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And the afternoon, I'd cleaned chimneys. and then I'd go home and read a good book. I was too busy taking snuff with prostitute Hello and welcome somehow, you've stumbled upon an episode of Wanging On with Grahem and Maria. It's half an hour of dubious advice. That's what you've got. So try and enjoy it. There's Maria now. And I've got a nice spotty flamenco. Y. Yes, you do. You look very European Europe Yeah ye. That's not good, is it? I used to voice your trash. I know what that means. You look like you've lived abroad. How are you this week? I'm all right, but listen, we have Yes we We have a dilemma. What is that Gam? I don't know if you know, but we're going to the Eden B Festival. We're doing you know we're now doing two shows. Oh we? There's a mittay. A mittay. for the elderly. What did he say? Which one's the boy? Is he gay? Is she gay? Is same woman as before. He looked gay I'm really looking forward to that. Did they say an hour? Why is everyone laughing? I don't find this funny at all. But we should be doing all of that in Scottish voice. Yes, we should. Now hereere's the thing. It has been brought to our attention. Oh yeah, that if you are a podcaster and you do a live show You are supposed to have merch. Oh, how exciting? Well it is we don't have any merch. What about if we sell cars in the footage? That's a very good idea. We'll just whoever's parked outside Well sell that We'll just sell that car. There you go. We just change We could sign the windscreen in lipstick. Wang one No No, must like I think mugs, you can never have too many mugs. These are too expensive. We can Well Th these have been very popular. no, but these have been handmade. They have been handmade, but I think if These would be about five hundred pounds each.'t What if we get them from China? Like homeome of for China. Like Donald Trump And we order something in the region of fourteen million, and then they'll only cost eighty p each. I mean, yes, the cost per ice cream will be very low. Yeah yeah ye. I know that works. You amortize the cost, you see Okay, you never have too many rougs. but the count of these ones I must say there's something about a tote bag. I have now have so many tote bags. It's like the plastic bag problem. but but I really can't throw away the tote bags. Well you can give them to charity shops. Can you? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And you can say to the charity shop, you know when you buy something in a charity shop, instead of giving them a plastic bag to take away Give them one of these tote bags and then it's advertising to other people, whatever it is that's on the tote bag. But it won't be the charity shop No Okay. I know, but you're spreading the tote bag message O A whichever? No, you don't like that idea. Okay, kill all pets, that one. Yeah That's one ye I hide one. I don't agree. to Graham Norto, I got one of them. No, back to A mch. what about a pen? I like a pen Oh, it would it's sort of on brand because people have to write in mayaybe a quill You see so few quills in the merch stand these days? For our audience, I'm thinking maybe a night guard Because they're so angry. They're just grinding their teeth at night, listening to our stupid advice. Just printed wanging on on the night guard so you can smile at your husband. Oh He s Wanging on. It would be quite good. A noteepad that just said wanging on in each page. Yeah. What about if it just s shut up shad up Love wanging on. Yeah, no one cares Love hanging on. I do like the notion of just saying shut up You are just whanging on. What else could we do? I can't think of anything that clever. T shirts that say am I weird? Oh, now, that is a good idea. Yeah. I like the idea of walking behind somebody and their shirt saying, amm I weird? Yeah and just doing V signs at their head You need to get out more. Oh I intend to Once people are wearing those t shirts, I'll be on the streets all the time. So we wear them to actually do the thing Oh no, we need costume and styling. Oh we've got two shows. So we need to dress up in ballroom outfits. If there's not the Russell of Taffeta, as we walk onto that stage, I will feel let down. Well, you know I largely shop in charity shops that give you tote bags for your purchases. So I can't be held responsible for what I turn up in. But people will be there for your fashion, Maria Oh my goodness, charity shop fashion. I don't know what else is there, let's think Pens, notepads, t shirts. I mean, what are the things what do we have any catchphrases? don't really step up to the plate. No we don't say that as much as we used to U let it go. Pop round with the cake. No. I don't care Tell someone who get a shit. No, and weird t shirt is quite good because I think just for wanging on on something, it's a bit on the nose. Whereas if you wear a t shirt that's am I weird, people would have to know the podcast in order to understand that t sht. So it's quite in. I quite like that. Yeah. Am I weird on the back? And then you could have a small kind of almost like a logo Like a Tommy Lil figer logo but that says Wanging on. Oh yeah. There, on there. Is that a lot of money? I don't know. T lot. I'm not buying one.. I wouldn't be seem dead in something like that. Who would be A I weird? Yes, you're wearing a t shirt that says I am weird Have you looked in the mirror lately? You are weird. You spent fifty quids on that? Surely they can't be fifty pounds. No, no. I don't know, but I must say you've got a t shirt printing business. You must know. The overheads are getting higher all. Oh good. Oh my goodness.. the print is oil based. I think this marketing chat has been a bit of a failure It's not true People are going, the merch sand sounds great. Let's go see it. Why't they'll just be like some empty coat hangers some moges that we've written on and We' have just got laundry pens hanging on them. I'd like that idea. What about underpants with am I weird?? on that's a best seller. Wom mean to buy their house A am I weird. And also if you went back to somebody's house with a pair of underpants on' going, amm I weird, you'd think, Wha I'm mean for a good time here. No, and that you could buy them as a gift. That's a funny gift to give someone, amm I weird underpants. Would you like that gift? Well, I wouldn't, but I'm not weird I think we'd love the Wangers to tell us what they'd like to buy because clearly these are not great suggestions. So either you can comment below on Spotify or YouTube or you could email us Wanging on listen. co Uk with you know, tell us what merch you'd like and dear God. We'll go out And we'll find some children abroad to make it Build that time There's some nuns in Sardinia Weead of three fingers left. in Sordinia. 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Eact am underer Gm Okay I'm just going to read this quietly, Is that all right? re it yourself. We'll try and follow along with using your expression Oh, this is going to be a tough one I can tell Okay, I'm a recently single forty seven year old man, fresh out of a long term relationship with my husband. In an effort to get some exercise, meet new people and gently re enter society, I joined a gay walking group here in Adelaide. To my complete surprise and mild emotional inconvenience, I met a lovely man. We spent the entire walk talking and I think there may have been a spark or possibly I've just forgotten what human connection feels like. Hard to say. Here's the problem. I am deeply unapologetically old school. I like romance. I've never done the apps. I come from the era of dating agencies, speed dating with timers and getting set up by friends I'm also a parent to a toddler, so my opportunities to casually bump into him again at future walks are optimistic at best. All I have is his first name and what he does for work Naturally, I Googled him and found him on LinkedIn. So my question is this, If I message him on LinkedIn and say Hello, remember me from the Walking group Would you still like to grab that lunch Am I A A charming proactive romantic hero, or be, one step away from Bunny Boiler territory. Will he be delighted or mildly alarmed that I've done some light digital sleuthing? Your answer will absolutely determine whether I take the leap, so no pressure ill optimistic about love, brackets and slightly terrified James Oh, James, I feel for you. hereere's the thing that's just Fall back on all of this, remember, because you are a recently single forty seven year old man out of a long term relationship with a husband. Now there's a kind of thing that happens, I think when you leave a long term relationship, which is thing of jumping frying pan fire. And I think you need to be cautious of that. And I understand you know you've been used to human connection and having someone there and you want to sort of replicate that. But this is going to take a little bit of time. You're forty seven, you've been in a long term relationship. you've got a toddler, your time is kind of precious. Sot too fast, too quickly would be my I think looking him up on LinkedIn that's a good thing. Is it. Does anyone go on LinkedIn anymore? Yes, it's huge. Oh LinkedIn is the one to do because you know because people left Twitter and discovered, oh, we can leave nasty comments on Instagram as well. And now LinkedIn is the last refuge of the decent. Can you leave a nasty message on LinkedIn I think people would be annoyed because they could know who you are you are. So you don't. Yeah. So you kind of protect yourself by not leaving horrible messages. I think You're right, he shouldn't, I feel like he's already built this into a bigger thing I know that's what I'm hearing. You can't replicate what you just left. You are not this man, maybe he is, but it's doubtful he's your next husband. But equally, I think you need to get out there and start dating. So I think absolutely, send him a message on LinkedIn and kind of go, ooh You mentioned where you worked, I just thought I'd see if I can find you, here you are, fancy that lunch. I mean, if you actually on the walk talked about going out for a lunch, then do it. All he can say is no Or or you couldd ignore it. You could ignore you or say no Those are the only two options. No he say yes. Oh no, know what you mean, but those are the worst options. Okay, so that's the worst that can happen. Yeah. is that he ignores you or says no. And if he does either of those things, you'll be all right. You won't be humiliated. You won't be exposed, you won't be vulnerable in any way. And I think James is vulnerable right now. So I would say, yes, it's great, but don't put all your eggs into one bastard as Thorothy Parker said you know, be on the apps at the moment and date around. you know so you're not focusing on this because I think at the moment, because you had a lovely time where you were walking and you talked and it felt like, you know, the old thing that you had with your husband, you're kind of just focusing on this. So I would just say start dating so that it's not hundred percent of your energy here. Yes. Also, I feel like that thing oh, I come from a time. You're forty seven. Yeah, you're not You know what I mean? It's like Do you know how old we are, you? Yeah. I mean, it's come from a time of dropping a handkerchief. Yeah. Like it sounds like he grew up in Bridgerton or something. I don't really. U I left my calling card I think don't be so afraid of the new fangled apps Try Yeah give them a whl. No, give them a whirl. It's not the worst thing in the world. you know and I think is also be open with everyone. You are forty seven. you are the father of a toddler. You know those are kind of the big things in your life right now. So if people aren't cool with the fact that you're a dad, then you they won't swipe on you and it'll all be fine. But you've met this guy. he knows your dad I think send him a message, but as Maria says build it into something it isn't Don't kind of, you know, you know the thing when people go on one d and suddenly they're buying a garlic press. really. No, donon't do that.re gettingting a cat. Yeah, don't. You already have a baby and probably own your own garlic press. Yeah you're fine. And also I think what about the next walking group? You know, you've joined a gay walking group When is the next one? What's to say he's not gonna be on the next one? Was Adelaide, mayaybe they just walk around at once and then we're probably done now. And they move Yes too Melbourne. or Sydney or London We are so N walking tour is to the airport. Next walking tour is to James's house And whatever happens, James, you've got the love of this lovely toddler. so you don't you know all of the other stuff is extraneous and a bonus if things work out. but I think you do need to get there and there's a lot out there, isn't there? Yeah And also don't be don't overthink any of it. You know, the fact that you think sending someone a message on LinkedIn might make you look like a body boiler, no all you're doing is being a bit proactive Yeah. if that put someone off if they feel a bit kind of like, all right, back off, they're not for you But I think you could absolutely ask someone out for lunch. Yeah, don't put in your LinkedIn message that you've already got a three piece suit for your wedding. I mean, don'tt any of that. Yeah. Yes, I prefer a buffet at the wedding and a DJ rather than a live band That's okay Yeah, you got to be light, light of touch with this. And we don't know what his situation is James hasn't told us what this man's situation is. Yes. Does he have a partner even? Do you know that? Did that come up in the combo? And also And this is a bad thing to say. Oh, no, you're gonna to be Debbie Downer now. Well, no, just if someone's interested You'd know I kind of feel that? Like, why aren't you getting a message on LinkedIn from this man? Well, they clearly talked about having lunch, but no numbers were exchanged. So was that one of those sayings you just say, Ohh yeah, we must grab lunch. That'd be lovely. No, I don't have a phone by I don'tat lunch, I don't eat at all ever. Yeah. What do you eat Wow Is that how you can draw this walking That's why I can never walk again because I mean, I just think James has suddenly kind of homed in on this. And list we all get it I know. Totally get it because we are strange little creatures and all we want to do is kind of fill that emotional void that that relationship has left in your life. And here's this man and he was nice to you on a wall That's kind of what happened. And I feel like the bar is quite low And if it really, you know, was hot to trot, he might be trying to explore ways of contacting you. So you know, but I say send a message on LinkedIn There's nothing to lose. I say send him a message on LinkedIn, but I also say James, get out there. sort of spread the burden of your lonelinessness. I know what you're going say. Get out of the g Araam. Spread the burden of your loneliness across many, many different avenues. Yes. I think. And your seamen All over Adelaide. Oh, poor Adelaide I want to know what happened. I want to know what the wagers have to say. This isn the sort of thing they will love. I forgot. you know what, I think we gave James quite good advice. And here's the exciting thing about James is, I think he's gonna to take it. I so. Look out if you're on night walking tour ' you're about to get a message. feel I do feel a certain kind of warmth towards James We've all been there. We've all been in that position where you suddenly go, Yes, this is it. You're still in grief Kegan says, this is completely okay. You met like two normal humans in the wild. There was clearly a spark and you're not reaching out because you found his number carved into a bathroom stall. That would have been much more convenient. Yeah, wouldn't it You found him on LinkedIn, which is basically the online equivalent of approaching someone in a bright, well supervised library and saying, Hello, I am a functioning adult with a job and appropriate footwear. Send something short warm and low pressure. For example, H I really enjoyed chatting on the walk the other day. If you're still up for that lunch I'd love to pick up the conversation. No pressure at all. justust thought I'd reach out. You got this. Oh that's quite nice from Keeggan. That is totally reasonable. He hasn't escalated Why don't you That is good advice. I want him to do all of that, but then at the bottom just put PS. I'm so lonely. Date me. Jeff from Yarmouth. Oh Yarmouth is very nice, says. Dear LinkedIn Lurker, I'd say you have to go for it If only to avoid later regrets This way, the worst it can happen is he blocks you. Remember the ethical stalker' handbook though, and make sure your message is gross. That's in capitals This is an acronym, obviously good mannered Read fusable original, short, simple Best of luck. Jeff's writing a self help book as we speak. Yeah. Yeah. Maria iss not a fan. Jeff, I think it's he thought about it. Yeah. He thought of words that all mean gross Yeah Best of luck. Best of luck. It's a Cholly upbeat message. Thanks, Jeff from Yarmouth. Okay, Finney. It's the Riviera of Britain. Finney from Norfolk, Well, I've been there with you, I think. Oho? Yarmouth. Really? Yeah. Why were we in Yarmouth? So visit some boyfriend's parents of yours? No, that wasn't Yarmouth. Where was it Wasn't that Frinton on sea,? I't know. Isn't that Yarmt? No. It Clacton? Yes Clacton. No Conia Clacton. No, Yarmut's way down the other end. This is not helping at all. Finny from Norfolk says. Just keep it good mannered. Okay. Option C Find out where he works on LinkedIn and wait for him outside so you can accidentally bump into him Ensure you have flowers and chocolate so you can spoil him O D, go for the next walk with the walking group and ensure you have a business card. I would say D. C is I mean Walker. I mean, if Finny thinks C is a good idea, Finny's single. I think Finny was trying to make a joke. Oh was she? okay. A bit like Jeff in Yarmouth Okay, with Gross. Can you remember what Groross stands for?es I can. You g. Good mannered. Refusable. Um ome over with the O Original original, short and simple. Very good. veryer good. See, it's so handy. I'm buying the book. I am. Alex remains in Marlow and has this to say So as someone who has been contacted a couple of times, on LinkedIn in that way, I would say avoid it desite the fact that everyone now announces their baby names and engagements, it is still a professional social network. What I would do is contact the individuals who set up the walk and see if they can either share contact details and if they aren'table to I they're happy to act as a bit of a go between. And if the chap isn't interested, then obviously you know Me facer again, sorted. And if he is, then you have another smlashing little walk Hey little walk has become a euphemism. Yeah. Well listen, Alex knows Alex is on LinkedIn and she's received these messages. Did't like it. Didn't like it. So James, ignore everything we've said. What do we know? What we're giving you, James, is a cross section here. O of opinion Yeah. And you can take whichever bit you like, but take mine. But also is it that back getting a restaant Lint? Y 'cause she had a bad message. her name was Alex. Forgotten already. With an eye. Alex with an eye. They weren't meant for her. Harry the Hobbit. We we've got Harry the Hobbit with quite a long message. I run an LGBT hiking group been all too familiar with people liking one another on some of our hikes. What I recommend doing is seeing if this hiking group has socials, like our Facebook or WhatsApp group and join. I'm sure he's done that I would also find out who runs the hikes and ask them if they plan on doing a social meet upp anytime soon down the local bar, pub or cafe. One thing to be mindful of is that a lot of the time it's really hard for thirty plus LGBT people to just find friends and nothing more within the community You could easily be reading someone just keen to make new friendships as something more My advice would be to try to go on a few more hikes and socials and try to get to know this person normally rather than a linkedIn message. Pay it cool and see after another hike with him if he would like to grab a coffee sometime. Hope that helps and good luck wherever the trail they do. Well they've already discussed lunch. No, but I think actually you know what? now I'm taking back my advice. Oh my goodness because I feel Harry's right. There are some gay groups you join and really it's just a knocking shop But really you surprise me but a walking group does suggest, you know gays of a certain age wanting to make friends. So I think what he's done coming out of this relationship, he has seen as we were saying he has seen more in this than there is and actually E sending the LinkedIn message, I think might be too much And just go on a few more walks. If you want been them again, great, then you can swap numbers if you want to Yeah. Whereas I think if you send the LinkedIn message, you are a bit keen maybe Well, especially as this guy will know that you've just come out of a long relationship. I mean, I think anybody with any sense, yourself included, James would think, I don't want to get involved with someone who's still dealing with the aftermath, especially as you've got a toddler And you know this obviously you can't sever ties with your ex because presumably you share the toddler together. So you've got to keep seeing them. I'm guessing that you're the hurt party here and I'm just guessing that from the tone of your letter. So just be careful. I've talked myself out of it now.. I think don't send the LinkedIn message. I I think just play it cool. If you bump it up again, great. If you don't, you're got to bump it to somebody. I think it's in your mind now. The good thing is this man on the walk has kind of woken you up. Yeah. and kind of thought, Oh, it's possible. I am still an attractive sexual being. I could meet someone and so good. but I think even The idea of Googling him and finding and everything is just it's become too much now. I kind of I'm with you. I would say don't do it yet, you see, I would say go on another few walks and then do it. I mean, I feel that you're ing to be rejected on some level or you're expecting to be rejected. And when that is the case, when you're expecting you have a t shirt on saying rejected. Yeah, it will happen Look, James, I think between the two of us and the Wangers, you've got a whole range of advice there. Hopefully you've found some of it useful. Thank you so much for getting in touch. 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I enjoy your honest advice to our dilemmas and have one now that I need some help with Hm. I'm very loyal to my hairdresser. I love this already. How have we not had this letter already? I love it That's it, That's all they Oh. We know, we know where this is going. read all. Okay. I'm very loyal to my hairdresser as many people are and have been going to her for many years. We become friends through our regular haircut slash psychology sessions because I believe that our hairdressers do more for us than just cut and colour our hair The problem is that she's given me several bad haircuts in a row, and I've lost confidence in her ability to cut my hair well s missing uneven fringe. I've had to have repair cuts done by other hairdressers to fix the mess she's made. I think she's going blind That must be it. How else can I explain it? I last had my haircut by another hairdresser while I was overseas and this made me realise how crap it's been. I'm now avoiding my hairdresser, trying not to walk past the salon so she doesn't see I've had my haircut, not by her Do I tell her Ignore her and just get on with it. You see, I feel bad and don't want to hurt her feelings, but I don't want another hack job. What should I do? and that is from Felicity. Not my real name. She's taking this seriously. Well, you do Felicity. I mean but the idea, this was slightly self important, the idea that you're walking past and hairdresser, aforementioned will'll say Wait a minute. That's not my hatchet job, that she's been been somewhere else. Why I grumpple still sh. She doesn't look the ugly hag I intended her to be I think people, you know, let's be honest, this hairdresser is probably doing a lot of people's hair. and yes not what it sounds of it. Fewer daily out of thought. I mean, the very fact that she can an uneven fringe, hatchet job, whatever else you said that she did, lost confidence in her missing, uneven fringe, and you've had to have repair cuts. How has this happened for the last two cuts? You keep going back, Felicity, not your real name? Well because there is a weird thing because if a plumber came to your house and did a bad job, then you would just go, o, I won't use that plumber again. I a different plumber. and it wouldn't cross your mind Because there's something kind of intimate between you and a hairdresser. Well, especially if you have shared psychological problems, I mean always do. They are receptacles. You know you take off your emotional rucksack and you give it to your hairdresser and you say, while you're chatting, can you just unpick some of that? Yeah. And I just feel like then moving to a new hairdresser it is like It's like you don't just stop using them. It's like you have to dump them. It's like the end of a relationship. But have you ever done that thing where you go to that hairdresser and then you've been to them for a couple of years and then you think, well I might try someone else? or they're busy. So you book in and go can you get dumb Joe to do it this time because she's busy? and you go, ye, that's okay. And then when you go in and you go to Joe and the other one, your regular one, looks at you As if you have slashed them across the throat with a knife. Wow What done that? Have you ever done that? No, I've never go into the same salon to use somebody else. I have Oh see thats There's something very slushy about that Jesus Christ Judgie. But you can say to the original one, You were busy. You mou it across the salon while the other one's doing it going, Well, that's lovely. But you can go, You were busy. Yeah. You were busy, I couldn't get in with you. No see But the fact that the hairdresser was upset is exactly that. It's not like they're so busy they don't notice. They notice. But I've also had ones where I've said, Oh sorry, I couldn't get to see you. They go Oh fine. mine, donon't worry. It's all the same salon. There was a dart board out of the back with their face on it. Yeah. They were seething quietly. Look, felicity, it is ridiculous because you absolutely should be able to go I'm going to a new hairdresser now, endnd of and not be embarrassed or ashamed And yet we all know there are those genuine feelings. So I think you've got to sell your house and move to another town That is absolutely the best advice. But I think the thing you've got to do is not be kind of like ducking as you go past the window of the salon. You've got to pop in and got to go, ooh, look just wanted to warn you, you won't be seeing me for a bit because my friend is training to be a hairdurresser and she's said shes she wants to do my hair. If I have any disasters, I'll pop in and see you. Not to lie though You're lying. Yeah. That's what lies are for. Why can't you to get you out of a tricky situation? You say you're shit. No, why can't you say, Oh in my last two hairs I had to have repaired Why not say that? Why say that? Let' say that make it worse. But that's the truth. Yeah, but it'll make it worse. Okay. A truth that're told with bad intent beats all the lives you can invent Oh Yeah. Is there an acronym for that? Is budle? Yeah. Tiby Newt. That's what I always say. Tiby N Nt That's a merch. Oh, that would thrll me even more. Tibly Newt, yes. That for no apparent reason. Yeah Therecause a lot of leathers make no sense. Can we have that as? What is that? That's some waging on merch. Tibly Newt. Oh, have you been to see Tibany Nt? So good. I live by it I live by Tibidy Newt. But I do think I remember hearing that as a child and I was wrong. Tibidy Newt? No, by a truth's told with bad intent. Yes cor. That's all the li you're going mevent. Be your mum told you that? No. No No. I think it Shakespeare. No. I might have read it in a book. Okay, when I was a child. Janis and John? No, it probably Hungary caterpie. I thought it was by Ean Nzbeth. Oh It might have been the Wood Be Goods. An anyone read that? Good. Yeah. Anyw. You had a different childhood to me? Oh, I did. It was lovely. You went to school and everything? Yes. And then the afternoon, I'd cleaned chimneys. and then I'd go home and read a good book I was too busy taking snuff with prostitutes. At the Catholic Church. I' drinking gin to keep you small. to get rid of the baby William Blake, by the way. Oh, thank you. That was William Blake. Wow. It's like doggerll. William Blake' supposed to be good, isn't he? Well, he had some off days. Clearly. That was when he was working for the Christmas cracker compomany Bill, Bill, anything on truth and lies? And it's time with Hormmark. Anything on truth and lies. No, I'm going to read some proper people now because we have been hopeless. Have we What we doing? What are we doing? We're trying to solve a problem of our head. Oh yes, I remember now No I solve this problem hours ago. I just said go in and tell us someone else's gotut your hair It's the spirical time of day. Oh I do think you have to be honest. I think why Y version of lying. It' kind. Is it kind because she needs to know that she took her eye off the ball or their ball at. What else can tell her that? Okay, Felicity just wants out. Felicity wants out in the most painless way possible and I have given her that way out. Oh. Very good. Great, let's see what the wearinger is saying. Tell her she's rubbish. Don't leave till she's crying. Don't leave till she's vowed to never be a hairdresser. How gonna learn? How is it gonna learn to make her haircuts better? She's going blind. She's only got limited time to be a hairdresser a hairdress once who said to me, Do you have any children? And I said No, sadly like that because I always think if you put sadly on it stops them in their tracks and he just went How old are they Well, sadly as three I to go seven andine Susanna says I would message her and say, Hey, hope you're well. Just thought I' send a quick message to say you won't see me for a while as a friend who's a hairdresser is giving me a deal at mates' rates. Unfortunately, due to the cost of living, I'm having to cut corners where I This message is very way too long. Yeahah yeah. The longer it is, the moreough you're lying also much better to just pop in, do it face to face. Oh, that's hard. No, no, but then they really don't think you're lying Okay. Whereas you send this big long message? This is so clearly ha finished the long message. Oh sorry I just apologize. Cut corners wherever I can. I expect to come back when things improve a bit. Thanks for all the cuts and chat, bestest wishes, then never go back. So yeah, I do think if you're going to text, keep it brief because the longer it goes on, the more they know you're lying. Yeah What you don't want to do is be hiding. So I think that's why Get it out of the way. do It's like ripping off a blaster. Just walk into the snot and gota go, o there you are, darling. listen, I know you haven't seen me frageous. I just want you to explain tellell your lie. then leg it. And then you can walk by head held tie with beautiful hair on it. What about if you say all of that You just want to say, My friend's going to do it. and then she just goes You're lying, aren't you? You go, yes, I am. talentless. wororthless Give me your scissors, Give me your scissors. I'm doing you a favour and everyone else in this town. It's an intervention. I'm taking your scissors. You must never cut hair again. Go and get your eyes tested Flick says you have a few options. One, if there are other workers in the salon, you can pull one of them aside and try to suss out if there's a personal or professional reason that her work has gone downhill. Brackets's risky. Oh that one's they're rated the options risky. Two, you can talk to her one on one and explain how you're feeling and ask her what's going on ks Waly. I' another word for that one. Three, Switch hairdressers make an excuse about why you're doing this and part on good terms. with a card and a present. brackets, cowardly but saves face. Put up with rubbish hair, brackets, sad. PS, any chance she is trying to get rid of you as a client by giving you bad haircuts. That's a possibility there, Flick. Thank you for your options. I don't think any of them are particularly. Well, I think the cardy but sa' face is the closest to a solution. Yeah. I mean, it's a bit like, you know, people say change your shampoo every few months because your hair gets used to the. shampoo so you want to kind of mix it up and try other shampoos. I don't think your hair cares. Mind us. Mine cries. If I not well again. No, no I've finished the possibility of Wellella sponsoring us Okay, Rosie Dorset says, M it be that you're distracting your hairdresser with your constant need for counselling? Given that she's been cutting your hair well before now, you may want to consider less chat so she can focus, or perhaps she is trying to move you on and hopes the hatchet hair jobs will get shot of you and your dilemmas. Next time you go, say you have a sore throat and can't talk Stay strum and see how the cut turns out I don't know, that's another one that is kind of like you either have to bite the bullet and be prepared to be unpopular or what Graham said lie. Isn't it fascinating though I think our relationship with our hairdressers is kind of onli any other relationship. Like I've moved on from personal trainers without a backward glance. You moved on, you know, I can't remember the other people in your life. There must be other people in, but hairdressers I moved on from you, obviously without a second. Wout a full steam ahead I'm free But I think hairdressers, there's something I don't know, because it's intimate. And it's a loyalty that you feel you've got to kind of keep up. It's a very British thing. I think Americans would just kind of go Just change addresses. Listen, thank you very much to the Wangers for all that advice. Hopefully some of it has stuck felicity. We stand by ready to give halfbay advice on any dilemma you want to send us and you can do that with our email address. Wanging on at listen dot com d UK. That's also where you would send your am I weirds. music A My weird Oh it was lovely, wasn't it? That was like the first drink of the day Okay today's Am I Weird comes to us courtesy of Kristin in Los Angeles. LA. L Indeed. La laand. Hi Graham and Maria. Am I weird for still sleeping with my baby blanket in my mid thirties. I'll stop you there It's a simple white cotton blanket that has somehow survived decades of life with me. I use it to cover my legs while watching TV or roll it up for neck support Emotionally, I wouldn't say I'm deeply attached But there's definitely a sense of comfort in having it around. PS Her name is Blankie. I mean U. You're in your thirties. Oh Kristen, I mean, it's a bit like sucking your thumb Well, look, I would here's the thing, questrion. you're doing it, I understand what sucking a thumb is I was thinking I get it. How confident that was myem Yeah. What's I thing You say you're not deeply attached, even though you have called a blanket and you've kept us into your baby. So if you're not deeply attached, here's a test. Throw it away. And then I think there's nothing wrong with having a lovely soft blanket that's really comforting and you can have it over your legs watch you're watching TV or roll it up as an neck support, but throw this one away That's my challenge to you and then just enjoy, get a lovely new soft blanket. Why is she gonna throw that away? Because she's saying she's not emotionally attached to it. She is. Yeah. If it gives you comfort, it's fine. Don't have it around if there are other people there. That's all I would say to you, Kristen. I think there is something kind of sort of emotionally constipated about still having this thing. She had as a baby. Yeah, like a baby, I understand. They like the familiarity, they like the feel of the wood, they like the smell of it all. You're in your thirties. If you like a soft blanket, get one. This blanket needs to see the inside of a bin Okay. I would say to you You're not weird, I would say put it in a box For now so don' throw it away, but get another blanket and see if that's just as good. And then you can have that blanket out in public when people come around to visit you. I mean, can you imagine how rank this blanket was? Maybe she washes it. I mean, no, but even if you've kept washing it, she had itince she was a baby and she's now in her thirties, it's white and cotton I mean, it must not be the Trin shhroud by now I don't think you're weird, Krist in LA. I think LA is weird, but I think you're not weird, but maybe try a different blanket, mix it up a bit. All right, I think you are weird. And Kristian and Blankie bring us to the end of this edition of Graham and Maria's Wanging on Yeah Are we experts Graham I'm not, are you? No. But if you do need genuine help with any problems, you should seek it out on the proper channels. Now there's a link to those on our Instagram page which is at Wanging On. Don't take us seriously We're really W on with Grammory is a platform media production and we will be back next week with more till then goodbye