Superstitions and Religious Beliefs

Why am I shaking, darling? Pardon? Shaking your legs. I've had this for a few months now, is it is it bad? Dinesh does that as well. Yeah. Don't do that. It sort of looks like you're masturbating. Does it? Yeah. Is that how you masturbate outside your trousers? Two hands. Uh during a podcast. That's how I do it. I cannot get off unless I'm broadcasting. Now it all makes sense. Hello, fuck monkeys, and welcome to the Thursday edition of the Romesh Rang er motherfucking Nathan show. I'm here with a woman that needs no introduction . Every Thursday Do I am supposed to say something? That was very good. That was very good . The team were also here, a group of people I've grown to tolerate in the way that you tolerate a noise from your boiler. You don't know what it is, you don't want to look at it, but you'd love to beat the fuck out of it. Every Thursday we dissect the Monday celebrity episode and we become sort of like an agony aunt and uncle to the TRRS the TRRS community. It doesn't work, does it? No. We should we call it the trust should we call it the truss? The truss. The truss . Every Thursday type , the Mongo Celebrity episode, and we become like a sort of agony aunt and uncle to the truss community. Feels a bit JK Rowling. Sounds like a charity . With possibly mixed success, but we hope you get a bit of entertainment. Am I right, mum? Of course you are. Head to the coast in Abercrombie 's latest summer drop. It's short season and their new seafade shorts add the perfect wash look to your fit. They're so easy to throw on and pair with everything in your closet. Complete the look with a new shirt and your set. Prep for summer with Abercrombie in the app, online, and in stores . On Monday we had the one and only Miriam Margalize on the show, Mum. Do you know Miriam Margolise? Oh of course I do. Do you? Yeah. What does she look like? I c I can't explain. You can't explain. Here's a picture of her. I think you'll recognise her when you see the picture. Yeah. The picture's not on my face over there. I whatever she said I remember her jokes and things. I like it. You like some of them, yeah. Okay. She was promoting a new documentary made by a filmmaker who she ended up becoming really good friends with . It's a bit like us, isn't it, Ben ? I don't know, I feel like it's that this is a trap. It's not a trap. Yeah, that's what I'm saying, yeah. We've we've become good friends. Ah, you're both a few, yeah. Yeah. We don't spend I mean we don't do a lot of socializing really, but we are friends. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We speak a lot, text and stuff. Well yeah, because we've got there's stuff that you want to run by me, we've got a new idea that you need me to host even though I don't want to to sort of shoulder the burden financially of this company. Anyway, Miriam Marglies? Anyway, Miriam Margleys. Mum, if you were to make a documentary and have a director follow you around, who do you think you'd choose? And what would the documentary be about About my life. About my life. Okay. So you do a uh you do a documentary about your life, yeah, go on. Uh yeah, so many interesting things happen in my life. Which aspect do you think you'd focus on? Uh focus on uh the time I came here. Nice . An immigrant story. That's good. Yeah. I i I enjoyed life with my husband thoroughly . I thought he's a he's the king. I mean I I respected him and I put him on the throne. Then he threw everything away . But whatever it's happened, forget that , concentrate and the motivation you could become better and if you don't sit there and sulk. Yeah. So you don't wallow in it. Yeah, yeah. Just forget it. But once in a way I do a line under it. Don't be somebody that on a podcast fifteen years later still banging on about it. Banging on about it's interesting. Some some the people should know what I went through. Some people say I get everything very easy. It's not. Who says that? You've got this thing that you think that everybody's against you. Maybe quite paranoid. ah. You're a bit like you know You think that there's people saying things about you but there aren't. Okay. Can I ask a question? I'd love you to don't have to put your hand up. Okay. Um when you f what was it like do you remember when you first arrived ? Second of February. There you are. That's my birthday. Oh happy birthday. Oh, cool. Let's make a note of that. Can we put a little catch in the first I arrived in England. What was your fur when you arrived at Crawley, what was your first impression? Uh Crawley uh I we walked and we we were living in a council uh Ranga was uh got given that straight away key keyword I'm joking I was just making a joke, sorry. Go on. Keep talking. Yeah. Yeah. That's what I was asking. What does it mean? It means you were given accounts who has flat flat straight away, right? Straight away because dad was a key worker. Key worker. Yeah, he worked everywhere. Yeah. So and we were leingav and we were walking uh near the one of the church the big letter they have written, no Asians . Really? No Asians, yeah. No the church is still there. No Asians. I was Okay Okay, but that's what one interpretation. One interpretation could be What a shame. We've got no Asians . So and it's actually encouraging Asians to walk in. Yeah, I mean it depends on the font. If it's comic sans I would say that's sort of welcoming. Yeah. No Asians. Like you're reading it like no Asians. But I see it as no Asians. Okay. Do you know that's fine. Yeah. So maybe you should go in. Fuck yes. Okay, I see. Okay . Whatever you say, my son. You are the chibidian, so Sorry. So there really was sorry, that's actually quite shock I've made a joke about something quite shocking. So there's really a sign saying no Asians. No Asians. But then one incident happened. Uh we were start living in there and um in the church. And I thought I'd go and get some chicken and leeks and everything and cook. What you make what do you cook for with the chick ? You know in 1970 they used to wear the platform shoes. Platform and the bell bottom. Yeah. So I was wearing that. With the back I fell down on my face. And uh there was a guy, young guy, he poofed stopped the car, came running towards me and lit me up and t you know, did all this to me and uh said, Are you okay? Do you want to go to the hospital? Nothing broken. I was lying there and turned out the frozen chicken was rolling on the road . He ran behind me. Got the chicken. Came back home. My body was aching but I, pretended that I was fine. He was fast asleep at ten o'clock, snoring away, and I had to throw the kitchen. I wanted to be a good wife, I did everything. Mm. So twenty years it lasted, he ate my food and enjoyed. After that Playboy hit him . So that was your first impression. Yeah. Do we know any directors? That would make a good documentary. I let you No, but think about who would you who'd be the trust? Just like You want someone you trust, I guess. I want three of them . Yeah. I don't direct. What do you mean? You are a director. I think you're right. We're all equally qualified. And the main takeaway from that is he needs two people to help him. What a compliment. Okay . Every week we hear from listeners and viewers with their dilemmas and or problems, and we try and help you and we appreciate all of your messages, don't we, Mum? Of course. Uh you can always text or WhatsApp on O seven seven three one six two three three five five. What do you think of the way I read the number there? It's fine, it's just really Zero Seven Seven Zero Seven Seven Three One Six Two Three Three Five Five What about That One? I just think get three. Oh fucked it. Or you can email podcast at hangaby dot com Uh first up we've got a voice note from Jess from Yorkshire. Apparently is this true that you sh Jess sent a text but you asked for a voice note because I th I think you'd made it up. Yes, that is true. Okay, let's have a listen. Hi, Rom is Shanti and the crew. I'm Jess from Yorkshire and I love listening to the podcast. Great. This is actually a question for Ben if you don't mind. Your voice sounded really familiar and I realised that I recognised it from your work with the legendary Carl Pilkington. So my question for you is what is Romesh like to work with compared to Carl? Thanks How did that get in there ? This is fucking mental . This is fucking mental. Okay, do you want to come and answer the question? No no no, I'm okay, let's hear the answer. Um working with both of them has been the privilege of my career . That's it. That's the end. Well no, it's it's been well I it's been great. Let's be absolutely honest. Carl's better. I've really enjoyed working with both of you and you're both great. Gorgeous. But Carl Pilking's. Directed him to meet you and me. Yeah. But Carl Pilgenton I'd say is like he's got like a there's something else. He's like got a he's got like a the universe is giving him kind of a genius thing. Okay, let's go for another question. This is from Geordie . Hi Ramesh and Shanti . Um first of all I just need to say Shanti, you are absolutely hilarious. You crack me up. The way you tell stories and some of the insanely hilarious stuff you come up with, honestly, it kills me. I laugh so much when I'm walking around with my headphones in. People think I'm just having a full on Menti B so uh Menti B I suppose . Um right, so I have a little dilemma and I'm hoping you could both help me out. I'm a vegan and my boyfriend is a meat eater. However, he does eat vegetarian in the house. When we moved in, the oven was brand new, so I wanted to keep it meat free. No meat's ever been cooked in that oven. It's basically the Virgin Mary of ovens. We also have a one year old little boy and we compromised on a vegetarian diet when we come to weaning him. He can make his own choices when he's old enough to understand and earn his own mone y. Um the issue I've got is my mother-in-law, who I do love dealy, but she's very old school and she's already started making comments like, Oh, we can have chicken nuggets at Nana's house and oh what about the little ham sandwich so far I've just sort of laughed these comments off and let it go but uh the problem is she does have form she often gives my vegetarian sister in law beef gravy, and she once gave me what she claimed was a vegan cheese and onion pasty. And I can say with absolute certainty it was as vegan as a sirloin steak. So my question is how do I politely say, please don't feed my child chicken nuggets secretly behind my back without this causing an incident? And also, Ramesh, I know your kids aren't vegan, but you are. Do they show any interest in a vegan diet? And have they got any favourite plant-based dishes that you all enjoy together as a family? I'd love to hear from you. Love you both. Bye . Geordie, thank you so much for your message. Uh Mom, what do you think? What she's doing is a wrong thing. Wow. It is a wrong thing. Okay. Because if you wanna do love that, by the way, It's true, John . If if if your m mother decides what she wants to feed the child, respect respect that. Respect that. That's it. Okay. Respect that. It's very true. Yeah. Yeah. But she mother in law is doing very naughty thing. Really naughty. Making ham ham sandwich doesn't take the and she's tempting him. It's very bad. Very bad. Jordie, I agree with my mother. Yeah. Your mother in law is bang out of order. Yeah. Bang out of order. You decide, as you said, it's very sensible path you've taken, you're vegan and sound by the sounds of it feel pretty strongly about it. And you've decided to compromise and have your child eat dairy and stuff but be still be vegetarian and your mother in law isn't respecting that. And for that reason I think she loses visiting privileg es. That's what I think. I I I d I think if you cannot be trusted to feed somebody's child what they've asked you to feed their child, then they they don't come round. I I I think you can be as strong about it as that. Because it's not f it's not a it's not a joke. Do you know what I mean? You've got strong views and you're bringing up your child a certain way and your mother in law isn't respecting that, I think she's out of order. It is I think she's really out of order. I don't agree with that either. For mum to not agree, fucking wild. You know? So, you know, Geordie, good luck with that. With regards to um vegetable plant-based dishes, my so uh one of our But we try and include as many vegetables as we can sort when we're eating at home, so that they kind of don't see it as uh sometimes people see vegetables as kind of a dirty accompaniment, do you know what I mean? But we try and incorporate as much as we possibly can. And the kids know the reasons that I'm vegan and how I feel about it. And so maybe in the future they'll choose to go that way but I feel like me personally I don't want to enforce that on them. So if they choose to do that fair enough. If they don't then I respect that equally you know but what I don't respect is your mother-in-law's policy on feeding your child mate. She's bang out of fucking order. Don't you think, mum? Yes. Down the barrel of the camera just if you're talking to mother-in-law. Uh my dear mother-in-law , stay away from that. Don't feed the child meat. He's going to grow, he's a healthy man. So please help your daughter in law to do that. So stay away from that. Please. Stop it! Stop it, yeah. Yeah, okay. Thank you, Geordie. Ben, what are you doing that face for? What is the difference between that and let's say you don't want your kids to eat lots of ice cream and a lot of or lots of sweet things, and then your the grandparents end up doing that despite you expressly saying not like Well the diff the main difference is is that analogy doesn't work. Um what you're saying is if that you don't want them to eat a lot of ice cream if you don't want a kid to eat a lot of ice cream and then they feed them more ice cream than you want them to, I think that's a bit of a grey area. If you send your parents your kids round and you say I don't want to eat any ice cream and they give them ice cream then I think that's also a red flag. Also the other thing is I'm context adding a bit of context to the fact that Geordie feels super strongly about this. This is not a preference thing . This is like this is part of her life's philosophy. She's come to a compromise with her husband to to be vegetarian. And Geordie won't be that happy about, I imagine, with her child eating, but she's come to that compromise. That's where they've got to. And then you know, who knows how many conversations they've had as a couple, as a family about how they're going to bring up their child. And then the mother in law's disrespecting that. I think that's I think it's really bad. So is the answer to your question is a big difference and you probably shouldn't have brought that up as an example. Great. Okay. Shall we have our next question? Yes. And in the future, if you want to ask a question on that, put your hand up. Yes, sorry, I forgot that time. Hi Ramesh and Shanti Anti. Like everyone else calling in, I am a massive fan of your podcast. I'm completely in love with all the chaos and laughter on set. Um, I used to actually listen to your podcasts when I would go out for a run or a walk, and actually had to stop doing that because I look like a completely bat shit insane person for just laughing on the street by myself. Um anyway, Shanti anti, you remind me so much of my mother, especially the way you end sentences sometimes with da or ma, so it's very heartwarming. Anyway, my question for both of you today is uh my mom has gotten a lot more superstitious um the older she gets and a lot more religious. For example, one of the many superstitions she believes in is that you're not supposed to start anything new on a Tuesday. So if you're signing a business contract for the first time or a proposal or just anything important , or like booking flight tickets, you're not supposed to do it on a Tuesday because it'll end up like it won't be successful or it'll just end up really bad. So I'd love to hear from both of you. Are both of you getting more religious or superstitious as you get older? And are there any superstitions that you believe in, even if you feel like it's irrational. I'd love to hear from both of you. Thank you so much. Sending love from Vancouver. Thank you, Lakshmi Vancouver. Vancouver, baby. We're international . That's pretty sick, isn't it? Uh Mum, superstition s. Superstitious. Yeah, I am. Number thirteen. Um I had experience. I I will never start anything on number thirteen on the thirteenth day of the month. My house was number thirty. I did like to buy that house. But Dad said I don't have time to run around and look for another house because I we because we got the school and everyt hing. Number thirteen. And I wasn't happy. I wasn't driving, so I moved it. Then he went and uh got the uh office. Remember the office, number thirty . Then he died on number thirty . So after that I hate that number. Um yeah, Tuesdays because it's for the uh goddess. So you don't you respect that you become vegetarian that day and pray for her Yeah I am. I am very careful which day I start doing things and Thursdays you mustn't wear any new clothes. No . Uh that's what we believe. But we are in England you buy your clothes that children won't wear, I won't stop there. Yeah. Um I don't really have any superstitions. I know that. I know. I don't like to visit relatives on a day that ends up with a Y . But apart from that, I don't think I have any supersitions really. You are going to regret that Y disappears for good. Mumma Saturday or maybe Sunda if I'm gonna get rid of the weekend I might just pop in on Monday What are you talking about Yeah. I I sometimes he surprised me. In what way? How he does doesn't call me or talk to me and he stays for mu weeks and weeks. What do you mean? No . I text a lot. Domish I text a bit God will punish you. You don't call Mum, you don't call me a lot either. Sh shall I get my bloody phone and show you how many times you have? Why do you talk about this all the time? Okay. Uh there you are? You get worked up. I don't get worked up. You're the one that's worked up. I'm responding to your level of energy. Just check whether I'm still alive. Okay. Text me. Morley, I have sent you some spiritual things. Last three days. Did you check it? The tick mark is I you haven't even opened it. I've removed that. It's black, isn't it? Not blue. You haven't checked it from it. Why am I s watching all these videos that you send? It's like How to pray, how to correct yourself. Yeah, there's a cat that can talk. It's i it's important, isn't it? Uh okay. Well w anyway , anyway, anyway. I'm not fighting with you. I won't like it. Every episode you start this fight. Every episode. Do you think you get more superstitious? Have you got more superstitious as you've got to do Hold on John? Well on Ben. It's true. It's true. Because you know why? You have got so much time to think about things like because you are retired. Mm. So read a book or You what sorry? I'm retired. Oh sorry. What did you think? Nothing. I'm retired. I didn't hear what you s I didn't know . I didn't know I didn't hear what you said . So Anyway. Yeah. So we we do you know, just bring everything out and think about oh I shouldn't do this, I shouldn't oh I better go into temple and pray. Because you got time to kill. So y that's where you become uh religious and things like that. And you get frightened as well. How many more ears you have on earth? Getting closer to fly off. So be good, go to the temple and pray. You shouldn't fall s ick and uh that's why that's why yeah yeah try to get to go closer and uh some you want some protection that's all yeah yeah. Only person who could look after you is the God, isn't it? The power. Whoever Romesh, I don't know whether he believes. My grandfather gave me a gun for the little uh to me to me. So I gave it to him. Little Ganesh. Ganesh. Ganesh. All right. I gave it to him. I hope he hasn't left it in any of the hotels. No. You used to carry I should my bedroom. Okay. That's it. We'll be back on Monday with another exciting guest. See you next time, guys. Love you . Thank you so much for watching this episode of the Roman Schwanger Nathan show. I've been told that some of you are watching this, enjoying it, wallowing in it, but you still haven't subscribed. That's mad behaviour. You're gonna miss episodes. Very silly. So follow and subscribe to the Romish Rang and Nathan show on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts. We drop new episodes every Monday and Thursday. On Monday, I'm here with amazinging guests talk about their career, what they're up to, having a laugh with them, and then on Thursdays I'm joined by my mum, widely regarded as the audience's favourite Ranganathan. And we answer your questions, your stories, and your family dilemmas. 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