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Now through july sixth. Termsing adddition apply. Visit pandora d. net for details. all the familiar faces here joining me. Love seeing everybody. We are we are going through the pillars of sex I here, which I We are really diving into them. all the pillars of sexual intelligence So today is collaboration. That's number three of the pillars of sexual intelligence First one, go back and watch embodiment The second one is health And it is collaboration And this is where everything really gets to deepen. This is about where we are all like in collaboration with someone else. How do we co create a relationship intimate and otherwise that is effective and healthy and bringing our full self to the table, inviting our partner to do the same without like all the pressure, without performance, but with like Presence. and intention and curiosity. like how do we create that relationship that we badly that we hear about, that we read about, but it just feels out of reach That's what collaboration is about. have to remind us all that nobody taught us how to be in relationships. No one taught us how to be intentional. There's a good chance our parents' examples wasn't really a relationship. We love them. you know, they did their best, but it wasn't the kind of relationship that we want, right So Let's talk about what collaboration really means. But first, I would love to take a moment and do a little bit of breathwork. I'm just gonna to set my timer here just for like a minute. minute and a half Everyone with me So before we get more into the pillars of collaboration into collaboration, let's just take I'd love us all to breathe in. We're going breathe in through our nose for four four and we're gonna exhale for six We're gonna hold her four inh theyle'll just follow along with me. We'll just do this for about one and a half. Let's breathe in for four, two Three four 're going to hold you Three exxhale. to three. or Take a few at your own breath at your own pace, slow breath work. Good to just remember on your own too. if you want to like your exhales, be a little bit longer than your inhales. It's helpful, right? I love doing breath workk, talk about collaboration. I do it with a partner. Let's just breathe together for ten seconds. Let's just kind of land in the room together. Think about it. We're all coming going, trying to make stuff on time You know, life is intense. So when we breathe, Pence. We literally are not anywhere else. We're not in the past. where there's a lot of anxiety, we're not in the future, fear, all those places that we live in The future or the past is mostly what's pulling us out of the present. We're worried that this thing's going to happen again or we're worried about what's going to happen later. So just helps land the plane there. So Collaboration. Let's remember this, you guys Just because two people are having sex together doesn't necessarily mean they are collaborating. That is the problem. We're not even really communicating at all. We're just kind of making assumptions oftentimes that our partner, we were thinking about them, were're worried are they having a good time? We're worried about ourselves, how our body looks, but are we really collaborating, you know. I know that for me for many years, I'm just going to get in the dark, close my eyes, hope for the best. hopefully this is working. Hopefully we're all, you know, in this together And I'm telling you I just I just I just want to say that You are not wrong that this is like maybe the first time you've actually thought about it or your relationship hasn't felt like it's a collaboration. What it really means is we are co creating our sex life And we're not just going along for the ride. We're not just hoping for the best. It means that we are talking about sex before it happens during sex after And we are getting playful and curious. We're not just checking the boxes off. Did I have an orgasm? Did you have an orgasm? Did we have sex one point two times this week? We are playful with our sex life. We're curious about it. How do we make it interesting? How do we stay connected? And we are also prioritizing each other's pleasure, including our own pleasure. We're not defaulting to autopilot, which is so easy to do Listen, we go into autopilots with work, we go into autopilots sometimes with our friends or talking to our parents or whatever it is Autopilot is safety. Autopilot is like, I have so much going on. I know how to do this. but if we're really engaged and we really want to have a long lasting intimacy, we can't just go into the autopilot Bost of us again, are not taught how to collaborate in bed. We're taught to guests to assume, to hope that chemistry is there. to hope we know how to get back to the chemistry from the past. And I'm telling you, so much of our relationships are based on this early stage chemistry, the honeymoon phase when we had all those feel good hormones raging, we're like, C we go back to that? C we go back to that And remember, that is a point in time in our lives in our relationship where we had all the dopamine, the serotonin, the oxytocin, and all that stuff was working for us because it's a new relationship, but we And then we hope that we can get that back. and we don't necessarily go back to that stage. That's a unique time, but How do we continue to keep it going? How do we stay connected? And I'm telling you, it's from the healthy collaboration So The real chemistry is from connection and connection comes from collaboration. So let's talk about two of the main elements to magnetic collaboration The first one is an energetic connection. Now this is just this is not just about our phhysical touch, it's about presence. It's about being there with our partner, not in our head, not in the mental to do list. This is where we can make mental eye contact. We can match our breath together. We can place a hand on our chest, place, you know on their chest or yours and just feel and stay connected. You know These are the basic premises of talk about being a tantric master or Tantric sex. Tantric sex is really about eye contact and breathing. If you could just do that when you're with a partner and just be like before we You know, start having sex or even like ending our day together, like let's just look into each other's eyes for twenty seconds. I'll put my hand on your chest, you'll put it on mine or we can each just kind of monit our own breath and breathe together. Even thirty seconds of this full body presence with our partner can shift the dynamic entirely I mean, think about how that breathwork that we did for like two minutes at the top of it can change everything. Imagine if you did that with a willing Sorry now R And and so It's just a game changer. I mean, there' been so many times where A with Pder and I know I've said this to you before, but I just can't emphasize enough that even For me, sex starts happening and I'm like, wait a minute, I'm not 'cause now I know I'm like, I'm not present Something there's a loop that's not closed from the day. I'm worried that I didn't send this text back. I'm not present with the sex that's happening And instead of continuing with it because I already started it or my partner wants the sex or I feel bad about stopping. I know that I've made a commitment to be a conscious collaborator in the relationship with my partner. And so I'm not present I'm about holding up my end of the bargain. Does that make sense? So I wouldd say to my partner, let's just stop for a minute. C we just stop and breathe for a minute? And he's like, okay. So I just like we'll turn on my breathing app or we'll just breathe together for a few minutes and I'll hold, you know, we'll hold hands or we'll look into each otherth's eyes and it's an immediate rescess immediate reset. So just energetics, breathwk, eye contact, slowing down, making sure that you are both on the same like level playing field before any intimacy starts The next The next part of magnetic collaboration is sexual. Now when I talk about clarity, that is the dance of opposites. That's what creates the charge and the magnetism. Sexual clarity is the spark and that's a thing that creates that like, I want to rip your clothes off. I want to be sexual. That's the energy between two people At its core, it's about the dance between the masculine and the feminine. When we say that and this is a new concept to you, I don't want to get into it too much here, like I'm not going to spend the whole I could talk to you about masculine feminine energies for six hours. This has nothing to do with gender. We all have a masculine inside of us. We all have feminine energy inside of us. These are the energies we carry and they show up differently different times of day, they show up differently at work But just to remember this, the masculine is about direction and presence and holding space. It's grounded and focused and the feminine is the part of it that's flow expxression, like feeling, being alive, it's movement, it's emotion, it's radiance And when these energies are opposite and complementary, that's where desire thrives. So the tension is like the magnet. It's the north and South poles. They're pulled together when we can be in our feminine and our partners and our masculine or vice versa. and that's the sexual clarity The problem is in long term relationships, we get busy, we lose the polarity, we slip into the stameness. We're both in doing mode. like I've got the kids and you've got the laundry. like I'm going to pick up dinner and you're going to clean the house. I'm going do this thing. I'm going finish up work and you're going That's the masculine. Like I'm in my masculine Most of the time running a business as a CEO, even right now, I'm like directed, I'm purposeful. I'm not in my faminine right now Doing breath workork, I was more my feminine. Does that make sense? I was like, does that you guys have questions about this, but I was like, I do that to kind of match my energy. But most of the time a lot of us in this world, we got businesses, even being a parent is very masculine. L as a mom, The feminine is the energy that we let flow to receive. So when it comes to sex Someone has to always be leading and someone has to be fling If you're both in your masculine or you're both in your feminine, you're not going to create be able to create that spark So if you're always in control, work, house, plans Try softening, try like learning receiving in the bedroom Because there has to be someone that's starting that spark, someone whoever is initiating sex is in their' masculine, who's ever receiving is in their feminine Like if you're usually the laid back, like for example, okay. so if you're controlled work in house and plans, You could try softening, receiving, letting go in the bedroom. Or if you're usually the laid back one Dlete at night Shift the energy, create a new current between you And this is not about playing roles It's about It's about just creating that contrast that's going to spark the desire that we all crave. One person leads the other person follows. One person's giving the other person's receiving One commands, the other surrenders Again, not about gender orientation, it's about energy. And I tri even when I was writing my book, like masculine and feminine trips people up, but even people in same sex relationships are playing with the masculine feminine So Play with contrast, switch up the roles, brring in dominance or softness or mystery. This is the spark. is so important for this magnetic collaboration In practice, collaboration, like what do I mean by that? L what are some examples? It's like king about what you bought. talking about, am I curious to try this? Do you want to try this, you know evenven would you be open to playing with our magnetism? Would you be open to playing with polarities? It's about navigating our mismatched desires. Listen mismatch desire desire discrepancies, high libido, low libido, one person higher desire than the other one is going to happen in every relationship But how do we approach it with curiosity and that was shame? How do we say notice that you're wanting sex seven days a week and I'm wanting it like onnce a week. How do we find a way to both be satisfied and filled up and connected How do we get curious about how to problem solve this together? That blaming or shaming. I always find that there's like one person in the relationship who's like, you know in charge of kind of fixing the sex when really it's the two of you in it together in a collaboration You can also make a shared sex menu. You know I love the sex the yes, the sex no maybe. That's actually funny. I've never called it the sex no maybe. It's the yes no maybe list, but Maybe I should rebrand it as a sex know, maybe So good, so good New summer arrivals are at Nordstrom Rack stores now. 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Is it a maybe This is your next date night if you haven't done yet. We also didid a great workshop begin the year about like planning for your sex life, planning for your year, like what what are we into Also inviting your partner in instead of performing for them, right? Performance. We don't want to just perform. It's okay to want to please our partners, but we don't want to do it at the expense of our own pleasure So phrases that could help Would you want to try something new with me tonight What would make this even hotter for you? Is there anything you've wanting to explore but you haven't quite said out loud yet small conversations lead to the biggest breakthroughs. I mean, these conversations Small conversations everywhere lead to big breakthroughs. You know, most of the things that we're not dealing with that we're not talking about is actually causing us so much harm. But once we actually have the conversation, I mean, Has anyone here who's been part of this community like had a conversation, right? And just made it differentnce. So you tried one thing new Again, because of all the shamer on this, we just don't even try. but but This would be huge just to practice it. and If you want to explore conversations look like in the bedroom. you gott to check out Denay Logan's workshop that she did a few months ago, bedroom authenticity and breakthroughs. It's one of the most popular workshops here in Smartas. She impacks the nuances of honest communication talks about noveltty. She explains how working together in the bedroom can create deeper connection and trust So we love something to Nay Logan And again, we've done so many great You had so many great speakers on here and workshop leaders that I want to remind you that it's not a one time conversation. It's not a one time course. It's not a one time workshop with me. It's ongoing. and so or really working intentionally to build a community that is that has all the resces sources for you. If you're like, oh yeah, collaboration is the pillar that I really need help with. like we've got you here. We've got you covered We could help you go deeper wherever you're finding that you really want to work on because every single pillar matters. Every single pillar And it's not to make it like more pressureable that there's five pillars of sexual intelligence. I want to remind you that I created these pillars. So it actually makes it easier. so you can be like, okay, well, I'm feeling more embodied lately thanks to my breathwork and movement practice But I actually haven't been collaborating a lot. My partner and I have been leading separate lives. so That's when we have to work on together. and maybe you realize that the health pillar is one where where you're like, okay, I've seen my hormone doctor But I haven't been working out as much, right? So it just allows you to troubleshoot your desire and your arousal, which is why we're all here to have enhanceced. And you know we have to remember that the study of human sexuality and connection is still fairly new. The fact that we're even talking about it. So it's okay that like know so breaking it out into all these areas, I think is going to really help you, hopefully not overwhelm you. So that's why we are really giving you as much as we can so you can become your own sex expert, troubleshooter with whatever is Whatever is getting in your way Also, you guys remember if you are Solo You still get to collaborate doesn't mean that you are You know You can't practice collaboration. We do some wonderful work in relation to others But it starts with you. So what a great moment to think, what turns you on physically Mentally emmotionally. Which roles feel naturally and exciting to you? Are you more of a leader, a follower How can you, you know, or you want to dominate? do you want to be more submissive And and how can you just expressing what you want even when you're playing solo Like you are building an incredible foundation for partner partners in the future by collaborating truly with your own body now, and I'll remind you like I learned so much about my own sexuality, being solo figure it out my best path to orgasm and all the different ways, you know, I could experience pleasure. I couldn't have Multiple orgasms. I couldn't have all these things before I practiced on my own So So important you guys. So action steps, this is some action steps around collaboration and I'm going to open this up to you guys for some questions. Pick one collaborative action to try this week You could share a new fantasy or desire with a partner who's going to do that You can try sixty seconds of eye contact and breath. for sixty seconds, Game changer I almost can't do it without that now. might I need to breathe I need to collect with you becausecause otherwise we're coming in separate from our days, from ourergies. ask the simple question That's not my be simple. specific question Do you want more of in our sex life Create a shared sex menu, download the yes, no maybe and do it. do it, do it People love it. People like it's a great conversation starter. And then if you're solo, just try journaling about what dynamics turn you on and why So remember this, that collaboration is so crucial for connected, playful, satisfying sex life So when you learn to consciously co create and to create with somebody It's not for them it at them. it's for both of you So try out. Any of those sexual acts of collaboration, it could be a big one or a small one, just try one. Because the best ses of your life is happening when you guys are co creating and building it together So if you guys have any questions about this, please please send your questions Natalie, I love that you used Emily AI prractice a conversation before speaking to your husband guys, MAAI is just for you guys, a just our community. We've recently launched it. You guys seem to be loving it. I love it. It's literally twenty years of everything I've ever said. However, I've helpld people, I've had a billion downloads of my podcasts. I've answered God knows how many questions? How many articles I' written? How many I've been interviewed? I have five thousand podcasts, my books. it's all in there and it's pretty freaking good. and we waited a long time before we release it to because I wanted to make sure that it was accurate and helpful and I'm so glad you're loving it. So only you guys part of this community, have access to it now. So I hope you will use it And to help you with conversations, like to help you remind you of things or to give you like step by steps for the week or how you can talk to a partner. So I think that is really incredible questions here about collaboration, about magnetism, about communication. I mean, you know that I would say communication is a lubrication. This really is also the communication pillar This is about having conversations that seem challenging or maybe scary, but finding the right time to do it It's about making sure that your sex life isn't on the back burner anymore. I mean, I can tell you after twenty years this This is the problem is that couples it on the back burner. They've never talked about it. Maybe this is you, and you can't imagine how are we going rework and talk about it now? and what are we going to do? You can start today. todayod can be the first day of the rest of your sex life, but it's a really important part of it is like You know, people always ask like how do you get comfortable talking about sex? It's by talking about sex by doing it by saying, I know this is awkward and comfortable. We haven't talked about sex before, but Can we do this now? Can we start now? It's a really important part of our lives of our of our overall well being. It's going to help us enhance and your sex life isn't going to get better by just closing your eyes and hoping for the best. It doesn't work that way I think that's why you're all here. So please let me know if there are any questions at all about this. Natalie's going try the sixty second. I contacted breeds What else you guys? What else are you gonna try I gave you a few prompts like What do you want more of in your sex life Are you going to like journal about it? Are you going to share fantasy with a partner? How are you going to co create? How are you going to collaborate This week. this weekend with your partner. We don't want to sit on this. Was there any sparks here? Anyone inspired or have a question more about, you know How to best collaborate Journaling sounds like a great idea You guys there's so much there's so much science now and studies that talk about journaling and as such a healing modality that when you're actually writing down the words what you want and saying it, expressing and practicing it like it It helps us psychologically, it helps us make sure that these things happen. It helps us get clear. It also empties from our mind whatever is sort of holding his back It's such a great practice. It allows you to get clearer Let's make some commitments Nina, hi, Nina. My husband, I've been exploring new things and I think journaling and you think you'll journal about something. Great. And Christine's gonna to share the embodied couple with my husband. Aazing Thanks, Christine Does it help just to make the commitment Christy, your boyfriend now you got to plan some sort of desire night Just like how we go Were finances monthly, we do the same practice before our sex life. Yes, I love that. I call it the sexual state of the union U the sexual say of the Union. is such a wonderful practice for partners. Let me share this with you. This is my sexual state of the Union talking points. So basically, you do it once a month, once a week, if you have your finance call, you could tack me honestly, if you have finance meeting with your partner, their husband, maybe this is the dessert from that. Maybe you're like, we're gonna to go over spreadsheets and then we're gonna go over fantasies. So you want to like, it's okay to It's basically a monthly conversation, discussing things you want to try, explore, each other's desires and fantasies, the ways you could be better lovers to one each other is a non judgmental conversation about sex So Basically it's a you know, I know it's a catchy catchy phrase, but it just basically you can keep it short. It can be ten minutes. It doesn't have to be a whole thing. It doesn't have to be a presidential state of the Union. You don't want to carve out like half a day, talk about your sex life. And in fact, if you keep it short, you're more likely to keep doing it And you're going to get your points across You're planting the seeds for your sex life to come. You're not doing it on one shot You don't have to figure out your entire sex life. at the end of your finance conversation. let's talk for ten minutes, how are we doing with our intimate life? I think it's really important. like you could I want these conversations to normalize talking about sex So setting it free from expectations. You don't have to do it like right after sex or before sex, like do it when you're already having one of these calls It might be awkward. I get it. It might feel unsexy because you're nervous This isn't like a fplay exercise, like this might not be to do it. so you guys are getting turned on. It's literally like What are we going to do to make sure that we are conscious collaborators in our relationships? How are we going to make sure that our intimacy that we don't become another Another statistic about a couple who stops having sex. like this is important. We arere in our masculine talking about our sex life The great thing is is that These regularly scheduled sexual state of the unions, they're not about solving like a specific problem in the bedroom. It's not about like grievances or criticism necessarily or even sex therapy It's just a way to also have be like, let's just normalize talking about sex And then once you get more comfortable with it communicate about sex, better sex will follow. It's like I'm thinking when you talk about your finances Your finances are in good shape Because you guys talk about it every month or week or what's our budget Why would our sex lives be any different if we don't talk about it? I mean just think about it. You know Why? Why would it be better if you've never prioritized it Pay attention to it. or collaborated on it work that way. So it's regular. I'm just going through the sexual state of the union here. I just have my little checklist for the state of the union My goal, this was just from the New York Times. They did, Im actually just pulled it up because they did they did a piece on this of my sexual sa of the union a while ago Somet that you talk about in your relationships with the same level of comfort, normalcy, and intention as planning a vacation or where to go on a fun night out. schcheduling this sex talk and the state of the Union, like you can say, look, I know this is new for us, but I want us to have a growth mindset around our sexual Cnection. Honestly, if you need to make a slide show, you need to have props, you need to show them something that's hot, like do it. makeake it your own. bottom line of collaboration is making sure that you both have a growth mindset. around sex It is just important. And it's a whole other thing. If you're in a relationship with someone who's like, I don't want to talk about it Why are you always bringing it up where I would say therapy would be super helpful for you because you are never going to convince that partner Come and board, N never. I don't like speaking into super rellatives like that. But it's tough if you've been with someone for a while and they just keep shutting you down and saying, I don't want to talk about it or why should we talk about it? I just hear that all too often and that's really hard. I'm talking about partners who are consonsciously colloaborating and co creating what we want here. Now I love that we've all made commitments here to each other. That is so great. I love it Rayan asked if you were to reach out to someone about somatic stuff, who would you recommend I reach out to? Do you mean like having a somatic M sugar like someone you could work with, I would reach out to Dolly Josette I think it's Dolly. I think it's the P pleasuremuse. com see if she could see you as a as an independent client coaching practice with her She's totally available and if she can't mean she don't know that she's available, but she's a great resource Pleasure Ms. All right, all of you. I love that you're all here. And next week's workshop, I'll be discussing on Tuesday the twenty second. I'll be discussing pillar number four, which is self knowledge And that's How well do I know myself Do I know my turn ons? Do I know what I like you know, even if you think you don't, we all know stuff. We all know enough and I'm going to help you figure out what you actually know at this point What else there is to know That's a great one. And then Wednesday, I'm so excited I'm doing It's a very special day because I'll be doing a workshop with my oldest, my first friend. our parents have been best friends, our grandparents were friends. We grew up in Mission together. Her name's Tammy Colton, Tama Colton. She's actually a rabbi. but she and we talk about we're going to be talking about love. We're going to be talking about connection. We have a great vibe. She is a healer for sure. It's nothing to do with like Judaism or anything. It's about discovering your inner child and how to actually do that, what does that mean? What does it mean? And two women who grew up together, we just have a great chemistry and we've talked about doing something together for a long time and you're going fall in love with her. So that's what we're gonna be up to you guys next week that I will see you all if there's any other questions here Please put them in. othertherwise, I will see you next week for two super special workshops that I'm excited to to take on with you, please join us for Tama Colton. You will love her and then join me for self knowowledge. All right, everybody. thank you for everything. Thank you for showing up. I hope you all have a beautiful rest of your day. Love you all Thank you.