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Yes, I am Maria McKelle and I'm sitting here opposite you for Wanging On. Yes, you are. And what have you been up to you? I haven't seen you in many, many days a week. A week, in fact. That is how many days are in a week. Are you looking you look very refreshed? Funny you should say that, Graham ? Your sister Bundinia I had a cold bl ast laser treatment . What? Yeah . I had a laser treatment. Cold blast. It's cold blast . It freezes your face . It's meant to be quicker healing time than warm blast or indeed hot bl ast. It's got more names than that, but basically it's a laser and it's seven days for recovery. I've got a lot of makeup on . Wait a minute. So what do they do? Like do they I imagine someone is there with goggles on two hands on something like a power drill . Yeah.'s not It that far off . It's our very good friend David Jack, who is a very good aesthetician and he suggested this rude. Yeah, that is rude . I find it hard to look at you. Could you book a laser treatment with me ? No, he's very good and it's basically sort of laser the top layer of you. I went with my friend Sophia who sadly had quite a bad reaction to this . But also you told me a detail. Are we allowed to talk about this? Go on. There was a slight odour . Oh , yes. . The thing I hadn't anticipated, I had anticipated pain, but they give you ant i anesthesia. They give you anesthetic cream for your face and that takes an hour and a half to kind of, you know, numb you. But then I hadn't anticipated the slight smell of burning . Burning flesh. Yes , which I did find kind of like woo . Was it like being at a delicious barbecue? Yes, with some slightly gone off sausages that have been in the fridge for too long. But anyway, what this treatment does is it you have a week long turnaround, not sadly for Sophia 's was a bit longer. She does react badly to everything she's ever had See out of one eye now . So it was very red and then it was a little bit swollen, but then after seven days gone and if it's still a bit red , you can use some colour corrector. But the thing is because people at home would be going you still look awful . It takes read those comments. Okay . Don't scroll down . That was one of my favorite comments about us. Who are those two old crones ? I mean, our names in the title. Yeah, really . Which are you not understanding? Old Crone One, old Crown two . Can't you read? So yes, it's a weak recovery and you can use some color correct it that green stuff to get rid of any redness. Oh , and the good thing is the effects take up to nine months. So in a few weeks time, I will be twenty four again. You won't be recognized. Oh my goodness. Well, keep an eye on that, shall we? You know what then? Then you could enter a young writer of the year , which I've just been a judge of No, I told them I'd mention it, so I should mention it. Yes, yes. Sunday times, young writer of the European will enter for that? Well, soon, maybe . I wouldn't do it today . Maybe not using a pot ocol . I've always wanted to be a young musician of the year as well on the BBC. I could go for the double. Yeah, actually you'd be the first person. I mean one year, I won both of them. Young musician and young writer. It is a bit ages to do young writer and young musician. Ages Where's my old writer an old musician of the year? Well, you're quite right that they should do one of those prizes. Yeah, dear BBC. Are you entering? Are you entering that? Yes, I am . Hi, I'm the old writer of the year . Congratulations . Maybe you should be distinguished writer of the year or something. What a nice term for elderly or not in the fur over the hill writer of the year. Alive? Is it Living Writer of the Year Yeah . Still living right here. That would be good. You can enter that. Yeah. Good at the moment. Still living brackets just . Yes, we're giving this prize as quickly as possible . It could change overnight. Please hurry to the stage. Curling . How many books have you had to read as a judge on young writer of the year? So many, I can't tell you and it was fiction and nonfiction. Two different categories? I don't know, all in the one category. Oh, okay. So yeah, you actually read a lot of books for it. You like reading? No, I do. And actually what was interesting was the well two things , young people , it turns out, really like writing about young people . So anyone anyone who wrote about anything else , I find myself really enjoying those books more. Yeah , because it's weird because it's not like reading in a way because normally if you just read a book, you either like it or you don't like it. But this, because you're reading so many , you're either liking or not liking book in relation to the other things you've read. If you know what I mean? Yeah, I do. So if I've just read a book about, you know, someone having me a tough time at university, when I pick up another book and it's about someone having tough time at University, you think, Oh God. But the clue is in, you know, young writing. No , because they say write what you know. Those young people don't know what it's like to be old crones They will One day they'll be best living writer Just barely living writer talking of writing Yes Dilemmas or hoy. Introducing Taco Bell's new jalapeno citrus salsa with bright citrus, real red jalapenos, guajilo chiles . Usually, you add sauce to the food, but when the sauce is this good, the food is just there to get the sauce to your mouth. That rolled quesadilla, not a rolled quesadilla anymore. Now it's a sauce shovel. Taco Bell's jalapeno citrus salsa, get it with any item on the cantina chicken menu, while it's here to participate in US Tacabell locations for limited time only while supplies last, contact store for availability. 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That we do graim on our Instagram page at Wanging On, we post all manner of clips and dilemmas. But what about Facebook ? We're there too, Graham. Give us a follow. Maria, if I'm down with a you fan and I'm on TikTok , we are there too, Graham. Again, it's Wanging on and we're on TikTok, Facebook and Instagram, whatever your social media platform of choice. There really is no escaping us. Maria, please open your first letter. I will. Oh, nice stationary. Thank you very much. I made it myself busy, busy, busy . Dear Greyma Maria , I am recently engaged and very excited to start the planning. I'm currently choosing bridesmaids. They consist of my nearest and dearest friends who I've known for years. There are six users so I should have or I could have six bridesmaids. I'm currently at five . My fiance has said Maybe think about filling the sixth gap so it's all matchy matchy. Why are you doing that face? We'll talk about it later. Okay . The only person I could think of is my cousin. We practically grew up together. I had remained close and we get along incredibly well. I absolutely adore her. All the evidence says bridesmaids. The issue is that she is very pretty , very pretty , extremely . I would say I have a normal level of self confidence in my looks. However, this cousin is gorgeous. Anyone would feel fat and ugly next to her. Not a statement just, a fact. She's a cross between Bridget Bardot and Grace Kelly, and tall and slender. On top of that, she's a lovely person. I know in my heart of hearts I just have to get over it and after all, it is my wedding and I won't think about any of this on the day. However, I'm also concerned that my other bridesmaids may feel insecure and I want them to enjoy themselves as much as possible. This will be particularly important when it comes to the bridesmaid dress fitting, which could be a minefield. One bridesmaid has already seen a picture of this cousin and has asked not to stand next to her in pictures. Said as a joke, but you could tell she meant it. Should I just get over myself and make her a bridesmaid? Or shall I be incredibly vain and not make her one? Kind regards, anonymous . Oh , anonymous , get over yourself . I'm really appalled that you should be thinking I'm not gonna make her bridesmaid because she's so pretty . I mean, you know, pretty or ugliness or whatever it's just you know,, it's a clash of genetic material basically. It's not her fault. I can't even believe that you're actually thinking you love her, she's your favorite person, you grow up together, but you're thinking about not letting it be b aribe because she's too gorgeous. This is Love Island madness . I felt like really anonymous should be marrying her cousin. She seemed keener on her than anyone else. I mean, the prescriptiveness of this wedding, the six users and the six bridesmaids is already giving me kind of brightness. I must say, I'm slightly freaked out by the whole , and also the fact that she's just loving the planning and you know , which is good. Look, it's got to be your wedding and you are going to enjoy it whatever. And you're right well, except on the if this is in your head now , I think on the day , every time you hear someone, oh doesn't, your cousin looked lovely ? It will be like a knife in your house. Is that on a bride's day? They don't say, doesn't that bridesmaid look lovely? She's really overshadowed the bride. No, no one will say that. But that's what she'll hear. But if you don't let her be a bride's maid anonymous, you're going to think all day . Oh actually vain and horrible and self absorbed that I wouldn't let my, you know, who I grew up with, who I love and adore because she's too pretty and too slender and a cross between Brigitte Bardot and Roland Rat. A point a point of order. Yeah, gone. Do make her bridesmaid because if she's not a bridesmaid, she'll look even prettier because she'll have chosen her own dress . And she'll look amazing at the wedding , whereas this way you can control it anonymous by putting her in something that doesn't suit her. Why are you joining in with this? You're so horrible. I'm not horrible. She's a bridesway now. Why would you just bridge me now? She just hates her dress. No, so basically we've got to undermine her because she's so pretty and so slim and all the bridesmaids wearing pala clovers I think I don't even know you. What have you done with Graham Norton? Look, I think I think the problem is there are too many bridesmaids is the point. It's too late now. I have six bridesmaids. Like that is sex dresses. It's just it's insanity, but anyway, this is what you want. I think you have to let the pretty person be a bridesmaid. Thank you for a reason finally showing up because you can't, I just feel whole thing about beauty and how people look. You know, you've got confidence anonymous, you're getting married to the man you love. Everybody is different. But your photographs will last a lifetime. I'm really speechless on this one. We're looking at the pictures going, ooh, who's she? Yeah. And they're not pointing at you. Yeah. And in the fullness of time, your husband will go off with her . And then you'll have something to cry about. Then you can moan about how pretty she was. Yeah, with six big dresses in your wardrobe It's so many dresses. Look, people like to do a big wedding, don't they? They like do a big wedding and it's gonna the first the only time you're ever gonna mar getried dre,am on , you know I'm guessing anonymous is going to have at least three under her belt by the time she's thirty . How old is anonymous? I don't know. She doesn't say. But we cannot live in this world where pretty people are being discriminated against. I know pretty people get a lot of things, you know, handed to them to them on a plate , but it's not her fault . You can't discriminate on somebody who you love and adore or you profess to. And then you say in the next sentence, I'm not gonna let her be my bratmeade because she's not saying that, she's just conflicted. She's just conflicted. And I get can you not accept that she's conflicted? You're allowed to be conflicted. Momentarily , but not as much as you write to us about it. But also she chose listen, here's the thing. If I don't, what I don't quite understand is how this person who's so amazing and so close to you isn't in the top five. That's the odd thing. I think that's the reason because she know she's gone, I must find at least five people without having to resort to her. And now the husband has said we might as well have six because there's six ushers. Can I just say she's marrying the right man who's encouraging her to have another bridesmaid? That's incredible. I feel sorry for him, frankly. I feel sorry for everyone . Shall we see what people say? The good thing is we're not going. Okay, let's find out what the Wangers have to say. I'm really appalled by that. Yeah. I'm with you anonymous hour. Find out when she's booked a holiday and then have the wedding then . Catherine says oh it's just the bridesmaids being insecure ha bobody wants to be overshadowed by a pretty bridesmaid. I think that's why brides go out of their way to sabotage bridesmaids by picking unflattering dresses. What the hey? An easy fix, find a relative or friend's daughter to be a flower girl or junior bridesmaid to fill the sixth spot. Katherine, no. Have you ever been a bridesmaid? No, well, he's now seeing too pretty and slow. See , see hey, guess what? Yeah Kelly Kelly is going to speak to us using her own human voice . Wow . My main issue here and not actually your dilemma is the fact that you're contemplating six ushers and six bridesmaids. Six , that's twelve people At that point it's going to stop being matchy matchy and start being the sound of music for long, farewell off weed to say ad just Adia Adia to ya and ya and Thank you, Kelly. I feel like Elaine Page . I am Annie Oakley with the Stratford player. I like the small groan at the end. It's like I can't take that back now. Yeah, I've done it now. It's recorded. You could have sent it again. Thank you for your singing, Kelly. And also , I feel like Kelly has a serious point because the pictures are going to take forever but this is wrangling twelve dilemma. And the families aren't even in the pictures yet N yourot wedding. Who are the ers? Not your monkeys . Who are the six stupid users? Yeah. Oh, and which of them gets goddess? Yeah . Yeah. Well, I think they should have a sweepstake for that, you know , all those matches, tiny matches bigger match, all of that. Anyway, Dave Enbrighten says he's a regular wanger . Even if she is Pipa Middleton, she's there to make you look good not to upstate you. You must trust her or you wouldn't consider in the first place. All eyes will be on the bride on your special day. So yes, get over yourself and make a joke out of it if anything. Even if she's not a bridesmaid, she'll be there anyway. Do you really want her wondering why she wasn't asked? Dave , thank you and being on my side. And here's the it is interesting. I'd forgotten the Pippa Middleton moment . I mean, and that's the biggest wedding in the world, all eyes are on you. And Pippen everyone was going, Ooh, who's she? Pipple . It was her bottom, I believe. Yes, it was, yes. Because she bent over to fix the veil or something. She was doing her job . And there' onlys one actually , that's because people with Middleton kind of stood out because she was right there, whereas if there'd been a gang of them , you might have noticed her so much. So yeah, disguise pretty cousin with your gaggle of ugly friends. The other five ugly bridesmaids yeah. And when you one of these bridesmaids not like the other . We all know songs, Kelly. We all know songs . Well done. Raj says it's your wedding and you're totally entitled to choose who does what. If your future husband seeks symmetry , just ask him to get rid of one guy from his lineup. Go on, be the bridzilla. I think everyone is missing the point here. I love people are really invested in this. Vanni has also said to the voice note, here we go. It's very simple. It's your wedding . You need to feel confident and gorgeous going in that day . So you don't need to get over your self, just don't have loads of bridesmaid. It sounds like people will notice her anyway, so you don't need to do anything extra for that. And you know what? Having five bridesmaids is totally fine. It doesn't need to be matchmatty. Life is all about things that are different. But not too different . Not too pricked . Not different in a beautiful way anymore for any more? Yeah, yeah, Maria in South London, not me , says having been a bridesmaid six times I have no doubt it's really not from you having been a bridesmaid six times I have no doubt this is a problem my friends have had. Jokes aside the, simple solution is something I've had to grapple with many times. An unflattering bridesmaid dress decent enough to look good in your photos but not her normal style. Or make her get into hair and makeup first at six AM so then it's a pain to keep tidy or just suck it up and enjoy the day. You're the one getting married after all. Basically she's trying to sabotage the pretty one. That's what Maria in South London is saying, make her so her makeup is running and in a bustle. And the thing is you can't sabotage pretty well because even if you put her in an awful dress, people will go, wow, you look really good in that dress. Don't fight that dress. Yeah. And the other bridech will then be in mad and terrible then make them look even worse. So yeah, there's no way there's no way around this. The thing is the bottom line is the bottom line is, you know, I get your thing that oh why should she be punished for being pretty da da da but I think the thing that's coming through all of these responses is it is this woman's wedding day . She can do what she likes. You know, you can invite who you want, you can not invite who you want, you can have twelve bridesmaids, you can have one, you can have none. So the important thing is that you feel comfortable. I think the guilt . I think that the guilt of not having this cousin out. Who's grown up with who you love and adore ? And I think it outweighs your insecurity. Yeah . So on the day, I think better to feel, better to go. And also look, in the end, your pictures will be nicer because she's in them That pretty girl amongst all the other minos ? Yeah, I think you also get a basket of kittens just to try and cheer the pictures up. I think Graham is right. You will feel this is something that you will remember forever and if you don't do the right thing. And also, you know, give this girl who is your favorite and you love her and she's lovely on the inside and on the out, what is she going to think? Why aren't I a bridesmaid? Yeah. We absolutely have had a huge response to this from the Wangers and if you'd like to get involved you can just go down to the comments. What do you think? Should this bride cut her beautiful cousin out of a wedding party or include her? Let us know . And in an instant, we'll be back with our second dilemma of the day. 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Oh, but he's that's not a good place to put a protein bar. Yeah, he's he's like a gazelle at that moment, but everyone else very hard. And people in New Zealand were so impressed because it is a proper ly difficult mountain. What are you watching? I am watching Formula One because I have been a Formula One fan since about the nineteen nineties when I had a boyfriend who was a driver, not in Formula One, obviously. No. At a car. Yes . Go fastest stripes . But also when I went to Silverstone to the actual formula, did you? It said go fastest stripe boyfriend. Yeah. I mean, it is very noisy, of course everybody has to wear ear defenders and the drivers are probably not much bigger than that. I'm just holding up my thumb and forefinger. Oh yeah. They're really titchy. Well look, a TV license coffers you to watch over four hundred TV channels and everything on BBC iPlayer. To find out more, go to tvlot co dot UK slash pod . Maria? Yes. Where it re hasach meed? You've got a second letter. I have . I hope it's not as contentious as the one first. The one with two on it. Okay . My best man is far too pretty . Dear Graham and Maria, I have a problem colleague at work who touches me inappropriately, but not in that way. Read on. When I was new to the office, this woman committed me to lunch daily. With the questions she asked, it was like the Spanish Inquisition , although that at least had the prospect of ending in death. I like this moment. Yeah, I do too. She's so nosy, but I'm quite dull, so she eventually lost interest in me. This was all fine until recently when she was moved beside me. I wear headphones so that when working I can avoid her questions and do my job. So to get my attention she now touches me across the ribs , not a one finger jab, but a slow forefinger on pat. This has happened about twice daily for a number of weeks. It gets more uncomfortable. I went for coffee with colleagues and she said something aimed at me , then a hand slid between the chair and me and across my lower back in a way that I would expect from a companion of the intimate variety . She lingered for maybe two seconds and it caught the eye of my colleagues . How do I diplomatically end this? I clench my fists, tense up and recoil from her whenever she does it, so a hint is not enough. I have very conspicuously said I have a boyfriend . I am not a touchy feely person . Uncomfortably yours , touched but not in that way. Well , anonymous person with a boyfriend, touched but not in that way. I think you are being touched in that way. I think this is inappropriate touching. However it is, you know, when you say not in that way, you mean in a sexual way, it's still inappropriate. This is still your space and she is invading your space and touching you when you don't want to be touched. I just think you have to say to her , I have asked you not to do that touching thing. I'm really sensitive . You know, you have to make it a serious thing, not make a joke of it because it's annoying you so much so that you've written to us. I know. And God knows what do we know about anything? Not H Rs or HR I know We never worked in offices . We don't know but no, I think you have to say this is not what I want from you. Yes, I think whatever you've said so far has not been enough because there's a little going on. The good thing is a colleague has now witnessed it. Yes. So whatever she says next, it has to be very direct and you know, it can't be open to interpretation. It can't be going I don't you know, I don't enjoy that. I'm not touching feet. All of those just. You need to be kind of going, this isn't good . And look, I don't want to take, I don't want to make it a big deal. I don't want to have to talk to HR or whatever . So if you could stop. I mean, you're assuming that this is a woman. It could be she says she or he says I have a boyfriend . So but either way, whatever whether you're a woman or a man, this is inappropriate. And we don't know. I mean, the thing is, I think there's a slight towards the end , we get a slight hint that maybe they're beginning to think it is a sexual thing. But we don't know that. It could just be this woman has no boundaries and doesn't quite understand that you shouldn't do this. You would think in twenty twenty six working in an office you would know you can't just slide your hand around people and everyone think it's going to be a good thing. Any touching is inappropriate if it's unwanted. And it's clearly unwanted. And so you have to be very, very clear or to her and say, No, this is not going to happen anymore. We can't have this. You don't want to involve HR. No, and you don't think you could say that. I don't want to involve HR. But I don't know if you should even mention HR because you take a joke. Well, no, because I think you have to up the stakes here because, you know, they're saying they have said, I have a boyfriend. They have said, I'm not touching it. You know, they've they've made it clear, they don't like it. It's still happening. No, by making it clenching fists and tensing, which has not made a difference. I mean, no, but they've said these things. Said I've got a boyfriend and clenching and tensing up. That's all that's happened thus far. Oh, so she hasn't said no, I'm not a touchy felly person. This is all that's happened. This watch touch . I have a boyfriend . I have a boyfriend . And I'm really happy about it. at the moment . So yes, be clear. This is not amusing to you. This is not wanted. You must make this woman stop. And if you don't shut it down now, it's just going to go on forever. It's a sort of bullying thing. It's very passive aggressive to touch somebody when they don't want to. It's a power move, isn't it? It's kind of like I own new And it's kind of going back to the fact that she insisted on having lunch with you every day , which is kind of a similar move in a way. Wanting to find out everything about you and then moving into the chair next to you, even though you have headphones on, this has to be stopped really now because it will escalate. Do you think some of the Wang Dang have a job?? Really Hope so . Some of them have been in an office once . Here we go. Chris says I would say next time it happens loudly and over the top Ooh, you're very handsy and then calmly say please respect my personal space. I don't like that. I'm not a touchy feely person. If they don't listen, well it's time to set up the hidden cameras and head straight to HR with the roaming hand s footage. Then the last time they touch you will be the hug goodbye when they get fired. Let's not go to the fired quite yet, but I do think it's quite good to say something you know audibly so that the rest of the office , I'm imagining open plan here, great. Yeah. Members of the office can hear so that you know, you have witnesses here. So I would say hidden camera not a good idea because then you will be fired. Why? Hiding again for filming people without their permission. Yeah. Just saying it's good. Nick says you both get fired and then have different jobs in different places and then we all get together and get the same job. Nick says my advice stop wearing deodorant come on Nick. Stop wearing deodorant, eat lots of beans to encourage the breaking of wind. Within a few days, she'll move on to someone else sorted. I wonder if Sam's got something more sensible to say. Let's listen to Sam. I think man or woman, if she's making you feel uncomfortable, you have every right to tell her to back off. But I'm reading into the question you say you're not interesting and you mentioned your boyfriend . Is he real? Or are you doing anything to lead her on for a bit of attention? Maybe you're loving the chase, so I'm curious . I love that Sam has gone deep on the question because what I liked at the beginning of the letter was the joke thing abouty the Spanish Inquisition. And so I think she was joking when she was saying, I'm not very interesting. Don't you? I don't think that's what's in question here. No, but she did bring it up that like she stopped having lunch with me because I'm so dull. Yeah. But I think that was kind of a self deprecating joke. I don't think she really believes that. No. Do you think there is a boyfriend? I don't think it matters. No, no it doesn't matter. I just wondered if you. Sam was interesting. I'm sorry, I didn't close you down. No, no, close me down. But shut up . Whatever. You know, whether she's fascinating or not, whether she has a boyfriend or it's made up, somebody is still doing something. But what he was saying is that you're leading her on. Which I don't think that's true because she's managed to shut down the lunches successfully . So actually , as bad as the touching is, they're better than lunch. That last an hour. Yeah . Rachel says in my fifty two years of experience, I've discovered that if something really irritates me about someone, it's likely others have been irritated by the same thing as well. It may not be the first time she'll be hearing this and you absolutely need to tell her that you like your personal space and don't like being touched. What's the worst that can happen? You lose someone who you don't want as a friend anyway ? I like Rachel. I think Rachel is wise in your fifty two years of experience. You have gained wisdom, Rachel. She has. Yeah. It's taken fifty two years. Finally, the penny's dropped . Sherri says, I would simply say to her, I should have said this when we first met, but I really dislike being touched. I hope you can respect my boundaries . If she does not respond well to this or ignores your request then I would go to HR. Well, there's a lot of, you know, say it and then go to HR. Yes, but also can I just say I think Sherri, the word boundaries is very good to use to use because it sounds semi official. It sounds like a written warning. Yeah. Boundaries . I like it. The other thing you could do is wrap yourself in barbed wire and go to work like that and say , Are you getting the message now, lady? Too much ? Where do people do that in offices anymore? I don't live they so rarely. In the seventies, that's what we did for Hansy directors touched wherever you are in the world . Hopefully you'll manage to diffuse the situation. Thank you for sharing your dilemma. Now time for am I weird? Maria? Yes , I do have one that I'm just doing . The format remains intact . Today's Am I Weird comes courtesy of Linda, who's down under in Padstoe, Sydney, Australia. I was there last year. Seven seven weeks. Yes. Did you have a nice time? That was really good fun. Hi Gramma, Maria. Am I weird that I let my dog lick my toes? Phew . Nobody knew how that was gonna happen. Really? That was a stinks . When watching the telly, if I'm wearing socks, my dog will consistently tap my feet until I give in and take off my socks so that he can get to my toes for a good lick. My partner thinks it's weird and disgusting, but maybe he is jealous because it's only my feet that my dog wants to lick. I mean, I wouldn't be jealous because presumably your dog wants to lick your feet because they're the sweaty, smelly ones. Yeah, I think that's the thing, Linda, is that, you know, salty sweat. Yeah . And also I think there's something like the last problem, sort of ownership about somebody when they want to . I mean, I had Dolly who was a real licker of faces, which was horrible . But this new one that I have I say new, three years old, Raffe , Raffie, who's normally here, but is busy having a regular wangers will manicure . It does like a bit of a toe lick. Bailey used to like licking just that bit of your elbow. Sweaty bit again just there. Yeah. So I think basically what Linda is saying is that her feet honk . She's got really I mean, I imagine fungus and go . No , they don't swell. And I mean they don't because happily the dog the dog's the closest to wash they get . It's very warm in Sydney. Oh, I forgot that yeah she's wearing socks in hot weather. Yeah, why ? Why aren't you wearing your phones, you knowa . A stylish sandal, Linda. A croc maybe. But they're quite sweaty. Dare I say, not the ones without the furry bits. Yeah, no, I like I like the fleece. You like the fleece . Let's not go back to the croc argument. But anyway, Lind a, I don't think it matters really. It's kind of you don't want to encourage it in company . It's also when Bailey was the dog that I've had who wanted to do the most . And it gets to a point where it's not you just like, oh, stop it. Just stop. You know, because in the end you're watching Telly or whatever and you just let the dog get on with whatever they're doing. Slog is not chewing through the wall or chewing through the wires on your tele . You just but it gets to a point where it's just Oh, get off me, stop it. So it's weird that Linda just lets the dog do it for hours. If they could just go and then stop, but it is kind of constant . But also like, what does she do for a living? Does she kind of you know tread sausage meat? Like why is the dog? Why is the dog tapping her sock? Like what is so delicious it's in there. It's fresh sausage meat fresh . Yeah. You know, sausage meat. Yeah, either way all soft and smashy. It's me. I do that. I do that. I roll my trousers up and in I go. I have to keep my feet very clean, but luckily I've got a dog dog Under the nails and everything . Yes. Health and safety gone mad I tread sausage meat for a living. I don't actually say that next time what do you do for a living? I say I trade sausage means. Linda, Linda, Linda. You're not particularly weird and your dog certainly isn't weird. Your dog is normal and natural. I think it's not something you want to en courage or tell people or tell people because clearly, I mean it's no accident the dog is tapping your foot and not your partner's. Yeah It doesn't mean stinky, it just means sweaty and it doesn't start to stink for a while after you get a sweaty foot. If you've noticed I can report for the front line of sweatiness . I pay close attention to personal hygiene. I mean, if your dog was kind of delving into your shoe, then that would be a kind of smelly problem, wouldn't it? It would be liking smell. But he likes sweat and it's he or she likes sweat and it's you and it likes your scent and all of those things that make you feel kind of affectionate towards your dog. What are we saying? Linda, is she weird or not? Not weird. I'm saying not weird , but have a word with yourself. At a wash . Get a new job. Yes, sausage meat stamper is not for you . Not with the dog in the house . On that note, we end this week's wanging on if you'd like to get touched for a future episode with an am I weird or a dilemma, all you need to do is email us wanging on at listen. com uk and if you need our Instagram, you can find us at Wanging On and that's where you'll find links to proper advice because Greham and I don't know very much, do we? That is true. Yeah. Wang Your with Graham and Maria is a listen production. See you next week everyone Ryan Reynolds here from Mint Mobile with a message for everyone paying Big Wireless way too much. Please, for the love of everything good in this world, stop. 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