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Do you have more space. This couch is a little bit bigger. I can just roll around and just start just going crazy washing. The poof went. You cannot throw that poof at me. Well. Okay, well, challenge, accept it. Yeah. Okaykay. Well, I have a pillow now. Oh cool, good luck. Good luck. You're gonna like fend it off. If I throw poof, you'll return. I will walk with pillow, throw pillow. Okay This is day two. This is our first time when the Red it, How is this chair for you? It's nice, it's comfortable. Hell yeah. I feel like it's the Martin Scorsese thing now where I'm like Like I'm fully locked in. Yeah, yeah, yeah Nice. Nice. Yeah. Nice. Yeah. I'm excited for the stories today. I feel like the reactions, like it can be either so bad that I can't even move and I go inside my body. Yeah or where I need to frolic out of anger. Or just throughout the story just being like, what? Huh? I know Huh? Thout. He said what There you can use that at any point in the video Yeah, let's just like back order a few reactions up at the top. Okay? let's do it He said, what? Wait, can I hear that again Mhm Real Shane, why would you say that horrible word V I got one Please, please have an update These are good You're ready. Yeah. And if you put those only at the beginning, it'll be really embarrassing. do that. Well, we'll switch those over. Yeah, ye, no, they got our bad. All right, our first story comes from amm I overreacting? posted in January of this year, twenty twenty six. Am I overreacting if I end my relationship because my boyfriend kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning I was I thought that sentence was going different places. He said And then it ended up being super sweet. Okay, let's get that one more time. Am I overreacting if I end my relationship because my boyfriend kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning. You want to end it Ca right I hate that my boyfriend loves me. Yeah. He's a monster. All right My boyfriend, who's thirty nine, and I, a thirty year old woman, have different work schedules. Most days of the week, boyfriend has to be out of the house by seven AM. As a grad student, I am often up late working, but try to sleep in so I still get at least eight hours of sleep Unfortunately, my partner and I have separate bedrooms, so in theory, this should be perfectly manageable. But despite repeatedly asking him not to, he always comes into my room to kiss me and tell me he loves me before he leaves, which wakes me up every time I have an aura ring, so I am also able to see that this often takes place when I am in deep sleep which in addition to lost sleep hours, leaves me incredibly groggy throughout the day. I know it's sweet, but I've suggested if he wants to be cute to please leave a note or a nice text I can wake up to I remind him not to wake me up in the morning the night before and will even tape notes to my door that say, please don't wake me up and he still does anyway. Otherwise, our relationship is great, so maybe it's the sleep deprivation talking, but I'm really feeling at my wits's end with this. Please help me find some clarity on what to do, Reddit. Oh God. Okay. okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. This is tough. Interesting. Yeah or it's not tough, but it's an interesting scenario. It is Yeah. Yeah. At first, I was like really mad at her And I was like, No, he's being sweet and that's adorable But then it's kind of like you think about it further and it is kind of like, okay, she's kind of being as clear as possible. Yeah. with the notes. withith the notes please don't wake me up. Then it feels a little like, okay, Kang, just leave a cutie note.. I wish she'd said like what his responses were to what she's I know, it's just Yeah, if he's lying. Okaykay. He's like for sure. Okay do that. Yeah, yeah yeah. I will not tr see you. Acept it. Yeah I wonder why. I want like do you think he's trying to like after she's like, please don't kiss me the morning he's like, for sure. And then he's like tries to be extra sneaky Like he's going to the rooms, he's like't Yeah like. goes to imagine Like some people, it's like existential or like where it's like I want to see my person and say I love you and kiss you before I leave what if I never get to do that again. Like some people's that deep. Yeah. But then also It's like she's asking for the text. She's asking for something. E. I also think people, some people can fall asleep faster. I'm someone that I can be woken up and I'll just be like, okay, soe me. Yeah. Eactly. Truly. I want the goodbyes ' then I'm about to excide in our ey. I can pass right back. Eactly. And then I'll be like, did you say goodbye to me? Yeah. Exactly. And they' were like, Yeahah, when we talked, you made lunch. If it became . Yeah, yeah yeah. If it became a regular schedule thing, it probably would be something that I don't consciously wake up for. My body would start being like Okay, you're head now. See you later a eye is just at fifty percent. You're head out sick. Yeah. All right, I'll see you later I that's exactly how it goes. It's so interesting with the Aura ring too, because I know because I've been trying to track my stress and stuff too When your alarm goes off, I wake up and I go back to sleep and my heart rate gets actually to the lowest it is the entire night. I don't know if it's like like,h, He's just getting up. I have some time and I sleep like the best I've ever slept in that. I' sc out in the place. I feel, I don't know, my body feels extra safe after that. I wake up and grab my spear. like, okay, donon't worry. I've got watched. Yeah, heart rate lowered. So he wakes her up at seven Yeah, he's leaving around seven. Yeah. He's has to be out of the house by seven AM. And she's a grad student. She's often up late working to. So she's on an opposite schedule in him Yeah not fully, but it just sounds like Yeah. agree. She's probably sleeping until nine, ten Yeah I mean, it depends on how late she staying up. Dep sleep is I don't know, I don't know. I'm a sleep scientist. T's mad about being woken up at sleep. It makes s ' becausecause sleep, you know, it's precious for a lot of people. It's, of course needed for all of us. So it makes sense that it is like you're disrupting something that is so vital to this person being able to actually follow through and be themselves throughout all day Clearly, she's a type that she likes her space and her time. They have separate rooms. Yes. That's I mean, it's super, way more common now, but does a lot. It shows like, you know, setting boundaries. It doesn't matter if the act is a very sweet act. Yeah. Sones saying, hey, please don't do that. Kind of doesn't matter how sweet it is and how sweet the intentions are. Tally The sweetest thing is to listen to them. I mean in a note Say goodbye when you go to sleep. like Yeah us up. I'm going to bed now. Yeah, you know. O I to bed now I see you in the morning. Yeah. It could be a normal thing. I think for people to be like, we're going to bed, like, I'll be up, I'll be gone by the time you wake up.. So as you're going to bed, it's just like, right, well, good luck tomorrow whatever, blah blah. Totally. Yeah. I think that' okay. And last thing I'll say before we get into the comments is Because I like I prefer a goodbye and things. like I am the type that when my partner is already asleep and I'm getting into bed, I'm like, o, I'm saying goodnight to myself. or in the morning when you leave earlier than me, you say goodbye. I'm like, I don't care what little cost it is to be. I feel sad when I don't see them. I agree. I agree. Yeah, because you I don't w want to wake up Why are you guys smuing?, I'm laughing ' like sometimes I'll go up to bed and I'll start reading And then I'll like fall asleep while I'm reading. And then but then I'll wake up to C and be like, Ohh, you're already asleep. And then I'm like, well, wicky 's like I know. But I don't care ' I fall right back asleep. Exactly, exactly. No, I do the same thing. Like if I'm getting into bed like late, I will be like, o, you're asleep You're sleep. Oh, you're s. And these are the reactions you guys come here for Totally, totally. At four AM, if I'm not in the right sleep position, my cat will get up and come right up to my face and just go Yeah. And then I have to like l it in the right way and he's like, all right, sick and then he like curls in here. Totally, totally. Yeah. Yeah. I'm used to it. Yeah, so she's wrong. So anyway, she'. No He needs to just listen her. Yes.. The verdict is not overreacting Comments, not overreacting, please help me find some clarity on what to do, Reddit And then they put a picture of someone opening a door with the bucket of water on the doorill. a bucket prayank. Someone said not overreacting, if you really just won't stop, but you don't want to end the relationship, I would start waking him up to say goodnight and you love him when you go to bed so he can see the effects of his actions. Less drastic, I'm also a big fan of a rubber door stopper to keep him out Oh he said solid ideas.. Thank you. Okaykay, yeah, that's crazy. Anti breakaking house men can just stop. J stop. Yeah. how about we listen to each other. It's just wild too becausecause it's like it's not like it's not like it's uncontrollable. He's choosing It's a choice. You wal into this door, walk into this room and wake her up after being asked not to. It's just a clear boundary. The fact that she has her own she wants her own space and that they have their own bedrooms just like when people are able to do that, that's awesome But clearly like She's not likes it's pointless. rightight? She's getting woken up It's interesteresting.. This episode of Red Stories is sponsored by Zock Dk You know what I want to do as little as possible This isn't me being lazy, there's just so much to keep up with, and my time is precious. Balancing my friends, family, work and hobbies can be really tough. so the last thing on my mind is scheduling doctor's appointments. That's why I use ZockDoc ZockDoc is a free app and website that helps you find and book high quality in network doctors so you can find someone you love I can see a doctor in person or better yet. 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Get fifteen percent off, select custom entry and interior doors. Plus, save eighty dollars on the Walp twenty Volt Max two tool combo kit, now just one hundred sixty nine dollars. And at the Lowe's Proesk, bring us your materials list and get a quote in minutes. Handwritten, a photo or even a sticky note is all you need. Keep your jobs moving faster and on budget At lows. Valid through seven eight while supplies last. Selection er is by location Oh yeah She never woke up. And she went to sleep forever. And she's super happy f. she's thriving. Some added context to paint a better picture here, but the TLDR, when my boyfriend came home for lunch, we talked it out He had kept the lights off to be minimally disruptive when making his morning coffee and didn't see the sign on the door. He forgot I mentioned I would be up late, but did kind of remember me asking him not to wake me up. But it is our anniversary and for him, it's about the worry that if something happened to either one of us, And that not being the last thing he did He's a complete sweetheart. okay, I know crying emoji. plus plus plus points for all the commenters that think I'm an absolute monster Okay. I'm curious like, okay, so for this one night He did it because it's their anniversary, but she's saying that this happens all the time. Right. Maybe she's just started to stop him and maybe it is like the The note was just so big for her where she's like, you did like I put a note and you're ignoring that. L that feels really big and intentional. And I have to say like sometimes when Sometimes you could be really in the moment with like like with the boundary being crossed and like really stewing over it because it sounds because yeah, it sounded like in the Reddit post, like this is something that's been going on for weeks, but it sounds like she only put the has started to put the boundary recently. I'm very much feeling The timeline is I don't know the timeline here, but ye anyways, she goes on to say he promised he would take it more seriously moving forward and I take him at his word for all of it A big thank you to all of the sincere responses with suggestions because from all of that came a great solution. He is a wonderful illustrator so I'm going to mount a dry erasebard on the back of my door for him to easily leave me messages. But after more thought too, I'm going to tell him later, he can come in and kiss me goodbye and just ask him to do it somewhere less sensitive like the top of my head and not whispper directly in my ear. Oh yeah, that could be scary. Is he also He's kissing her goodbye. Is he kissing her on If he's kissing her goodbye, Was he kissing her on the lips while she's asleep? I thatirl. shhutting the jaw to makebe lips together Me me, me, me. I'other. Do you love me? I love you so much. She's like baby talkks about this. I love you J. That's horrible. Did you stay up all night? I think she came there. All right, the responses to this post have given me a lot of perspective as I have also many times found myself scrolling, am I overreacting and am I the asssoole post thinking, May this love never find me? All of the comments of which I've only been able to read a fraction, both telling me I should ditch him and those saying he should ditch or cheat on me, have helped me appreciate how little of a window into a person's relationship these posts really give Honestly, the relationship I have is truly wonderful. We have fun together every day, work together as a team, and I am so glad this love found me. It's weird how many of y'all took issue with the separate rooms thing. We still sleep over and hang out in each other's rooms all the time, but it's awesome to not be completely beholden to the other person's sleep schedule or compromiseed closet space. I considered it a privilege, LOL wild. Yeah. whoa. I think that's valuable stuff said at the end there. I mean, I think with most Ami the asshole and ami overreacting stories, we get the like Weirdest single aspect of a relationship.. and we judge their entire relationship off of that whereas everything contains multitudes.. It's also like these comments were overreacting a little bit. The comments were the overreacting And let's not forget, a lot of times on these comments could be A twelve year old. We don't know. In fact, it definitely All Redditors are twelve. Right Anyways. Wow. Good start. Yeah, yeah. I think that's great. think I think we solved that. I think we solved that too Yeah. we fixed Really tough dilemma there. Yeah. Yeah. you're welcome. All right. Would you guys be separate bedroom people if you had the choice? I don't think so. I mean, I'm definitely separate closet people because I'm like we need room. Yeah. But I don't think so. Again, mostly because I'm like Shane, where I'm like, I will I can sleep through I was about to say the dust bl . I don't know why that. I will sleep through the dust bowl. I would have slept through the Great Depression, I think. Yeah. Yeah. No I would have been like, man this sucks CVid ye Yeah. I'm gonna go to bed. Guys, sound off in the comments if you slept through COVID But I think I would. I really I just I think I'm such a deep sleep. I'm a deep sleeper, but I'm also just like able to be woken up and then go back to bed. So I think that is a lot of the times the reason totally. But also yeah people just wanting generally some like boundary or some space. For me, it always is like, I think any relationship can take on any sort of like unconventional aspect and it doesn't have to be a big deal. It's just great, you guys are doing what makes sense for you to and we support it. It doesn't have to be like, oh, well, most couples actually sleep in the same bed. It's like, well, awesome, we don't, And we're actually really happy together. Yeah. I think there's a lot of strength to a couple making a decision that is outside of the norm because the two of them are like, oh, we want this. right we don't care that it's conventional or it's Traditional or whatever. We're doing our own thing. I think that shows strength. I agree. I don't judge people for that at all. I don't really think too much about it. I think that it makes sense for some people. I feel like I like the idea of having like everybody gets their own space to make whatever they want with the space. But I would for sure be having a slumber party every night. I can't do that. Oh yeah, yeah yeah. Yeahet, Do you w to come? You'd be at the doorway with a blanket. Have a little walkie talking. Please comeome over. What are you doing? Sarja, come to my room Okay All right. Our next story comes from M I overreacting. This comes from march twenty first, twenty twenty six. A package from an adult toy company arrived at my house addressed to another woman. Am I overreacting Wh does she know it's a sex toy. She broke a federal law I need an outside perspective because I genuinely can't tell anymore if my instincts are off or if I'm being gaslit into thinking they are. A package arrived at our house recently, R address, wrong name. A woman I've never heard of. I looked up the return address out of curiosity. It's Adam and Eve, an adult toy company I brought it to my husband calmly. No accusations, no yelling. justust showed him and asked if he knew anything about it His response was immediate and defensive Instead of being confused or trying to figure it out with me, he turned it on me, started questioning me about why something like that would show up here. I was so caught off guard I almost started apologizing. What Here's where it gets harder to dismiss as coincidence. I looked up the name on the package. She works in the same professional world as my husband, in the same area he frequents, same field, specific enough that when I saw it, my stomach dropped. He has a history of being dishonest when confronted about things that are hurtful. This isn't the first time I felt like I was being made to feel crazy for asking a reasonable question Asking strangers on the internet, is this nothing? Is there some totally logical explanation I'm missing? Because from where I'm standing, it feels like a lot of dots connecting in one direction Am I overreacting W Okay, Okay Okay, I'm jumping. I'm already five st of thehe headad all wait jum What if? Guy is like You know, trying to cheat And girlie. This is a hey girie, but as a package. The hey girie message? You're saying that the woman that he's cheating on that we think he is Yeah that is maybe having an affair with. Sent that She sent that package. Find my name. find me. That's what she did out of anneath she didn't know he was married. she found out he was married and was like, oh, Im must send some Y. Yes, Yes. ye. That so it. That's veryer, very out of all the horrible scenarios that this could be, that's probably one of the more positive ones. The best case scenario is that this is just somehow a complete mistake. but it's the right address So it's not like a neighbor, right? It's not like you go to your neighbor's house and you're like, hey,ight Hey. And being defensive. Oh the defensive is the worst part of this, right? Like That's it. Everything about it is one thing, it's the mive thing. Yeah. And I also just want to flag. I hate the sentence of he's been dishonest with things like this orever whenever OP writes something like that, it's like, okay, he has a history of being the worst boyfriend in the world. but he's hot, right. It's like, well, we're gonna lean on the side of This is probably a pattern and this is the day that we're calling it out. Right I was hoping that it's like, oh, like, you know, everybody accidentally sends a thing to their old address when it's especially like A website like that you're not ordering from often 'cause stuff, you know, it'd be lasting. It'd be l If it's good quality product, then all you need is a good wash. more. Yeah. O good wash. G wash. So you know, when you're like, okay, six months later or however like you've moved, that's one of those random websites where you forgot to change the website or the address. Yeah. And then she like this it's possible that it's a coincidence, but it's also possible it's a coincidence and He's being unfaithful regardless of what it's with the coincidence orow I don't know. Yeah. suspicious The fact that it's a woman who is just so happens to work in the same field in the same area as him That's it's a crazy coincidence. Yeah. is. But he could be helping the case if he were to just respond with that kind of The immediate defensiveness and turning it on her where she's like I felt like I need to apologize. I was like' The suspicious thing about all of this Yeah is that is what people who are guilty tend to do sometimes. L it is and this is a physical thing. It's not like a oh, I saw that you were looking at some I think I saw you looking at a woman for a long time. Like something like this is a physical thing that arrived at your house that How can that be turned on her? right? turn on her of just like, you know, oh, how could you doubt me? likeike why would you think that I would possibly cheat on us? Like this is crazy. Why would you bring me this box? And then it makes you feel like, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to like shit all that. And it's a very common thing to get a wrong package sent to your place. Yeah. there's not a good scenario where he's being defensive. Yeah, right Let's see. Yeah Um The verdict is not overreacting comments, not overreacting if he immediately gets defensive and has a history of being dishonest Does she work or live in a town he travels to OP says, it's about thirty to forty minutes from where we live So the name on the address works so far away from where they live. So so far away. Why would she order a package orkers to a person who works in the same field as her. Oh, I see yeah.king the same notot even coworkers. just same field, but it's a very specific field. Yeah. Someone said the defensiveness is the real issue. If this happened to me and I showed it to my husband, he'd be having quite a laugh. And unless you were like some kind of super religious prude who thought these were like the devil's toys or something I think most people would react that way. OP said, I'm no prude Ver. Okay. Verer. Someone said, you're not overreacting. You're cheating moron of a husband ordered adult items for him and his girlfriend and auto filled his own address. Mail them to her and say, these were delivered to mine and my husband's home and see what happens after that Oh he said, I like your thought. Maybe I take it to her work and give it to her. I am considering sending her an email. Due to her field, the info is public. I'm pissed at him for his choices. I don't know what she knows or what he told her. I don't want to ruin her life, but I want to know how long it's been going on. O Yeah, to be clear. Don't show up to a Don't put this on her. That is an HR issue. if you have to like don't make this b,'t bring this personal issue to her workplace. We don't know how involved she is or if she's aware the blame on the husband, right? L But the pressure there. Yeah, yeah, definitely. I mean I feel like maybe I'm coming at it too from like a communicative standpoint, but I feel like Maybe I would try to give the information that she found about the the woman being in the same field and bring that back to the husband first too. L I think the email is more productive too to try to get that line of communication started, but also just like I don't know. I guess I'm also just thinking about it in my standpoint of like if I were to bring something up like this, the natural reaction would be like, let's have a conversation about how this possibly could have happened and just see how he treats that information. L does he also try to like tangle that up and make it something that doesn't make sense? Or is he like shocked by that? And you know I dont The whole like sleuth of it all, it feels like it's a little scary Beuse I mean, at the start, we were like, oh, is she being a girls girl? this other woman and trying to like throw her a hint like, could she reach out to her? And it's like, hey, what's going on here to get some clarity? Becauseuse I don't know if she's gonna to get the truth out of her husband, who is famously dishonest. Right. R If you're writing a post and you're going, yeah, my partner who is Dishonest with me all the time. That I'm like, that is a little bit of me being a edditor where I'm like, whyy are you with this person? Like that you cannot trust. The writing' on the wall. It is What do we think? Do we think there is that this is all a big misunderstanding? Or do we think he's cheating on her I mean, like my heart wants to be like, it's a misunderstanding. Totally, you know And like the sex boys were for him that's his alias. Yeah. What it was his drag name, you know, we don't know. Yeah Yeah. ye. Okay. That's what we're going with is he's in drag. I'm scared. All right. As it turns out, I put two and two together and I was wrong. I had a burner email and reached out to her. I had receipts metaphorically. She emailed me back She's been staying at her mother's house down the street and fat fingered the address It was one number off. The package was for her and her husband who are reconciling I had essentially asked an innocent woman if she was sleeping with my husband via a carefully crafted email from a secret account while she was out here just trying to spice things up with her spouse. She apologized. I told her it wasn't necessary and I apologized. I invited her for coffee because I clearly have no survival instincts. My husband was defensive because that's just who he is, which is its own fun problem So am I overreacting? Technically yes, but also our marriage needs work. so maybe a stranger's typo was the universe's way of handing me a wake up call wrapped in a very awkward package. Literally Wow. o. Okaykay. okay, but here's the thing. All right, there is a lesson that she needs to learn. Stop blaming yourself for all these things that are happening at you ir You don't not to be apologizing to this other woman. likeike I messaged an innocent girl. You're an innocent girl You're also an innocent gl. Yeah ye.'re all innocent girls. Yes, Yes. Okay. Yes, sayay it, Chane. I'm an innocent girl. Yes. We are all. We are innocent girl. Like I feel bad that this person is so used to going,h, Dan it, I can't believe I did that. No, you were so reasonable for it. No need to apologize, you know? And when you have a defensive partner who just is defensive as a treat What? Yes, yes, you're so right. Like truly let us validate this person and that like anybody if that was if that pattern had lined up would be like like what is going on? L this is a crazy situation. And she didn't like bring it to him being like This is over or anything like that. She was like, do you have an explanation? Yeah? Like she opened up a conversation, you did the right thing, and then also again, didn't storm into the workplace, just in her words, sent a carefully crafted email.. Like you handled things right, girly?. good. But I'm glad she is acknowledging that there's stuff to work on in her relationship because clearly there is Can we talk about the fact that someone sent By accident, sex toys to her place And she asked them out to coffee. Yeah. It's just like, hey, man, if someone sent if someone accidentally sent sex stys to my my apartment, I'd be like, What's the quickest way I can give this to you? Oh and simply not make eye contact. Oh, I'm in a gilly suit Why You guys I'd be like Macha. I'm notxing in fr of. A doing Maga What do you like the roast? Yeah. Me in a paraglider dropping it off.. Yeah,. And me like moving in. Yeah. Yeahah. she's like, all right, let's hang out. Yeah. Moving on. Okay, o. Okay. It's a good one. It's a good one. Nobody's overreacted yet. No. But we've had misunderstandings. Yes Our next post comes from the subreddit. Nanny. I think this is the first Oh, this is gonna get good. Oh, This is This is gonna be good. Oh, this is gonna be good. I used to be in like a Facebook page of like babysitters and like families and stuff like that and people would just fully post screenshots of the obscene things that families would ask. Oh I can't wait for this. Oh God. No, I don't anyn anymore, but I used to so you nanny Isn so fun? I a nanny. I nanny these two sisters and my favorite part was every morning I'd go help them pick out their outfits and then drive them to school.. I used to nanny like a little baby too and my favorite thing, like in the mornings is you would like walk into the craby, you'd go, G morning You're sobbing Okay, I'm not overreacting.. All right, right? Okay. Let's do it Nanny. Nanny. This was posted in October of twenty twenty five. Am I overreacting about my nanny family having sex during the day Hm Okay,, Nnyanny. They're making more work for her. Yeah. Which is veryable. Aazing. creating job stability. Hey, we're working here Yeah Hi everyone. I'm a full time nanny for a stay at home mom with an eight month old baby The baby is honestly perfect. so sweet and happy, Nap's great. I've been with the family for about seven months now. The mom and dad are both amazing employers. They're super nice to me. The mom gets me Starbucks and Asa bowls, even makes me lunch sometimes. I make thirty two dollars an hour with great benefits in a MCOL medium cost of living area. So overall, this is a dream job Here's my only issue. I'm pretty sure the parents are having sex during the dad's lunch break, maybe every day or every other day. They go to their room and I never see anything inappropriate, but sometimes I hear what I think might be the bed moving. It's not loud or anything, just enough to make me realize what's going on After afterward, her hair is messy, clothes changeed, that kind of thing Today I asked the mom what she was up to when she came out of the room, and she didn't really say much. I kind of jokingly said, Ohh, were you napping? And she got a little red and awkward. That pretty much confirmed it for me. I know they're married adults and it's their house, but it still makes me a little uncomfortable since I'm there taking care of their baby. They're not being disrespectful or obvious, but it just feels weird. Would it be totally out of line to ask them not to do that while I'm working? or am I overreacting and should just let it go They really are such a great family and I don't want to make things awkward if this is just me being overly sensitive What would you do? Oh Okay, so Yes to go back She's saying, I think They're having sex. they go to the room. I don't hear much. I think I hear the bed moving. I think. And then when they come out, she's maybe changed clothes, just whatever And so she's thinking this is happening and she's uncomfortable with the thought of them having said. Yeah. her it's almost like her own hyper vigilance has like brought her to like, well, she not she'st unknow it. But she's also like paying attent. L she's really like where And when they're coming out, she's like, whatere were you up to? Right. It's like,, were you napping? Yeah. I'm just kind of like What? Right R. It's like, what do you think they would tell you? She does not have confirmation of what's happening. Right. And yeah, she's also like, they're a married couple. Theyri They're shutting the door, they're going to another room every day I'm impressed O every other day. And for them. Wow. A baby too seriously. I do think I'm thinking about roommate life. you know what I mean? And how it's like when you got roommates and like life is happening, it's just kind of happening and you don't You can't really put rules on that kind of stuff when it's like Yeah, like you can and I think since this nanny is like aware that it's happening, but not so much so that it's a problem. It's just the fact that now she knows that it's her problem. Yeah. Yeah. It's like maybe she just needs to like put some music on and then maybe then they'll be like, wait, does she know? And then like then it's like this unspoken, okay, we're aware and maybe we need to either be a little more discreet or be more conscious of when Totally I don't know. like and I don't necessarily falultter for feeling a little weird about it. Yeah. ye. That's valid. That's totally valid. fine But she's at a place like I'm like, don't like push when they come out of the room. Don't be like what were you doing? Like in the hall, I'm just picturing in the hallway, like, This is me. Yeah, yeah. I'm gonna go all the way over here Yeah. Yeahah yeah What were you doing? Were you napping? Yeah. We' actually looking for answers and it's like the parents even further into the dark just What were you doing? Listen, bouncing up and down. I think it's also and down. We're just we just like to jump on the bed. Yeah. just functal. I can only assume too. I mean, I feel like in order to afford thirty two dollars an hour. This nanny's a full time nanny has been there for months, getting paid thirty dollars an hour. I can only assume this is a Big. L a full time nanny, is she living? I don't think she's living there. Yeah, she would have said live in, I think I'm a full time nanny. I don't think she's a live in nanny, but I think she's a full time nanny. So this's gota be a nice house.. I'm also trying to picture because I'm picturing, I'm like this is at least a house. I'm like I'm like, how close proximity is all of this also? Yeah. There's a few layers, but I mean, ultimately, I'm just like, you're getting paid thirty two dollars an hour. There is a degree to which I would be like, yes There is a line that can crossed here. Yeah. I think that's like definitely like just how you view it. Like how do you look at it because it's like deepending on where you stand in it like if you're a more conservative, you're like, o like it kind of gives clutching my pearls a little bit how this is written whereere it's like I don't know. Maybe if I was in that situation, I'd start to go like, oh, with lunch is gonna to be soon. I'm gonna to like hang out with the baby on the other side of the house so I don't hear it or It's just like, get a girl. Good job.et on them that their love is alive and this baby hasn slowed things down. L ye justust kind of now you know when it happens and you can just go hang out with the baby in the bed. Yeah, yeah. Like the way I think about it too, right is like with these nanny situations, it's so often now that we have work from home that so many parents are just staying home, but somebody is still coming to specifically take care of the child. And when that's the case, The parents are allowed to do whatever So like if they were taking like a work meeting, you wouldn't jump in there and be like, Hey, you can't be doing that right now What are you doing? What are you doing? Yeah now? Are you working? Yeah. It's like you're they kind of have this ability to just like be around. you're getting paid to specifically watch the kid and the parents are freeid to do whatever In their own house. Yeah. Yeah shutting the door. She's not hearing a lot. like I moving. If she wants, like I don't know if they got a stroller situation, like maybe she just goes for a nice little stroll. time. Totally. Yeah. Yeah. It's been seven months working with them. Yeah. And I don't know how recent it is. I'm assuming this can't have been for that long, but ye Let's see, so the verdict is overreacting. Okay overwhelmingly so. comments, You are way out of line confronting the mom boss because you suspect the married adults may have taken advantage of what they expected to be private time to do private things. Really OP, the kids are napping instead of taking a break or focusing on cleaning up or preparing for Nanny kids activities, you were being creepy, eavesdropping, listening for bed creeaks, generating a fence that they might have, probably did, enjoy a private, intimate mutual activity in the most private space in their private home. You're the problem, the whole problem Save more on what you need to get the job done right. Right now, at Lowe's. Get fifteen percent off, select custom entry and interterior doors. Plus, save eighty dollars on the DWalt twenty Volt Max two tool combo kit, now just one hundred sixty nine dollars. And at the Low's Pro desesk, bring us your materials list and get a quote in minutes. Handwritten, a photo, or even a sticky note is all you need Keep your jobs moving faster and on budget at lows. Valid through sevenenty eight, while supppplies last. Selection varies by location Someone said, Ohh girl, LMAO, at thirty two dollars an hour, I would just put on headphones while baby naps and mind my business. Personally, I would let it go. Maybe that's the reason you're paid so well in the first place. Let mama lay it down on him so you can make sixty four dollars an hour. Hey! Someone said, you are overreacting. I don't think you should make comments to them about what they are doing behind closed doors I personally feel you should not ask them not to do that. You're overstepping and making it an issue You said they aren't loud nor making it obvious. Adults do adult things. Oh he said in response. Oh But I'm working. You don't think it's disrespectful to while someone's taking care of your kids under your roof. It's making me uncomfortable. They both go into the bedroom and come out with messy hair and smiley faces. It makes me feel weird. Okay. I don't I don't know what to tell that they' Yeah blissful and happy. R. think I think it goes back to what you were saying is like it's how you're viewing this. If you're kind of treating it like He he he or like, o my God sex. I don't know what to say because I'm like I understand if like if people it's like, o, what boundary of yours are they crossing? How are what are they doing to you? It's like they're not doing anything to her. Right. They're going to another place. They're closing the door. You're not hearing anything and then you're upset that they're coming out with different with their. I'm like that's not really a problem. Right. I guess I'm trying to understand her perspective and like, okay, let's we talked about roommates. We've talked about neighbors. Yep. Now let's talk about the workplace. you know And like how you'd be weirded out if your coworker in their office was like watching adult content during the work day. Okay. so That would feel like if you caught them or even saw them, that you like reported to HR and be like, hey, this is making me tble So it's purely that she was so likeike checking in and his he's really seeking it out. really seeking it out and like It's a really great job She'd maybe like, because'm'm I'm trying to understand like the like parallels of like how this could feel like sexual harassment for some reason, but it's not like But it really feels like they need her now more than ever. Like they they are trying to maintain a household, a marriage. and like what does she want them to be doing all day while she's working? Does she want them to also be working?? Because if she's a full time nanny When she's done working, she leaves there now in charge of the kids. They're probably not this is this might actually be the only time where they're not worried about the kid and they get this Yeah and they're together It's it is, I can't relate too much to this because I've only worked in shared workspaces like this. which is a very different beast than like this you're working a private home Yeah like I don't know, that's that's it's a little different. And so much of this is not I am hearing this, I am seeing this. It's I think you guys are doing this. R And I'm uncomfortable by the idea of it. it's like I don't know what to tell you, ma'am.'s like, but if if she ever had roommates. But if you're also uncomfortable, then like, what are you seeking from getting your answers? Why are you going to the door being like, what were you up to in there? I know likeike you're ping it. Hearing from them, Oh, we were having sex.. Would that make you more comfortable? Yeah. was ' she wants to ask them to stop point and it's like Do you understand the impact you have on other people when you like are trying to police their lives like that? Yeah. No, it's so true. L that's probably the only time where they feel like they can have that time. Yeah. But yeah, it's interesting. It is We have an update. Oh. update Thunder Udate, update, update. We're being fed. We are upate. We are fed. As we're reading this, apparently, it is thundering and lightninging outside. Yeah. so cool do I'm sad I'm not outside G sh continontue from outside. Cut to us outside We somehow bring the set out there too. Yeah. We know OP is gonna push more. I can't wait. I can't He's gota push more. And I hope they push more to each other. All right That Friday morning, I told my mom boss I wanted to talk during the baby's nap. She said, o. I brought up how uncomfortable I felt about what I thought was going on and mentioned how I could sometimes hear or notice things that made me think they were having sex while I was there. I told her it made me uncomfortable, and that's when everything went downhill S She was very direct with me. She said my only job was to take care of the baby, not to worry about what she and her husband were doing. She told me if I had downtime I could watch TV or read a book. I told her it just seemed weird that she'd come out with messy hair or different clothes. What is w her hair being a mess. Messy hair, messy messy hair. Like just get her a hairbrush. Jesus And she explained that sometimes they do workout videos in their room. sometometimes it's sex, sometimes cuddling, and sometimes she's just napping. She said, whatever happens in her bedroom is none of my business. H. After that, things got really quiet. She wasn't mean, but I could tell she was uncomfortable and hurt. Then she told me I could go home for the day. and I just knew that meant I was done Later she texted saying they were going to move in another direction, and that was it I feel horrible. I know I crossed a boundary, and I regret bringing it up so much. I missed them terribly. The money was amazing. My mom boss was so kind, and their baby was absolutely perfect. I really wish I could fix this and somehow get my job back How do I get my job back? get my job I for Reddit for that. This is really a case of like, look, I do sometimes disagree with the majority on Reddit, but you went to Reddit for a response and you got an overwhelming reaction. And it sounds like you didn't take it into consideration at. Yeah. You actually like doubled down. Yeah, I'm like, what were you here for? I'm so proud of the mom boss. Yes, M. No, mom boss actually To send somebody who's already working the job that you're moving in another direction is so tough. Brutal. 'causeuse you already have this job, you're working it. and now it's like, and we're going elsewhere. Yeah. I love that she responded being like, sometometimes we do workout videos, which I'm like, oh, that makes a lot of sense. Like P ninety X would sound like that or whatever. Totally. But it's like then and sometimes we be And sometimes I'd be bouncing up and down on that I make you feel how you feel.ir in another direction. And I just style my hair this way. This is how I like my hair. Yeah. The hair has nothing to do with it. I tie my hair back. That' how my hair is. Yeah. Sometimes I have a crazy nap.. That's crazy. Yeah. And I don't think there's any coming back from that. No it'fable R You shattered a wallly not be fixed. I think you guys brought it up earlier and I think it's true that it's like, oh if something's happening you're like,h, I'm little uncomfortable by this. Like what's the most subtle way like, oh, youve turn on a little bit of music? like someere that it's just like, oh, I know about it, but I'm not saying that I know about it Yeah or just freaking change your perspective on it. Yeah. this isn't We've heard stories of worse things. It's like, oh this there's there's a world where that there's a couple doing crazy laugh ies. Also I would guess that nine out of ten times on subredits about nannies that the mom boss is the bad person. Yeah. This is just one of the rare occasions where I'm like, I'm not on the nannies' side as much. But nannies get treated awfully so totally The boundaries can be rough ye. It sucks too because it's like it sounds like she really does realize all of that now. Yeah. Itound like it sounds like after the fact, she's like, well, I shouldn't have brought it up and I should' have done this, which is of course frustrating because everybody told her not to. But but she's now broken the seal where they can't have her there because they're like, well, she now is thinking she's she's paying so much attention She's caring about how my hair looks when I come out of the bedroom. Like you should be using that energy toward the kid that we have hired you to care about. Yeah. No, likeike what did she think was gonna happen? What What did she think was gonna happen that the mom was gonna go, U, sorry. You're you won't anymore. She reminds you of Jesse Clemens's character from Game Night You're just like What are you guys doing in there? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh yeah. Just like creating your own problems. J not solving anything. perceiving a little too much. Rough update number two.. She's al. She got the job again. Let's see if she do we think she got the job again Okay. I sent a text message to my mom boss on Sunday morning and she responded this morning saying she forgives me and that she hopes I take this as a learning experience, but they will not hire me back. No. Mom boss is indeed capital M capital B. I wantna hear about pop boss She continues, I miss her so much. She said she talked to her husband about everything and they decided to give me a month's pay until I find a new job I honestly didn't expect that. It was really kind of them even after everything that happened. I miss my unicorn family so much. I was completely in the wrong and I take full responsibility for that. I know I hurt people who trusted me and that's something I have to live with and learn from. I will not be filing any sexual harassment report. The people who are telling me to do that were not giving me good advice. And I will be keeping my distance from them from now on I miss my nanny baby so much, I can't believe I won't be going back. It breaks my heart because they were such a big part of my life. I keep replaying everything in my head and wondering if there's anything I could say or do to make things right. I know trust once broken is hard to fix, but I wish I could show them how much I've grown and how truly sorry I am I'm trying to find a new job now and honestly, everyone's been so rude. It's really been hard I can't believe my old employers still paid me five thousand two hundred dollars after letting me go. That was so generous of them. I really didn't deserve it after everything that happened. To be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her. I knew it I knew Show us pop boss. We need to see the boss. I need to see the bosses. I knew it. I knew it. I knew it. her hair is messy because he' a sexy man that's messing it up I need it. I feel like, I don't know how old though P is, but they give like this situation like how the rest of their the frontal loow of their brain, they went Oh, and then she likes sequences in all She had her brinch moment booes with her brain. Yeah, like the consequences of my action. I knew it. U Jell. See, that's I'm telling you, man, I do think okay, this is going gonna to be this is gonna to setound a little I don't know if it'll sound crazy. I think Reddit can be a good place for advice, but you need It's anonymous. so you need to be so honest about all the aspects you think are going on. If she had written that in the initial post, It would have added so much more of just like, and yeah, I'm a little jealous of this person.'s All right, now we can all just want him to not have sex with anybody. The amount of times the amount of times the update OP is like, all right, so here's actually what's going on. He's like God damn. Seriously You can hear so much regret. Oh. I feel really bad for them because they really are like It was I think I really like a moment of ego and like totally Yeah that just totally clouded her. Like I wish she could have just strange of what could have happened and just chosen to purpose buble Yeah. And look And here's the thing, here's the thing. I do think it shows like what this mom boss is doing is so important for people to do of like, hey man, don't sometimes it is important to like Bring the fucking hammer down on people when they cross a boundary. Yeah that they have to like learn Because now this is huge for OP. I hope OP finds a job because it sounds like they needed a wake up call to be like, okay, I need to respect people. I need to like Tune in with myself a little bit more. Yes They will be a better person for this. Yeah. and they're being accountable, which is awesome. Like that that's just always like the best case scenario is you hear somebody doing something that you're like, ugh and then they come around. I also want to say too, it sounds like maybe what was going on because of the jealousy thing, maybe they knew what they wanted to do, which was try to make it stop So despite there being an overwhelming amount of comments telling them, don't do it, don't do it, they probably were weeding out the ones that were like you' right girl. Be they were like, oh, I was the sexual harassment Once like the was so overwhelming. Now they continue on. They go, to be honest, maybe part of the problem was that I was a little jealous of her. She's a stay at home mom, beautiful, only twenty eight Rich has a gorgeous home and she and her husband are truly happy. She's such a good mom and it just felt like she had this perfect life, her dream life, and I'm the same age. and I think that made me feel small in ways I didn't even realize at the time. I hate admitting that, but it's true. Now I just feel so lost. I miss them so much. I keep wishing I could go back and do things differently I know I can't, but I still hope one day I can find a family even half as good as them. I don't know if I should try reaching out again down the road or just accept that it's over and move on Part of me wants to hold on to hope, but part of me knows I need to respect their decision. Any advice on what I can do to maybe get them back, or should I just leave it and start fresh? I'm really debating and feeling lost about what the right thing to do is. Learn from my mistakes guys. Don't leave a good family. Let everything go. Don't let jealousy or pride get in the way of something real. Something things just aren't worth losing people who truly care about you Appreciate what you have before it's gone. Okay, so she's twenty eight. And the mom is twenty eight. Yeah. And not that it matters. For some reason I pictured nannies I guess I picture any age, right? But I think I was picturing OP being younger than the mom. Me too. For some reason, I Yeah, like six I didn't have that But it kind of adds another layer to like when this twenty eight year old walks out of a room and another twenty eight year old's like, what were you doing in there? I'm just like, I was picturing like a twenty two year old and like a thirty year old mom and the twenty two year old just like, young and still just like feeling weird about things, But now we know it's a twenty eight year old who's jealous of the tw Which is precisely the reason that you should not reach back out. feelings associated. So even though it was a perfect situation, which by the way, shout out to that family for being so wonderful paying her After the fact too, like forgiving her, all of that stuff is just showing green flags. Yeah family. So she she is right. She did leave a perfect situation, but she should. And I think OP is learning a lot, but I don't like that they're like, how can I get them back? Is there any advice? I'm just like No, this is stop But it sucks. it sucks. It is so awful when you mess up a good thing And you have to let it go. Yeah. You have to go okay I did this, I have learned from it. I'm not the same person anymore Yeah, but I can't have that thing back Yeah, it's like, I don't know how long OP has been nannying, but it's like Really assessing your situation and being like, okay, how much worse could this be? and how much better could this possibly be? I would be uncomfortable if I could like hear them audibly. Yeah. when you brought up roommates, that's what I was thinking too of like, you know, we've always we've all heard like a roommate and their partner doing it in another room. And it's like, you're gonna hear some bumping, you're gonna hear some. Yeah. See, what she could also done is when they come out, she could have just been like Nice S get go Okay. All right. How was it? Who came first? Yeah She lights cigarettes for them. You you guys need these? Yeah cigt Yeah. And they're like, Where's the baby? Where's? Oh shit. The baby Oh. The baby's already lit up. She looks over the dog door. she's like she had every opportunity to make this funny and awesome. You gonna made this so funny. You gonna made this so funny. No, while they're in the bedroom, she messes up her hair and changes clothes. ' the guys me They come up. She goes, guys, I had some crazy sex. Guys, out of my kn package came. That's so good. All right. Yeah up Our next story comes from MI over reacting This was posted in April of twenty twenty six. Oh that's it is Am I overreacting for ending things with my date after he accidentally texted me this? screenshot? Okay Oh, I love this. Also I think you're allowed to end a date for whatever reason you want. Yeah. Oh yeah. bored Isist No. Yeah So what I was talking about with my family b I bo onm All right I a twenty two year old woman went on a first date with this guy who's twenty two. I met on hinge. The date was amazing. He's super attractive and we had great chemistry. At the end of the night, he dropped me home and we kissed. A bit later, after I got home, we were texting and suddenly things got weird. He sent me a pic of myself and I was confused. No. Then these texts followed He sounded like a totally different person and I was puzzled hear the text. Okay, so he sends a photo of her no no yes, o yes. Oh no. Oh no. k it me, I have ler no idea. seends the photo of her. Wh are he crying And then he writes eleven out of ten, bro Soft skin big titty smells good. She's got that mommy aura for real LMFAO I LMFAO I unironically jizzed a little when we kissed LOL I mean, like a little bit like Piod I feel like we Eleven out of ten, big titties. Okay. mostostly that. mostostly this. No, eleven out of ten bra. I'm like, A, I's like soft skin. I'm like, A, bigittiess like A Mommy Aura's eye. She's got that Mommy Aura for real.. LMFAO, I unironically jizzed a little when No xting that. Well I think he thought clearly he thought he was texting a friend, a bro And then he sent it to her, I'm a. So she writes back Excuse me And he goes, W DYM. What do you mean? Question mark, question mark, question mark question mark. Sals don't realize who your're text is. And then he writes. in all caps Holy, I can explain this. It's not what you think it is I think it's exactly.actly It's exactly that. And then he says I must begin by offering my most sincere and profound apologies for the profoundly unfortunate and embarrassing incident that occurred earlier this evening. Through an egregious error on my part, I have inadvertently exposed you to a series of private, highly inappropriate, and frankly, juvenile remarks that were never meant for your eyes. The fault lies entirely with me, and I take full responsibility for this lapse in judgment and basic etiqute Please allow me to express how deeply mortified and ashamed I feel at this moment The content of those messages, while never intended to reach you, was crude, disrespectful, and objectifying in ways that no woman deserves to encounter, particularly following what I had hoped was a pleasant evening spent in your company Referring to you in such reductive and objectifying terms reflects poorly not only on my manners, but on my character as well Furthermore, the tone and immaturity. I' jump somewhere Save more on what you need to get the job done right. Right now, add Le's. Get fifteen percent off, select custom entry and interior doors. Plus, save eighty dollars on the D Walt twenty Volt Max two tool combo kit, now just one hundred sixty nine dollars. And at the Lowe's Pro desesk, bring us your materials list and get a quote in minutes. Handwritten, a photo, or even a sticky note is all you need. Keep your jobs moving faster and on budget At lows. Vid through seven eight while supplies last. Selection v is by location Furthermore, the tone and immaturity displayed in those texts do not align with the respect I genuinely wish to extend toward you. The line regarding the kiss in particularly was entirely exaggerated. I did not experience it. It was actually awful It was not my intention to make you feel objectified, sexualized, and in an unwelcome manner, or disrespected in any way. Yet the reality is that my careless action has likely done exactly that. And for that, I am truly sorry I want you to know that our day is genuly enjoyable for me. I was excited, perhaps overly so, and allowed that excitement to manifest in the most inappropriate and childish private outlet imaginable. That does not justify it, but I hope it provides some small context for my laps. In no way does it excuse the disrespect inherent in those words. I ask you to give me a second chance. That is all I am asking for Chapter two. I'm just kidding. Oh my God, I'm kidd. Oh my go She continues to write, now just in the post. He immediately apologiz, but I'm really frustrated and upset. I was really into him and looked forward to our next date, but now I don't want to continue anymore. I just feel like he has no respect for me whatsoever and doesn't even see me as a human being. I cried a little to my friend and she said I'm being dramatic and that he's just really attracted to me and he's sa it, so I shouldn't take it seriously Because that's how guys talk And you guys No no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. There is a version of that text that he sends to his friend that is fine I think. notot this. I'm saying like if he' had actually centerated and he's texting his buddy, he's like, dude she is so hot. She's amazing.. It's just the way he was like talking about. Wh was he talking to? What's worse? Probably a friend It was t to braw What is worse his initial text to his buddy or the Chat GPT apology that goes on for quite literally pages. I think it's just it's just embarrassing the stark difference in the language. Oh my go. Who is the real you Who is the real you? The person you're texting who is your friend who's known you a lot longer that you're talking to you like that or this insane paragraph that just feels like a thesaurus on wheels. Well, and the apology, it's clearly AI because it gives No more details. It's just running in a circle over and over again. because there's no information. You actually wanted to give a lengthy apology. It could have been like when we were laughing about this on our date, I remember thinking that you were the like whatever. But instead it's just like my laugh in judgment actually indicated that you are upset by me. Yeah. Yes. It's like he can like, I'm so sorry. Like me and my friends, likeike I said inside joke to just be outrageous and like he didn't Yeahah, like you're right about like no new info Yeah, bro. Yeah. Okay.id, stupid, stupid Vd Verdict was what? V He's not overreacting. Yeah. And also the friend is the asshole in this too. We're being like, that's just how guys talk girl. You get it. A good. He's hot. so let him be the worst person ever I always said as long as I've been in the dating world, which was a brief time, but I had a while there where it I cared a lot about seeing who. person acted with their friends and with other people that weren't me That's where you really learn about that person because it's so common for people to like treat their baby like different than the rest of the world Yeah to get. And she even described, I think, in the original post He was texting and it sounded nothing like him. And that's also just such a red flag of like he can clearly manipulate his personality to be like, o, I'm the perfect guy that's gonna make you think we have so much in common and all this great chemistry. But then I'm gonna go home and actually be myself around my friends, and that was revealed to her. Yeah. Right. This is insulting her intelligence much. Oh yeah. He objectified her and then he insulted her brain as much as possible Yeah Wh by sending that and thinking she'd fall for it. But I understand her like not I get her kind of being like, is there any hope? 'use it's like, if it was an amazing date and like the c get it. L You know when you're dating, you're wanting it to be working out and this guy did work out, but now this weird situation, you're like, I definitely should stop, right? It sucks so much. I feel like first dates, first few dates, you really don't know the person at all. peopleople are putting on a show. I can't imagine to ' I feel like from what I've heard about The dating scene, especially the LA. dating scene is like dudeess put on such an act, right? And it sucks. Yeah. It's like, what what can you do? BeCacauseuse it doesn't take much to just be like, yeah, I love I love that too. Yeah Yeah. I agree. And now knowing like the switch between how he spoke and what we can maybe likely assume was a Chut GBT of some kind All the messages leading up to the dayate Do we know? Does she know And like who she's talking to? Yeah. It's looking at it reading this. It's so obviously Chat GBT because it is just one massive parph And it's literally broken up into paragraphs within the text. R I know people text in all sorts of different ways, but when he texted his friend, it was singular sentence text. Yeah. And then his entire style changes so much Yeah U No, he's just, you know, he's stupid You know? he's What'suid He's stupid. I think I got it. he's stupid because he thinks just a lengthy response is going to be a better apology. than him actually just owning up to it. He like quickly went to Chat GBT or something and was like, I fucked up and I really need help. and it has to just include so many details and show how apologetic I am He went from saying Mommy, Aura for real with an FR to writing, Please allow me to express my deeply mortified and ashamed feeling at this maermid. It literally felt like we switched to pride and prejudice. Totally. suddenly. I must begin my profound apology by profoundly apologing. I profoundly apologize. Shut off shhut off're stupid shut' stupid Comments Is that an AI generated apology? Someone said absolutely went from jizzing his shorts to egregious error. Someone said never underestimate the power of post not clarity Someone said, not overreacting, guy here. This is not at all just how guys talk, LOL. someome guys, sure. But this is not how me or my friends have ever talked about a woman we were interested in. It is in no way a most guys thing. It's a some young assholes and dudes that never grew out of being a shit bag thing Someone said, I unironically jizzed when we kissed as opposed to an ironic jizz. How does that work? Yeah way Yeah,. I don't think he's using unironically correct. Yo, like no joke J no, no. We figured this one out already. He's stupid. Right Yeah yeah yeah All right Time for our final story. Oh No, nothing more to say about that one. Yeah. We got it. I wanted an update. We got it. All right. This last post comes from A I overreacting, posted only a few days ago. Am I overreacting? I'm mad that my boyfriend, who's twenty, wished me happy birthday twenty five minutes late Oh. Okay, twenty five minutes late. does that mean it was the next day Like midnight? Oh o oh, right. You're right, you're right. Ohh oh, Shane's getting sassy. Guys if you're listening, switch to YouTube. You need to see this. Here we go I nineteen overreact about my birthday and it's important to me. I keep posting about my birthday month on my private Instagram. It just has like fifteen close people, and I think everyone knows my birthday is important to me, including my boyfriend. We've been dating for four to five months. He's sweet and caring. His cousins are visiting from London, so he's been busy with them and that's okay I don't mind it, but how much time does it take to drop a text saying Happy birthday at twelve Okay tenen people wished me between twelve AM to twelve fifteen AM, including people I haven't even talked to in months. Most of my closest friends wished me a bit later, by the way, and I don't mind that because they were planning something else. I wasn't even mad in the first place, so even if they hadn't planned something, I wouldn't be mad at them for not wishing me at twelve. But me and my boyfriend can't meet on my B day because of the said cousins. He could have at least dropped a text Even that was twenty five minutes late. Then he called, but I declined. He called again and I didn't pick up And that's all I got for my birthday. To be fair, we do plan to meet this weekend and he asked me what I'd like as a gift and such, But even then A birthday is a birthday. My boyfriend doesn't take his birthday very seriously by the way. He doesn't even like to celebrate and gets kind of annoyed if his friends celebrate for him. He texted me twice in the morning too, wishing me a happy birthday, but I had to get ready for my party so I didn't reply. I did call him and talk to him for a while though because my mood was better because I looked pretty I gotta go I mean, Sorry, that's relatable. No totally That's relatable. go a little better becausecause I was looking really good. I was looking pretty that's realock toem. That's real. Oh thenen all day radio silence. He had sent one meme to me all day. I was out the entire day with my friends, but I had to get back home around nine to ten PM to celebrate with my family. He knew that. Even then no text asking if I'm home or what I'm doing. I think he would have asked that if he wanted to talk. You know what I mean? Eespecially since I'd definitely be drinking at home with my family when we celebrate, so he could have dropped a text to talk before all that started. Then I was drunk, but I was home and cut my comfy clothes. So I was texting in this mutual group chat we have. He could see those texts too. Then my friend called me. He wasn't there with me on my B day, and we talked while I was drunk But my boyfriend didn't even bother with a single text. He called me at one AM. I had been home for three point five hours at this point, and I answered. I was really mad and I had sobered up for the most part too. He asked why I'm upset and I just said, I don't want to talk about it Then he went to sleep. We were on a call for about twenty minutes with him just asking me why I'm upset and trying to talk and I wasn't saying much because I didn't want to ruin my day. In the morning today, I woke up to three reels sent to me. He did ask two to three times over text why I'm upset, but a lot of it is like buttering me ups by saying I'm so pretty and all that. I don't know if I'm overreacting about this or not Some guy friend of mine said he'd order me a cake at midnight when I said my boyfriend hasn't even wished me and that he does it for his friends too. It's not that he's doing it because he likes me, but to be honest, he does hit on me. so I didn't agree to that. I already have three cakes, so it's not like I needed it. But then o my good. It makes sense too because my other friends got me a cake and Yeah, she's spelling because with a BCS But it makes sense too because my other friends got me a cake and flowers and such to surprise me and my boyfriend couldn't even drop a single. xt Am I overreacting about all this Broken heart emoji He wasn't sleeping. He sleeps later than the night. was still going. He was up till like three AM. He isn't working. He doesn't have a nine to five. He has general He has generational wealth. That's it. Edit I think there could be some cultural difference because I post this in subs in my country and they're telling me to dump him LOL. I think people are telling her to dump him to just Save us all from the agony. Just save this man. J No, save us Its to be nineteen And for this to be what's going on, you know, Right. You're in high school. L you're still, all your memories are back there. it is all And I know that it it varies. But but this nineteen year old, nineteen going on thirteen. I felt like I was watching a episode of Bovey the Vampire Slayer. the cordelia is just going off. modern day Cordelia. Who can't spell? I like That is a lot. Yeah, I I can't I cannot stand her. I cannot I cannot hear that. cannot I cannot. I think this is funny though. It's It's pretty funny to read. Itny in the way that like I want to kill you. Like can't I can't believe we're hearing like it's just it's so angrying to hear like, and he can't even drop a single text after he called the same rep we've gotten. And he called me twice, and he texted me at this time But then he can't even send one text Like nothing would have satisfied her unless it was like this huge grand gesture. But even then she would have been like, but it wasn't right at midnight and it wasn't here. You know, we're talking a lot about her being nineteen But I will also say, I have heard stories peopleople I know about their moms going on like we're single going on dates and acting the same way. R. There's a very real possibility that thirty years from now She's same same person. Yeah, which again, there's some merit to like Whatever is important to you can be important to you. That's totally. Sure. It's then putting that on other people and expecting them to know that and embrace it and just express it at the highest value. That's what feels so inappropriate. And you've been Daving for she said four to five months. that's still pretty early in a relationship to expect somebody to just show up, know exactly what they're saying. I'm going to take a wild guess and say that she hasn't expressed how important her birthday is to this person because he's over here like Are you upset? Did I didid I do something wrong? Like Is there something that you want to talk about? And she just doesn't want to say it Right. That's not helping anybody in this situation if you're going to refuse to talk about your feelings, even if they are a little unreasonable All the pieces were right in front of her where she's like, Some people don't care about their birthdays. It's like, yes. Yeah. Yeah. She's like, but I care about mine. L Yeah. If somebody was texting me at midnight, H happppy birthday, I'd be like, damn, like why Wha? Wh why say ye I think that was I remember when I was nineteen, was I felt like it was more common for people to do that ike the midnight exactly you' yelling a. A thirty, you're waking up al midnight