Unusual Bathing Habits and Closing

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Make sure your ride is your ride with pin verification from Uber. One more way Uber is putting safety at every turn. Learn more on the Uber app. We've got new friends now. Yes. You smell . You're on walking tours of Faceays D and now the showering lady . The fact that you feel this dishonest by not telling your husband just shows what an honest person you are, you're however Hello, hello and welcome to this edition of Wanging On half an hour of questionable advice with me, Graham Norton and my very good friend Marie McCurlin. Hi Raffie is in the studio somew here . You look like you're going to deliver some very important news . I am to you, your fire. Oh no, not again. This is from a charity shop. It's vintage Jag er. This will mean nothing to you. No, I don't remember Yager. Yeah, Yager. It doesn't exist anymore, doesn't it? Well, I think they do a line for MNS. Oh, do they? I don't want to diss them, but no, this is old dissy about that. I know but, you it know',s not it's not , you know, its own brand is it? Yeah. And it was from Cheshop and it is a bit like I should be dancing to Kajuku in the nineties. Of only we were. I'm being plagued. Oh no by emails from my dentist Are you kidding me? Lots of your due an appointment on your dental but you not yes it's the dental hygienist I mean somebody gave them my email address and I have worked out this is how it is. People only go to the dentist when they've got an Ouchie, right? Yeah . And Ouches can go for weeks and weeks and months and months without coming back . So they've got to make money and it's the dental hygienist that's gonna do you in. Because when I was there in reception taking notes like a sort of secret spy she was on the phone just doing cold calling. Hello, you're due a dental hygienist, the boymat. Oh no, okay, bye bye. Hello. Oh, you're dead, I see. You lost all your teeth in an accident several years ago, okay. And so of course then when I did go she said I'm going to show you your mouth massively blown up you know, on a screen and these are the bits in between that the dental hygienist will take. And they were tiny, tiny little pinpricky type things. Yeah . And I said when I was little , I didn't have dental hygien us, did we? Did we? Not that I remember. Mind you, I think I remember going to the dentist when they put a big thing over your mouth gas. Oh, there might still be a claim there . You might be okay . Yeah, I mean, a friend of mine went to the dentist and they're worried about a bridge or something in the earth. Yeah. And the dentist went, It'll see you out. Like, that's not, that's the opposite of bedside manner, is it? Oh my goodness . But I mean, I think that's that's quite good because it's honest and most people want to upsell obviously. Yes, we'll put you a new bridge in. That will be six thousand pounds. Thank you very much. But I like it'll see you out. How old is that person by the way? I didn't feel like they were as someone in their sixties , I didn't feel they were that old . I felt, you know, they might wear a bridge out , but no, apparently not. Because I was thinking the other day, oh I might have to get some veneers, not go to Turkey and get those kind of bright white things. I hope I please do that. I know that'll be hilarious. Next time we're on here, you go, Hi . Part of me wants to do that welding glasses. Well, then someone described a person to me the other day by saying their teeth are much younger than they are. So, you know, you do see quite a lot of older people with sort of too many teeth in their mouth . Yes. And not being able to kind of quite master them as a bit of a list or something going on. Isn't it funny when you watch American shows and you know, they're playing like drug dealers and thugs and stuff . They all have lovely tea. I know it just takes me out of it. It just hates me I kind of want lovely tea . I must try some plentin. Well, they're drug dealers because they need to pay for the very expensive dental fees. Beautiful smile. Let's buy some fentanyl . What it does, I mean, the dental hygienist if I just saved up, but I didn't do that. But do you have the dental hygienist all the time? Well, I'm supposed to. I haven't been in ages. A, it's really ouchy. B, it takes too long and C, it's very expensive. Mine is two hundred forty . You know what else it is? What? Judgy. Judgy. Very judging. Yeah. Yeah, you' notre getting into your back thing . Where is your dentist from? Judgie Land. North London . Because my dentist said, You see, the thing is , those little tiny bits in your teeth, they go up into your brain and they cause Alzheimer' s and I go No they don't. And then I looked it up and they do. Wow. Yeah. And isn't there a thing where the black black is very bad black. And also isn't the stuff in your teeth, doesn't it go down into you and cause heart disease as well . We've all got to die of something, Graham, that's what I kinda say. Yeah , and they'll see me out . They certainly will . Flapping in the breeze. Now we've depressed ourselves with that. Hey , you know what will cheer us up? What? Somebody else's problem? Yes . We're going to dive into those imminently. Maria , you do open our first letter? I will open it. Thank you very much . But it's so long, Graham . Oh no. Put your feet up. Love your old eyes . They're younger than I am . Dear Raymond Maria, about twelve years ago my husband and I became very friendly with a neighbour in the village we used to live in. We moved away but kept in touch and still saw this friend every so often. Earlier this year she came to spend the weekend with us at our new home . She arrived a few hours late again. I mean, we didn't know that she was late before. Came empty handed and didn't say very much about the home we'd spent a year renovating , enjoyed our generous hospitality all weekend, and then departed on the Sunday having left wet towels on the guest bedroom floor. As a thank you for all of this, we received a WhatsApp message simply saying Thanks, for lovely a time Following this, we pulled back and cooled our communication as we felt disappointed in her behavior. Four months have now passed since we've corresponded, but she messaged out of the blue or friendly and suggesting we catch up. Our hearts aren't in the friendship anymore, but we're torn between explaining our feelings to her or letting the friendship simply drift. What should we do? And that is from Daniel and Ed Surrey Quite judgy. Who's judgy? Daniel and Ed in Surrey. Oh judging the friend. Yeah . I mean, look, you were in a village together, you were friendly there. You've moved . I think that's a perfect way to move on. Not all friendships have to last but they stayed They stayed in touch. Well, they stayed in touch just so that she could come and have a nose around their house. Why don't you just say to them, Yes, why don't we come to you this time? You don't want to do that. Well, we missed the village. Well, you don't want to do that, but you do want to make a point. But do you want to say yes? And then god No, I don't think they will. Yeah. I don't think she will. She wants a nice free weekend and blah blah. But also look, here's the thing. I think Daniel Ed , yes, she didn't behave brilliantly, but nothing she did was unforgivable. She was a few hours later but she was gone for the whole weekend. So what's the urgency? At least it was a few hours you didn't have to spend with her. So arrives late, upside of that is you're ready. The room's ready cancelling , the dinner's ready. We're all good . She didn't say enough about your house at Age of Renovating. No one will ever say enough about the new house you've renovated because they didn't see it before and they don't really care . They just go nod and go, oh it's lovely. But we all know how to be good guests which is I love what you've done in here. I know, but that wasn't enough for them. You know she said that. You know , she will have gone, ooh, it's lovely end of she hasn't gone into oh that's impossible. What was it like before? Yes. You mean you put a joystone there? Oh my god in wall you say that corner thing isn't original to go on You know, like we know how to be guests and you know, this couple want that and they 've known them a long time so she knows what they want from her and they want a bit more than she gave for example. And I agree with you. I think just a WhatsApp, you know, I think a nice little note is enough, but that is the times there are changing . And you will starve to death if you sit there waiting for someone to send you a note. So you got a WhatsApp. She , I think, in the modern world has been polite enough. I don't know. She's done the bare minimum. But this is a perfect time to, I think, the terminology is to ghost somebody, but it's not really, it's kind of just letting people drift away. And sometimes you have to do that with friends. You've got the perfect excuse. You don't live anywhere near anymore. It's a schlep for either of you to visit each other. And actually the, truth is you don't have that much in common other than you lived in the same village. Yes. And what was it like, Daniel and Ed in between the arriving late and the WhatsApp message? Did you have a nice time? It sounds like you didn't really. It sounds to me like they're determined to let her go. Yeah, I thought I'm going to say it. I think really they've written to us to tell us they have a guest bathroom because they have already made the decision that this woman 's dead to them. Yeah, they have. You're absolutely right, but they just want sort of some form of justification or some form of concept. Yes, that's okay. You can do that. And it is okay. I'm not going to say they can. Well, I'm going to say you have to see this woman every weekend for the rest of your lives until you die. No, I feel Daniel and Ed, you know what you're going to do, you know, because if one of them was feeling a bit, oh we really can't just dump her , then you would see her again , but you know, you've already, after this weekend kind of shut it down , you only even discussing seeing her again because she's got in touch or wide on Bushdale kind of ooh, when we do that again? After four months, which I think is about right. You don't want to be her to be on the phone every two minutes. Do you ? But also , you don't really know what's going on with this woman's life. I'm just trying to say it from her point of view. She may have a lot of stuff going on that she's too weak to lift. She's too weak to lift towels, especially when they're wet. Oh and also you know, there's stuff maybe she was just kind of being getting by because she had arranged this weekend maybe, some awful things had happened. I'm trying to just put the other side of the story even though I'm kind of with them. Are you? I just think you've got to take it in your stride. If you like this lady, she's allowed to do everything she's done. The point is you don't like her that much. Well, you've gone off her. Yes, you've gone off her because she didn't adhere to, apparently this quite high bar that you said . I think people should have guest rules that they put in the guest room, which says, don't forget to compliment the dining room. We have knocked down four walls for this and put in bifold windows . Please do not leave wet towels on the floor. Please do not arrive late . Please send a nice card and possibly some chocol ates or a bottle and please notice that Daniel's done a lovely arrangement with some wildflowers from the garden. He foraged. Forage on the lane. Yeah. Otherwise we won't be friends with you. Yours, whoever we are. Daniel and Eddie, Anne and Ed. Exactly. You can't be prescriptive about things like that, but I think as guests, we also know and we're grown up how to behave . Yes. And she fell short. Yeah. We don't know why. The hours late isn't great and also , you know, as you say, you know Daniel and Ed, you know that they're going to want you to blow smoke up them about this new house. So just do it a bit . Have you had guests that don't leave when they should Yes. Was that me? No it wasn't you. No, but I do remember coming to your house when you had a house by the seaside. And I think I came for Christmas. And then we did a walk and then we went somewhere and then I said just passing to the general group, oh it's a, sh ame that it has to end. It's been such a lovely few days and you went, well, you can come back, but then we'll end up hating each other. Wasn't that fair? And I went home thinking, I didn't even think we were anywhere near that stage. Well, give it a few hours. It's good that it's taken me twenty years to tell you that. But also, that was my code message for there's no food in the house. Yeah. So we will hate each other because we'll be hungry and annoyed. Yeah. And wasn' itt that the year that we tried to watch films that everyone annoyed each other . I can't remember. It just sounds like it was a bit annoying. We had a nice walk. Lovely walk away from my house . Now if, you could arrange transport from here, I also remember people coming to your house and then not leaving and they really did just wait until everything had been drunk. They must remain nameless , but there was not a thing left to drink and everyone was so drunk and then I think they stayed the night. Yes, and then I had to feed them, you know, kind of chopped up cereal boxes and things because there was there were nothing yummy. Yeah, you know, they ate it. Yeah, it was yes, people can overdo it. But I think they did send you something nice, didn't they? Did they? I think they sent you a puppy. Oh, that's right. Got lost in the post. And that's Shetland Pony. I dream of it still. Anyway, we digress. We talk about our own lives.. We do I think we should get the Wangers on the cave. I think you're right. Okay, what are they saying? The Wangers say Cath from Amanford. A manford. I don't know where that is. It's a lovely village in it. Somebody's done great work. I'm going to suggest a cunning plan, reply. How lovely, what dates are you expecting her? Oh, that's what you say. It is. And see what she says. Don't let her take advantage of your hospitality and funds again. This is your chance to redress the balance . Yeah, but then you waste your entire weekend making a point. Yes, I think then you've got to go. Yeah. You would just say none of the state suit is by. Yeah. Yeah . And none of the ones that you're going to suggest otherwise Yes, and we have a funny feeling. We're very busy on this other day. The thing is Kathry from Amandford. They have made up their minds about this woman. They don't want to be in her life. Lorraine and Giles in Northampton. Lovely to hear from you, Lorraine and Giles, so long as what you're about to say I agree with yes. Well, they say it sounds as though your time together is coming to a natural conclusion. So true. And while you may exchange Christmas cards and messages, you and this person are no longer on the same wavelength true. Just let the relationship die and natural death. Did it wither on the vine? I think so. Thanks, Lorraine and Giles in Northampton. I think Graham is pleased with that. Oh, absolutely. I am doing spins of joy in their turning circle . Andrea says if you do keep this friendship on life support , it will be all on her terms. Pull the plug. Do you think Andrea's a nurse? Yeah, I think so. Paul Blacklight Rosanna . I wonder if they could see this friend for a lunch or something without her needing to stay over. Now this is a good compromise. Yes. I would encourage them to remember what made them friends with her in the first place or good . they If do want to end the friendship, it would be kinder to explain why, no. Just letting the friendship drift or ghosting her is mean. She wasn't a great guest, but she isn't a bad person. I know but friendships ebb and flow. And also, how the hell do you explain why you're not friends with anymore? You can't. That is like so accusational. And also you sound Yeah, you didn't say nice things and you let wet towels on floor. Don't say that. It will have a natural and you don't live near each other anymore. Yeah, it would just the good thing is she's not exactly beating your door down. It's been four months. Yeah . So I think it'll be quite easy for this to drift away. It sounds like she's not that interested either. Yeah. What do they say? Oh, we're going through some stuff at the moment. We'll be in touch with Mir. Yeah, we're renovating our house that you didn't like. We're re renovating it. We're having to redo the bathroom floor because it got very damp after the wet towels and got dry rot and wet rot. I don't know who left them there. Maura says if her behavior was out of character and you think the friendship is worth saving, it might be worth having a discussion with her and explaining your feelings. She may have had something going on that caused the poor behavior at her last visit. I think we're all being very kind. The thing is , this friendship, it was born on the fact that they lived besideside her in a village. Yeah . Slim pickings for friends, she'll do. Well, now you're in a new village in a new house with new neighbors , and it seems mad to import old neighbors , you know, because we all are social with our neighbors. It's very nice to be sociable with your neighbors and have a drink of Christmas, say hello over the garden fence, all of that sort of stuff. But if you move, it's bad enough having to take your belongings without taking the neighbours with you, so I would just no let it die. Just let die makes it sound so final but I feel like just let it drift, let it stay where it was what you do. And maybe say to her, We've got new friends now. Yes, you smell . You know the way our house is peter now? So our friends got a better class of person. They earn more money They bring gifts. Actually bringing not taking a gift is not good to somebody's new house. Yes, I feel like you could have brought something. Yeah, you know, a bottle of something. She brought her own wet towels to leave Get them back dry. Daniel, and thank you so much for sharing your dilemma. I think that's for it. We can all sympathize, can't we? We can all sympathize? Kind of, yeah. Yeah. I don't want to stay with them either, do you? No, no, no, no, no . We'll get into another problem very shortly . This episode is sponsored by TV licensing, which honestly couldn't be more fitting because lately I have been watching the new night manager and I'm hooked. Seriously, we've been waiting ten years. Is it ten? ten years for a new night manager. And finally it's arrived. Get out of here. I loved the first series. Well, we have indeed hit that time of year when it's dark, it's cold, and we're all feeling a bit lazy. But the good news, it's also the time of year when there's a lot of brilliant TV to dive into . I mean, I am loving the traitors. Oh yeah, which I hadn't watched Graham until I watched the celebrity traitors and then it sort of hooked me in to watch real people traitors. And of course there's real jeopardy this time because with the celebrity traitors it went to a charity . They are getting the big ward of cash themselves. Are you on it? You certainly turned into Muttley . I'm driving the van . They thought they'd won this money . And look, we've just talked about two shows. A TV license covers you to watch over four hundred TV channels and everything on BBC Player. To find out more, go to tvlot. co slash pod . Hey Maria, you've got another envelope I see. I have and I was ahead of you on that one . Day Graham and Maria , I've been with my wonderful partner for seventeen years and we have two children together. Before we got together, it was common knowledge in the circles I moved in that my partner's father had had an affair when my partner was a teenager. I have carried this knowledge with me this time and sometimes it weighs on me . My partner has alluded to a period of time in his youth when he suspected that this was happening, but he ended that thought by saying I really hope I'm wrong and I said nothing. This is something that is well in the past and isn't my business . He has a great relationship with his parents and they're amazing grandparents to our kids. I would never want to rock the boat . But every now and then I feel like somehow I'm being dishonest that I know about this huge part of his life and he doesn't . Are there any circumstances in which it would make sense to tell him and that's from Anonymous. I'll tell you in one word, no , like, who is gonna benefit from you telling this secret? Otherwise, other than you going, Oh, this is so heavy. I'm taring this my rucksack of woes . And also you know, you don't even know anonymous because yes, it might have been common knowledge when you were a teenager, but what you're saying is common knowledge is gossip. There was gossip going round and, you know, and yes , your partner brought up that he maybe had heard the rumor or he thought something was going on end off. And no, what are you going to tell him? Oh, I heard that rumor too. Yeah, you know, that's all you can because you don't know anything . If his wife has gotten over it, if your mother in law has gotten over it , that's the only person who really needs to worry about this and she's fine. They're great grandparents to your kids. Yes. Everything is rosy in the garden. Why don't you really throw a hand grenade into your life by waiting until Christmas and then over Christmas lunch you say to him, the grandfather,. oh Oh I heard that you had an affair. Is that right? Yes, when I was a teenager everyone was saying it. Yeah, I just thought now would be a good time to bring it up and discuss it. I just I mean why do people think that you know they should keep putting their nose into something that happened a long, long time ago. No , I guess what you don't like is your partner being in the dark about something that you think you know. That really affects them. And I get why when he brings it up, you're sitting there thinking, Oh God, should I say something ? But oh God, no, don't say anything. Because also how long have you been together? Seventeen years so you didn't think to mention this before, but then why would you have mentioned it before? Because it's just a stupid thing to say. It's also one of those things that people go, Oh , there's not enough drama in my life. How can I insert some drama? You know, don't do it , don't throw this hand grenade, go and do it, take Spanish classes or something instead . Because if you do tell your partner, what do you think he's going to do with this information? Confront his father , upset his mother, you know , what's the point Divorce you? Yeah, there's getting involved. Yeah , because like I say, you don't even know this . It's just a rumor, gossip that went round when you were a kid. And now here you are in your thirties thinking Hm , should I? How can I rock this boat? Because everything's far too easy at the moment. You know, everyone's lovely. You love your partner. They're great grandparents to your children , just let it lie . And also, they know this. You know, this is something that is well in the past and isn't my business . Did you not think when as you put that full stop in your letter, did you not think, Oh, right,, ye yeahah. It's long ago and none of my business. I'll stop writing the letter now. I think I've answered my own dilemma. Because you're done. You're absolutely done. Tricky one though, isn't it? I'll tell you what, we don't have much to say though. We're both adamant, you say, no. What do the Wangers have to say? Wongers, I like Wongers. Neve says this. Your partner has made it clear that he hopes his suspicions are wrong. At the moment, we don't know if his mum knows or maybe she made a decision to move past it, plus it may have been common knowledge in your circles. Is there concrete proof or is it just rumour? All in all, I wouldn't tell your partner this would only hurt him and destroy his relationship with his father. Thank you, Neve , very much. Jackie says this is not your choice to make. Should your partner's father feel as if he needs to tell his son, then so be it. But don't be that person that potentially lights the fuse on this explosive issue , put it in the balloon in your mind and let it float away. I feel like Jackie's listened to us before. Well, we often put things in balloons and let it go. We step up to the plate and then we put it into a balloon and let it go. Barbara, you know what she sounds like? The only circumstances in which you should tell your partner is if he asks you outright , if you know . And even then you can only tell him that you think you know that's what you've heard or that's what you suspected . However , if it's having an effect on you and weighing you down, talk to somebody in confidence about it, someone you can trust. I like how Barbara is so animated calm down, Barbara. Yeah, and we get it, Barbara. No, I think Barbara, Barbara's right, the only reason you could ever say anything is if the partner asks you directly, did you ever hear anything about my dad having an affair? And you kind of go, Oh yeah, there was that rumor, but you know, I never thought anything about it. Boom, end all. And if who are we talking ? What the' names of the lady? Anonymous. We don't know it. No, no, no, no. I didn't even forget it. No. You never knew it. Ever knew it. Few. But you forgot that she was anonymous. Yes. I'm relieved that I didn't forget her name though. You know, if she has access to a therapist or something like that, then this is something to talk about. But yeah, it really is like trying to scratch a scab that is healed, isn't it? It's like trying to make something bleed again . But it's a scab on somebody else. Yeah. In your own secret scab. Ooh, actually taking somebody else's scab off is lovely because it doesn't hurt. Ooh, like doctor Pimple Popper. My goodness. David Brighton says, You know in your heart that no good could ever come of you sharing this information. Sometimes we owe it to others to keep certain things to ourselves. Honesty is not always the best policy. You'll just have to keep carrying this one thing for him and be proud of yourself for doing so , not ashamed. Catherine that is the absolute goes to the heart of this . Well done, David Brighton. Be proud of the fact that you are keeping this a secret, not ashamed. Yeah , because you are the bigger person, anonymous. Catherine says the fact that you feel this dishonest by not telling your husband just shows what an honest person you are, Yorn. However, I really I really don't think you should say anything. It's very unlikely that your husband will ever find out, so try not to worry. I mean I know. Anonymous, I'll tell you what, for what it's worth, we did have an enormous response to this problem , but the team tells us that not a single person, not one , suggested you should tell your partner . So take that for what it's worth and good luck with whatever you decide to do. And just a reminder, if you have a dilemma, you can send it to us. Our email address is wanging on at listen.co. UK. We'd love to hear from you. Yeah. That's also the address for your Am I Weirds. This is like our little sorbe after the lemmas in life did with that. It's like a sorority cleanser. Mallet cleanser. Who do we have today? Okay, today's Am I Weird comes courtesy of James and he says , Am I weird ? On a freezing cold day, I like to sit in an empty bath with the window open and slowly fill the tub up with hot water so the level slowly rises and I slowly warm up this tent. A lot of slowly is there. I have always done this thoughts. I love it. I quite like the notion of being really cold and then getting really warm. There's something cozy and kind of den like about it. Also I like that he's cold and makes himself colder by opening the window. Opening the window. But there's something about it like nakedness in the open window that is bothering me slightly. And also, I think anyone who's interested in fuel efficiency Yes this is not a great way. We've only got one planet, James. Yeah, listen there is no planet B, wasting all of that. Why don't you spray some air spray out the window? Why about it ? But it is a lovely idea and also it's great that James has so much time on his hands. No, slowly filling it up, slowly getting cold, slowly getting warm, and then slowly closing the window and going, Why did I do that? He then sits in the bath till it goes cold . I hope so. It's a circle of life. I mean, there's something nice also about topping up the water when it goes cold, isn't there? Well, I never take a bath. I don't either really. So a long time. In hotels, I think I take baths. Really? We're very American these days. We have showers because it's quick. It's quick. Yes, very efficient, you know, for the planet. Yeah, yeah. But I do have the window open so people can see me . I don't bother with frosted glass. I have a full length window with normal glass and I stay in there. You're on walking tours of Hastings and now the showering lady . I still quite like sleeping in the cold. Yes, I like sleeping in the cold windows open, but then you got a duvet of million dogs. Yes. That is very nice. And then you've got Raffy, of course, pissing on you just to warm you up in the middle of the night. Just when you're very chilly, you go like a leaky hot water bottle . And then after that, vomit . Do you remember being very cold as a child? I mean yes. But in the orphanage? Yes, in the orphanage there was no heating in the orphanage. No food. Gruel. Yeah, we had to stay warm by scrubbing the floors . No, I do. Look, it is weird when I think back that I could you know, I can remember, do you remember like ice on the inside of the window? Oh yes. Yeah. Because we didn't have heating in the bedrooms when I was younger. Now if that happened, you'd kind of think oh my god, this is the end of the world , but it was fine. You just didn't think of anything about it . Yeah. You just put extra blankets on or jumpers or gloves or stuff. Mom, I'm cold, just put more clothes on. Until you couldn't walk for clothes. Yeah. I remember I lived on a houseboat briefly. Did you? You're such a hippie? Oh, I tell you, Even Houses briefly and it was so cold because which country were we talking in in London? Oh, okay. And because, you know, there was a little heater in it, but of course you're, not just heating the houseboat, you're heating thousands of tons of freezing Thames as well. Yeah. So you'd have this little heater on and it'd be so cold that the only way to get any sort of sense of heat was to go outside , get even colder , and then come back in and then you felt like there was a slight difference in the temperature. That sounds very Catholic to me. It was all like make yourself as a Catholic, former Catholic , make yourself suffer even more so that you appreciate, you know, that's like to take your coat off or you won't feel the benefit. Yes. So what I'm saying, James weird? I'm saying kind of not very energy efficient. No, it's not that but it',s a lovely look. I can see the coziness, but I would you know, maybe the slowness is not so good. But I feel James isn't the root of our global warming problem. I think you know, there's some big corporate entities that need to take action before James switches to a shower . The petrochlimic core companies are not worried. Yeah. So I think yeah, you're fine, James. Just fill your bath slowly. Have a lovely time. Send us a video, James. Don't you know? No, don't no ise. It's just me personally. Someone will have to watch them . And it won't be me. There we conclude Wanging On for another weekk and than you to everyone who got in touch. If you've enjoyed Wang On, please subscribe to us in your podcast app of choice. That way you'll never miss our weekly fix of our non expert advice, but if it's real advice from proper experts that you're after, head to our Instagram at Wang Yong. That's all one word. Where there's a link to support services. Wang Yon with Greymory is a listen production. We will see you next week. Goodbye.