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I have to start this episode just by prefacing that I had my bonding of my teeth yesterday. So the start of the regression is officially like peaked. And then from now on it's gonna be glow up for wedding. It's the pre-bridal regression. Everybody has one. Yeah. And we can talk about that anyway. So I manageded to get my wding insurance. Which means that we could actually pay the deposit for the venue. What we insured. So that's actually done it out. It's like it's not gonna happen. The thing that we were trying to get insured, which was the main thing, was Toby and I not being able to attend, like God forbid , like I get noravirus, Toby breaks his leg and I'm like, mm-hmm . Like, no, we need to reschedule. They wouldn't cover that. Really? I think if you really, really, really we tried so hard with so many people. Breaking up obviously this would never happen. Yeah, yeah. Nah, don't fancy it today. That's unhinged. I know. I don't think I wonder if they would cover that. I'm sure that you could find someone that sh that could. I I never thought about wedding insurance. I did not even think it was a thing. It's dead. It's important, I think. It's important when you're having a or like let's say your venue burns down. Yeah, this is true. Then what? It's very difficult since COVID, basically. Well, congrats on the wedding insurance then. I know. What are we insured for? We insured for a big fat spot on the wedding day . No. No, we are not. Tense world.'s That that's me. I'm the insurer. So yeah, that's been my week. What else has been going on? It was been called a hen on the weekend. Okay. You've been at hens every single weekend. It's been a lot of hen. Lots of hens. Two so far, but it's May. It's really fun. Weather held out, Cotswolds, hen, very chic. Did it give you an idea of what you want to do for yours? Every time I go to a wedding or a hen, I'm like, wanna do this? Don't think I wanna do that. Yeah. This is just your research development trips now. Every wedding every wedding you attend is just a reiki, really. It is really, isn't it? Um I wouldn't have chosen those charges . One of one of my patients was saying she's she's getting married in Mallorca. She went to do her trial uh makeup trial the other day. Okay. And it she said it was like torrential rain. Mallorca's very storm stood there looking out like ha, okay. And it is one of those things, isn't it? Mallorca. That's why I didn't. Well, one of the main reasons why I was like opting out of Mallorca because also I just think I don't think there's anything more classy than a quintessentially British wedding. I love a broad wedd ing, but I think there's just something. Firstly, there's something really chic about your central London weddings. I'm a big fan of that. When you have like 15 people I think that might be what I do. Have you seen this place, which is what I actually had seen on TikTok, and I was like, that's where I want to get married. Perfect. It's in Greenwich, which I know is actually far away. It's at Goodbye the O2. I have seen it. The painting. Yes, it's a beautiful. I was like, perfect. We'll just do this. Why not? Oh, because Toby didn't want a London wedding because he didn't getting the tube home, which I do get. He wants it to be like more of a weekend away experience. That's really cute. Because I don't want people just nipping back a bit early on the tube. You will stay my wedding. You will stay till you will stay till I tell you. Well, it's like I do understand because then people have the different mindset like when they let arrive to the destination, I guess they're more like you know, when you go to a broad wedding, you're like, I'm in for this whole weekend, I'm here to commit for this vibe. Whereas like if it's just a one night in London, you might be like, gonna book a Pilates class in the morning. And it doesn't I don't know. Notice however would love to attend a wedding like that because it's just easy peasy. I might even host the Pilates class the next day. That would That would be good. Do you know? You have to give people things to do, I guess. You do to keep them in the sort of spirit. What's happening to you this week? Talk to me. How many patients? How many brides? Busy, busy, busy brides. I'm gonna open up preemptiv ely my waiting list for 2027 brides. For 2027 brides. Guys, you don't know how huge this is. I'm gonna open up like 25 socks for brides next year. Oh my god, holy shit. Honestly, this is just a mic drop moment. I can't believe that we're these words coming from. Um so I'm really excited because it's my favorite thing to do is to kind of create that plan and have like a month-on-month plan of what are we doing, where's our starting point? Figuring out your goals. And it, you know, it's more than just about kind of skincare, or it's more than just the treatments that you're doing. It really is kind of gearing someone up to the most incredible, the most important day of their life. It's so much pressure when it's like it is the most important day of your life, but also like to look your absolute best. It's like fuck. But I think that one of my key issues is that you already look incredible. And so it's about not doing too much. And sometimes it really is about kind of like de influencing people from doing too many things. And you know that because I'll tell you all the time, like, stop, we're doing too much. Let's not do that. And I think that's the problem is you freak out. You're like, oh my God, I'm getting married. I want to do everything. I think we have to remember that a lot of these treatments do have they do carry risks. There are impacts. There's long-term impacts of them. So especially when you're getting married, you have to tread very carefully. Everything has to be patient appropriate. It has to be, I wouldn't even say age appropriate, but it has to be the right thing for you to make sure that we're giving you the best version of yourself and the best skin and you're just feeling the best for that day. So when do we start? When do we start? Because we're gonna do s I guess we're just gonna do like what skin boosters and lasers on me that's really all and then obviously Botox. Yeah. I think that we you have to time it out and there's certain treatments that are really the timing's super important, as you know things like antiwinkle injections, neuromodulators, these are things that have a specific onset of results. And then obviously they wear off. So we've got to time that really well. I typically will not put a needle in someone's face probably four weeks before the wedding. Not me, I'll make you do later. Yeah, you'll be out there. Is it too late for this? No. Um just to avoid any risks, anything kind of untoward happening, bruises, we know they can linger. So I usually say kind of four weeks before if you've not done it, if we've not done it by then we're not doing it. Fantastic advice to the brides out there. Four weeks, that's uh don't touch your face. That's it. Don't touch the face. Minimally, minimally, minimally invasive things. You know, we can do your red light, you can do your lymphatic drainage, we can do your non-invasive radio frequency devices, things that are gonna lift, tighten, the things that are just kind of like the icing on the cake, you know. Yes. You know? I love that. Yeah. So four weeks before, no needles, focus on non-invasive, focus on reducing inflammation in the skin. Absolutely no new products. No new products. Do not. I had to say this to my friend, she's getting married at the end of May. And I like gave her loads of like the S leftover PL stuff and I was like, don't try any of this enjoyable wedding. Please don't because you might give her your damp titus or something. Yeah.ah, ye, I'll talk about it Somebody, even your makeup artist, for example, coming in the the you know, the morning off and using some rogue product on your face. So I think minimizing anything new, you want your skin to be super balanced, cons istency is key in that last four weeks. If we're doing things like toxins, and we we'll talk we talked about this in terms of your treatment plan, everyone's reaction to it is different. So I would always say never ever try a treatment for the first time. Right before your wedding. In that, you know, in that period before the wedding, even if it's three months before. Because if you don't like how it looks, it might not even be that anyone's done anything wrong or you've had a bad um side effect. It could literally just be like, actually, I don't like how this looks. And I think we have to consider that you want to look like you walking down the aisle. You don't want to look like someone else. You know, this is the most exciting, happiest day of your life. You want to make sure that your facial expressions are looking like you. You don't want to go look back in 20 years at your wedding pictures and you're like, ah hi, because you couldn't smile properly because you've done too much Botox around your eyes. Um so I I I would always say trial out something like that, trial out treatments in a period before. Right, we're gonna start in the next month. I'm excited. Well I, feel like we've I mean we've been doing this for the last like three years. It's been a marathon. No, I'm joking. But it's not, but also it's just for you, I think, as well. It's about getting some consistency because it'd be quite nice to like go into the month of your wedding not being like perpetually worried that I'm gonna have a breakout or my skin's gonna freak out. I can't with the worry about having a spot or something on my skin. That is just so annoying. But like or having my period. Right, I've got something here that I kinda want to read out. Okay, go ahead. Lots of Brides Online are specifically undoing past work in the run-up to the wedding. Actually, didn't talk about this. This is true. Because they want to look like themselves in the photos and not date the pictures. What do you think of this? I I a hundred percent I've seen I've got a lot of patients who have come in and they're like, right, this is the time, let's get rid of everything. I think that if you are not happy with histor ical work that has been done. We know that Dumulphilla can linger around in the face for longer than we initially anticipated. You know, we it does break down, but it leaves remnants, which can then cause issues and they can all almost look a little bit kind of we always say a bit fluffy but because dermal filler holds and retains water if you have remnants of older filler in your face even from five six seven ten years ago, it can cause that little bit of puffiness. Um, and so it is if you're not happy with that, definitely a good idea to go, okay, let's have a reset. What I would say is, you know, making sure that you're going to someone who has an ultrasound and at least a basic understanding of ultrasound so that we can ultrasound map the face and see where things are. If it's not problematic, you don't need to get rid of it, but a lot of people will have elements of a little bit of dermal filler migration, or they've maybe got dermal filler in from the jawline, which at one point was quite nice and sharp, and now it's just become a little bit almost like fluffy and boggy. And remember, our faces change, we age. So what looked good five years ago You know, what looked good five years ago may not look good now. And so I think doing a good reset is a good idea. And I see so many people at the moment who are coming in to get rid of it and say, I just want to see how I look and I want to start again and take a different approach. I think it's a great approach as opposed to I think maybe in the l over the last 10 years we've been like, put it in, put it in, put it in, totally. And now it's kind of like, let me take it out and see how I look. And honestly I'd say about 80% of the time when we've done that we will kind of reset and go actually I really like how this looks maybe I just want to improve my skin maybe I just want to do some skin boosters, maybe some polynucleotide and not actually fill it back up. Totally. And and I'm seeing that so much. And I think it's really nice because people like I feel like myself. And this is it. Because we lose sight of our real face is. a good idea You get like blindness to stuff, don't you? I don't really know wanna know what my real face is. Oh my god. I think that any trend led aesthetic should be avoided. It shouldn't be trend-led, it's individually anatomical lead, right? Like if it is a trend, you need to avoid it, essentially. Because it is that thing, temple filler, whether it's Russian lips, whether it's, you know, box eyes. Do you remember and there was this poor girl I've I followed on Instagram. She had the threads for the fox eyes and her eyebrow was like in her eye and and then one of them snapped. So it was uneven. But because they were in her skin. They didn't surgically removed. And they couldn't get rid of them. Yeah. So and she said the paint was horrific, and and it took ages, she'd have loads of things. Yeah, threads, threads were threads for a whole era. And you can go in and nip in somewhere and get them done in half an hour. Also, we've all seen Anna Hathaway, if you wanna have a foxy fox eye, just do your little straight away and I was like I wear my hair like this every single day. So Does it hurt though? Like that's not comfort. It does hurt. I have a perpetual headache. Like usually usually I do. I really do. I get in the taxi on the way home and I like yank my hair down. I'm also my hairline is my hairline's going back. I can't wear my hair down anymore. But anyway. She can. I'd say I'd say it's still safer than than a trend-led um trend-led thread lift. Um just a little what else was a trend? The Russian lips? Russian lip were there be like bucal fat removal, a lot of people buckle fat removal buccal fat removal. Also known as a bit chectomy. So people that have like rounder faces naturally will have a lot of buccal fat, but often look really youthful. Yep. So they get it taken away, which then could look good for like it goes like more sunken in here, right? But there's also a risk. Well no, as soon as you age. You need that subcutaneous fat. You need it. If you're removing something permanently as well, we need to really think about what is the long-term repercussion of this because that fat pad has a purpose and as you age you your the fat pads in your face start to shrink and they start to kind of migrate downwards. Those changes happen that hollowing of the face does happen. Of course, yeah, like a lot of people are getting surgeries, but also the face does change. And also, like we're allowed glow-ups. People glow up. They do. What can I say? I also think from how we wear our makeup and and take photos and things that and how we have our hair is so like I'm like I look at some some photos like there's a like an era of time and I know what era of time it was where I look at my parents and I'm like oh my gosh like, you guys look better now. Like just from the way that you like style your hair and do your makeup. And I don't know. Like I just think aging sometimes is actually like so attractive. And I also think that that's talking of that, I think when you're doing you, know b,ridal -wise, that's why everyone wants the no makeup. Makeup because we don't want you don't want it to be trend led. Yeah. Like you don't want your makeup to be a trend. Oh god no. You know, because you want that picture to be timeless. That's very true. Even that is a whole thing, isn't it? Because if you've got your crazy, I don't know, eyelashes. Oh my god, the fake lashes I used to wear. I've had the f the ones that stick out like the individual like pink, yeah, and the corners. But you know, like at at one time that was like a thing. Yes. The thick eyel were they eyelid? I used to wear like two or three. And they used like I used to stack them on top of each other. Can't imagine that. A heavy lid. I think I've seen a photo actually. Yeah, I hope not. And they all thina picky. Also, are we what what's Toby doing for this? Because all of the girlies he needs to laze his nose. We need you to laze his nose again. That's a long time. He needs a bit of vascular vascular. Yeah, because all of your brides come in sometimes with the other halves and it's like a couple of six, which I think is quite lovely because the men the the men deserve glow-ups too. Nine times out of ten, you know, the bride has spent the last year. She's invested her time, her energy, she's made commitments, she's made sacrifices. And then he's literally washed his face with head and shoulders. So annoying. And just like rolled up the morning off, right? Little little little shape. It looks fantastic. You know, it looks fantastic . But that being said, I do have a cohort of brides who will say kind of like three months before, like, do I can do you see men? As if like men aren't allowed. men Men not aren't. They're like, Do you see do you see men? I'm like, yeah. Could you see him? Like, or will you get rid of his blackheads is a big request. So then so then men have then the then the hubbies come in, the fiances . Well fiance. Thank you. The fiancees will come in. Typically it's they need a good good extraction, a good exfoliation, maybe a little bit of laser, maybe just get rid of some of those little vessels. The vessels? The vessels. Are rife at the moment. It's a pandemic. Maybe a little bit of profilo or brofilo. That's lovely. They would like that. I did. That's what I'm saying. How's this done? That'll be like, yeah, I'm down. Yeah. Oh my god, right. There's a lot of hype about Medicube. Okay. At the Mo. Korean brand. And so I need thoughts and feelings on that. Okay. And what is everyone's using. And also the road skin patches, I would love to know. I think let's start with the road skin patches. Okay. The road skin patches are hydro uh like hydrocolloured. Hydrocoloured? What does that mean? Hypercolloured. Yeah, hydrocolloured. It's like a high it's essentially just like a little tiny, it's what what you put on scars . There's no other ingredients in it. It's cute because you can get fun little shapes. Um , you put it on a spot, it helps to speed up healing, it creates a nice environment, a sterile little well, it's not sterile but you know it creates a little environment for the it's either you're not touching it. I think that is good because if you're not picking, touching, inadvertently scratching a pimple, great. So I I guess it's good for that. I don't think it's doing that much else. Okay. Um La Roche Posey have some effaclare ones. They're definitely hydrocolloid, but they've got B5 in panthanol, which is really healing. It helps to support healing. So I feel like something that is supporting healing a little bit more may be more effective for speeding up. So if you're gonna buy a spot patch. I I really like the La Roche Posey F a colour one. Yeah. But that's the issue. I feel like when a sp ot is so big, you kinda want to like not try and cover it up but almost make it more obvious in a fun way, which is why the road patches and the star patches are quite. I know I think I think they're good. I think they're good. I think when at home, La Roche Pose. Yeah, or do like a La Roche and then put like a ction. Nice and cheap that. Just a double layer. And the Medicude, I think, I think are you are you talking about the pink mask that everyone's obsessed with? Mask and then the pads. Yeah, the poor the pour pads are a really good dupe for the um ZO complexion renewal pads. Oh, okay. I will caveat this, they are very strong. Depending on your skin type and what your skin concerns are, I would be cautious of the zero pour pads, but they have a zero pore pad light or the sensitive version. And I think they would probably be more suitable for wider indications and the Mega Cube masks, great. They are the pink ones, aren't they? They're glycerin base, so they make your skin feel nice and glossy. They have uh PDRN, so the you know, polynucleotide, the polydioxy ribonucleotide in them, which uh can't really penetrate much in the skin and and the hydrolyzed collagen can't penetrate the skin, but will make your skin look really glowy, glossy. They are nice to halves. They're not really doing that much, but they're making your skin feel hydrated, look a little bit glowy. Um but ultimately I think we have to think about what we're putting on the skin. I think keep it simple, guys. Yeah, that's it. Right, should we play this game? Yeah. Would you rather Okay. Oh god. Oh no, what is it? Would you rather wake up on your wedding day with a massive zit or never have Botox again? I'd rather have a spot. Where is the spot? If it's a sp I think I think it it''ss if like a big boil in the middle of my forehead. Let's just say it's this. It's the one I've got on my face. No, I'm joking. I think if there was n if I was banned from having banned no modulators ever again. I think I'd be okay. I might be in denial. I would love to watch this experiment actually happen. No Botox for a year. I could do no Botox for a year. What about when I get pregnant? That's true. I mean, it depends where the spot is. Oh god, this one's good. Okay, ready? Would you rather get bruising from lip filler that lasts till the wedding? Or get a f fever blister? Oh a fever blister was a cold . A fever blister from an injection. Oh fucking hell, I'd rather have a bruise than a cold , because I I don't want to display it. You can't put makeup on a cold sore. But also guys No needles four weeks before. It's never gonna happen. We're not gonna manifest any of these things are never gonna happen to any brides, okay? No. Would you rather spend 5k on skin and 500s on the dress or 5k on the dress and 500 on the skin? Definitely 500 on your skin. That can get you like a stunning facial and some botox . I don't think, I mean, I don't think you can get an amazing wedding dress for less than £500 . So I would go £500 on. Less goes China. Have you seen this on every TikTok? You could do a by-rotation. I actually have spied some stunning dresses on bi rotation, so maybe you could actually get away with it. I don't think I would want to spend five grand on my skin. Ultimately, okay, so let's think about this, like jokes aside, if you have had , you know, severe acne. Yes. Like really kind of like a life-changing acne, severe scarring , you know, the psychological impact that can have on people. As much as it does seem like a lot of money, and obviously, you know, it it's not necessary if you don't need all of those treatments. But I think that potentially for some people, walking down the aisle with their body and their skin being the best it's ever been, more so than a dress that you're going to wear for one day, because that's also your face for the rest of your life, actually. So I'm going to I'm going five thousand pound face, five thousand pound dress. Love that explanation as well. Okay. Would you rather have lip filler that looks perfect in person but winning photos, or perfect in photos, but weird in person. Perfect in for person. Perfect in real life. I honestly think that too many people focus on what they look like in a picture and they'll come and say, look at this picture, I've got the one key this side. And I'm looking at them and I'm like, I can't see it, hun, in mid. Oh no, but on a picture. And I'm like, it's fine. Nobody's stationary in real life. Also, face tune, hello. Yeah, let's just edit it up. Who's not editing their wedding pictures? That's true. You know. That is true. You know, so it has has to be perfect in real life. But not perfect in real life, but you know, good in real life, whatever in pictures . This episode of Wednesdays is brought to you by GiftGaff. 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Whilst I'm by hers, still really annoyed by the whole situation, I see she's texting someone and being really shifty about her phone. Oh my god. Oh no, she's not texting him. I asked who it was, and she goes, Oh, it's just so and so and changes the subject. Cuts it later that night when I'm back home and my boyfriend comes around and casually mentions that my best friend's been texting him the whole time I was at hers . Okay. Apparently she was checking in on him, telling him I'd calmed down basically being his little emotional support system, while I was sat next to her sobbing into a bowl of ice cream. What ? No . I asked her about it and she said she was just trying to help and didn't want either of us to feel alone. On paper that sounds sweet, but something about it just doesn't sit right with. me They've always been friendly, but I didn't think they'd have this kind of relationship. Am I being paranoid and possessive, or is it actually a bit off for your best friend to be privately consoling your boyfriend behind your back during an argument. No, no, no, no. I'm sorry. That's awful. Unless they were besties before, if that's his friend and then you're your her friend by proxy, that's the only way that that's acceptable. That's bad. That's bad. Get rid of the friends. Only the only thing I will say is like my friends, especially my friends that like near me live near me, that I went to school with, are very close with Toby. If they're close with Toby, it's a different story. But if she said they're not that close, she said they weren't that close. It is weird. Really weird. Unless he do you think she's secretly loving the drama? I think so. Or unless he checked in with her, knowing that she'd gone to his house. And if he checked in and said, hey, you know, Melissa, I know Melissa's come to yours, just checking in, how are they doing? How is she? That's the only way that that's okay. Totally agree. But also she should be like, oh by the way, he's messaged me to check you're okay why is she being shifty about it be like look I'm just trying to keep the peace I love you both yeah yeah I obviously want you both to be together so I'm just a little bit weird it is weird like why would she not tell you that's weird and you know people do this you, know, you you hear about it you, hear about all these things going on and as soon as they break up, then these guys get together. That's not it, guys. I don't think I would want to admit to Toby that like one of my best mates potentially fancies him. I don't know why, but that's almost like once you say something, it can manifest. Okay. I think Jordan thinks everyone fancies him. When you know someone fancies you,, yeah you kind of play to it a bit sometimes, or it makes you think about them a little bit more. So I wouldn't I wouldn't even want to like say it to my boyfriend. That's obviously a me issue and an insecurity, but I think it is. I think I think maybe like if I was in your position or you and my friend, I would say to you like actually right, we just need to knit this in the butt. Yeah. And we're gonna be smart and just not tell the friend when you have a problem with your boyfriend, which is a shame. She's lied to you. Like you've asked me to be just weird. Oh, it's just so and so. Also, if he'd been really mean to the other girl, they could have been in cahoots and like they could have been like, Oh yeah, tell him this. Tell him I'm really upset. I know where's your fucking girl go to the bottom you should yeah tell him tell him yeah you should buy some flowers. I think she wants to fuck your boyfriend. It sounds like it hate to say it, but it's nip that in the bud. Nip it in the bud. Okay, right. Next dilemma. Okay . I have an excellent dilemma hit. Very relevant. Okay. Hi girlies. I need you to weigh in on something because I genuinely can't tell if I'm being unreasonable or not. So I've been seeing this guy for a couple months, and it's purely a situation ship. It's just sex. Get him go. We have a great time together. He leaves, and then I get to watch Grey's Anatomy in peace. It's honestly perfect. I'm so happy that she's having a great time. Oh my god, I'm jealous. Now here's the thing: before he leaves, he has a shower at mine whilst I chill in my room. I keep all my skincare and makeup stuff in the bathroom. He always takes ages in there, and genuinely I used to wonder what kind of elaborate routine this man was doing in my bathroom. Every morning after he's gone, I'm getting ready for work. I notice that my skincare bottles have all been moved around. My Lancome retinol looks suspiciously lower. My Augustina's beta SPF has a massive dent in it. My Medicure pads are