The Reality of Relationships and Service

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I guess I went on vacation and now I must be punished. I'm going to do a video now where I watch feminists on TikTok. and just even those words coming together, I think some of my teeth just fell out. My gums receded, as I was saying, feminists on TikTok. or just those three words is enough to probably make you blind eventually or hopefully deaf that would be even better. But here's what we're going to look at. We're going to look at videos of feminists explaining how they are decentering men in their relationships. Now one of the things you may recognize about feminism, and this is just, you know J being kind of general, feminism has made every human being less happy than they ever were. But nobody is less happy than feminists themselves. I mean, that's why they want to spread their feminism so they don't feel so bad about themselves. So they're going to tell us about decentering men. You ask me, what does that mean? I tell you, I don't know. Ask me, do I want to know? The answer is no, I don't want to know But here I am, I have to watch these videos, so you have to watch them with me because if I'm gonna suffer, you're gonna suffer. So let's watch the first one. Women ages twenty to thirty nine are being labeled the refusal generenation because so many of us are refusing the life path that was laid out for us We are refusing to get married. We are refusing to have children with men We are refusing to work jobs that just don't fill our cup We are refusing to structure our entire lives around the presence of men, and we are refusing the lives of suffering that our grandmothers endured We are literally rejecting everything that came before us. And as a result The birth rate is dropping for the first time in history because we, the child free, we are the majority in our age group And I think for those of us over thirty, there's a lot of confusion happening because we already built our identities and our lives around the traditional path that we were raised with. And now we're trying to essentially build everything from scratch, but with all that old programming still intact. And I think so many of us are realizing that what we were sold as the dream life doesn't really exist and that men are not really our saving grace the way they were sold to us as I wonder if this girl has ever talked to her grandmother. I you know, I was just thinking today about the fact that virtually every popular song ever written E story at its heart is about a man and a woman coming together and reinventing the world. What made people think they were going to reinvent that? So maybe this woman should have talked to her grandmother I don't want to be the one to break this to her when she gets to fifty and she realizes that she can't have babies anymore and she's unhappy and she wasted her life on ephemera. You want to talk about what's ephemeral in life, what doesn't make you happy in life. talkalk about money, talk about your identity, talkal about your jobs. How many generations have to be ruined before I guess there won't be that many. if they're not gonna to have babies, you guys are done. But the thing about it The future belongs to the people who show up. so these we don't have to worry about these people because they're not going to be in the future. All right, let's see another one of these. This is the fastest way to disenter men from your life. and no, it's not deleting apps or focusing on yourself in the way that you think. Most women think that the reason why they can't stop thinking about a man is because they like him so much or he's special But the truth is, you're not actually obsessed with him You're attached to the feeling he gives you that you're not giving yourself You're outsourcing your self worth When he texts you back You feel chosen. When he starts to pull away, you feel rejected. Your mood changes based on how he treats you That's not love, that's dependency. You've made him the center of your entire emotional world You wake up thinking about him, you're analysing everything, you're waiting for the next interaction. You could have a full day of fun things planned and if you get one dry, slightly off message from him just sends you off. it just ruins your whole day. You're abandoning your own life full potential. You're so obsessed of what this relationship could be that you forget to focus on your own life Why didn't I think of this before solitude That's what we need. We need more solitude. We mean loneliness. And you know, why let another person give you a sense of self worth by loving you, when you can just love yourself. It's called masturbation. It's easy. And the thing is, you know you shouldn't feel bad when he rejects you. Reject yourself. like you don't even need whyy would you need a man? You just look in the mirror and say, I'm breaking up with you. I'm done with you. I've had it. I've had it enough, you're annoying. That's because, you know, you're a sinful son of a bitch and you deserve everything that's coming to you. And you know, I'm cheating on you with myself Even though I am myself. I think that woman, you know you can tell because of her British accent that she must be intelligent and she's invented something entirely new, loneliness and selfishness and narcissism. I think congratulations. She should patent it. She should patent it because we need to spread it around until every feminist is as unhappy as she is. Let's watch another. In order for the matriarchy to rise, we have to decenterment We have to decenter men and the things that they do and the decisions that they make and their potential. because let me tell you something person's potential is what you would do in their situation. Their potential don't got to do with them other than the fact that it's their situation. So if you're sitting here holding on because of a man's potential, I have news flash for you, baby, and I'm going to hold your hand while I tell you this You are self abandoning Because I bet money, if you are not happy and you're waiting for him to live up to his potential, you also have needs that are not being met. Self abandonment means that you ignore your own needs and desires. But let me tell you something. Once you stop doing that, once you start to fulfill your own needs and desires and get him out of the Fcal point of your life One of two things is going to happen. either one He's going to get together and be inspired by you and be so drawn to you Okay. And you're going to live your happiest, most fulfilled life yet or two He's going to show his hand. He's going to show that he doesn't support you in meeting your needs. And in that case, he's aie of you gott to let go of. Do you know what I'm saying? No re f just I'm just not smart enough for feminism. I think that's the problem a feminist neoliberal perspective. I' like I've been married for you know, decades, a lifetime to the love of my life. You know I've watched her living with this horrible sexist man. she's listen and yet and yet she has had everything everything she wanted in life she has had. and all she does What does she do for me except make a home and, you know, make me food and love me and pay, you know, it's like it's nothing. it's nothing, you know I don't know what these women are talking about, but they're making me now I'm depressed. Why am I watching this? Why are people doing this to me? All right, keep going because I haven't suffered enough. Everybody talks about decentering men, but nobody teaches you how to do it when you're dating, so I'm going to break it down for you First and foremost, decentering men is about having an identity for yourself that isn't consumed by being in a relationship and making it your entire personality. It means that you are not dependent on a man's approval. So this is how you ensure you never lose yourself in the relationship that you find yourself in. First is keeping your routines and keeping your word. Your identity is comprised by what you repeatedly do. So the moment you start breaking your word to yourself is the moment you start centering your identity around the thing that you have sacrificed for. Step two, being a woman that is in motion. There is nothing more attractive than a woman that is able to set goals and achieve them. a woman who is curious, a woman who is emotionally diversified. Not only does it build your confidence because you know you can do hard things, but it ensures that the relationships you keep are from a place of alignment, not fear of being alone because you sacrificed your entire identity for this person You know? Dylan. said, you got to serve somebody You gott to serve somebody. It might be the devil, it might be the Lord, but they gott to serve somebody. And I don't understand who these women think they're going to end up serving if they don't serve somebody they love. Married people serve one another. They serve one another in different ways. And yeah, you serve one another out of love, you know? I mean you don't get a paycheck for loving your wife. You don't get a paycheck for loving your husband 's it's what you have money for. you have money for supporting a home. The money is dopes. The money is for supporting a home where a mother can have children and love them and be loved by them and become the idol of their lives and become the idol of her husband's life. And that's the reason he's working. He's working because he's trying to build A family and a mission and a life together. Dese center men, all you want. What you're going find out is you're not going to find out that you're now at the center. You're gonna now find out that the center is empty. This is just it. I'm sorry, it's all about the love. I've got nothing else to offer you. But is this over? That's all I want to know. Is it over? Thank you. I'm so glad. 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