lot of balls. There's, I think seventy five balls in American Bingo And And so yeah, that's a lot of balls to fit in one person. So for this event, there were five human bingo machines. I was one of the five. All the number balls were in one bucket and a fisting top, there were a few. go around to each bottom and when it was kind of that bottom's turn to be on, they would take a few of the balls, put them in and then fist them out. You know, I don't know if it would be possible to fit all seventy five balls in one person at the same time and turn them into like, you know, the human version of the Bingo Ball tumblr, but that's certainly be hot But yeah, logistically, you know, There are logistics and human limitations that get in the way, I suppose. So how many balls did you have in you at one time U ussually like three or four, maybe five, it was hard to tell sometimes. but But yeah, like the fisting top would go from one bottom, you know bs f them out. And I will say propp to the organizers, the tops were using gloves while fistingen would switch gloves in between bottoms, you know, for safety and risk reduction. And so yeah, they would go to one bottom, put in a few balls, fist them out. The drag queen's calling the Dunbers the whole time and then they move on to the next bottom and then they put in more few balls, fistos out They did that until we played a few rounds of bingo until someone got, you know, five in a row and then they did another bingo. then eventually we ended with a full blockout. like someone needed to get you know, fill out their entire Bingo card. And so this kind of It's sexual and it's play, but it's not creating a lot of around tension. It's not a scene.'s not Sck. so How did you experience this? It doesn't sound like a sensual experience. It sounds like a performative experience and Oh not not I hope you didn't take a offense at this, but did you feel like a sight gag almost? like you're the bingo ball tumblr, but a human being being fisted and having balls fisted out of him wereere you aroused or were you just proud of your physical ilities at that moment I mean a little bit of everything. so I definitely have an exhibitionist streak. So that was kind of what was in it for me. L I've gototten fisted in front of crowds at fulsome street fair in San Francisco and things like that before. but I also love like an aspect of play during sex. and this like really, you know, it hid all the things. It had the exhibitionism in it I had just this like silly fun, you know, there was literally a drag queen standing next to me, like calling out numbers and making jokes like they do at drag bingo. And at the same time, I'm having this really, you know, physically you know, a sensation of getting fisted, which is, you know, can be an intense experience. So like it was fun, it was hot, it was erotic. It was like a you, the whole exhibitionist Boyer. thing happening in the room It was kind of just like one of those moments where I'm just like, I feel like this could only happen in San Francisco and a handful of other cities maybe a fistfulull of other cities But it did make me think like, wow, this is definitely this is on my San Francisco Bingo card, so I get to. I've been to San Francisco, not on my bingo card, but your bingo card is not my bingo card, but your bingo card is okay. One last question One of the maxims about toys is needs a base without a base, without a trace. He could lose a sex toy inside your salt Was that a concern? W they keeping a close and accurate count on the number of balls that went into a boy to make sure they got that number of balls out And was it a concern that a ball might go so far up it wasn't retrievable He yes This was discussed among all of the human binga machines and the organizer as well in advance. like what were people comfortable with? like one ball at a time, a few balls at a time. The balls themselves were basically just ping pong balls And so I think all of the human bingo machines were comfortable with a few balls being inserted in them at a time and the fisting tops were very careful to keep track of the balls and make sure anything didn't get lost. I will say there is an anecdote from a previous Fisting bingo in San Francisco where someone one of the Fisting bingo machines got home later that night and and eventually passed one of the bingo balls, which is sad because that person who needed that you know, zero seventy five to fill out their blackout card like, I'm sorry, you were never going to win. So that's why I think this year, the organizers and the Fisting tops were very careful, you know, about asking what what the human bo machines were comfortable with and everyone, you know discussed that from a consent and safety and you know, risk reduction level, like I feel like everything that's really well covered by the organizers Hopefully better accounting practices this year too. That only could have happened where they lost track of the numbers of balls that were in play or had been inserted And it seems to me that you need somebody there one of those little accountant buisers on who's keeping close track of the numbers of balls in play and in the Bottom fisting coms. How many people saw you play the role of the the ball tumblr And did that did that have a you said you have an exhibitionistic thing Did that also make you feel objectified? Do you have an objectification kink too Yes, I suppose I do. I do have a little bit of an objectification kink because yeah, being there as an item, as an installation in the room, you know, meant to just distribute these balls was also pretty hot. There were probably there were at least a few dozen people in the room. I would say maybe between forty and fifty people And what were the prizes? The people who got the bingoes, what did they get There were, I believe there were some Mr. S leather gift cards, I think and a few sex toys and things like that. It was SF rubber weekend. That was the other thing that was new to me is I'd never worn latex before. So I was also in a little latex getitu which is also fun and exciting. But yeah, everything was, ye kind of on themam And point of order, just point of clarity, you weren't pushing the balls out. They were putting them in and then reaching in and pulling them out on cQ from the drag. Yes, exactly. Although I mean could I felt them, I could certainly push them out if I wanted to. But yes, the tops were doing all the work And were you douchhing like three days in advance? No., you know, for me, I think I've gotten my cleanout practices down pretty well so I cleaned out a few hours before and and was ready to go Maxon, that was fascinating. We usually end these things by saying any advice for anybody else out there who might want to try the thing that you tried? But there's so many bars a person has to clear before they want to try the thing that you tried They have to be into fisting, they have to be into de voyurism and exhibitionism. they have to be able to enjoy that intersection of kind of playful, fun, jokey, but also sensual and sexual that some people can't tap into in a scene. But if somebody out there listening clears all those bars What is your advice for somebody who wants to be the Bingo Ball tumblr? What did you learn from this experience What would you tell Maxon about it If you could go back in time and tell yourself what you needed to know before you went and did it Tell somebody else the same thing I mean, I would say do it. If you're an exhibitionist, if you're into, you know, if you're into fisting, if you're into just like kind of the silly aspect that sex can sometimes, you know, bring in. I would say go for it. And maybe, you know, a larger message to everyone is You know, if you're into chastity anythingything at all piques your interest. Go try it. You don't have to be locked up forever. You can be locked for a day or for a few hours And I think honestly, I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for chastity because chastity is the kink that was like the gateway kink for me to fistine to exhibitionism to all these other things. So Yeah, go get yourself a cage everyone. and then a few years later you can also be aestine no machine. Chastity not for most people, though, the gateway kink to nullification. And for me, actually, it's vaginoplasty, not nullification. pardon me, ye, you did say that. Yeah yeah. it's all good But yeah, I think that is, you know not typically the norm, but for some it is. I've been talking to a lot of people who who have who chastity has helped them realize, you know, certain ways how they feel about their body. So but not everyone. certainly I think that's , you know, the exception not the norm You said that you're locked and sometimes you unlock once a week for cleaning Who has the key? Are you able to unlock yourself or do you have to go to somebody? I am self flocked. I used to have a keyholder at the very, very beginning of my journey because it was nice to have that additional support and that extra layer of accountability, but after a while For me, I realized that I had you know all of the willpower and determination within myself And logistically it was annoying to have to go somewhere to get unlock or al ask someone and I unlock and then wait for them to text me back for me to use the key that I had at home. So Eventually I took back all my keys and realized that I could be my own keyholder Maxim. Thank you so much for coming on A Action Report Thanks for having me, Dan Thank you, Maxon, and good luck with the surgery. And to those of you for whom Bingo used to conjure up images of Midwestern Friday fish fries and old ladies wearing polyester Sorry, or you're welcome, depending on how you feel right now, maybe. interesterest in Bingo has been If you want to learn more about Maxon and their journey, you can follow them on all social media platforms at Maxon And if you had an experience that you want to tell me about and tell my listeners about, send us an email at Q at saavage. gov. T us what you tried and you might be our next guest here on After action. After action re This episode of the Savage Love Cast is brought to you by Load Boost by VB Help Load Boost is a supplement designed to improve the taste, the volume, and the overall health of your semen. If you're already putting in the work, why not make your performance unforgettable? Made in the USA, NSF certified and produced in an FDA registered facility. 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