Dilemma: The Performative Boyfriend

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There's a spontaneous sex that happens like rarely, but it's great. The scheduled in sex ands there' the sex that you kind of don't want to do, but like, you're gonna do 'cause I haven't done it in the world. And then when you get back to that the more you have it, the more you want it. I remember my mum always having like the nicest beautiful expens,ive like,, she'd have one bra and then like three knickers to match it. And I feel like we've lost that a little bit. He told me he doesn't watch porn because he respects women too much, but then liked about fifteen bikini pixels on Instagram in front of us. Just come up downstairs in the laundry and then just kind of join in. Hello, have some pasta with him and then be like, you ready now? If I started eating pasta I would be like eating it all. Hey guys, welcome back to another episode We have Gordon Jordan again today. She's coming irregular at this point I had a really bad night last night. Why? Because Toby normally does the washing up . I do the cooking, which I love. And I'm like, You just stay out in my kitchen and you just tidy up all the shit afterwards. Perfect . It's just the best way to do it, I think. Anyway, he's taking like a really long time in the kitchen. And I'm like, What's going on? He's like pacing and forth from the kitchen outdoors, kitchen outdoors. I can just hear these little footsteps. Anyway, I'm like, everything okay in there right. He's like a bit of an issue with the incincurator. And I'm like, what do you mean? And he's like , I feel like it seems to have blocked up and backed up. And I'm like no . So we have an incincerator. You put all the food down it, gets rid of it down the sink. It's fucking amazing. And somehow he managed to break it and block it. So then he thinks it's a good idea for himself to go under the sink and undo the pipe the pipe. So it then leaks into the plug socket which has the dishwasher plugged into it , the incincerator and my wash tap. So now your water broken . Oh no . And then my friends came to stay with us last night and my friend Mills and her boyfriend OJ is like a really good like handyman, like exactly the sort of person like he can fix like a light like I don't know, like he could undo like a light switch and fiddle with the wires and fix it sort of vibe . So he like sorted the problem out and was like, you need to dry out the socket if it doesn't work by this evening like I'll put a new socket on for you. Thank you . Anyway, they were both in there until like half night trying to fix it. And I was like, this is just not how I want to spend my now just there sh'its all over the kitchen fl oor, everything that was under the sink. Is it fixed? No, not yeah, we're gonna have to see it tub tonight . She feels so sorry for Toby though trying to work it out on his own. I've got to fix it before she finds out going back and forth pacing up and down. And then because the hot the water tab wouldn't work, I was like, Ready to go and bath some water now. I was like, I only want glass bottled everyone because I don't drink out of a plastic bottle. He came back really sheepishly. There was only plastic bottles in Task and he was like, there was any plast ic bottles, like look absolutely terrified . I was like, It's okay Angel. This one time . It's lovely today. It's actually a lovely breeze. Yeah, it's fine today. This is like the weather you want. I actually walked through the park of Belaron the weekend and it was dead. I was like this show is surprising London can't handle the heat not a single person was in that park. It makes me so lethargic like the heat yesterday I don't know it's because we were also recovering from the wedding that we'd been told on the weekend which was amazing. I mean, where was it? She was Norfolk. I don't know if she could have asked her about a fucking weekend or whether like it was sensational. Also we had the sea breeze like on the wedding day. It was amazing. Like oh my god and it was like all my school it was like our first school wedding Oh there's like everyone there from school and like all of our friends and we obviously you'll see each other all the time. So it's just so fun Yeah, there's the first ones I think are always the most fun. They are and especially when it's like your core group. Yeah it's just the best that you don't have to worry about like who you're sat next to like if you need to find a friend because you already know everybody. Can I just say I really hate the traditional weddings of sitting you next to someone who's stranger don't you dare put me next? Like the first few hours like, well this is shit. Oh my friend's right there and I can't talk to her and I want to talk to like Joe from your works HR department. Honestly, it's so funny. No, I haven't . I actually haven't been to a wedding where that's happened to me, thank God. Oh, that's really yeah, I've been to quite a few and I'm like, it's just so shit. Like no one's gonna you want everyone to have a good time. You don't want people to like and they separate separate partner. Like, so I'm like, at least put me near Berry if I'm not gonna be near my friend. I've always been next to Toby every wedding, to be fair. That's all I need. Yeah. And then I can have a stranger to the other side of me if I need to. Yeah, because then you've got like someone if you're like just need a quick minute. Yeah . And you like not making me over there. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Conversation that has barred me the dead. I hate that and I'm so bad at that. When there's like a dead conversation, I just No, it's so annoying. I'm saying and I'm like, what can I do again? I just suddenly swap. Oh, I think my husband I just need to go to the loo and then knock come back because I'm gonna move to the other side of the table . Oh my god how, was I be so Jamie and Sophie? Oh my god, it was so cute . It was really the first time the babies have properly been together for like for a long extended period of time and Bella loves Zoggie so much. Like she gently she just goes Baby even when we're on FaceTime like I was on FaceTime so this morning she was walking with Ziggy in the carrier and she's like Baby Baby Baby Baby she loves him and she just goes really like gently to him like gives him a cut on it. k Aiss on her head. She tries to go for the lips, but he's a bit like Oh my god . She's like it's so cute. How old is she not eighteen months? Yeah , year and half. Yeah, she's waking up every hours two hours, but I keep saying your stories. awful? We actually have a professional who's looking at her sleep diary at the moment. When I wrote her sleep diary out, I was like, This is actually so bleak. Paul me. I don't know how you do it. Get off and go to work in the day. Really ble ak. She's throughout this hot period, she's woken up at five on the door every single day for the day. She's like, no, I'm not. How does she not get tired? Well, she has enough in the day, but I think she is tired. Now I'm like, is she overtired? 'Cause she has to sleep so bad and I'm not giving her moral but then if you give her like a really long nap in the day she'll just won't sleep at night. Yeah, I just don't know how to sleep . You need a sleep trainer? Yeah. So we've got a lady coming in. She's like non norm response, non non responsive. What does that mean? So you can have different ways to sleep trauma, but like obviously there's the cryer out. There's like the further method, which also is just like cried but control crying. Okay . And very loads of variations of that. And this lady I've gone to doesn't do any like leaving them when they're upset . Okay, which is what I want. Yeah fair because like it's quite traumatic leaving them for like yeah, I think it's quite to the parent and also they've just banned proper cry out in Holland . Like they've made it legal . Interesting , well, that's proof in the yes, it does show that actually is really wrong. Yeah. Of course your child like crying right there. If you're in the room would she cry? No as soon as I come in and she stops. I think it's like genuinely like well I think with her it's like separation like I think she wakes up and she where's my mom cries and I come in and then pick her up and she normally goes It's like she's learned that the crying just gets you to come into the room. Definitely and also what she's learned as she's so funny. She's learned to throw her dummies out of the crib and then go Oh no loudly. She's like there Oh no Oh no I know I love how the manipulation starts with such a young age is so funny does and I'm like gosh you know I'm gonna come because I know she won't sleep if she's but I literally watched her. I put like ten in there at night and I watch her throw all ten over the edge and then she's like oh no I'm like I know you're not going to go sleep without dad because I'm gonna have to come in. And then she's like, oh and she just wants you to come in the room. At least she's not upset . Yeah, that's not too . She's not scared, she just wants you in the room. I do get it. Like it's quite boring being alone. Yeah, and also I'm like, I'm scared of sleeping on my own. Yes. Born little baby. I know. It's true. We expect so much problems. We do. Also I always do think like adults don't sleep all night long every night and we also are scared to be alone. Like imagine like one year old . I know. Who are so used to just being with their mum all the time? You're like, you go to sleep in the dark all your own. Bless her. So when does the sleep drain start? Well, she's got her sleep lary now and then I've got meeting next week. So do you have to write down like over a period of a week? Like what hour she's waking up? How long is it? How long it takes eating diary? Yeah, exactly. And yeah, as I said, when I wake out, I was like , this is quite rough. It's awful. Oh my God . How many hours sleep are you getting a day in twenty four hours? Last night she woke up at ten thirty , ten to two, four thirty, then five thirty. Then five thirty we were up for the day. How's that ? Does Barry go to what time does Barry go to work? He gets up at six and goes to the gym. Oh, that's fine. He's already kind of awake. I know. We actually 'cause we split the night. That's how we do deal with her wake up. He does the first half of the night of the second. But he says today I was like, I thought I'm really getting the rough end of the deal. So he said the hurse is the other way around. She said it's great because Jamie has me . Yeah. And Jamie's quite good at the night. He's like, I don't need much sleep, Raspberry? I almost think Barry's so bad on day sleep every night all of this is worth me to take it 'cause he's going to be miserable Toby's saying. I'm also not good on night sleep for good luck. I get like nine or ten hours a night. Oh I don't think I'll survive so young. I won't go. You might have a really good sleeper . You know ? I don't think I've ever heard anyone say that. No, loads of my friends baby sleep twelve hours. I remember watching your story when you're like, I'm literally getting like you're parenting for longer hours of the day. Yes, she wakes up. An extra day when we worked out, I was like mortified at like the difference. I was like sh ooting you got it wrong. It's really tough. I've also been like so strict like non screen time no TV. And like as these five bare mornings are happening when I've been up all night, I've like put her in my bed and put pepper bag on and I've just been like just need half an hour to come. Yes. I just can't do it. I can't get up so fair. You know what's a really good tip? I don't know this is a tip or maybe it's too late for that level or maybe you're like, I can't be bothered, but my Spanish friend, he has a baby that's three and his wife doesn't speak any Engl ish, but he speaks English and I was like, so does Marty speak English? Like, what's the section? And he was like, He does, but only because we only let him watch English cartoons. So he watches old school English cartoons and now he can eat like fluent English. That's genius. I was like, that is so clever. That is really clever. And we try and put Spanish TV on and he doesn't like it. Even so he can speak Spanish, but he doesn't live in Spain. Yeah, they're in New Yorker. Oh, I know. Affluent. It's so cool. I'm right. If I have a child it's gonna be Spanish for three weeks, then French TV for three weeks. Just rotate her . I actually think giving children languages when they're young is like the best thing you could do for them, yeah, I should actually . It's too late for us. Too way too late. It's way too late for us. I don't have the time to do that. Fifty minutes parties never mind to do an inko. No, it's true. No, I do actually have the time. I just don't do it. I must. But it's like the last thing you want to do when you're by yourself at this stage. You don't want to do it. What are you watching on TV at the moment? You haven't a chosen thing. I'm actually reading a book that I started, I read one page of on holiday I read on page of it and then I was like, It's actually richer. I was started reading that this time . So I read that in bed instead of watching TV at the moment. See, that for me is such a struggle because I'm like reading requires effort . But once I get to work, I have to finish like that's all I want. I'm finished . So I'm really into my books today. That's my current situation. That's lovely. What's the name of the book? She didn't see it coming by Shari Le Penna. It's like a murder mystery. I know we've had that conversation yeah I don't think it would be for me unless I love watching like Missile Murders used to be one of my favorite breaks. Right . I know it's like really bad and it is so bad to meet Anthony Christie. Yeah, maybe I 're so wholesome and such a little quick easy read. All right, I'm gonna do that. That's quite a nice recommendation and I'm excited. I hope you like I am halfway through now one tree hill. Oh yeah, you're still having it. Not yes. What part are you at? What was that? So I'm now at the part where Psycho Derek came back and tied up him and Brook downstairs. No a bit weird. Brook and Payton downstairs. Oh, Payton's doing my head in like I've always hated Payton. I just don't just don't jell with her. No. I mean, Brooke is like MVP, like she's fucking amazing , so funny , so great. Yeah. Chan Michael Murray in this season has for some reason changed his whole vibe and I don't like it. But Nathan's getting sexier and I wasn't sex at the start he wasn't but he was literally sixteen whereas he gets like really rich because like yeah really rich and looks like a proper man I'm like sexy. Chad's losing it a bit for me which is really upsetting because I fully like fully, fully, fully had like loved him. The old school love feels series one. Like honestly you couldn't have loved him more. And I'm like not sure. I feel like all these long series they also end up getting so weird. They doys they're like murdering kidnapping and they're having to evolve and everyone's in a car accident. Like every series someone's in hospital with a car accident that every time they get in the car now I'm like o,h who,'s okay? Yeah, honestly. Did you ever watch nine hundred and eighty all night? Yes. Like I remember that got so weird. They were all so . So such a good looking cast. It was surely one of the best looking cars I've shown. Yeah, they were all quite temperature. Aron was not. Is that what his name was the first? Like the first person Annie was in love with. The guy that Meghan Markle was giving blow drop to in the first scene . Meghan played her head over she's like oh I have to look at nine oh two one . I have to look this up immediately. Oh my god no you're right. It's like a marker. That's quite horrifying for her. I know . Did you watch our program? No I didn't. I actually did. She wasn't that bad, like the newer ones. I like her. I didn't think it was that. I was like, It's just quite wholesome. Like nothing that offends me about this. Yeah, I don't I think she just got bullied out of the UK by the cross and the press I do. Like her husband's love for her get over everyone. The little bird children and I think you get to see their face. I think they all have gingery hair. Real cute. I know. I wish I could see their faces. I cannot pitch what they would look like.. I I know really wish I could see Jessica's baby too. Mean too. That's my gorgeous baby because I like him. Well standing there. I know. Actually, what I am watching, I talked about the last time at Sama House, that whole show . It was reinien in this morning and I watched it the first episode and the guy that like calls all the drama that's now sleeping with his ex's best friend that's his friend's ex wife , he just had like sat down on the couch and he just whispered to the girl he's now singing. He was like, I just got text that someone hacked my phone and he listed my news and then the other cast paints were like, yeah, we've seen them and he was like at my heart. They were like , No. Oh , they were like Flacid. He was like, great. Why do you have nude pickies of your willy flaccid? Someone please tell me , they're like really bad. Not flattering. He's like, That's just what I wanted. I take those horrendous photos of Toby naked and if they got late, he'd be so upset . Like ruling about and to be fair, he probably has equally bad once in me too on his phone. Absolutely fucked. Barry's so annoying he will always just like upload he will just take a photo, upload it of me on his stories. And I'm like, don't even let me look. And it doesn't even tell me, doesn't know how to tag people on stories. I know, bless. And then I'll be just scrolling through stories later and I'll just see me like Mate Don't Is He private ? No . He should be private. Do you remember that side tattoo? Yes. Someone had found a really old photo for me so ugly on Berry's Instag ram and posted it with like a recent photo being like no one's ugly, they're just poor . I actually took it a compliment. I was like, you' sayreing I'm pretty now but I was like I literally then went through Berry's Instagram and deleted every ugly no me. Also we can't have that on the internet like no I was like oh my god I don't even think people will look at your photos. I've never looked on that website thank God I, just don't think it would be good for my men. No, I don't know, yeah, definitely. I think Toby once looked and he was like babe, don't look and I was like, Oh my god, that's horrible . They were actually really mean about Berry. Oh my god, no, I bet they're horrible about me. I can't know I don't want to. Well, thank God it's not, it doesn't exist anymore. No, and they got out of there. It was a man, a forty year old man king off. Yeah, how awful This episode is brought to you by Top Cash Back and Look Fantastic, who are working in partnership to show you how to literally get money back on all your beauty purchases. 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Plan your visit today at bombes sapphire. com forward slash distillery. Enjoy bombay sapphire responsibly. So I'm a one. Hi girlies, I need your help. So I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three years now and things are going really well. We come back from a lovely day and we had a few too many espresso martinis. Oh my god, I love that vibe just a name drunk holiday as well. And we get back to mine ready for things to get going . About twenty minutes in, he goes, I'm just gonna grab some water and then he disappears back into the kitchen. I'm lying there feeling sexy in my matching lingerie waiting for him to come back. This is amazing that this is still going on three years It's making me feel bad I five minutes path, then ten, then twenty. I start to wonder if he's okay so I get up to go and check and I find this man philisa at the kitchen table eating leftover pasta in the fridge he looks up at me, mouthful and goes Sorry Bob, got hungry . What the fuck? I was honestly horrified at this. We used to have such a fun and spontaneous sex life and now three years in, we're at the point where he sneaks off for a snack . This obviously killed the mood and I went to bed. Dales, how do I keep up my sex life alive and fun? Any advice for a tiny in need ? I am the worst. Right, we both just said this is amazing, I think you're doing all you can do. I think you are props to you. This is incredible. I actually did actually match underwear skins the other day. It feels like you've already put together. It's a part of the outfit. Yeah, I so agree, like just for myself . But now my matching underwear is still matching, but it's the nude, skimmy. It's a short unpadded unsupported bra. Mine's just like a nude thong and a skimming. I didn't even like wearing thongs anymore. I don't even like wearing bras . Oh, I know. So then when I do wear a bra, I feel really try hard it's like I don't know. I have to wear a bra post breastfeeding, but I actually went and bought underwear brows because someone said I had low boobs and they're so uncomfortable. I can't do it. it so I've accepted I just have psychic beef, I don't care. No stop underwearbrows are so uncomfy. Do you remember when we were younger? I was sleeping for growing and I was like No, I'm gonna put it underwearbrow and ever again. Oh my god, I do remember . And that was a bird rumour. I feel like you're doing great job . I also feel him. That would probably be me. I'm did you know what? I actually would rather go to bed early and have snack. Having dad, right? This is really bad advice, Jordan, right? Listen . She's like, give up on the sex life. We just accept that it's other things in each other like you laugh, no joke. I think what you're doing is perfect going out on fun date nights, getting a bit pissed . Yeah . Maybe you should talk about sex on the date so that it's like when he gets back. Flashing your underwear snacks around, maybe you should clear out the fr idge before you go homodate. No snacks in house. Make sure there's no leftover good food. Yeah . I do think there's like a stage in life or a party where you kind of have to start scheduling that it. I know, there is. I think also just having the conversation isn't that bad. Like, hey, I was actually really Randy Dandy that day and you killed my vibe. I agree. I think actually just talk about it. You can 't make it deep and serious no. And don't be too offended. I think that's like three years. in I think that's totally normal. He's obviously you're obviously so comfortable together. He's like, I just need a bottle of pasta, sorry. He must, I mean he must make sure that he gets well fed on the date next time, but nobody's too full and then you're like no. When you too're old, you're like, can't possibly nothing worse. You just have to say like, I'm Randy tonight. We're definitely gonna shag. Just . And say , excuse me, I was really annoyed the other day when you went to Halastpor, when I was lay ing there in my gorgeous Yeah. It's like, that's annoying. Don't do that again. Hopefully it's it doesn't sound like it's a regular occurrence. It sounds like a great relationship. Yeah, really. If you're going out and having loads of espresso maltinis on regular date nights and you're wearing matching laundry. Just keep that up. Don't let me get you down. Also, just come downstairs in the laundry and then just kind of join in. Hello , have some pasta with him. And then be like, You ready now? Because I'm ready. I'm not eating. If I started eating fast that I would be like, do you know what? I just feel so cringe putting on the matching underwear . I do it from time to time under my clothes. Yeah. I don't know, yeah, it's nice out. But to lie there in matching underwear I would be so cringed out at myself. I need to get over that. Yeah . Sure Tay we would love it. I feel like it's quite a mature thing. Like I remember my mum always having like the nicest beautiful expensive like she'd have one brand and then like three knickers to match it and that would be like what you'd be wearing over the next couple of days and every single day it was like that and it would match her outfit perfectly. So she had a blue tank top on. She'd have like a blue lacey brand and like it was so a part of the outfit. Yeah, I remember that as well as I feel like we've lost that a little bit. I know. We're going for comfy. We need to get back in that era. But I think they were comfy , but they were just it was like she just really took pride in. Still . Yeah. Okay, ready for the next one? Hi girlies. I need your honest advice because I'm at the point where I genuinely to bite my tongue every time I see my best friend's boyfriend and I don't know how much longer I can keep it up . So she's been dating this guy for about six months and on paper he sounds perfect. He carries a tote bag, he reads he carries a tote bag, he reads Sally Rooney and he makes her oat match her in the morning. I don't know why that he carries a tote bag as why he's perfect ready for me on. Yeah . I thought she meant he carries hers, but I think he just carries his own. He posts about going to women in film events. He basically he is basically a walking Jacob Eludie, and he's the most performative male I've ever met. I'm not a fan . He's cheaper The problem is every single time I'm around him he gives me the absolute ick. Last week I know she's saying like he's trying to harden this feeling. The problem is every time we're around him gives me the absolute ick. Last week we were all out for dinner and he genuinely looked at me dead serious and said that off campus is so important for female empowerment. Another time he told me he doesn't watch porn because he respects women too much but then liked about fifteen bikini and pixels In onstagram in front of us Whoops . I mean that alone why are you doing it? She's trying too hard to like be a green flag, which genuine . She is absolutely smitten with him and I can see why on the surface he ticks every box. She's ever talked about wanting but I, just know in my bones that this man is a bad egg. Dressed up to be a dream guy. I'm worried she's going to get absolutely heartbroken when the mask slips. So girls, do I say something and risk ruining the friendship or do I suck up and let her be happy? Well , he's not done anything, I'm afraid. You can't just say I find him cringe. There's like finding a getting the ick with a friend's boyfriend. It's like it's so horrible and repulsive. Have you had the ick before I could tell. I was like, you know you be in there. It's horrible and you don't even want to like look at them. You're just like, I hate you. You can't do anything about this. You just gotta let the wave be read in. Yeah, and if 'cause do you know what? He actually might be genuine. You don't know a chance. You feel like when you've got a gut instinct. Yeah, you probably are right and if you're right there will be a fallout and you all you can do is be there . Yeah , but he could just be really nice. He could just be really nice. I mean, he's genuinely read Sally Rooney. All right, well, let's just see how this goes. Feel it out. I think he's just a bit like bit of Shawded. What does that mean? Do you know what I mean? Yeah. The paperback in his back . He wears some birken stocks and he carries toe bag. If you're that worried and concerned about it, just like feel like what the mutual friends are like meet his friends. Like they might all be on this similar path like could be that vibe. Yeah, I think that's a really good shout. S out his friendship group , his background . Don't voice this to other friends . I would maybe see how a bit bitchy. Yes, but I would maybe see how they feel be like, how do you feel about him being like? I do really like him. I like his vibe but there's something about him that I don't feel like I know that well yet, which is a fine thing to say. Just feel out what the other girlies think. Agree. But I don't yeah, I don't think you can say if something had happened or you knew something your friend didn't, if you just have a gut feeling , I just think that's risky business to mention that to your friend. She's just really happy . Don't mention it to her. Yeah, that's what she's asking, should she? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no . Yeah. Don't think to her She's like so happy with this guy and he seems like the perfect guy. She just thinks he's perform ative . Well, even if he is, like, it might not mean that there's something that bad . Exactly. He might just be that he's trying really hard to fit . Yeah, or be what he thinks he should be. Yeah . So I think that we just keep an eye on it. Yeah, keep an eye, be ready to be there if you need to. Yeah , and just maybe do a little bit of digging. A bit of background research. Never hurt anybody. Love you good luck. Okay dial number three, hey girls, listener from Melbourne here. I've been meaning to write in this dilemma for quite some time . My friendship group is great. We have a bunch of Aussies plus our lovely internationals whom we love. Problem is I slept with one of the boys in the group a few times