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One last time that's cashp rot com and save up to thirty percent on the mattress you deserve Hello and welcome to Perfect The Show I'm Perfect. You're of course a person . Recently I've been having a hot saucy spice salsa that's been burning my mouth so bad and I can't get enough of that . Having it with anything I've been just eating my lunch as I mentioned a shrimp burrito, but you know what I'll say is I've been having it extra spicy and to me I just ate it today to feel alive. That's funny . My guest is Jeffrey . Welcome back, Jeff, to the show. You guys obviously know Jeff from being on the show many times. I'm honored to be on today because you asked me like a month in advance versus Hey, Kylie Breakman dropped out. Can you be here in five minutes? This happened one time . Kylie Breakman was like in New York on her job and she couldn't be here for one week later. What about the kids perfect person ? Because there's the kids tonight show that she wrote on. And then there could be the kids perfect person show. So it's like a fucking my son host . That's not bad. Isn't that what it is? It's kids doing tonight show. Yeah. And they're like, are they how old are they though? How young? I think I don't know, I've never seen it. But it's also the Tonighto four kids. So it's perfect person for kids buy kids. And it's like all those in. I was in art class and something weird happened. Yeah. Yeah, that's kind of fun. Like, you know, my art teacher said that my art doesn't have potential. What about personal puppets? Maybe . Okay, so I thought we were sort of like no bad ideas . Nobody gets presented an idea. No, it's, you know, there's blue skying and then there's, you know, bringing this Twitter, rubbish to the table and wondering if it can become art. Is blue skying a verb? I think blue skying is like coming like brainstorming where there are no bad ideas. And that's why the app is called Blue Sky. I have no clue why that's called Blue Sky. Do you use Blue Sky? I don't use Twitter, blue sky. I don't use any reds. I don't know When Twitter went the way it went, I it and I didn't have a replacement value. I just left it and then now I just don't use an app like that. And it kind of like I wish I miss it, but also I shouldn't, I don't know. Yeah, I had a thought that I wanted to tweet or zeit the other day, but then I was like, why? Yeah , so maybe halted pauses that aren't going to work for the episode, right? Yeah, obviously welcome . What makes you perfect today to be on the show to answer people's problems. Oh my gosh, I mean I'm biracial as hell, right? So I bring two different perspectives. Ooh, what do you think the two perspectives are which one's better? One's Southern Indian and the other one is white southern No. Southern Indian and Northern White. One's Lithuanian as hell, the other one's, you know ? Really? There was a group of Lithuanians that stayed at my high school when I was in high school. Stayed at your high school like slept there . They had exchange programs . And one of them and me struck up a romance. She gave me a bag of sap. I've told the story on the show too many times before. A bag is that a euphemism? We had a party and then she had to go back to Lithium. What do you mean she, gave you a bag of sap . She gave me a bag of ceremonial sap, but then commenters were confused. They were like, I live in Lithuania and I've never heard of that. I don't know what you're talking. Was it like gum sap? Or it was like hard sap and you're supposed to hold it and it gives you good luck. Okay. Little pieces I still. have it. It's in my house. How does Sarah feel about that? I think she gives a shit . She's not mad that your high school sweetheart from Lithuania safely still have. I think that that woman is married probably just some Lithuan ian man. Did you ever see like you ever watch TV and it would like the Spanish subtitles thing would come pop up of like click here for sap? I don't know what you're talking about. Biracial and that what makes you perfect? Yeah, maybe that 's the way , why did the energy go ? Because you know what? It makes me perfect. I'm not perfect. But I think you're perfect . And my ability to admit that and be honest with myself is what makes me perfect. We have fun together, we hang out, whatever. Well, you're always working. You never really hang out unless we're working. I agree too. And you have a kid. It's mostly the kids. I get a family. Working here and I remember that there was a party here once. Yeah, you were at the party. Something like that. But now you're a dad and you have too many responsibilities. I still have parties every once in a while. That's funny. But it sounds funny, but it was sort of interesting , I guess, at most, but it wasn't funny. I think it's more funny than interesting because it's like, you know, oh a bunch of people getting together. That's like, you know, I start to smile at the thought of it. My smile's just one beat away from cracking up. Right before you arrived, by the way, because of the Habinerus Sepulsa, yep, I picked my nose. Oh, buddy. And it was a zinger of an experience. That's tough. Yeah, that's true. I mean, you gotta be careful and you gotta start honing your skills because with this news that you told me before this episode you're gonna be out of hot ones in no time. Stop bringing up the news. People are gonna not think they're not you should have been on that Mindy Kayling show not suitable for work. Oh my god, I mean I would fucking love that. That would be amazing. There's all those good people around it. Yeah, but I don't know. You're, you know, that's funnier than them. Well, it's very, very nice, Jeff. I mean, by the way, I'd like you . I'd like to act more. I'd like to act more. Why are you getting this guy fucking heavy audition call out Mike? They're never gonna sign me. The best I could do is you have to be playing . You have to be able to play both of those hard names. Yeah. Okay , we have got to get into the perfection speed route, Jeff so that you can calibrate your advice so we can get in there. I love that. We know what's good. Sorry, I'm actually yeah perfect. I'm like obsessed with this . Why do I love that? Why do I loving that ? You know what I mean? Perfect salsa. You're asking me? Chipotle roasted , actually . If it's not chipotle, I don't want it in a bowl. If it's not chipotle, don't put it in front of my face. Yeah, perfect smoothie. Anything with like a ton of protein. And let me tell you why 'cause if it's not healthy , give me a malt. Y es. A malt ? I really thought we were gonna like connect there. And again, you just kind of get molts one time. We got an egg cream. You and me got an egg cream in place . You and me sat down for a beef sandwich and an egg cream one day and it feels like I'm a carbonated egg . Feels like I dreamed that. Yeah. Sitting down for a beef sandwich and egg cream. Short lunch 'cause I was late because I had my catalytic converter stolen. Oh my god. That morning. Now don't get any ideas, LA because I put the cage around the shit. I've been stolen so many times, dude. Sorry for the yawning. Yeah, thanks a lot. It's because of your performance on this show Smoothie. Perfect. I don't want a smoothie. Like if it's just a smoothie, it's just fruit. Yeah. I'm alright. I'd rather have a milkshake. Yeah, I mean, probably the same amount of sugar. Exactly. So if I'm gonna have a smoothie, it better have like fifty grams of protein in it, and that's why I'm having it. I like that idea. Yeah. Perfect. Please be my other thought. 'Cause I was on a flight yesterday. They come around sometimes they're like,, Hey do you want to die Coke? No, I want a malt. Why don't they offer milkshakes on flight? Plans used to be luxury experiences. Yeah. You're able to get I'll have a cigarette and an egg cream, babe. That'd be incredible. Give me a reubin and a cigar that I'm gonna inhale. I actually like the idea that you can get on a plane, you can have a fine five star meal and an egg cream. I want Johnny Rocket's air. I want a Johnny Rocket on my Johnny Rocket while I,'m in the Johnny Rocket. That wasn't anything like this. Perfect place for a guy's night out . Most of my friends are women . Probably a steakhouse. I went to a really nice steak dinner. I use a gift card I did. Let's get. And we got like we all got steaks. We got cream spinach , potatoes, Lyonet. What was the group? Like by you last time I had a steak I was with you as well . I had a fucking steak dinner at a very famous steak house in LA and you insisted that you pay and that was always birthday. This is my hot take. If you're going to take people out to dinner for your birthday, you gott paay. Yeah, you paid for everybody. It was a really fun dinner. But at least you have to pay for drinks. And I just be honest, that was such a fun dinner that I texted because I was originally just gonna go to dinner and not go to the after drinks. Yeah. It was like Sarah was at home and I was tired, whatever. And I texted Sarah and was like, I may leave my car in Uber. Wow because we were having such a fun dinner. We had Manhattan's we had a steak. That's that's my perfect friend's night out or guys night out. It's just steaks and cocktails. Basically like let's go have a heart attack. That's great . By the way, if your blood pressure's high. Blood pressure's fine. LP Little A is fine. Triglycerides are fine. HDL is high. It's the LDL and it's the AP of it all. But I'm on Crest Store ten Milligrams. Don't tell people . What are they gonna do? I don't know. This might think with HIPA by the way . Here we go. This is my thing. What are they going? What's gonna insurance companies are going to use it against you, but as long as they don't get the information , it doesn't matter. So your team like tell people what yeah, your doctor should be gossiping. I just think it doesn't matter it's neutral. Like if you know fine, if you don't know that also doesn't matter what do I have to hide? I have high cholesterol because I have eight I' hveyper cholesteroleemia. Grey, I'm on Crestor. So is everybody . Everybody's on two body is like Crest or Everybody's on two things in LA. Ozempic and Crystore. I'd love to take Ozempic. I don't ever know much about it. Here's my idea for a branded content podcast. What's that? Joe Zempic, GEO Zemp . And it's a guy named Joe Dick Zempic. No, no, Jeffrey, GEO, Joe Zempic. Perfect time and place to have a banana. When your heart is racing because you need potassium perfect celebrity. Perfect celebrity? Joe Keery. I think he's all this guy. So cool, dude. He's actually maybe better at music than acting. He's have you heard his music? Yeah, it's great. Not the one on TikTok. I'm talking about his newest album The Crux. It's so good. I listened to the whole album from the Chicago one, but that one's fine. That one's so great. The Crux is like a Beatles album. He's so good. He's really cool . And I hear he's nice. He seems nice. Perfect karaoke song. I write since not tragedy so everybody can yell the word sorry Ashley, you're gonna have to leave this as well, but a hoar . Yeah , that is not because I love that word , but because that part of the song is really funny. Come on. I chimed in with a habit you people ever heard of . Yeah . And I sing it just like that. Closing the garden door . So it's much better to have this kind of habit. I love to do karaoke song that you just talk through. You don't sing it all through . So like a rapper's delight or something? No, just a song that you just need the like the backing track, like it's or something and then you just oh god, how is everybody doing an ida? Or do you just th haveri theller monologue? Yeah, exactly. Yeah. A perfect role to play before you die. Gandhi . The reboot of Gandhi. I just watched Gandhi. It's one of the best movies I've ever seen. It should not ever be remade and I would love to remake it and butcher it. Isn't it like, wouldn't it? It's Ben Kingsley, right? Yeah. Which is already like pretty so many people won Oscars for it. And is Ben Kingsle Kingsley doing brown face? He's Indian. Oh, he is. He's just white passing. Oh, okay. So they did probably butter him up a little bit. They browned, buttered him. He's normal butter, but they browned him . And I can say this and he can feel it because we're both half Indian . I mean, yeah, I remember there's just no way for you to respond to it. I remember to answer. I remember the movie being good, but it's unbelievably good. Yeah, it was like an epic. It's better than Lords of Arabia. Whoa. So you want to play Gandhi? I think you could do it. I don't wanna play Gandhi. I just would love to do like a three hour drama where it's like, holy shit, he's got a chops. I want to play somebody that John Bernthal beats the shit out of this . If Jumper would be like, you fucking piece of shit just go to town on me, I think that I would like that a lot. Or what about like a biopic of someone who's still alive and young, but I play them instead of they play them. So like Dev Patel. It's like, why isn't Dev playing Dev It's like why did this get made? A Dev Patel biopic is awesome. A Riz amed Biopic. Yeah, that's exactly right. Because like Defitel is like really funny, but Rizamed's not that funny. Like he's serious. Very serious He looks concerned all the time. He does look concerned. Here we go, Jeff, final question perfect way to tell your parents you are famous . If you have to tell your parents you're famous, you're not famous. Just a reminder. They should be told how is it all going? They ask. And you've hit a big is this for I'm famous . I'm not coming home for things. You're such a day . How about you come to my Brent Villa or I don't ever step foot in your guys' shed. It's a two bedroom apartment because the neighborhood is actually overpriced. It's a billionaire's market and I'm not even a millionaire grindset. Two BR was a three hand . I wake up too late to be a millionaire . If you could not do anything in show business and instead have a personal business that was a grindsindet set and m . Oh, I've got it. Lighting design. Really? Yeah, I'm really good at it. Residential lighting design. Oh, like home lighting design. Yeah, not like movies. Like no. How's the lighting design in here? Well, this is a, you know, this is a set . So you need to be a little bright . Yeah, I think that but, you know, it's it's a different kind of lighting. I'm talking about like because the lighting I'm talking about probably doesn't show up on camera well. Yeah . You know, but it's like a conversation pit like when your friends are over, what's the perfect amount where it's not too dim, you can't see anything, but it's also like dimens where it's it's sexy, it's fun. It's chill, friendly. And it makes people feel cozy and human. That's beautiful. Oh, really? Jeff? Maybe I should just do that. I'd be making so much more money . You successfully passed the reverse really. I feel like you hated all my answers. I loved every second of it. And Jeff, we've got to get to the call. Let's talk about it. Before we do, if you like the show, then consider rating and subscribing to it on every single platform so you don't miss an episode. And if you love the show, then come see it on tour . Tickets should be available at a link in the description. 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Brown, thank you so much. What canown Brown do for Br? What can Brown do for Brown? Okay, so why don't you give us a little bit of context as to what's up with your ex girlfriend and why you're delivering to her parents and her house ? So I'm a UPS driver. Let's very good. Let's go back the brown. Let's go back to the bringing go. Okay, UPS showing where the shorts or what are we talking? Are you wearing the brown shorts? Yes, sir. I'm actually driving home from work right now in the brown short s. Nice. Can I ask, I don't wanna get too personal, but did that do something for your former partner? Because I feel like there's always these sexy Halloween costumes of like sexy UPS guys. Honestly , I was hoping so, but no. It's never done anything for her. She's not the right woman for you . And that's why that relationship, you know, might not have been forever. It was because you deserve to feel sexy in your shorts Exactly, exactly. One hundred percent. So did you break up with your partner or did they break up with you? So we kind of mutually broke up, but she kissed somebody else. So like it was like, hey, bro, shut up. We got to break up. She kissed someone else and then she was like, I kissed somebody else and then you were like, it's yeah, how did you find out? Or did she come clean or ? So essentially we're both bi. Okay , which is context for this . And she was at a party and was kissing one of her girlfriends like not just one kiss, but like a lot of kissing. I wasn't at the party and she called me the next day and told me and she was like, It's okay because it's a girl, right? That's like yeah I was like, brother , we're we both we both kiss the same gender. It's like it's it's the same thing as cheating. You got to do that. Yeah . I realized that in hindsight of a relationship like a long time ago, but the conversation culturally hadn't moved far enough along to be like, that is cheating and to act like it's not is like yeah no exactly like growing college I feel like there was no especially 'cause she had dated women before. So this wasn't like a new concept I think she was just trying to like justify it in her head h.on Andestly , the relationship needed to end, so it really wasn't the end of the world. Financially more than anything, right? Yeah , it was just kind of obnoxious. Your prospects weren't good enough for your family. Yeah, assume. She needed to provide her dowry or something . There's something so funny about like, yeah, growing college, there was sort of an unspoken rule that was like, Well, I get to kiss my girlfriends. And it's sort of funny 'cause it's because we weren't together, you'd maybe date that. Yeah , you could just be bisexual and it's like, yeah, whatever. That's so funny. So anyway, so this relationship ends and it ends seemingly sort of like you're like we decide not to be together but now you have to deliver UBS packages to her and her parents house now how this we broke up like months ago like this is a good half year ago I just so I have my own regular route that I deliver to . And she happens to be on that route and her parents happen to be on her on the route. And her parents order stuff constantly . And I like her parents, like her parents aren't really mean to me, but it's kind of it's just really annoying. And it's clearly very awkward for both of us to constantly have to like interact with each other . A lot of signatures or is it a lot of just dropping? Yeah , it's got a lot of signatures, but they're constantly on their yard and stuff like that. It's like I'm going to have to interact with them and I have to I have to be like, hi guys, how you doing ? Oh you're here target box, yadda yadda yada. Are you ever, is it ever clear what's in the package? Are you ever sort of taking a peek or like I actually know like a good amount of the time what I'm delivering. That makes me sound terrible. Yeah, you know what I've ordered . So like most embarrassing stuff so I oh God just for context I've had terrible things bust open out of packages before . So like , even if you were to be ordering like risque things, I really don't give a shit. What was the terrible thing you was the terrible thing you saw that popped up? Okay, you might have to bleep this out, but you know , it was pretty much a sex toy that was a just gigantic fuckable ass . Like it was with all the female anatomy and everything . And this thing just like flopped out in the middle of my truck. You would think it would be a box within a box. By the way, yeah, it's just loose in there. Loose against the car. Crazy was like, it was clearly like a shitty Timo box or something like that 'cause it was like super flimsy and stuff and it had like no packaging inside. It was literally just an entire ass inside of a cheap soup carbo box. You can't be buying an ass off team that's taming real like you're sticking your dick in that. What are we doing here? Yeah, that is really tough. And also crazy that it flopped out into the car. Okay, so yeah, so yeah flopping around the shel f . Oh my god, okay, so you're delivering over there and then you said you also delivered her house? I do. I do. she lives in an apartment building so it's a little bit easier to duck her , but I have definitely ran into her like far too many times. It's also just because of where my route is . We are constantly like driving past each other and it's just it's just annoying. You know what I mean? I'm dating somebody else at this point. I've moved on from this relationship, but it's just obnoxious. You know what I mean? Do you request a new route or are you like locked in? How does it work? So I kind of love this route besides that . It's more exact ly. also live on this route. I can go take lunch at my own place. It's great. great . I'm taking what need is sort of a fun hat or like a there's no way that helps. That's your suggestion sort of a fun flirty thing already has like the coolest work uniform of any work uniform in the world. How about this? Big noise canceling headphones so that you have those puppies locked and loaded over ear pads, big pads. So that way you're listening to this stuff and you might see the things but it's it's a wave like oh I'm carrying this box. I'm not going to take off my headphones to say hello. I'm just dropping it and going and that way you',re in disco mode the whole time. Miles, I love that idea, but I will get fired. You know, you're not music. We are so we're not allowed to wear like I can have one earbud in because it's like a habit one ear open to be able to hear and they're like super strict about that stuff too does that have to do with signatures liability? Why don't have to do with being able to hear? I don't know. UPS is very strict about a lot of random weird things . Some of their cultures happen to be one of them and they will follow us. Like they literally haunt us sometimes and if they were to catch me like with headphones on like that because that was that 's like a great idea and that's what you would immediately go towards because if you just put in headphones you can't be bothered with anybody else. But I would get written up for that. What about just for her stop? Or you're saying they watch you so close the surveillance so strict. Wait, that's kind of awesome. If it's just for the one stop I bust out the giant headphones. Yeah, pop those puppies on. And then it's like, honestly, I think that you just put them on for those . way That if she sees you , she's like, whoa, that's so cool. Like Brown, here's here's what we're going to do. All right, Miles is gonna , he just booked an incredible job I did that because we basically Miles is rolling in cash because you have this tour. Yes, the tour, yes. So I'm one so perfect person LSC is going to send you a pair of apple roll macs your headphone. I just hate to hop in there and just say that rebate will not be coming through and I just heard they're only four hundred dollars . And actually, what's crazy is Jeff and J and A studios are going to send you a beat pill from JF a beat pill because then he can hear her. JNA Studios is going to send you an inflatable ass from TV . Okay, fine. I can commit to a fuckable ass That's also plays music. Are you okay with if it jiggles out of a box? Oh my goodness. Yeah, yeah, that's part of the fun . That is so unbelievable. That's actually incredible. The idea of just having noises headphones for two stops stops. What about awesome sunglasses as well? Like in my mind like you're pulling up and you go, cool headphones , awesome sunglasses , drop off, right? And that way if she sees you, you could literally be like, Oh, I didn't see you. My sunglasses are too dark. Like, I didn't even see that . You know, hit my zone. I'm completely blind and I can't hear anything I'm sure insurance will love that at UPS. I want to blind you put your ankle on her property and it becomes a she has to help you. I'll be calling nine . My sunglasses were so dark. I injured myself. I twisted my shoulder . I think it's got to be sunglasses and a big bare headphones. What are you gonna be playing on those headphones when you sort of walk up to the puppy? I listen to a lot of podcasts actually. Yours I'm mainly a podcaster but I do go back and forth between like I read a lot of fantasy books and stuff like that but I'll just kind of I just kind of jump back and forth between like I'll list en to like YouTube essays and stuff like that and podcasts and books, just whatever I'm feeling and I got to switch it up every once in a while or I'll start to get bored of whatever I'm listening to. Yeah, you know what I mean? Can I ask what your ultimate dream is for your life? My ultimate dream for my life. Hell yeah, is probably financial stability not have to work and just chill, you know what I mean? I am not looking for like a super incredible I go out and like conquer the world life . I just want to sit on a couch with my cat and be like happy. If Miles and I didn't have the mental illness that we did, we would feel the exact same way. Yeah, I think that if you fucking imagine everyone wants that beautiful. But for some reason, I'm convinced that I need to get all this acclaim for some creative projects. That I need to be the next Ironman. Yeah, you do keep mentioning that you want to be I need to be the next Captain America. What do you think about this for Miles? Marvel's mister Mr Mazel. Marvelous Mrs. Mazel. No, no, it's a it's a Marvel property named Mr. Mazel. You're not in the bike . And he's here's sort of a mench . It has nothing to do with Marvelous Mrs. Mazel. Do you think I can play the next Marvelous Mr Mazel? Who's Mr. Mazel? Thank you so much for giving us a call. We're really appreciating . So we are honestly, we're not even really talking about almost anything we fixed it. We got the phones just for those two stops and they've got to be AirPods Max from Timu I would actually think that was great advice. Oh, thank you very much . I appreciate it Brown. Well, you have a great question where there actually is a solution. A lot of the questions are like, I really don't know what to tell you because somebody else in your life is being crazy and I can't control that. Exactly. And in this world, honestly, you're doing the Lord's work, you're doing delivery, you are healing the people and bringing them packages. And I gotta say, you're an amazing light in this world. Thank you so much for calling Brown. My other piece of advice for Brown would be to seek validation. It looks my fake name again. I completely forgot it. Brown. Brown. Yeah, it was Brown. Oh, yeah, yeah, I'm stupid. I've been not stupid. They're not stupid brown. You're brown. Awesome. You're browning . Thank you. You're amazing. Thank you an amazing day. Byei not the only person to not understand the difference between stupid or brown. I can't respond to it . I was hating you, yeah. Let's actually get into another call. Let's yeah. I hate my birthday and I'm trying to hard launch a new birthday. How do I get my friends to acknowledge that in fact my birthday has shifted ? So awesome . How do I rebrand my birth to be a new day You can't. I guess you could. What's wrong with it? Let's call her, I want to see how drastically she wants to alter it because it if's possible, I'm like, that's what everybody does anyway. What if a friend though is like, I think my birthday's in June now from December . And then you were like, alright, I guess birthday party in J une. Well, that would basically be ce justlebr ating your half birthday, which I really have always wanted to do a huge half birthday. A small tepid birthday? Yeah . I'm hungry for now. Oh my God, I have to pause paradise. Hello. You got birthday person in me to call you back. I'm here with Jeffrey James. Jeffrey, my friend Colleen is gonna be so excited. Colleen, I say hello. Shout out, Colleen, are you watching Paradise? Another day in Paradise . I just started, I'm only on season one episode two. Oh my god, by the way, you got to the big reveal of season one, which is that, oh my god, guess what? It's called Paradise Paradise Bear in Paradise . I will say because I'm, you know, chronically behind, I did know about that twist. Yeah . It's sort of the premise of the show. It is the title, but also I will say get ready for forty one twists by the end of season one because there are so many twists and turns . A twist that I hope happens is I hope that Sterling came Brown in the president kiss. Well, sterling Kay Brown, you know he's going to talk at just a giant monolog ue in the whole fucking thing. Yeah. Sterling Kate Brown gives, I would say, ninety two monologues over the course of Paradise. And every single one starts like this. You know, when I was a kid , I guess I always thought about morality and I didn't know and he just goes and stirling K Brown will go for seven more minutes and that's what I want because unfortunately and I know I'm only on episode two anytime anyone else is on the screen I'm like is Rick ? Well, yeah, unfortunately, paradise is one of those shows where the acting is sort of fifty percent good and fifty percent, the actors are really strange choice. Is it basically this is us, but on an island? No, not at all. Couldn't be further from the truth. It's this is us if there was a catastrophic emergency and humanity had to flee to a bunker that's gigantic. Got it. Okay, so anyway, you didn't call about the bunker or paradise. You called about hating your birthday and wanting to hard launch it. Jeff, what is the big name for this person? Oh my gosh. Dancer Dancer Dancer Rick Dancer Rick. Hey Dancer R ick, I'm Miles. Hey Dancer Rick. Hey Dancer Rick. Why don't you tell me what your birthday is and when you want to change it to? Okay , my birthday is in February , which like it's fine , but it's one of those birthdays where it's like it snows every year and maybe it's not even snowing. Maybe it's just a little chilly and now people don't want to go outside . And I just am exhausted of like the fifteenth ice storm has cancelled our plans and every single year I say I'm gonna move my birthday this year and this is the year that I went to hardwatch moving my birthday to what you asked? June. June is the best month. There is no fucking way Am I gonna go with you on this? This is awesome. I fucking love this dancer Rick. I think this is a great okay, the premise is so funny. Tell us to move so your birthday is in February and you're basically your complaint is that it always snows . So it's a valid reason to be frustrated with your birthday. I kind of get this by I have to add on to dunking on other reasons it's bad. Yeah. Okay . My birthday is february eighteenth. Okay. Now we are contending with Valentine's Day because it's Valentine's Day is on a weekday , boom, it gets moved up to the weekend. When is the weekend? My birthday . But I will say and then one positive thing because you get Presidents Day weekend . Long weekend for your self. But then a lot of people are like out of town . They're taking advantage of the long weekend. So it's kind of like the first the weekend before Valentine's Day, the weekend after present day weekend, people out of town. Yeah. So you are thinking about moving it to today, june third? Or are you thinking about doing it some other day? Now you see my calendar so booked up for June Here's the birthday that I'm free. Here's the thing . If you move your birthday, you can't move it again . You get one. You get one. You get one move and that has to be it. And then you have to stick to it and when people you tell what us birth when's your birth day, you have to say june third. And unfortunately , when you come to February, you are not one year older . You don't get to tell people that you are twenty whatever it is. Well, see, I also , because my birthday is so early in the year, and my friends debate me on this , as soon as the year turns over january first, I'm already saying I'm that other age. You're not abiding by any rules You are you're limitless on an island of yourself. You're just like in a bunker like paradise . And I exactly . So you've got if you've got a core group of friends, what are we talking? Like who do you think is going to be the most anti you changing your birthday again? We'll talk about how to flip them. Okay . Another thing that I think adds to thinking about the date is I work a job where I only get paid once a month yeah that sucks sucks yeah that's at the end of the month. It's on the twenty sixth. So I'm thinking what if I move my birthday june twenty seventh, maybe it doesn't have. Yeah, twenty seventh. Give it some wiggle room. Yeah. But then it's like my regular birthday was on the eighteenth, maybe I should roll into twenty eighth . June twenty eighth. No, here's the like sure. Like dancer rick, it could be any day. It could be any problem. It's like when you're like I could have anything for dinner. I could go to any restaurant in the world. They'll take me. Can I be honest with something? You don't want june twenty eighth. Why not? Too close to july fourth. You want to make a holiday every two weeks. No someone else's birthday every two weeks . You want it to be equidistant from the holiday. But she's got to get paid otherwise how she gonna do anything fun to to be june twentieth. Here's the thing about it June twenty sixth. Payday is on the twenty sixth, you said Yeah. twenty . I think you go twenty seven. I think you go june twenty earlier. One day earlier one year but june twenty seventh and I think what you got to do is you say my birthday party. Did you know here's the question? Did you have a birthday party in February? You know? Long pause, long pause. I did . But I've been kind of soft launching fake birthday in people's minds. And I said , I'm gonna h ost a karaoke night. And you're saying your real name, but we will be saying my real name. Don't worry , doesn't really have a stupid problem. I've figured it out. Do you please? It's not june twenty seventh, it's not june twenty sixth, it's not june twenty eighth. It's not June at all. Really? It's may twelfth. It's august eighteenth , their half birthday. My half birthday I disagree. Remember , people will give you a little more leeway of like, oh, that's funny. Like, you know, Dancer Rick celebrates their birthday on their half birthday. Now their birthday is so far away . But it doesn't matter either way because then it's going to be far away in the opposite direction after her kind of a wash too though, you know, like fall August is in fall August is summer. Like is it summer? And it's not near any other holidays. So your august twenty eighth, you said no eighteenth. August eighteenth as your half birthday. You're flipping it. Now I think it's too far away. I think it's too far away from the original birthday. Perfect. It's equidistant on either end. What do you think they do? June birthday is ten more months or whatever. What do you think the best birthday is though? Oh , I think honestly, August's birthdays are great. And do we think that actually answered? August to me is like, I'm such a summer lover that August, I feel the dread creep in as soon as August first hits because I'm like, oh god, I didn't go to the beach as much as I wanted to. It's getting towards the end of the day . Combat that dread is having a thing in August to look forward to. Now here is the honestly ultimate problem. Yep that I really, really feel. Yeah . Okay , so problem here is that the Aquarius Pisces cut off is february eighteenth to nineteen? Are you currently an Aquarius? Oh, I'm aware, I'm aware. No, see, I thought I was an Aquarius until my twenty first birthday when I logged in the location and the time of night , I'm a Pisces . Okay, so that actually gives you some wiggle room , but not enough. It doesn't give you enough wiggle room. What are we reading from? Miles has his laptop on his birthday cut off you gold. And so basically you're changing from a Pisces all the way you're be going to a cancer . No, you're gonna be a lego. No, no , I'm already a cancer. Okay. Oh, we're talking and we're talking August. Don't worry, I'm a leo. . All right, so then I think that it's got to be, I think August is good and you just have by the way, everyone loves a party. By the way, if somebody wanted to have five birthday parties a year and they were all fun, I'd go to all of them. I wouldn't say anything. Well, it depends who the person is. Singing. Like, you know, they're fun. Swing on by what is it Dan?cerck, dancer wicks karaoke birthday . Dancer wants you to give me a present. I just want us to vibe in the summertime. No presents only put all gifts towards the karaoke fund . Sing your gifts to me . By the way, that's kind of a fun party. Sing your gift to me. Sing your gift to me . Thank you so much for giving us a call. I think this is I really think it's august eighteenth. Are we in august eighteenth? Are we dead? Let me give you one more reason . Let's give a reason why. Give me one more reason to push it to August. August eighteenth, specifically because a lot of astrologers, if you believe in that , say that your rising sign is what your soul is striving towards by the end of your lifetime. It's what you're becoming more like . So by the end of Dancer Rick's life, they're going to be a leo Aleo . Aleo, yeah, so august eighteenth . Let's just make it official . Y . Wow . That means I can't walk gender reveal cames, but it's a zodiac reveal case. That's really , really good. Hey, especially if it starts a fire. Happy birthday in august eighteenth . That's right , coming up. I love you. Thanks for calling in. I hope you have an amazing day. I love you guys. Bye bye, bye everybody. Bye bye. Bye Another day in paradise . Another day in paradise. Crewmade jokes about that and they were filming , yeah . So like they're on day like sixty two of the season and they're like another day on paradise. No, I think they were like these working conditions are insanely bad. Yeah , this is insanely bad and it's Stirling Kay's fault. Stirling Kay Brown's like, you know, guys, let me talk to you all about when I was a kid . Yeah. We actually are trying to father actually when I was a young one said Starling Gay Brown is an amazing actor though. Yeah, he's good . Just good. I think he's good. You know, you gave me a box of melons . Have you seen that? This is a monologue where he's like thirteen years? I think I just don't like this is us because every single episode is like monologue monologue monologue and I'm like okay you can't have every bad thing happen to you. It's like have you watched Downtown Abbey? No. Okay, well are, you going to , Everel These like boilers . People go to prison, like way too often. In fact, these two couples, there's this couple and both of them separately get falsely accused and go to prison. And I'm like this would never happen. Why are they keeping a prison? Really I just think that Julian Fellows is friend played the cop . He's like, I gotta get this guy back in the show. That's honestly sick. All right, we get to take another call, Jeff. Yep. You do your best impression for me Cash Patel Sorry . Senator Yo hell was I didn't know that senator . Is that a CIA guy? FBI, yeah, this is Cash Patel . Like ask him ask Cash something. Hey, Cash , what do you think about Budlight? 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Taxing all the time . I really only have one very quick, turse, efficient piece of advice for this person. Hello. Hi, you call every person and I'm here to call you back and we're Jeffrey James . Oh God . Hello Jeffrey, what's the big name for this person? The name is Rohan Wow. Rohan, wow . Rohan, how are you? What a god here nickname? I really was feeling self conscious of the names. The other three have been awful. They've been great. This one's good to find. Jeffrey, I think this perfect. Now, Rohan , what is up with the grocery shot that you want out of . That quad I listen to is calling me stop I have like two more minutes and then pull the food out of so hungry to be hearing this. What are you eating? I can smell it through the mic . We are making meatloaf. Yeah . That helps me not be meloaf. I love me floa. I never got into meatloaf personally. You're never happy for you though. No meatloaf is your sauce on that ? It's actually a hello fresh meal . So it's like fancy little individual meat loaf. All right . All right. Not a sponsor right now, but they have sponsored the show. Love that. Love that. Bohan, why don't you tell me about the group chat that you were desperately trying to escape from? The issue with the group chat is it's just a group chat between three people. So if I'm like if I'm like, Hey, I don't want to be in these I've muted the notifications enough. The issue is like I'll get in the group ch at and every time I'm like reading it it just makes me depressed. Like I think one of the girls in the okay, I'm gonna need some face so Rohan is you and now what are the two adjectives you would use to describe the two people in the chat? One of them is Uber competitive in life , and the other one is chill. Okay, Uber competitive and chill. Jeff, what are the big names? That's going to go ahead and be Gwyneth Miso. Gwynne Miso for the competitor and let's go premium Gavin . Okay, so premium Gavin is chill, Gwynneth Miso is sort of ultra competitive. Yeah. Now tell me all about Gwynneth and Gavin. Gwyneth and Gavin are actually two friends who I lived in a different state from them like growing up, but I was college roommates with Gavin and that is how I met Gwyneth.. Okay And we've been friends for years , but I've also I've always been less close to Gwyneth just because we don't have that same amount of history. Mary Gwyneth Miso Grey Gwen Miso? Yes, Gwynne Miso, the competitive ones. Yeah . And Gavin is a little sassy, but he's sort of your main friend . Yes . And why does a group chat make you s ad? Is Gwynneth sort of talking about mean stuff? Yes, she'll be mean stuff and Gwynneth got the phone. The meat loaf. Oh, sorry, what happened to the meatloaf? We got to check in on the meatloaf. What's up with the meatloaf, babe? Is it good? Yeah, just pull it out. Babe. Good loaf, good, babe. Ask Babe. He's trying to like not interrupt me. He's like feeling my asking questions 'cause you were the one who was cooking. That's right. He's uncertain. You were the loafer. So now okay so what is she saying? The reason I'm saying that it's like competitive is because I think so she has recently become like stay at home mom had a baby got married all very fast. Yeah. And the way the group chat is reading now is very much like she's bored , you know, that day to day and she's like trying to totally stir stuff up . Oh , gossip, like gossip and drama. It's just drama. Between you two or between other people . Other people, mostly like ancillary people in our lives or like , you know, her and I have both done a lot of like trying to be healthier and stuff . And now I live close to Gavin now elsewhere . So she'll be like, Oh send me pictures of you guys in your outfits and stuff and it's like but I know like the back door of it is like she's trying to see like oh like have like, do they look better than me now because I'm not there around them like you know like it's it's giving very competitive mean girl energy like this she'll always be like how much weight have you guys lost? And I'll be like , I don't want to talk about that on my daily life totally. Yeah, it's like toxic like body comparison stuff. Sure. And I'll be like, You just had a baby, you need to give yourself some time yeah , you don't have to like be having this. And so that's why I'm like , but obviously it's a group chat between three people . So like if I I've noticed they'll message they'll both message me on the side and be like, Oh because I'm just not responding to it anymore. Yeah. That's the key problem is they've noticed they've both ered now do you just want to get rid of Gwynneth or do you want to get rid of Gavin as well . I love Gavin. Gavin is she's got her own issues, but she's a rock solid friend. Yeah, okay We can work through stuff like that, but what if I don't know? I just and I don't know, I feel bad because it's very obvious to me that she's crying. Like she even called me the other day and was like, I just haven't talked to you in so long. How are you ? You know ? And then very quickly it became into Okay, well that's nice. Now here's thirty five minutes about everything going on in my life and I need little to no input from you. Yeah, she doesn't really feel like she's giving the sauce that she's drinking . Yeah. And perfect analogy. Thank you very much. She sort of is sipping all the sauce, but she's not leaving any room for you have sa Dou youce like? pour it on stuff or dip like, you know, dip things in it? How do you have sauce? Meatloaf . Meatloaf or like, you know, fries. If someone's taking all the aioli, then you just fries. Right . Yeah . So I think that what I'm sensing is that it might be time to set her free . And I think that what you're worried about maybe is that if you set her free, she's then gonna go and like talk shit about you to your friends, basically. She lives far away. I feel like that's definitely part of it, but also I feel like I'm just being a bad person because I've never been as close to her. So the fact that she's like irritating me like and I'm just like stopping friends with her, but I feel like you do want a conversation about her about that might not be very productive. I have, I'll say this and I don't think you're being a bad person at all. And I also want to make you feel sene. I have like, you know, some of my best friends in the world have annoyed me for a summer. You know what I mean? Like it's like people go through different seasons of de this iseper than that. No, no , Gwyneth Miso has been like this from the jump from the jump and she never even wanted to be friends with Miso. She only did it by association with Gavin. Well, but here's the thing though, it's like, I don't think that what was her caller's name? When it was so Kevin I'm Rohan Rohan wow . So Rohan, I don't think is being a naughty at all. I think that Rohan quite friendly and quite actually comforting to Gwyneth, even though Gwyneth is sort of only in it for the goss. And I guess what you're wondering is, can you just leave the group chat? And I think the answer is yes . Here's what you do. What happens if you just leave , what was your advice you had ward when you can't leave a group chat with just two people. Really? You have to add someone and then leave. So you should, well, okay, let me ask you a question. And it's a fake number and you leave. Do you want to be friends with Gwynneth going forward into the future at all ? That's I guess my thing is 'cause like what Miles is saying is I think when I did live closer to Gwenes, oh yeah , I think she was more of a let's do Erin's together type friend. She was always down to like go get a coffee and then go to Costco together. Yeah, Cosco . And now that I have moved away and she's also entering like a new era her life. Yeah , I've just realized that I don't know how much I actually like her. Here's what you do, you, Emily. Is there someone Gwyneth doesn't like very much? Huh? Okay, add someone that Gwyneth doesn't like to add Gwyneth. That's the biggest yeah enemy to the group shot and bound. This is the craziest advice I've ever heard. Add someone she doesn't like Adam the gift of Kobe being like mamba out and dropping a mic and then exit. This is a bad advice. You're golden, you're happy advice. You're rich for that. How about I actually have a better idea. If you guys have extended other friends starting a group thread with some of those friends I was yeah, okay maybe not her biggest enemy, but actually the real advice is add a mutual friend between Gwyneth and Gavin and then leave. Exactly. Right. And then Gavin will be like, why'd you do that? And you 're going like I just I was getting too many notifications of stress ing me out, whatever. And then they won't think about it again. Gwen if you never have to talk to her or see ever again. If you fall on your sword, Rohan , then I think that you're going to win in the end. Fall on your sword by starting a spontaneous late night book club group text. Hey guys , I want to do a book club. I know this might seem like it's totally coming out of left field. Gwynneth might not like that at all. I actually think no, no, no, listen . You start it as a catalyst for the you know when someone gets excited about something they started that it's clear that it's not going to exist more than two weeks and you're starting to take dummy book club text. Yeah everyone, post your favors ite books, ghost the group text , sit and leave the other text . We do always like to read. maybe we 're book. That's what I was fearing about me so maybe a book club actually is good for you guys just to rekindle your friendship because it's not a dummy. Maybe I just, I don't know. I just don't want to talk about other people or like ourselves in that kind of like competitive way. Like I don't several times her comparing her like freshly postpartum like life to ours like because it's different and I feel like we're bumming her out and it's bumming us out. Is there a world where you're honest, Rohan? Is the world That she wouldn't take it well, but that's fine . You can be honest with someone if they're not going to take it. Well, that's on them. If Roan's let's say that it's not though because it's it's Rohan Wow's ener gy. But if what if Gwendolen says something crazy, right? And you go and you're talking about Gwendolenesa. Miso. Yeah. Let's say Gwendolen says something crazy. Rohan, what if you're just like, what if Gwendolen's like, oh, how much weight have you lost? And you're just like, actually, I'm feeling really good about my body. I don't really want to discuss like my exact weight but not really good with conflict. Not everybody's good with conflict. But I'm saying say exactly that. I'm feeling really good about my body. I don't really want to discuss this piece of it, right? And then it's up to Gwendolen, like you empowering yourself will squash Gwendolen like a bug is my point. If you're around people that are like they want the goss, they want to like kind of nitpick and whatever, you just being like, oh, I don't I don't know. I like you know, Gwendolen talking shit about somebody or whatever and you're just like, I actually really like them. I think they're they're pretty cool. That will squash Gwen like a bug because people don't and then whatever if Gwen wants to text Gavin on the side talking shit, that's fine. No. Well, I think I think add someone whose phone number you have from like a college internship you haven't talked to in eight years. That would even be the elite on I think that's the more rational response instead of being added somebody from eight years ago that you don't speak to. By the way, hey guys, cease seeing our study buddy from college. No, not saying anything. Just add, leave . Honestly, that is pretty fun . That's honestly, I mean, it's just kind of like the two angels on the shoulder. It's like the chaos angel and then like the all right, let's, you know, let's talk about this, et cetera. I don't know so poorly. I think by the way, this is barely making me think let's go for it. I was gonna say, I've I was a really good friend to me in the way that like I said when I had moved to the city she lived in and you know, we would do errands and she would always invite me to parties and stuff and that's how I met a lot of people. But now that I'm away, like I just don't know if a long distance friendship is for us. I just think got what you needed to get from her . Yeah . She serviced your life in the way you needed it done short of giving you money, you took everything you could . And I think that you should just never speak to her again. I think that ultimately you have two opt ions. Run, hide or fight . And I think that run in my mind running. What's there between running and hiding? Hide is you leave the group text and you don't answer her text . Running is you just don't respond and fight is you say, hey, I don't really want to speak like that way about. Like you set soft boundaries in a way that feels pleasing. Now, those are really your options. I kind of feel like you just not responding is sort of an option. It's muted. You just don't include yourself. You don't ever look at it. It's on your phone and that's it. But I think that you may be saying something will make you feel better about like, well, I don't want to be participating in this thing. Now sidebar. I think a very fun game that people should play at home is spontaneous friend group. It's where you pick three contacts from your contact list, group text all three of them and go, hey, Dean , meet Jeff from my old job at a frozen yogurt shop. You guys themed off a lot in common and then leave the group job. How's that any different than what I'm proposing? But what I'm saying is fun you go, hey guys like way more chaos .y high He school, friend, meet current boss. And my cousin and then leave the group text once the fucking fuel is on the fire . I think you're cooking with gas there. I do I do like that idea. I also like the idea about like I guess what I've been I'm just trying to be non confrontational because like, you know, I've never been through the things that she's been through and I don't want to like be like, hey, like the way you're talking in that group chat, you know, like you don't make about ourselves like is starting to really bum me out and I want you to stop. I also am with you that there' likes a level of intimacy and closeness you have to have with a friend to be able to have a conversation like that where they won't feel like it came out of nowhere or they won't feel like it's they won't get defensive. I think that you should like even if you're not the right friend to hear that right now her venting about it, like being a new mom, like having all this responsibility, it is, like, I could say firsthand as a witnesser of that. It is a crazy crazy life change that is unlike no other thing . And I think that lending her empathy without wanting to participate in a negative spiral is, I think, a good thing to do as a friend. Now that being said again, you don't have to participate in the negative spiral. You can lend her emp athy by just letting her fuckin' vent and you muting it or you by you being like, hey, you know, oh , you know, I feel this way and softly gently nudging the conversation. It's not your responsibility, but I think it's a good thing to do. For a middle ground where it's not confrontational, but it is like giving an explanation , just be like, Hey guys, I'm having a lot of anxiety around my phone and having notifications and like too many notifications to respond to. I really need to like redu ce my group chats. Love you. I got to leave this group chat. I think that's such I mean I don't know about that one. Okay, soft entry into what the guest just said is that I did just restart therapy like two weeks ago. So hey, my kids get it on my dose. I needed that . Blame therapy now. Blaming your therapist is awesome. Hey, my therapist told me that I have to take off my group chats because it's like interfering with my ability to like support my mental health. I like to focus on order to focus on my like moving my body . I like that better than just saying like my anxiety is too much for a group chat because I think that that is putting the onus on like them for causing anxiety instead of being like, I'm getting word from a third party that actually like this is not. I think that I like that better for some reason. I don't know why. But I hope you are going to do great what do you think you're gonna do? I'm leaning toward the therapist thing. I think that would be a good therapist exit like I said, I don't know that like at this point in time , it would be good to have like an actual confrontation with her . Yeah, especially from a distance . If she's struggling, it's not going to benefit her. Like if she's struggling, she's feeling depressed and she's feeling like postpartum, et cetera. She's not gonna be ready to hear that. So it's like it's like a weird circling the drain kind of thing . Just going and nobody's benefiting from it. It's also like no it's also not a big enough deal to make her change. Exactly. Yes. So great. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you so much for calling in, Rohan. I really appreciate you and I have an amazing day. Best of luck with the melodic. Yes. I gotta tell you, we have spoken before. Oh, who are you? Have you called in before? So I actually don't know if you'll remember me that well 'cause we actually spoke during your twenty four hour live stream. Oh my gosh. What was your press? I believe it was like five AM for you and I did millionaire with you. That was my voice. That is so great. Absolutely. I mean that was so here we go. Yeah , here we go . That was so funny. What a delirious game of who wants to be a millionaire . I had five in the morning after I had fucking twenty four hours of no sleep. So that's a true joy. And thank you, lovely to chat with you again. Thank you for calling him. Love to love to chat with you too. Thanks. Nice when you're awake. ever, I enjoy the meat loaf. Okay , uh, what a gem . What a little gem Caesar. What a little gem Caesar salad. I'm so hungry . This is a segment we like to call get real yeah. We force a genuine moment in an to eff learortn more about each other and ourselves Jeff , here we are, baby. I always forget that this is at the end . Here we are, baby , at the end of the road. Am I just supposed to start talking? How do you feel ? In general , sure . Uh , are you stressed right now? Yeah, what's going on ? In your own brain , what's happening? Trying to tell you I want to get into road cycling . That's why I'm wearing this hat. This is not vulnerable . This is unless you are terrified of road cycling, this is not hing. I guess I''m not thats not vulnerable enough. What's the goal for you? What do you think happened was who would die ? Nothing ? I just have such a real answer for that 's fine. That's good. Well, I believe in reincarnation , but I don't think it's like you die and immediately become something else. I think when you die, like I believe like I probably believe some version of like the only thing in the world or the only thing in the universe that actually exists is love . And then everything that we experience is like some like