Reflecting on Personal Connections and Goucher College

Hey it's Ira Glass. Here's a free sample of the newest bonus episode that we made for our This American Life Partners. It starts this way. Hey everybody, Ira here. I went to a high school uh graduation last year around this time . And uh can I say chat GBT has not been good for graduation speeches. Though honestly, like most graduation speeches were pretty bad before AI . Right? Like I don't know. That's been my experience going to graduations. Maybe it's been yours too. Though I think graduation speeches are bad for reasons that are really built in and nobody's fault. When students give them, understandably they feel like they have to say something about the experience that they just went through being in school. And unless something very unusual and dramatic happened that year in school with that particular class, those stories all kind of you know just sound the same. Then there's a section acknowledging and thanking teachers and parents, and there should be a section like that, like no question, of course there's a section like that. But that's another section that you can kinda predict how it's gonna go from the moment it begins . And then there's a section always about the future and the promise of the journey that we're heading out on today, taking our first steps, the grand adventure the graduates are heading out on, which is really hard to do without falling into a lot of puffy platitudes. It's just a very difficult kind of speech to make interesting and alive and fun to hear. And when somebody does a good one, and there are some really great ones out there, it's usually somebody, you know, like Steve Jobs or Michael Lewis, people with surprising lives, telling surprising stories from their lives and having surprising thoughts that go with those stories. It's hard to do well. And when we get to graduation season, like we are entering right now in May, I don't think I'm the only person who goes to those things dreading the speeches . In 2012, a guy named Sanford Unger asked me to give the graduation speech at Goucher College in Baltimore. I knew Sanford Unger. Sandy had been my boss when I was in my early twenties at MPR on a daily news show called MPR Dateline. And Sandy was the host. I was his tape cutter. It was a tiny staff. It was like I th I think it was just like three or four or five people was the entire staff for this daily show. And Sandy and I worked very closely together and I always really liked him. He was a smart guy with immense self confidence, which he wore lightly. Charmingly, I thought. He'd been a foreign correspondent, he'd been a reporter for the Washington Post, he'd been the host of All Things Considered, all before we did Datel ine. And when Dateline was canceled, he went on to a series of very fancy-sounding jobs. He was the Dean of the School of Communication at American University. Then he was the head of Voice of America. Then he was president of Goucher College, which is how this call happened. I'm from Baltimore. I have some personal connections to Goucher College . But I did not want the job of graduation speaker for all the reasons that I've already told you. It just seemed like a hard assignment . But I decided to do it. For reasons that I ended up putting into the speech and telling the audience about. I also included in the speech one very personal story about me and Goucher College that I remember I was not sure I should include in the speech , but I did, and it got a response. Like it turns out it was the right move. And then I also got to tell them about the day my grandma Frieda met Adolf Hitler back in nineteen thirty two . And so I'm saying all this uh because uh with graduation season upon us, I'm gonna play the speech for you right now. And so um just to set the scene, this was a sunny day in twenty twelve. It's outdoors. The theme of the graduation that year was transcending boundaries. Uh so that was a phrase that was being repeated now and then during the day. That's the kind of day this was. Okay, here's the speech . Graduates, parents, faculty, guests, president Unger . I'm honored to be asked to be your commencement speaker. I still oppose on principle the idea of any commencement speech . I believe that it is a doomed form, clawing and impossible. Commencement speakers give stock advice, which is then promptly ignored . The central mission of the commencement speech is in itself ridiculous to inspire at a moment which needs no inspiration. Look at yourselves at this moment. Something incredible is happening to you right now. The whole world is opening to you. You guys have been in school your entire lives and you have completed something difficult that took persistence and willfulness probably you questioned yourself again and again and now you're off to face the world and do everything you have been dreaming. What can words add to that except delay the moment you get your diploma? I oppose the form of the commencement speech and I continue to oppose it even as I do one now . And I said yes, only because of my personal connections to this school. One is your president, Sandy Unger, who I worked closely with at MPR years ago, who, as many of you know, has a special gift for convincing people to do things they do not necessarily want to do . Which worked out great in this case because I have a special gift for saying yes to people like that . Um as as was said another personal connection I have to Goucher is my grandma Frida is my dad's mom, Frida Freelander, Goucher class of 31. Uh a very defiantly proud Goucher grad. Are the members of Phi Beta Kappa here? Can I hear Phi Beta Kappa . You are my grandma's sister in that organization. I'm wearing her Phi Beta Kappa key. Grandma Frida wore her key to any special dinner or occasion until she died and was not shy about talking about being a member of Phi Beta Kappa with anyone who would listen, which makes her s seem like some wacky prank grandma old lady. But she was actually anything but she was smart and funny and and awake to the world. Um and I loved her enough that although I oppose the form of graduation speech, I am standing here in front of you because I know it would please her a great deal. My third connection to Goucher, I really was not going to talk about it all, and this week my wife and some friends insisted that you graduates would find it relevant , and that is that I lost my virginity in one of the dorms here. Not recently . I was twenty. It was still in all-girls sch ool. The Goucher Senior, who did this, was very much she uh she made this happen. I was not the instigator. I had some good qualities at that age, but I was um kind of immature and scared. She, however, was used to transcending boundaries . Okay, so that is obviously just the beginning of that speech. This is just a sample of the bonus episode uh that we made for our life partners. If you want to hear the whole thing and support our show, go to thisamericanlife.org slash life partners that'll unlock the full bonus episode and then you get dozens more. You can also sign up right in the Apple Podcasts app.