Friendship breakups and anniversary celebrations

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Join topcashback.co.uk today and start adding that extra bit of joy to your spending . Hey guys, welcome back to another episode. We have the lovely Georgia Haboo with us again today. We're talking all things wedding dresses and raising Chelsea and then obviously the usual dilemmas enjoy guys love you hello ladies and gentlemen george is back on the put today. And it's our first time seeing each other since I got engaged. I know, I've already seen the ring, obviously, screamed, excited. I don't want to think about it again now until until next year or until closer to the day. Everything's the big things. Yeah. Then don't. When I was first doing it and researching stuff, it was all that was on my mind. It's actually really And then I was like, I feel this is all I'm contributing to conversation, but then I have to stop myself from talking. Because all I'm gonna talk about is the fact that I put my band or I bit my photographer. One question really quickly though. Have you started looking for dresses? Emma Beaumont's doing it. Oh She reached out to me, she's like I really, really would love to do it for you. I was like, oh my god. Do you know sort of what you want? Kind of. I had tried on then I then booked some appointments a few places to like think about why light. Sent her loads of pictures and I went up there and she like had this like a twill to my measurements. She's amazing, isn't she? Unbelievable . Like got my vision, but better. It was like insane. And then had all these different fabrics. And then like she's like, now go have lunch and come back. And then we came back after lunch. And then she'd made this sh extra thing and I was like, Whoa. Oh my god. Are you gonna do one or two dresses? Two. I'll definitely I think it's like I'll be done with like the the worry about the white dress afterwards. Well so you only get hopefully married once. So like you may have to do th three. I hadree. Yeah. Yeah. I might do that as well. I don't know. Let's just see. Seems a waste thing not to wear the big one or like the main one like the whole time. I know you're switched to something from my up till my first dance. I don'd only planned to have two and then literally could day before I flew, so brand, yeah, sent me that um short one. It was the glitterest thing, I'll never forget the lights just on you and it was just like shudder shudder shovels. It's like a little fairy, it was so nice. It really caught the light. But yes, and then the slinky one before was like white beads, no? Long. Yeah, but it was so freaking hot. Was it heavy? It was yeah because it was fully beaded. That's why I'm thank god I had that third one because I put I was planning on properly dancing in the long one and I was like I actually can't move and I'm dripping. TikToks of people being spun around in the big dresses. I'm like, that looks amazing. I feel I can't I can't I don't know what you're gonna go for. I feel like it's it's not necessarily unexpected. I mean at the end of the day there's only so many sort of styles of dresses. I think there's like probably five categories in them like Yeah, but people surprise you don't they? Because some people are like, oh she definitely wears Slinky and then she wears a like a massive one but then you're like oh but it yeah True. I don't know if you know what I also want to bring back? Right? UK weddings. Let's bring back some UK weddings. Oh my god. Do you know what even better? London wedding. Uh no right, yeah. I if you live in London. I would play a wedding where you live. Where you can go home that last week. Oh Absolute heaven. But then also really annoying for the like how nice was your whole weekend, Shendig? Like that, it was a full people of that to like celebrate over the full weekend and like really just settle in. Yeah, it is true. And the build-up of the night before like it's really fun. It is really fun, but as a guest, probably actually in hindsight quite annoying. No, I think it's fun. The only annoying thing is when you've got like hens and weddings back to back that are all abroad and you feel like you're living out of a suitcase, but you're like, fucking I don't want to wear for the next day. And then all your holidays, it just depends on weddings. Also, your new house looks so fun. Like all that renovation. Talk me through what you're doing now. Oh isn't house nine doing your living room? Yes. How far along are we with all that? We are pretty much done. Barry just sent me a picture of the we've got getting a marble fireplace made, and that he's just sent me that it's finished, so it's gonna get shipped and arrived on Wednesday. And then then that just getting that installed was like the last like building work, and we're getting curtains made, and then just waiting for furniture. But some of it's right. Fun aesthetic stuff. That's actually so unstressful. Yeah, it's and also house mine have done it all. Like it's really easy because they've just done links. Buying all like the Wait, just send you links on Watch A Bar. Yeah, so we did like a virtual consultation. I didn't know you could do this to interior design. So they just like you send pictures or videos of your house and then they put together a fee. Yeah. And then they send you the links and that's it. So like this paint colour here, this is the layout, you need to do this is the furniture. And they've even done like s for our shelves in high tea side. Yeah. So I just yesterday was buying all the books, the plant pots, the cabinet. It's such a good hack . So fun. Oh my god. It sounds really hard. Do you like shelf styles? Styling shelves. I've actually had to embarrassingly let go on YouTube and be how to style a shelf. And there's this woman called Studio McGee. Have you seen her? She has really nice series on Netflix. She's literally like house nine, but in America, like this the taste is virtually the same. They've not s told me exactly how to style it, they've told me what to buy and they've done like an inspo pick of styling. So I will have to do it kind of myself. You would think that they would virtually with AI put those exact items on the shelves. You would think, actually. You would think. I would ask, is it possible? Show me exactly where to put that handle. Because otherwise it might look creepy shit. And you'll be like, oh Also, st shelf styling adds up. It's like I wanted to get some handles. People keep commenting on my TikTok and my Instagram like, why is there no handles on your wardrobe? I can't afford it . I've Googled some and it's like 15 quid for one fucking handle that I like. I got some from Amazon. And I'm like, that's too expensive to spend on handles. Fuck it, I'll just carry on lift opening it in the top of those things you can put off ever and ever and ever you know what we should be doing which is actually what I'm doing now because well yeah going to antique fairs and shit but I'm like, it's finding the time to go to an antique fair and then you have to haggle people, take cash. 'Cause one of their things that they put on to buy was like a oil painting in like a in a like an old antique Yeah, yeah. But it was it's obviously really it looks really old. Like you'd get it from a charity shop and it was four hundred pounds. I was like, I'm sorry I'm not I'm gonna go to charity shop so find that. Like I'm not spending that. So I actually bought that so I will be having to more like Facebook marketplace. Yeah, I feel like those sort of places I'll find that. Because that is gonna be someone's rubbish. I feel like that's something. Someone's gonna be like, oh my grandma's old painting, but uh so I don't need to spend four hundred pounds on it. I'm gonna buy it for like ten pounds. So it might go to the charity shop. Oh you know what is brilliant though, first dibs? Oh no. Phenomenal. One piece of art that we've got, I bought from there and I w I scrolled for weeks and weeks and weeks. I just like set it aside. I was like, I really wanted art, but I didn't want rush anything. And I wanted it to feel I wanted it to be something that was like really cool. Not not expensive as such, but something that was gonna be like a piece. And it's all these like auctioning places that put it online or like secondhand places that put it online and there's really cheap and also they have like Picasso's on there. It's like everything. You will find loads. Well that's where I'll go looking for it then. I can really you're gonna get stuck in a whole day because it's so fun. There's also those good places I guess on like Instagram. I feel like the in Instagram is mad at the moment for like the Chanel new collection. My whole feed is people doing unboxings of this new Chanel collection. Tell the You know what also the algorithm that has not stuck is the Ridewell algorithm has not stuck on my Instagram. Really? That's no matter how much I've tried. Maybe it hears me gate on Averett and it like it goes, oh I'm gonna show that. It's that advanced. I'm gonna get first dibs ads, aren't I? I know God you well that I'm excited for you to I would do actually think that the ads that come up on my Instagram are always so relevant. I'm like perf I'm gonna shop that. It is really quite useful. It is useful. Like if you're looking for something to particular and then it comes up in an ad, you're like kinda glad you were listening. It's so good. And I'm like, that I'm gonna buy it. Yeah. That's exactly what I was looking for. How did you know ? I love it ad. Yeah, me too. I also saw um myself pop up on an ad on YouTube yesterday which really alarmed me from the from the free people thing I was like, oh my god, oh my god, that was so cool. I know, but I didn't really realise where it was going. I feel like you kept that quiet. Like I I didn't really know I guess how big it was gonna be. Well, it wasn't that. I don't know. Anyway, I was on YouTube and I was like, oh that's fun. And I tried to like, you can't stop a YouTube ad. I tried to show Toby and then it ran out. Oh, that is so annoying . There is something so attractive about like my husband's not like this. My friends have definitely husbands like this where they like their husbands just do everything. Like one of my friends's husbands built their kitchen . Like he did their kitchen. He's he also was a finance bro who built her kitchen renovation. She built my lucky story. I know. We tell her every day. Honestly. Gets up, goes to work at 5 a.m. because he's a trader, gets home after, picks the kids up from nursery, builds a bloody kitchen, built her pantry. What's she doing? She's a nurse. Oh my god, but I don't know. Well, what couple. I know. Christ, well I don't have that. No. I actually had to tell Jobie what to do the other day. We wanted we had like some hooks. So you have like it's like a wooden panel that like hooks onto the wall and then you have like the hooks coming off it, right? Yeah. John Lewis none, but I got it a few years ago. Had it in one of the cupboards and we were like, actually it should move to this cupboard to he was like oh yeah we should get mad to do that I was like no no no no take that off the wall you see those hooks in there I did that I hung that so he was like oh okay so I put it in this cupboard and I was like, yeah, figure it out. So where do I get the screws from? I'm like, take those screws out of the wall first and then reuse them. He's like, but I don't have a drill, you don't need a drill. I asked him exactly how to do it, and I was like, this is really unapprofit. I'm gonna cool off the engagement. Barry gets uh task rabbit to like hang up a bit of painting. That's different. Hanging up a painting's really hard if it's big. Fair. Barry gets tasked rabbit for everything. I we literally have been arguing about because officer doing this renovation. There's so many things, the bills come through, and I'm like I, could do that. Like can you do paint it? Yeah, exactly. I'm like tape bellow for the afternoon. I'll paint it. But how do you think it's harder than you think? Like when you watch Parsons Green painters who are . But I've watched them a lot and I think I've picked up some tips. So I keep saying to me, I'm like I'm gonna tackle that next. It is quite I do think it's quite specialist when they get the small paintbrushes on they go around all the like . All right, well when you've done a room, let me know. I actually did a door 'cause again, Barry was trying to get them to come in one day to you this door and I was like, I'm just gonna do it, tell him they came. And I did. And then he came home and went, Oh they come and did the door and he went, Oh it's really good and I went, I did it and I was like, see a doll jug, do it. Have you watched Racing Chelsea yet? I've seen the first episode. I only the first episode. Yeah. But I'm also like, I know what you do every day. No, it's really good. But maybe I should. It's really, really good, yeah. It's it's really like um wholesome. Is it? Yeah, like and really funny. They're number one on Disney. I know. I keep seeing every day. I'm like, my God. I know. That is wild. It is wild. What was it like for you being on your first bit of reality TV? So awful. I come across so fit. Yeah, I do. I'm like, yeah. Also as well, horrible watching yourself on TV. Oh my god, do you think I know all the insecurities? I need I know this is good facial reconstruction. And a fucking haircut. Oh my god, I need a haircut. Oh no, hair looks phenomenal. No, I need a haircut desperately. I feel like you've had one since I had I've had one in the last year. Would you ever go like being short, no? No. As a part of really thick as well. My hair so it goes out when it's phenomenal. It needs like the weight to put it down a bit. Yeah, okay, that makes sense. But yeah, I just look quite stupid. No stuff. Can I talk about real house lives of um no I don't mean house lives ladies of London. I've spoken about it before. I just love it. Who do you like? I love Martha. No not Martha. Martha's best friend. The one with the with the one with the curly short.. Yeah. Yeah, me shortly The one with the burst. Really cool. She is amazing. I like give that woman some sort of an award just for existing. She's I've never known anyone, like what a character. I love her as well. And yeah, and her house when she did like her house. I love it. She's calling it Grotted. I'm like, I just love everything about her. Like she's just so amazing. She's great. Who seems to be the one that's kind of like getting away with everything at the moment? Oh my god, the sweet etiquette girl's really cute. Oh my god, she's so sweet . I love her. Like also Missy's tit falling out every surviving . Like literally every minute her boobs out and Mark France is like, oh tits out again . It's so funny. You know what? It's really dramatic, but really light. But that's what happens, and then they all get darker and darker. I feel like when these shows they start really light and like it's like fights, but catfights, but then as these seasons go on, they need more content and they're like more desperate to get like good storylines. Yeah, and then they dig and they dig, and then suddenly you're like, Okay, you're having an affair with your best friend's husband's wife or imagine. I also watched a film that I thought was so boring about a hawk. So this woman buys a hawk. She keeps it as a pet and it's so dull. It's like she's grieving her dad, bless her. And I thought, oh, she's got this hawk because her dad had a hawk. No. There's no no sort of relevance. And it's just it's just her like taking this walk to the woods. And for sticking it out. I was at Toby's parents' house and I was like, honestly, I kept going, Oh, like this out with me. Like, can we fucking change it? I was so bored. Oh, God. Not exactly. I can imagine it was really good as a book. It was a book. That's the sort of book I'm not gonna read. We had a book club with my friends for a while and we just have such different tastes. Like a lot coup two of my friends that like did English lit degrees and every time she'd recommend they thought the same about my books, I'd be like, look, thrillers, great. Do you want to read it? They'd be like, oh my God, so low brow. And then they would send me a book about a war photographer and a story of her life. And I'd be like, Oh my god, this is so hard. I can't do it. It's also no, I would not, I would not survive in that book club for m more than a day. We should start a book club. I feel like we would like the same sort of book. I might read it literally a third of the pace of you though. Maybe even sort of an audio book. People always say that, but it's not the same thing. It's not. I actually there's not when I'm on holiday, obviously I can't do something else to have a child, but I used to there's I would nothing I love more than just like reading a book a day on holiday. Now I read like a book a year. I went through a stage of reading loads of books, like loads of the page team books. I loved. And they were like really easy, like simple storylines, just bit romantic, always about the yarn. Do you know what I mean? Like it was like that was like basically the whole book. And then they'd have sex, write the last four pages or something. And I was like, great, it's all I'm asking for. Perfect And now I'm ready for something a bit more serious. I like a crime thriller. No, no, we 're murder. We shouldn't book club together, no. I also not how do you know about all these fairy porn books? Not I think they sound really weird . But so many people love them on TikTok. But also I guess like that's like Twilight was like vampire porn. True. But apparently it's not actually like yeah. Apparently it is more vampire diaries vibe. My friend said it's actually good. Well maybe we would like it. I know, but they're always like really thick and they look a bit like fairy and a elfin and I'm like that would be a bit cringe getting that out on the bottom. My husband would like those. Fucking loves Lord of the Rings. Come on, that's different. That's a classic. Yeah, and it's not porn. Oh , it's a mystical life . Oh, he's gonna hit if he's like love fairy porn.. Oh my god But I think it is a bit when I see people on the tube reading books, I always then Google them to see what they're like. So I'm just like, why are you doing that? I don't know. It just gives you a bit of an insight into what they're like thinking about. Maybe like you get the fairy porn book and then get a really in like a Dickens cover. Yeah. No. No, that's quite a good idea. I'm sure people do that all the time actually. I bet they do. Do you remember when everyone was like reading for Fifty Shades of Grey when it came out? Yeah. On like planes and stuff, and you'd be like, Oh wonder what part you're at? I know. Once I was reading this book, it's called Little Life, Saddest, the best book you've ever read. Um, and I was reading on the tube and I'm sobbing because it's it's honestly if you read it, you would you can't not cry. And I was sobbing, these two guys were watching me and they were like, What do you think you know what part you're at? Can we ask? And they are and I I was like, I told them and they were like, We knew you were at that part. Oh my god, that's quite fun. I know. That's girlhood. Yeah, it really is. I love that sort of shit. Yeah, it was really cute. Thank you all so much for being here at our wedding. I can't believe I get to spend the rest of my life with a woman of my dreams. Speaking of dreams, have you ever dreamed of tasting all the colours of the rainbow? Because that is exactly what you get with Skittles. Five bold fruit flavours in every pack lemon, orange, lime, strawberry, and blackcurrant. They're chewy, they're colourful, they're perfect. Just like my wife. So thank you for coming and remember to buy Skittles. Shamelessly promote the rainbow. Taste the rainbow. Right, dilemma one. Hi girls, I have a dilemma with the boy I like slash I'm dating. For background, we've been friends for over two years after meeting at work, and we got really close over the last year, when we were in the same team . He had a girlfriend at the time, but they broke up over a month ago as long distance wasn't working. We started dating about a month after his breakup. By this time he had moved teams at work. Nothing massively changed as we were already close, but things felt a lot more romantic and intense. It was all going so well until we got news that he was rejoining our old team at work, meaning that we will be working directly together. I was already taking things slow with him to ensure I wasn't the rebound girl. We've not slept together yet or anything only kissed at this point, but I feel like him rejoining my team will inevitably put a spanner in the works. How would you handle this situation ? Lots of love. I feel like um you could still keep at the same pace. Just like keep work, work, chat, like don't flirt on teams. Just keep like work chat. Or in meetings like in real life, that would be really bad. Yeah, like keep work chat work chat and then I don't know what she does. It's really hard to know. I'm trying to think about it like with my job and I don't feel like that'll be an issue. Like you wanna have a bit of separation in an ideal world. Yeah. I wondered like if they have to like sit in the same like annoying, you know, you like want to miss someone. And then that anti cipation to like see them at the end of the day. That's all been Yeah, but if they were still in the same company, I'm sure she would have seen him still. True. I don't think obviously this isn't a deal breaker. It's just changed the plan slightly. But you know what? The universe works, the Lord works in mysterious ways. Maybe it'll bring you closer. Yeah. Two of my best friends are married and they were in the met being in the same team work. Really? Yeah. Still work together. Oh my god, that's so nice. You don't really hear people meeting through work that much anymore. God married and they're still working in the same team. I know. I would murder first. I tell you who would be the worst manager actually would be my husband. You're really such a micro management. Oh my god. Yeah, everything about house checking. Just checking, have you done this yet? Just checking, have you done this yet? Do it. You know what? I can only imagine that that's how I am with Toby sometimes. And I have to hold my tongue and I'm like, no, I can't nag, can't nag, can't to the point where then he forgets. He said, why didn't I because I didn't nag you. Oh no, he's got used to the nagging. Yeah. It's like they rely on it. I actually sometimes find myself doing that I don't bother putting a note in my phone 'cause I know he'll remind me to do in two days. That's not good. I know. But you shouldn't nag so much and I would have to fault. It's its own fault. She's not independent with them, are you? Anyway, we've really digressed. I think that this isn't an issue. I think just embrace it. It's great, you get to spend a little bit more time together. Yeah, look at it as a positive. I would just try, like when you're talking about work, don't try and kind of keep True. But yeah, maybe this is just how they started dating a month after his breakup. That is quite fresh. There's no . We've been friends for ages. I feel like there's obviously been burning chemistry there, like over the years, you've been mates. I think this is exciting. Me too. I think look at it as a positive. Yeah. Get to spend more time together, get more comfortable with each other and yeah, might just round things up in a good way. Good luck. Right next to eleven then. Alright. Hi, long time Tiny here. I have a best friend and we're incredibly close. We were incredibly close from the age of four years old till now. Wow. We're both 28. We live in our our same hometown. We went to different universities but constantly visit each other and FaceTiming. Then three years ago, I started seeing my now partner. Things changed almost immediately. She would get annoyed if I didn't reply within an hour. Oh god. But then ignore me for days. I knew her well enough to know it felt deliberate and it became pattern. She even made comments about my relationship, like suggesting he might be texting other girls, but never had anything to back it up when I asked. This has been going on for years, even when I was pregnant last year. Ooh. Things escalated two weeks ago and I cancelled plans because my boyfriend was taken to hospital with a severe allergic reaction. She accused me of lying, saying I only wanted to spend time with him and didn't show any concern. After that, I stopped putting in effort and let the friendship fade, completely fair. Now she ignores me completely, even in public, and I've heard she speaks about my me behind back. Am I an arsehole for letting my friendship go instead of addressing it more directly? Should I try to repair for things now or should I leave it in the past? I think good riddance. Me too. It's just annoying when you it's like it feels like a drama that this girl's making though, like ignoring you on purpose. Just be civil. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Like don't fucking bitch about me all the time. I definitely don't think you're an arsehole though. I think you actually were did nothing wrong. I think you did it like just let it fade away after she was being quite nasty to you. Like trying to like make you question relationship when you're pregnant without any evidence is like a really horrible thing to do. That's really not a nice thing to do. So the fact that you have just like she's done this breakup for you, which is great. Like the she does not need to be in your life. I just fucking annoying that she's still like hanging about though. Yeah, and talking about it. You want to cut someone out and then never see them again. You don't want to hear that they're talking about you and like that they're there and then it just makes for animal like it's just anxiety inducing social environments sometimes, which you need to get you need to grow a layer of skin which is that you don't care. Yeah. And and show that even if you don't feel it and then eventually do feel it. Like really just tell yourself that this chick is so irrelevant. Yeah, I would say there's no need to like open that back up just to say to address her or anything. Um and definitely I wouldn't try and repair things if I were you unless you like you really missed on your life. And also I would think as well when she does speak badly about you to other people, I'm sure it just reflects badly on her and not on you. People will know that you've not done anything wrong. Make sure that you never say anything like about her. Yeah. Good or bad. Like just I literally don't talk about her. And then if someone tries to tell you what she's saying, be like, I just don't care, like let her carry on. Yeah. Just try. Yeah, because you've not done anything. And you would hope that your friends that are being told that like that that she's bitching to go, all right, like stop bitching now. Exactly. Like hopefully they will see they will know what you're like, who you are, but you've not done anything. So it'll just it's more embarrassing for her if she keeps talking about you, really. Hundred percent. It's awkward when you still see like you're like when you share a friendship group and you have to see them all the time. That is a good I get but that's shit. But they um they say with like friendships that some people and what are they called? It's like they say that it's like a train, and like some people get on the train and then they get off the train. And you are the train. I don't know what the saying is. It's like a really nice saying. And then they might get on the train 10 years later down the line, and you sort of rekindle a friendship, which is fine. Like, there's nothing wrong with that. Like, people sometimes people can get funny, and sometimes people don't make you feel good. Like, what's good for your nervous system? Like, you don't want someone like gaslighting you or you need to protect your own accusing you of staff, like asking for like proof. This whole thing that's strange. Yeah, like that's giving you so much stress that you don't need. So yeah, advice to friendship breakups. I just think ride the waves and like be okay if someone's drifting away from you. Obviously, if you love them, it's important to fight for things, right? And like have conversations. I don't think you can just go, well, that's not for me. Like let them drift away, because like then you can lose out on like n wonderful friendships. You do need to have some convers ations probably at some stages. But I think if some people are really like showing you it's like being in a relationship, if someone's really showing you that they don't want to be there, yeah, then don't mate them. You know, like you gotta let that go. You might just be different people in different places or there might be something going on with them that you trigger for some reason, but just move on, know you'll make more friends. Horrible that you might just like bring out the absolute worst and someone and trigger them. I know they like I know one of my friends, her husband thinks that one of her friends like brings out like her boozy side. So he like hates it when they hang out. Like people do. Yeah, I get that. Like friends influence people and sometimes I guess not in the best way. Those people are normally really fun though, especially when you're younger. And then when you get older you're like, okay, maybe this isn't actually very good for my mental life. Actually Barry just had to have like a breakup, not a breakup. Barry just had a breakup with his best friend, but over just them hanging out alone together because they cannot not go on a big night out, and they're like, We're too old, we're dads, we can't do it. Right. So they've literally had to be like, We can go for coffees, we can go to the gym, but if we're gonna have dinner, the g the wives have to come because like I they know we'll rain them in. Sorry. That is just like so silly, like the lack of control. They they cannot do it. Like they're like, we bring out the worst in each other in that sense, just these two particular boys, and they were like, We have to bring the wives. They recognize finally. I mean they have a 35. They've drawn a line on the head. They've drawn a line in the town with that. Okay, ready dilemma three. Hey, this is a very short and sweet dilemma, but I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been through a lot over the past year. We broke up last year in May after three years together. We both needed a few months to focus on ourselves as we both had become quite dependent on each other and had lost ourselves in the relationship. In August, we got back together and we're better than ever. So my question is: do we celebrate our anniversary on the initial day we got together, which is May 2020? Or when we got back together, which is August 2025, and I'm Melissa and Toby got back together after some time apart. So I'm hoping you guys have some advice. I know you guys love a pick, so here is one. Love anon. Oh my god, sweet bees, look. Just to give you He's giving, he's giving Oasis. Yes . To literally all I was thinking. That's so funny. Um I would celebrate both. Why not? Just literally go out for two meals. That it's great, that's spread out just two date nights. Yeah, what's the issue with that? But I would probably also just celebrate the first one. Yeah, I would if I had to pick one, I'd do the first one. Yeah, but just do both. So otherwise you're saying you'd have to be like, Oh, we only been going out for like a year, when you've been out for like five years, really. It's like in um